Uthando loyisa konke.
Ngubani ongalivanga elo binzana liwonga ixesha?
Ingcinga ethuthuzelayo, akunjalo?
Kulungile, ndiyaxolisa ukugqabhuka ibhabhu yakho, kodwa kukho izinto uthando olungenako ukoyisa.
Kwaye abo baye bahlupheka ngenxa yokuhlangana nomntu olungileyo ngexesha elingalunganga baya kuba phakathi kwabokuqala ukuvuma ukuba uthando alwanelanga ukwenza ixesha ukuba lilungile, nokuba bobabini amaqela anganqwenela ukuba bekunganjani.
Ngokwesiqhelo, imeko iya into enje…
Udibana nomntu ocinga ukuba ukufuphi ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye imvakalelo iyabuyiselwa. Ukwabelana ngeminqweno kunye neenqobo ezininzi, iincoko zihamba ngendlela engathintelekiyo yokwabelana ngesazela kwaye uziva ngathi ubazi ngobomi bakho bonke.
Uzibona uncuma kwaye wonwabile xa ukunye nabo okanye uthetha nabo emnxebeni, okanye kwanaxa ucinga ngabo.
Zilunga nje kuzo zonke iinkalo zobukho bakho kwaye zincedisa ubuntu bakho ngokugqibeleleyo. Awunakuyeka ukucinga ngendlela ezingakholeleki ngayo, zizisa ukukhanya ebomini bakho kwaye zikwenze uzive uphila.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kulungile kakhulu.
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Kungenzeka ukuba ukunye ubudlelwane obuntsonkothileyo ongakwaziyo ukubushiya.
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Usenokuba malunga nokufudukela kwelinye ilizwe okanye kwelinye ilizwe.
Kunokubakho imiqobo yosapho okanye yenkolo kubudlelwane bakho.
Umsebenzi wakho onzima unokuthintela nakuphi na ukubandakanyeka kwezothando kwikamva elibonakalayo.
Okanye awungekhe ukulungele ukuyivula ngokupheleleyo intliziyo yakho komnye ngenxa yokuzibophelela okwangoku okwangoku okusombululekileyo.
Umntu wexesha elifanelekileyo-ongalunganga-wexesha le-conundrum sisihloko esixoxwa kakhulu. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba lo mbono wemfezeko owebile intliziyo yakho ayisiyiyo le 'kwaphela' kwaye uya kuba nayo ukuba uwele umntu ongalunganga.
Ngokuchasene noko, baninzi abantu abanethemba lokuphila ngaphandle abahlala benethemba lokuba ulonwabo lunokuhluthwa emihlungwini yosizi ngokuchasene nazo zonke iingxaki kwaye iqabane lakho onokuba nalo liphupha lisengaba lelakho ngexesha, nokuba imeko yangoku yeemvakalelo, yejografi, okanye iimeko ezisebenzayo ingacebisa ngenye indlela.
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Akumangalisi ukuba, akukho ndlela 'ichanekileyo' yokuxoxa ngendlela yakho ngexesha elingenasiphelo lokuhlangana nomntu olungileyo ngexesha elingalunganga.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda uhlengahlengise ngokwengqondo ukuze ujongane nokuwa xa uthatha isigqibo sokuba uhambe:
1. Baxelele ukuba kunjani.
Ukuba lo mntu ngenene uyinto ephilayo, ephefumlayo kuyo yonke iminqweno yakho yothando, ukanti uyazi ukuba awunako ukuzisungula ngokwakho ubudlelwane kunye nabo, ke sukuvele ubashiye belengalenga. Yiba nobubele ngokwaneleyo ukuba uthembeke kwaye ubonakale malunga neemvakalelo zakho.
Baxelele ukuba ucinga ukuba bangobani, kodwa uchaze neemeko ezenza ukuba ubudlelwane bungabikho ngeli xesha.
Ukunyaniseka kuhlala kungowona mgaqo-nkqubo ungcono kwaye kuya kukuzisela imbeko, nanjengoko beza nokudana kwabo.
Kwaye, ukuba uyayigcina imbeko yabo, mhlawumbi likho elona thuba lincinci lokuba, ngelinye ixesha kwikamva elingaqinisekanga, iinkwenkwezi ziya kulungelelanisa kwaye uya kuba nakho ukuba kunye.
2. Cinga nje ukuba kungenzeka ukuba bangabantu abangalunganga.
Kunokubakho amakhalane kuzo zonke iibhokisi ezifunekayo: amaxabiso, umtsalane, iinjongo ebomini, indawo, njl.njl., Kodwa ukuba ixesha linesiphene, yinto leyo akukho namnye onokuyilawula.
Mhlawumbi kungcono ukwamkela inyani ebuhlungu nebuhlungu: kude nokuba ngumntu olungileyo, yena ngumntu ongalunganga kwaye ubudlelwane buzokungaphumeleli.
Inyani yile yokuba umntu 'olungileyo' kufuneka abekhona kwiphepha elinye kunye nokuzalisekisa iikhrayitheriya ezinqwenelekayo. Ewe, omabini amaqela kufuneka alungele uthando.
Ukuba omnye okanye omnye akakwazi ukungena okanye ukugcina ubudlelwane bobuntu obunothando ngelo xesha - wena / banokuthi bajongane neshishini elingagqitywanga okanye abakakulungeli ukuhlala phantsi, umzekelo - banokungabi ngumntu olungileyo kwaye kungcono ukuyamkela loo nyaniso.
Ixesha yinto eqinisekisa ukuchuma, ubomi obude kunye nempumelelo yobudlelwane.
Nangona kunjalo, umzabalazo weemvakalelo wokulungisa imeko yomntu olungileyo-ngexesha elingalunganga kunye nokwamkela ukuba ngokwenene ngabantu abangalunganga kunokuba buhlungu, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uve iimvakalelo zokudideka kunye noxinzelelo.
Kuya kufuneka ujongane nosizi lwakho njengoko uqala ukwamkela inyani, ukhuphe ezinye izifundo kumava, emva koko uqhubeke.
Enye indlela yokunceda ukusombulula le ntlungu inokuba kukubhalela umntu loo leta ukunceda ukwenza iimvakalelo zakho, nokuba bayifundile okanye abayithumanga.
3. Bamba iinkumbulo ezintle.
Kungenxa yokuba ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo obuphuphile bungento, akufuneki ukuba umgxothe umntu kwiingcinga zakho ngokupheleleyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo buyadlula, kodwa oku akwenzi ukuba kungabi nantsingiselo.
Ewe kunjalo, ukunyanzelwa ukuba uvumele umntu ukuba ahambe emva kwexesha elincinci kuyanyanzela kwaye kuqinise onke la maxesha amnandi kwaye kunokubenza babaluleke ngakumbi.
Gxila kumandla akho ekujongeni emva kwezinto ezintle kubudlelwane obufutshane kunokuba uhlale kwinto yokuba kufuneka iphele.
4. Yamkela ubukrakra.
Oku kunokubonakala ngathi akunakuphikiswa xa ubukrakra buthathwa njengesixhobo esonakalisayo nesingancediyo, kodwa kulunge ngakumbi ukwamkela ilungelo lakho lokuziva ukrakra, ulusizi, unenzondo, kwaye unomsindo ngendlela izinto ezenzeke ngayo.
Inyani yile yokuba zonke iimvakalelo ziyasebenza, kwaye ukukhanyela ubukho bazo kuzenza zibe namandla ngakumbi. Ukuziva iimvakalelo kunye nokuba buhlungu kwelahleko yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yemeko yomntu.
Kangangokuba sinokufuna ukuzikhusela kwiintlungu ezingeyomfuneko, asinakukwazi ukulawula zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. Kungenxa yamava abuhlungu esiye sayiqonda loo nto.
Ungayeka njani ukuswela kangaka kubudlelwane
Ikwasifundisa ukuba simelane njani neemvakalelo ezinamandla kwaye sifumane ulwazi lokwenza ukhetho lobulumko. Kude nokubuthintela ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho, zibaphathe.
5. Hlala unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho.
Xa udibana nomntu ocinga ukuba ulungile kodwa ixesha licinyiwe, kuyakulinga ukuzama ukutshintsha iinjongo zakho kwaye uzitshintshe kumzamo wokulungisa ubomi bakho, ngaloo ndlela ulondoloze ubudlelwane obulahlekileyo.
Nikezela kwesi sibongozo, nangona kunjalo, kwaye uya kuzifumana uhola wendlela uye ndawo.
Ekugqibeleni, isiqu sakho sokwenyani siza kuphinda sivele kwaye ubudlelwane buya kusilela kunjalo, kuchitha ixesha lakho kunye nomnye umntu, kwaye kubangele iintlungu ezininzi apha endleleni.
Nokuba kunganzima kangakanani, xa ukholelwa ukuba uthando lokwenyani lulindele lo mntu, melana nomnqweno wokuziguqula ukuze usebenze.
Hlala unyanisekile kwimilinganiselo yakho, kwiminqweno nakwiinjongo zobomi. Ukunyaniseka kuko konke, ke musa ukuvumela uloyiko lokoyikwa kokuphoswa.
6. Yomelela kwaye uhambe kwizinto ezingakulungelanga.
Esinye sezifundo zobomi ezinzima kwiminyaka yethu yokuqala yokuqala kukuqonda ukuba asinakuhlala sinako oko sikufunayo.
Ukuba namandla omlinganiswa wokuhamba kude kwinto esiyifunayo ngokwenene, kodwa esiyifunayo kodwa esingenakho kufuna isivumelwano esihle sokukhula ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ngamava abumba ubomi, ngaphandle kwentlungu enokuthi ize nayo.
Ukujongana nomvandedwa wokudibana nomntu ofanelekileyo ngexesha elingelilo kunye nokuhamba isifundo esibuhlungu ebomini.
Kodwa, xa amanzi alungileyo egqithile phantsi kwebhulorho, uninzi lwabantu luthanda ukujonga ngasemva ngoncedo lokujonga emva kwaye lubone ukuba kutheni izinto zihambe ngendlela ezenze ngayo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, kungenxa yokuba baya kuhlangana nomntu olungileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
7. Zigcine njengomhlobo.
Olu ayilulo ukhetho olulula, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngakumbi ukuba intloko yakho sele igcwele iminqweno malunga nobomi obunokubakho kulo mntu.
Okona kuvumelayo, nangona kunjalo, kukugcina amajelo onxibelelwano evulekile de kufike ixesha elibonwa 'elifanelekileyo' ukuba lifikile.
Okwangoku-kwaye masijongane nayo, inokuba lixesha elithile - kukho ithuba lokuba omnye okanye nobabini niza kuphulukana nomdla nakweyiphi na imbono yobudlelwane bezothando phakathi kwenu.
Kodwa kungangcono ukuvumela indalo ukuba ithathe ikhosi yayo, igcine ukubakho konxibelelwano lwexesha elizayo, kunokuba uqalise umcimbi ngexesha elingalunganga eligwetyelwe ukusilela.
8. Yiya phambili kwaye ubadibanise nomhla.
Ukuba ukukholelwa kwakho komelele kangangokuba lo mntu nguLowo nangona kukho izithintelo, kutheni ke ungavavanyi amanzi phofu? Ngaba ngumhla okanye emibini kuphela, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, hayi uhambo olusezantsi kwendlela - okwangoku.
Inyani yile yokuba ukulalanisa macala onke yinto eyimfuneko kubo bonke ubudlelwane, kungasathethwa ke ngabo bangamaxhoba exesha elibi kwasekuqaleni.
Mhlawumbi, njengoko ushukuma ngemihla embalwa kwaye ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuzibophelela kuya kuqina, uyakufumanisa ukuba nobabini nizimisele ukwenza naliphi na idini eliyimfuneko ukuze nijikeleze izinto ezingaqhelekanga ezibonakala zingenakoyiswa ngokwembono yenu yangoku.
Mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, ungaguqula ixesha elingalunganga libe lixesha elifanelekileyo ngamandla amakhulu okuthanda kunye nothando.
Igama lokugqibela.
Izizathu zininzi, kodwa iintlungu zokuvumela umntu oza kuba liqabane lakho ukuba zihambe zihlala zifana.
Kwaye, kuba lishishini elingapheliyo, ukuba iintlungu zihlala ixesha elide, iminyaka okanye ubomi, yiyo loo nto ukwenza inzame zokulungisa ukwenzakala kuyavakala.
Kodwa isitshixo sokujongana nengxaki yomntu olungileyo-ngexesha elingalunganga, njengayo yonke into ebomini, ayizukuqhutywa kulwalamano lweemvakalelo zakho.
Mhlawumbi uya kuthatha isigqibo sokubaleka kule meko, okanye mhlawumbi uya kukhetha ukuhambisa iintaba ukudala imeko-yexesha elifanelekileyo lomntu ngokuchasene neengxaki.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ungazisola ngaso nasiphi na isigqibo esenziwe ngokungxama okanye ngokungxama, ke thatha ixesha lakho.
Ijenali malunga nayo, jonga ngononophelo ukhetho lwakho, kwaye uthethe nengcali enokukunceda uhambe kwi-conundrum ojamelene nayo.
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