Ngokuqinisekileyo uye weva umntu ekubhekiswa kuye ukuba 'unemicimbi katata' ngaphambili, kodwa oko kuthetha ntoni, ngokuchanekileyo?
Ihlala isetyenziswa njengegama elibi kubasetyhini nakumadoda athandana namanye, ngakumbi abo bathandana nabantu abaneminyaka eli-10 nangaphezulu ubudala kubo.
Ukongeza, abanye abantu batyholwa ngokuba nemicimbi katata ukuba bayangqubana namadoda amadala, okanye ukuba indlela abaziphatha ngayo itshintsha iye kumadoda amadala anegunya.
Njengoko unokucinga, kukho umahluko obonakalayo phakathi kokukhethwa kukhetho lobuqu, kunye nokwenyani okunxulumene notata.
Makhe sijonge amanye amatyala anokuthiwa 'yimicimbi katata,' kwaye ngethemba lokufumana ukuqonda ngakumbi ukuba zibangelwa yintoni.
Abantu abatsaleleke ngokwesondo kumadoda amadala (abakhumbuza ngoyise, okanye umntu ofana notata).
Oku kunokwenzeka xa umntu ekhula enqula utata wabo. Umzali wabo usenokuba liphupha elipheleleyo, kwaye bafuna iqabane eliqulathe zonke iimpawu abazithandayo kutata wabo.
Kuqheleke kakhulu kubantu abaphulukana nooyise ngenxa yokugula okanye ukwenzakala. Kananjalo, bagqibela ngokufuna uhlobo lomntu oza kubuyiselwa endaweni yabo balahlekileyo, bangaqwalaseli ukuba olu hlobo lokuziphatha luya kumchaphazela njani omnye umntu kubudlelwane.
Ngenye indlela, banokutsalwa kumanani ooyise ngenxa yokuba bengakhange bafumane ingqalelo abayifunayo / abayifunayo kuyise wabo. Umzekelo, kufuneka 'wabelane' notata nabazali, abantakwenu, njl.
Iimpawu:
- Umhla kuphela kumadoda amadala.
- Fumana amadoda aneminyaka efanayo / encinci ecaphukisayo okanye engathandekiyo.
- Unomdla wokuziva uxhalabile okanye ungazithembi (ophikiswa bubukho bendoda endala).
- Ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kwaye uyonwabele ingqwalaselo abayifumana kumadoda amadala.
- Ukudlala ngothando nazo zonke iintlobo zamadoda, naphambi kweqabane labo.
Ungajongana njani ukuba unokoyama:
Thatha ixesha ujonge imbali yakho yokuthandana, kwaye ubone ukuba amadoda owakha wakha wakukhumbuza ngoyihlo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ngenye indlela, ukuba ukhule ungenatata, nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba kutheni utsaleleka kubantu abadala. Ngaba zikwenza uzive ukhuselekile? Ngaba bakunika uzinzo, izixhobo kunye nolwalathiso olulahlekile xa wawusemncinci?
Ukuba ukhululekile ngolu hlobo lwamandla, kwaye kunjalo, oko kulungile ngokupheleleyo. Xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bezothando, ubudala ngenene linani nje, kwaye abantu banokuba nokusebenzisana okunomvuzo kwabo badala kakhulu okanye abancinci kunabo.
Oko kwathethileyo, kukho amadoda amadala asebenzisa ithuba kubantu abancinci abaethe-ethe kwaye asenge nyani utata onamandla. Banokufumana ukongamela, ukunyanzelisa, kunye nokulawula, kwaye into eqale njengendawo ezinzileyo, ekhuselekileyo inokutshintsha ibe yindawo oziva ubanjisiwe kwaye 'ungumnini'.
Ukuthetha nonyango okanye umcebisi kunokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho malunga nolwalamano lwakho, kwaye ufumane izizathu ezingunobangela wokuba uqhubeke uphela namadoda amadala.
Nokuba ungathanda ukuqhubeka kule ndlela, okanye uphule iipateni zokuziphatha gwenxa ukuze ulandele intsebenziswano esempilweni, ukuthetha konke kunye neengcali ezinelayisensi kunokuba luncedo olukhulu.
ukudibana nomntu kwi-intanethi okokuqala
Abantu abazivalele ngokwesondo ngenxa yamava ooyise.
Esinye sezizathu zokuba abanye abantu bangoyiki ubudlelwane bezesondo kungenxa yokuba ezantsi, abafuni ukudanisa utata.
Umfazi omncinci otata wakhe wayesoloko emthatha 'njengentombazana yakhe encinci,' kwaye wakhuthaza 'ubunyulu' ngokwesondo njengophawu lwesimilo esihle unokuziva enetyala kakhulu xa kufikwa kwisenzo sokwabelana ngesondo nangaluphi na uhlobo.
Ngenxa yoko, unokuba nobunzima ukonwaba ngesondo, ngokungapheliyo abone njengesenzo esihlazo esibangela ukuba azive enetyala kakhulu.
Unokuthi atyhalele kude nawo nawaphina amaqabane esini njengesixhobo sokuzikhusela kwezo mvakalelo zingalunganga.
Ngenye indlela, unokukhetha ubudlelwane besini esifanayo kuba kubonakala ngathi bulihlazo kuye.
Oku kunokwenzeka nakwamadoda abo ooyise babecocekile xa kufikwa kwisini. Ngapha koko, oku kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu kwi-psyche yomfana ukuba ukhule ecinga ngesondo njengelihlazo.
Nokuba uzikhethele isini (s) sakhe sokhetho, uya kuba nobunzima ngokusondelana ngokwenyani, kwaye uya kugcina izithintelo ngokweemvakalelo, okanye azifumane ejongene nemicimbi efana nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile ngenxa yokukhuliswa kwakhe.
Ewe kunjalo, umba omnyama usenokuba usondele apha, kwaye ukuba abantu baxhatshazwe ngokwesondo ngoyise okanye ngutata wabo wesibini. Ukuba oko kwenzekile, banokuba neentloni kubudlelwane namadoda ngokubanzi, ngakumbi amadoda amadala.
Ngenye indlela, okuchaseneyo kunokuba yinyani: abantu bahlala rhoqo phinda iipateni zobudlelwane obungenampilo ngethemba lokuphinda 'balungise' ubudlelwane obubi ukusuka kwixesha labo elidlulileyo.
Ngokusisiseko, benza into enye baphindaphinde kwaye banethemba lokuba ngenye imini baya kuba nesiphumo esihle ababesilindile.
Ngenxa yoko, abanye abantu bayatsaleleka kwaye bacatshukiswe ngamadoda ababakhumbuza ngooyise.
Banokumangaliswa sisini kunye nabo kwaye bohlwaye ngummeli ngokuziphatha kwabo gadalala. Okanye banokubasukela kwinqanaba lokuqonda, kwaye babatyhalele kude ukuba basondele kakhulu.
ungajongana njani nesoka elinenkani
Iimpawu:
- Ubudlelwane bothando / inzondo notata wakho.
- Zonke iindlela ze Imiba yokuthemba .
- Ixhala, iintloni, okanye iintloni xa kufikwa kwisondo.
- Ukukhetha ubudlelwane obukude ngokweemvakalelo ukuze ungavuli kakhulu.
- Uthotho lomntu ongatshatanga naye / ukuqhekeka rhoqo konke kuqalwe nguwe.
- Ukonakalisa ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Ungajongana njani ukuba unalo mbandela:
Lo mbandela uhlala ungazi nto, njengoko abantu benokuthi bacinezele amava adlulileyo kwaye benze nje ngokuqhutywa yimvakalelo ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kutheni besenza oko bakwenzayo.
Abanye, nangona kunjalo, banokukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwiintloko neentliziyo zabo, kodwa abayazi indlela yokujongana nayo, okanye baphilise kuyo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo yinto entsonkothileyo, enzima yokuhamba, ngakumbi neqabane elitsha. Ihlala ithatha ixesha ukuba uzive ukhululeke ngokwaneleyo kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nixoxe ngezinto ezidlulileyo, kodwa ukungathethi ngale micimbi kwasekuqaleni kubudlelwane kungaphosa isitshixo nasezintweni.
Ngumgca othobekileyo ukuhamba ...
Ukuba ukhupha ii-hang-up zesini ezinxulumene notata wakho kumhla wokuqala, usemngciphekweni wokungafumani owesibini, kuba oko kunokuba lwazi oluninzi / umthwalo kulo mntu mtsha ukuba awuphathe.
Ngenye indlela, ukuba awuthethi kwangoko kwangoko, kwaye uhlaselwa kukuphakuzela okanye ukungakwazi ukwenza okokuqala (okanye amaxesha ambalwa) ulala ngesondo, izinto zinokuba nzima kwaye zingonwabi kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo.
Kwakhona, le yimeko enokujongwa ngempumelelo ngoncedo lwegqirha, ngakumbi elijolise kwezesondo. Ngale ndlela, uxoxa ngezinto nomntu oqeqeshwe ukunceda abanye ngokuchanekileyo olu hlobo lweemeko.
Banokubonelela ngolwazi kunye nesikhokelo sendlela yokujonga ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye bakuncede usebenze ngamava obenawo abumba olu tyekelo ukuqala ngalo.
Abantu abanemicimbi yokulahla kakhulu.
Ukuba utata womntu wayekude ngokweemvakalelo, engabamkeli ubukho bakhe, okanye engenalo ixesha labo emva koqhawulo-mtshato, banokujongana nobunzima imiba yokulahla .
uyeke kanjani ukuthanda umntu ongasakuthandiyo
Ngenxa yoko, banokonakalisa ubudlelwane babo ngokuziphatha okungakhuselekanga.
Bayakufuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo ukuba bayathandwa, kwaye baya kuhlalutya lonke ibinzana, sonke isicatshulwa, yonke indlela yokuziphatha ukuze babone ukuba likho ithuba lokuba baxokiswe, okanye kumngcipheko wokulahlwa.
Banokutyhala kude nabani na onomdla wothando kubo kuba 'bayazi nje' bayakuphela bekwenzekile kwaye bangcatshwe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yayingumxholo oqhelekileyo abakhule nawo, akunjalo?
Iimpawu:
- Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa rhoqo ukuba bayathandwa.
- Imvukelo kunye nokuziphatha okubi, ukohlwaya lo mfo ngokungabikho komdla / ukhathalelo katata wabo.
- Ukuzithemba okuphantsi ngendlela eyoyikisayo, kunye nesidingo sokuqinisekiswa liqabane labo.
- Ixhala kunye noloyiko malunga nokuba kungenzeka 'ukulahlwa.'
- Utyekelo lokungxamela kubudlelwane ngenxa yokhuseleko.
- Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngokweemvakalelo kumadoda angafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo.
- Ukunqongophala kokuthembana: ukuhlola abantu abathandana nabo ukuze baqiniseke ukuba abakhohlisi, okanye bakwindawo abathi baya kubakho kuyo.
- Ukuncamathela, isimilo sokuswela, kunye nokugqitha kwimida esekwe ngenxa yesiqinisekiso sabo.
- Iipatheni eziphindaphindwayo zokuzibandakanya nabantu abasebenzisa i-narcissist okanye amadoda axhaphazayo ngokweemvakalelo.
Ungajongana njani ukuba unalo mbandela:
Ukuba awukabikho kunyango okwangoku, cinga ngokufumana i-ASAP yonyango. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuba ungaziqinisekisa njani ukuba uyathandwa kwaye ukhuselekile, endaweni yokuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho ukuba likwenzele njalo.
Ngapha koko, zimbalwa izinto eziya kuthi zityhale amaqabane kude kunokudinga okugqithisileyo kunye nokungazithembi ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokufuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo ngenxa yokuba unoloyiko lokuba bayokulahla ngawo nawuphi na umzuzwana, usenokubangela ukuba imeko inje yenzeke.
Jonga unyango lokuqonda kunye nolwe-dialectical ukukunceda ufunde ukuzibuyisela kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye nokuzihambisa ngeendlela ezakhayo. Ngokwenza njalo, unokuzixhobisa, uphilise kwi-traumas zangaphambili ukuze ungangeni kulwa-okanye-moya-moya woloyiko, kwaye ube sempilweni, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kwikamva.
Abantu abafuna ubudlelwane obungesosondo kunye namanani ootata.
Ubudlelwane bunokuza ngazo zonke iindlela kunye nemilo enokuthelekelelwa. Ezinye zisondele, kwaye ezinye ziyi-platonic. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubuhlobo bethu obusondeleyo buchanekile, akunjalo? Abahlobo, kwaye ngesiqhelo ngaphandle kwezibonelelo.
Abanye abantu abanemicimbi 'katata' bafuna ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye namadoda amadala, kodwa abafuni ukuba babelane ngesondo.
Kweminye, kungenxa yokuba babenolwalamano olusondeleyo, olunothando notata wabo, kwaye bafuna ukufumana into efanayo kwakhona. Ngokufana nomzekelo wethu wokuqala, kodwa ngaphandle kwento yesini.
Abanye babenotata ongekhoyo, okanye omnye ongazange wabaxabisa okanye abamkele, ngenxa yoko banikezela ngemfuno yothando lwabazali kunye nokwamkelwa komnye umntu.
Aba bantu bahlala bebuxabisa ubulumko kunye nokhokelo abanokulufumana kumadoda amakhulu.
Ingcinga yokuba neentlobano zesini nale ndoda indala inokubacekisa. Endaweni yoko, bazama ukuphumelela ukwamkelwa kunye nokwamkelwa, kwaye banokubakhusela-kwaye babenazo-kubo.
Oku kunokuba kokungalunganga kwaye kungathandeki ukuba into abayithandayo ngumphathi wabo, okanye umboneleli wezempilo, okanye nawuphi na umntu okwisikhundla segunya.
Kungaba kubi ngakumbi ukuba bazama ukwakha ulwalamano olusondeleyo nomzali womhlobo. Kule meko, banokuzifumana bekhuphisana nomhlobo wabo ngothando nothando lukayise… kwaye unokuthelekelela ukungcola okunokukwenza.
Iimpawu:
- Utyekelo lokuvana ngcono namadoda amadala kunaye nabani na ongomnye.
- Umona okanye ukhuphiswano ukuba abanye abantu bafumana ingqwalaselo kwi 'yakho' igunya lendoda.
- Isidingo sokufumana indumiso kunye nokuqinisekiswa emadodeni amadala.
- Umnqweno wokuchitha ixesha elininzi nootata babanye abantu.
- Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunokuba kufuneka kunye nabaphathi abadala besilisa emsebenzini.
- Ukulungiswa kunye namadoda amadala kwisangqa sakho sentlalontle (oonjingalwazi, amajelo asekuhlaleni 'abahlobo,' njl.
Ungajongana njani ukuba unokoyama:
Okokuqala nokuphambili, ukuvuma ukuba ubonakalisa olu hlobo lokuziphatha kukhulu kakhulu. Ukuqaqanjiswa kunye nokungeniswa ngaphakathi kunokuba nzima kakhulu, ke ukuba wenza umsebenzi wokuqonda indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye zivela phi, wenze kakuhle.
Eyona nto iphambili kwezi meko kukwazi kunye nokuhlonipha imida yendoda endala-kunye nokuzibekela ezinye. Ngokuqonda ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo iwela umgca, unokwenza uhlengahlengiso ukugcina ubudlelwane busempilweni.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubuhlobo kunye namadoda amadala akufuneki buphetshwe okanye into yokuziva ungonwabanga. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni obu buhlobo buthetha lukhulu kuwe ngeli lixa uhlala uphaphile kwiimeko ezinobungozi okanye iingcinga.
Enye into ekufuneka uyijongile yimfuno yakho yokuqinisekiswa kunye nokwamkelwa- hayi kuphela kumadoda amadala, kodwa nakubani na. Oku, kukodwa, kunokubangela uxinzelelo kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane. Ngokusebenza ngokuzithemba kwakho-ngoncedo lwakho lobungcali-ungoyisa isidingo sakho sokudumisa kunye nokuqwalaselwa okuhle.
Kukho, ewe, izizathu ezingasikelwanga mda.
Ezi zizizathu nje ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo ezinokubakho kwimicimbi katata. Lonke ulwalamano luhlukile, kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo kukho izinto ezininzi ezifihliweyo kunye nokujika kumzali ngamnye / kumntwana onamandla.
Masithi umntu uhamba uninzi lobomi bakhe exelelwa ukuba utata wakhe yingxowa emdaka eyoyikekayo yokushiya usapho. Ngenxa yoko, banokuba noxinzelelo lokushiya, okanye babenobunzima bokwenza uncamathiselo emadodeni, kuba bahlala bexhalabile ukuba bangahamba.
Nokuba ngubani unobangela okhokelele kwimicimbi katata wakho, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uqaphele indlela oziphethe ngayo xa ujongene nabo.
Abantu abaninzi abanayo le micimbi bahlala bezifumana ngokufanayo, iintlobo ezingekho sempilweni zobudlelwane, kuba baqhelekile. Kwaye, kanjalo nje 'Ngcono usathana umazi kunoMtyholi awumazi' intetho, ukuziva uziva ukhuselekile.
Kodwa akukho nanye kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha eya kukunceda ekuhambeni kwexesha. Isitshixo kukubaqonda, kwaye ngokwenza njalo, waphule lo mjikelo wokungakhathali. Yiyo kuphela indlela yokuba naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obunempilo, obuzinzileyo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nemicimbi katata wakho kunye nefuthe abanalo kubudlelwane bakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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