Ukuba u-Aristotle wayenyanisile xa esithi ubomi obungachazwanga abufanelanga kuphila, ebeya kuba ulungile ngokulinganayo ukuba ebethe UBOMI OBUNGAPHAKANYISWANGA abufanelanga kuphila.
Sonke siyasebenza. Akukho namnye kuthi ofikileyo kwaye akukho namnye kuthi opheleleyo. Sonke sinomsebenzi ekufuneka siwenzile. Abanye ngaphezulu kwabanye, ewe. Kodwa sonke siyafuna umsebenzi. Sonke sinokuphucula ngandlela thile, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile.
Kodwa ukuziphucula akwenzeki. Akusiyo imilingo. Akuzi ngengcinga enqwenelekayo. Ifuna izinto ezininzi. Kwaye nangona kukho izinto ezininzi ekufuneka sizenzile KULUNGILE ukuze siziphucule, zininzi izinto esinokuzenza KAKUHLE Ukonakalisa iinzame zethu .
Ngapha koko, ndingacebisa ukuba zikhona Izono ezi-7 eziKhadinali zokuziPhucula. Izinto ekufuneka sizazile ukuze sandise amathuba okuba imizamo yethu yokuziphucula iya kuba nempumelelo.
Isono # 1 - Silindele iziphumo ngokulula kakhulu.
Ukuziphucula kuhlala kulucelomngeni ngesizathu esilula sokuba sonke sibe neepateni ezendeleyo zokucinga kunye nokuziphatha ekunzima ukukulahla. Into eqale njengento entsha nokwahlukileyo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, inokukhula ibe yinto yakudala kwaye iyabopha. Into esiye sayiqonda njengokunika isibonelelo esincinci okanye ingozi ethile. Siyazi ukuba kufuneka siyitshintshe le nto. Kodwa ukufuna ukuyitshintsha akufani nokutshintsha ngokwenyani.
Njengoko umhlaziyi wezemfundo waseMelika uHorace Mann wakha waqaphela, 'Isiko yintambo siluka umsonto wayo yonke imihla, kwaye ekugqibeleni asinakuyaphula.'
Imikhwa yakudala ayifi ngokuzithandela okanye ngaphandle komlo. Ke kuya kufuneka siqale nayiphi na inzame yokuziphucula ngokuqonda ukuba iziphumo azizukuza lula. Kwaye abayi kuza ngokukhawuleza. Oku kusizisa kwiSono # 2.
Isono # 2 - Silindele iziphumo ngokukhawuleza.
Xa sicinga ngeepateni zethu ezendeleyo kunye nemikhwa esingathanda ukuyaphula, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba azange zenziwe ngokukhawuleza. Kuthathe iinyanga okanye iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba babe yinxalenye yethu. Njengakulo mzekelo ungasentla wokuluka, sinokongeza kuphela umsonto ngexesha. Kodwa ekugqibeleni siye saluka intambo ekunzima ukuyaphula.
Ndiyamthanda umyeni wam kodwa akandithandi
Ngesi sizathu, kububudenge ukucinga ukuba ipateni okanye umkhwa owendele nzulu unokoyiswa ngokukhawuleza. Iphantse ithathe ixesha. Kanye njengokuba ixesha lilutshaba lwethu xa kufikwa ekwenziweni komkhwa otshabalalisayo… ixesha liba yinto yethu sonke xa sizama ukuziphucula. Utshintsho oluncinci ekuhambeni kwexesha lunokwenza umahluko omkhulu.
Thatha ukwehla kobunzima, umzekelo, umceli mngeni phantse wonke umntu ajongana nawo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ukusetha ukuphulukana neepawundi ezingama-30 kunokubonakala ngathi akunakoyiswa kwaye kuyinyani ngokupheleleyo. Sicinga ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani ukuphulukana neepawundi ezingama-30. Kodwa ukuba sisike isilayi sesonka ngemini. Okanye utye kuphela isiqingatha sebha yeSnicker. Okanye utye ii-cookies ezimbalwa ze-Oreo yonke imihla. Ukuba sikhuphe iikhalori ezili-100 ngosuku-siza kuphulukana neekhilogram ezili-10 ngonyaka. Kwiminyaka emi-3 singalahla iiponti ezingama-30 zizonke.
Kodwa usenokucinga, ‘Ngubani ofuna ukuthatha iminyaka emi-3 ukuphulukana neepawundi ezingama-30?’ Ewe, ungasoloko uphulukana neepawundi ezingama-30 NGOKUKHAWULEZA, kodwa kuyakufuna umsebenzi omninzi, ukugxila ngakumbi, kunye nokukhanyela okungakumbi. Sivame ukonakalisa iinzame zethu ekuphuculeni izinto zethu kuba sifuna utshintsho olukhawulezileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, utshintsho olukhawulezileyo lunokuzama. Kodwa kukho ezantsi ezi-3:
- Ukuba siyasilela ukubona iziphumo ezikhawulezayo, sinomdla wokunikezela
- Kunzima ukufaka utshintsho olukhulu kunotshintsho oluncinci
- Sikholisa ukusabela ngendlela engeyiyo kukuzincama okufunekayo
Inqaku lelokuba utshintsho olukhulu lunokwenziwa ixesha elide. Sisafuna uqeqesho ukuze senze uhambo. Kodwa kuya kubakho ukuncipha kokuncipha kunye nokunciphisa amanyathelo okomelela afunekayo. Njengoko i-quip endala ihamba: 'Ngaseyadini kunzima… nge-intshi yisitena.' Le yinto elungileyo ukuba siyigcine engqondweni xa kufuneka sitshintshe iipateni kunye nemikhwa eyendeleyo. Kuya kuthatha ixesha. Ke kuya kufuneka silivumele ixesha kwaye singazenzi isono sesibini sokulindela iziphumo ngokukhawuleza.
Isono # 3 - Sibeka usukelo olungafikelelekiyo.
Isono sesithathu siqhele ukwenziwa kuba, kwasekuqaleni, sikhuthazekile kakhulu ukuba senze utshintsho esaziyo ukuba kufuneka silwenzile. Sibona umhlobo owenze uphuculo olukhulu lomntu. Sifunde incwadi yokuzinceda. Sibona intengiso kwimagazini yendlela esinokubonakala ngayo. Kwaye sihambile kwaye siyabaleka. Kwaye sizibekele ezinye iinjongo ezingekho ngqiqweni.
- Siza kuqhuba umdyarho wethu wokuqala kwiiveki ezi-2.
- Siza kutshintsha imisebenzi, sifudukele eYurophu, sifumane umphefumlo wethu, kwaye uthathe umhlala phantsi kwiminyaka emi-5.
- Siza kuphulukana neeponti ezingama-30 kwiiveki ezi-3.
- Siza kufunda zonke iinoveli zakudala kwikhefu lethu elizayo.
Ewe, ezi ziinjongo ezihlekisayo kunye neenjongo ezingenakwenzeka. Kodwa ufumana umbono. Sibeka iinjongo eziphakamileyo kangangokuba ngokuqinisekileyo ziqinisekisiwe ukusilela. Kwaye ukusilela akukhuthazi kakhulu, akunjalo?
Ke kufuneka sizibekele iinjongo ezinomdla nezinomngeni ngaphandle kokungabi nampumelelo.
Oku kunzima kunokuba kuvakala. Ngokulula ASIYAZI ukuba luyintoni usukelo olusengqiqweni NGOKWENENE. Kodwa kukho umsebenzi obalaseleyo woku. Indawo yokusebenza kukuba siqala nje ngeenjongo esaziyo ukuba ziyinyani. Ke ukuba sifuna ukuphulukana neepawundi ezingama-30, sibeka INJONGO YOKUQALA esiqinisekileyo ukuba sinokufikelela kuyo.
Yithi injongo kukuphulukana neponti ngeveki iiveki ezine zilandelelana. Oko kunokuba yinto efana neekhalori ezingama-500 ezimbalwa suku ngalunye kwiiveki ezi-4. Akukho mpu melelo incinci, kodwa iyenzeka ngokujolisa okuthile kunye nenqanaba elifanelekileyo lokuziphatha. Ukuba oku kubonakala kungenangqondo, sinokwenza ii-calories ezingama-250 ngosuku. Nantoni na esivakalelwa kukuba singayisingatha ngelixa isengumceli mngeni.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ukufikelela usukelo lwethu kwakulula, ngekhe sakwenza kwakudala. Kodwa ukufikelela kwinjongo akunakuba yi-TOO DAUNTING, okanye siza kunikezela ngokukhawuleza okanye singaze siqale uhambo. Konke malunga ne-BALANCE. Iinjongo zethu zinokuba njalo xa engabonwa, kodwa azinakuba njalo Ayifumaneki. Ke cinga malunga nokuba yintoni umphumo wokugqibela. Kwaye cinga ngamanqanaba anyukayo ukufikelela kweso siphumo. Misela iinjongo ekujolise kuzo onokuqiniseka ukuba unokufikelela kuzo ngokugxila kunye noqeqesho. Emva koko bhiyozela impumelelo ekhulayo. Nokuba impumelelo encinci kufanelekile ukubhiyozelwa kuba nganye ibonisa inyathelo elisondele kwinjongo yakho yokugqibela.
Njengoko i-adage ihamba: Awungekhe uyitye indlovu NGELINYE UKULUMA. Kodwa UNGAYITHA indlovu UKULUMA KUNYE NGEXESHA.
Isono # 4 -Siyalibala ukuba isisombululo sisiqalo nje.
Kwenye yam iiposti zebhlog zamva nje , Ndathetha ngomzekeliso weFlemish othi: ‘Lowo ungaphandle komnyango wakhe uneyona ndawo inzima yohambo emva kwakhe.’ Inyani yento kukuba UKUQALA UHAMBO lokuziphucula inokuba yeyona NXAXHEBA KAKHULU. Ukoyisa inertia kunokuba nzima.
Kodwa sinokuwela kumgibe oqhelekileyo wokucinga ukuba NGOKUQALA, umsebenzi wenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Ayisiyonyani le kwaye sizibekele ukudana ukuba siyalibala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, UKUQALA KUKHULU kwindlela yokuziphucula. Asinakuze senze uhambo esingazange siluqale. Kodwa kufuneka sizixelele apha endleleni ukuba maninzi amanyathelo ekufuneka siwathathe kwaye kuyakufuneka sithathe amanyathelo amaninzi ngaphambi kokuba sifike kwindawo ebesiya kuyo.
Kulungile kwaye akufuneki ukuba kudimaze. Kodwa sinako ungadimazeki Kukudana kunye noqeqesho ngokwenyani. Kungcono lindela amanqaku anzima kuhambo kunokucinga ukuba nje xa siqala kukho intwana eseleyo kunzima. Ayonyani. Ukuqala kubalulekile. Ukuqala ngundoqo. Ukuqala kunyanzelekile. Kodwa sisiqalo nje somdyarho. Sisiphelo sogqatso esimisela ophumeleleyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ezona ncwadi ziZincomekayo
- Iimpawu ezili-10 zokuCinga nzulu
- Yandisa i-Acuity yakho yengqondo ngokwenza ezi zinto zi-6 zilula
- Iimpawu ezili-15 zoMntu oQolileyo ngokweemvakalelo
- Iingcaphuno ezi-7 Malunga noXolo lwangaphakathi ukuKunceda ufumane ezakho
- Kutheni ufuna iSicwangciso soPhuculo lwaBantu (kunye nezinto ezisi-7 ekufuneka ukuba unazo)
Isono # 5 - Sibona umqobo njengokusilela endaweni yeerung.
Kufuneka siqaphele xa siqala ukuzama ukuziphucula, kuya kubakho izithintelo apha endleleni. Oku phantse kuqinisekile. Kwakhona, ukuba ukuphucuka kwakulula, ngesele sikwenzile. Kodwa akukho lula, ngenxa yoko bekungekho lula ukuza kuthi ga kweli nqanaba. Kodwa eli xesha liya kwahluka. Sinezisombululo, sinecebo, sineenjongo ezithile ezinokufikeleleka… ngegama elinye - SILUNGILE.
Kodwa kunye nehlombe lethu, siyakufuna idosi yokwenyani- kuya kubakho ukubuyela umva. Senza konke esinako ukunciphisa ukubakho kweziganeko. Siceba kangangoko sinako. Silindele ukujika komngeni kuhambo. Kodwa iingxaki azinakuphepheka.
Kulungile.
Kodwa kufuneka sikubone ukusilela kungabi njenge-FAILURES, kodwa njenge-RUNGS. Njengokuba sinyuka ileli ukuya kwindawo esiya kuyo. Indawo ekuyo iphezulu kwileli. Kwaye sinokufika kuphela ngokunyathela kwinqanaba ngalinye njengoko sifika kuyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unyawo lwethu lutyibilika kumqolo olandelayo. Oku ayikokusilela kwaye akufuneki kubonwe njalo. Lixesha lokuba ume kwaye uvavanye ngaphambi kokuthatha inyathelo elilandelayo.
Phumla kumqolo wangoku. Zivuyisane nenkqubela eyenziwe ngoku FAR. Jonga umva kwiminyango esele idlulile. Akukho mfuneko yokoyika. Okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba. Phumla. Nandipha okuseleyo. Sebenzisa okuseleyo ukubuyiselwa kwaye uvuseleleke. Emva koko, xa konke kugqityiwe, thatha i-rung elandelayo. Hlamba kwaye uphinde njengoko kufanelekile.
Zonke iihambo ziyanda. Iihambo zinezinyathelo ezininzi kubo. Akukho mfuneko yokudimazeka yile nto. Yamkele njengenxalenye yohambo. Kuze kube yilapho sifunda ukuhamba ngejubane le-warp, uhambo luya kuthatha ixesha.
Isono # 6 - Sisilele ekuqwalaseleni ubuthathaka bethu kunye namandla ethu.
Sonke sinemiqathango. Sonke sinobuthathaka. Sonke sinendawo apho sinembali yokuphumelela okungaphantsi kokubalaseleyo. Ilungile. Kuba nathi sinobuchule. Kunye nezakhono. Nobuchule. Kwaye iitalente . Kwaye ingxelo eqinisekisiweyo yempumelelo kwiindawo ezininzi.
Imibongo ngokuphila ngalo mzuzu
Xa sicwangcisa uhambo, kufuneka sithathe ixesha lokuziqwalasela ngaphambi kokuba siqale. Cinga ngokuba yintoni amandla akho. UZAKHANYA PHI eluhambeni? Luya kuba lula phi uhambo kuwe? Zeziphi iziphiwo zendalo onokuzenza kwindlela? Emva koko cwangcisa uhambo lwakho ukuzandisa.
Umzekelo, ukuba awunguye umntu wakusasa, ayibobulumko ukwenza imfuneko yohambo lwakho lokuziphucula ukuze uvuke rhoqo kusasa ngo-5: 00 ekuseni. Le yindlela yokupheka yokusilela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ungumntu wakusasa, ukuvuka ngo-5: 00 kusasa kunokuba lolona manyano lwakho. Isitshixo kukwazi ukuba zeziphi izakhono zakho ezizodwa kwaye uzisebenzise njengesixhobo sokunyusa amathuba okuphumelela.
- Ukuba unomdla wokulahlekelwa kukuqhuba xa usebenza ixesha elide, cwangcisa ukuthatha ikhefu elininzi.
- Ukuba usebenza ngcono kwizithambiso ezinde, emva koko cwangcisa ishedyuli yakho ukuze ube neebhloko ezinkulu zexesha.
- Ukuba uphazamiseka lula-ke ziphelise zonke iziphazamiso onakho.
- Ukuba usebenza ngcono ngengxolo yangasemva-ke ubonelele ngengxolo yangasemva oyifunayo.
- Ukuba usebenza ngcono uwedwa, zilungele ukuxelela abahlobo bakho ukuba ufuna ixesha lokujonga, kwaye ufumane indawo yokuba wedwa.
- Ukuba usebenza ngcono ujikeleze abanye abantu, ke thatha amanyathelo owafunayo.
Akunjalo ukuba esinye isicwangciso singcono kunesinye. Okanye ubungakanani obulingana nabo bonke. Inqaku leli lokuba sonke sahlukile kancinci kunabo bonke abanye abantu. Qaphela ukuba yintoni lo mahluko kwaye uwuphakamise kuluncedo lwakho. Wazi amandla akho kwaye uwasebenzise. Xhasa kubo. Bazi ubuthathaka bakho kwaye ubvumele. Oku kuyakwonyusa amathuba okuba uphumelele. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba uhambo lungabi nzima.
Ukuba unobuthathaka kwimivalo yeelekese, sukungena kwivenkile yeelekese kwaye uvavanye uqeqesho lwakho. Gwema ivenkile yeelekese ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ukuba ikamva likufumene kwivenkile yeelekese, ke qiniseka ukuba uthenga i-CANDY BAR ENYE ENCINANE. Uya koyisa isilingo ngaphandle kokukhanyela ngokwakho. Emva koko buyela enqwelweni.
Isono # 7 -Siyalibala ukuba ukuziphucula yinkqubo, hayi umsitho.
Isono seKhadinali yesixhenxe yokuziphucula kukuba silibale ukuba ukuziphucula ku inkqubo kwaye hayi i isiganeko. Oku kunxulumene nezono ezi-2 zokuqala esizijongileyo. Sibona oku ngokulula ngokwaneleyo kwezinye iinkalo zobomi.
- Asinakuze silime imbewu yeentyatyambo kwaye sibuye kwiyure kwaye sizibuze ukuba kutheni ingekahlumi.
- Asithengi isitokhwe kusasa kwaye silindele ukuba iphindwe kabini ngexabiso emva kwemini.
- Asiwufumani umkhuhlane ngobunye ubusuku kwaye silindele ukubuyela emsebenzini okanye esikolweni ngentsasa elandelayo.
- Siyazi ukuba nokuba UKUTYA OKUKHAWULEZIYO kufuna iXESHA elithile ukulungiselela.
Kodwa asikuboni oku ngokulula xa kuziwa ekuphuculeni ngokwakho. Sifuna ukuphucula NGOKU. Ubuncinane kungekudala kunokuba kamva. Sifuna ukuyeka ngenxa yokuba ithatha i-SOOOO LOOOONG.
Ngaba ndiyakuyigqiba le nkqubo yesidanga? Ndiyakuze ndibenemilo? Ndiyakuze ndiphulukane nobunzima? Ngaba ndiya kuze ndikwazi ukuwushiya lo msebenzi wokugqibela? Ndiyakuze ndikwazi ukuhlawulela elam ikhaya? Ngaba ndiya kuze ndikwazi ukuhlawula imoto ethembekileyo? Ngaba ndiya kuze ndikwazi ukwahlukana nalo mkhwa uyingozi? Ngaba IYA KUYENZEKA?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo ASIZI. Lixesha kuphela elinokuphendula. Kodwa akufuneki senze isono SOKULIBALELA ukuba ukuziphucula inkqubo hayi umcimbi. Ukuba ukufezekisa iinjongo bekunguMGANGATHO endaweni yeNkqubo, phantse wonke umntu ebeya kufikelela kwiinjongo zawo. YINKQUBO EHAMBA ABANTU.
Siphelelwa ngumonde kuhambo. Sifuna ukubakhona NGOKU. Uhlobo lwabantwana abahleli kwisitulo esingasemva kuhambo olude. SISEKHO? Hayi, asikabikho okwangoku. Iihambo zithatha ixesha. Uhambo yinkqubo. Akusiyo isiganeko.
Kodwa kukho UBUHLE KWINKQUBO. Ubuhle BUKUBONA inkqubo iqhubeka. Ke kwiintsuku ezimbalwa sibona imbewu yeentyatyambo ihluma. Kwaye sibukele isityalo sikhula. Kwaye ekugqibeleni isityalo sivelisa iintyatyambo. Kukho ubuhle kwinkqubo yokukhula kunye nokuqhakaza. Asilahli iiponti ezingama-30 kwimpelaveki. Kodwa sinokubona iiponti zivela kwisithuba seeveki. Kukho ubuhle kwinkqubo. Kukho ukwaneliseka kwinkqubo. Kukho isizathu sokubhiyozela inkqubo-nangaphambi kokuba indawo ekufikelelwe kuyo ifikelelwe.
Njengokukhwela uloliwe ukusuka kwesinye isixeko ukuya kwesinye. Siyazi ukuba zininzi izikhululo apha endleleni. Mhlawumbi IZININZI ZEZITESHI. Kodwa njengoko siza kwisikhululo ngasinye kwaye sisiva sibhengezwa, siyazi ukuba senza inkqubela. Isikhululo ngasinye sisisondeza kwisikhululo sethu sokugqibela. Ngandlel 'ithile sinokubhiyozela ukufika kwesikhululo ngasinye, sisazi ukuba simele ukuvala iinjongo zokufikelela kwindawo esiya kuyo.
Ke kutheni usenza uhambo lokuziphucula ngokwakho?
Ke kutheni uqala ukuphucula ngokwakho? Kutheni le nto sizibeka kwinkqubo enokuba nzima kwaye iya kuthatha ixesha? Nazi ezinye zezizathu:
- Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo kwaye akukho mntu ufikileyo. Sonke kufuneka siphucule ngandlela thile.
- Ukuziphucula kuya kusinika imeko yokufezekisa. Uvakalelo olukhulu lokuba nalo.
- Ukuziphucula kuhlala kungoyena ndoqo wobomi obungcono.
- Ukuziphucula kuya kusenza ukuba sibe luhlobo olungcono lwethu.
- Ukuziphucula kwinqanaba elincinci kuya kusikhuthaza ukuba siphucule kwinqanaba elikhulu.
UHenry David Thoreau wakha wathi, ‘Andazi nyani ikhuthazayo ngaphezu kwesakhono esingathandabuzekiyo somntu sokuziphakamisa ngokuzama ukuqonda.’
Indoda etshatileyo ithi iyandithanda
U-Anne Frank uthe, 'Hayi indlela ekumnandi ngayo ukuba kungabikho mntu ufuna ukulinda umzuzwana phambi kokuba aqale ukuphucula ilizwe.'
Ndingongeza ukuba akukho namnye kuthi kufuneka alinde umzuzu omnye ngaphambi kokuba aqale UKUZIPHUCULA. Makhe siqale.
