Ayingawo onke amantombazana afana namakhwenkwe amabi, masicace gca ngaloo nto! Nangona kunjalo, abo bathanda ukubathanda ngenxa yezizathu eziphambili.
Wonke umntu wahlukile, kwaye unezizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuba ngubani onomdla kuye, kodwa sidibanise izizathu ezili-16 zokuba kutheni abanye abantu basetyhini bethanda amakhwenkwe amabi. Ukusuka kwintombazana ethanda amakhwenkwe amabi, nolu uluhlu lwethu…
wwe ngemvulo ebusuku amagqabantshintshi aluhlaza
1. Masithembeke - kuyonwabisa!
Okokuqala - amakhwenkwe amabi ayathandeka kwaye luhlobo olonwabisayo lokuthandana nomnye. Sigcinwe kwizinzwane zethu, sifumana i-buzz ekuthatheni isigqibo 'esibi', sinomdla, siyasendle… sifuna ukuqhubeka?
Inxalenye yesibheno samakhwenkwe amabi kukuba yonke le nto ivakala imnandi. Oku kungenxa yokuba i-TV kunye neemovie zihlala zisixelela ukuba yinto ekufuneka sihanjiswe ngayo.
2. Sithanda igama esilifumana ngombutho.
Ukuba uthandana nenkwenkwe embi, kuya kufuneka ube uyindle kakhulu, akunjalo? Abanye bethu bayayithanda inyani yokuba sifumana udumo njengentombazana embi kuba sijola nenkwenkwe embi.
Siyazithanda iingcinga ezenziwa ngabantu ngathi-siyonwabisa, sihle ebhedini, sinomtsalane, siyingozi.
Ukuthandana kwabantu abangathandekiyo okanye iindaba ezimbi nje ezizodwa zisenza sibonakale sinjalo ngokungagqibekanga, kwaye sifumana ibuzz engaqhelekanga ngokwazi ukuba wonke umntu ucinga ukuba sibi.
3. Asazi ukuba simelane njani nozinzo - okanye ukuba kufanelekile.
Uninzi lwethu belukade lungekho kubudlelane obungenampilo ngaphambili- nokuba ngabazali bethu okanye amaqabane ethu. Asazi ngokwenyani ukuba uzinzo, ukunamathela okukhuselekileyo kuya kujongeka kanjani ngenxa yokuba siye saba nokuphazamiseka okuninzi okanye ukungabikho kwesiqhelo kubomi bethu.
Kananjalo, sithuthuzeleka kukuziva singakhuselekanga okanye kumda. Sizama ukuqhubeka noku ngokuya emadodeni angafumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni, a mbi, okanye angenako ukuzibophelela.
Isenza sizive sikhuselekile kuba siyiqhelile-ngendlela efanayo, ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, obuzinzileyo busenza sizive sinqabile kwaye singekho ndawo, kuba asazi ukuba kuba kwinto enye.
Inxalenye yoku yehla kwinto yokuba asazi ukuba sitsho kufanelekile ubudlelwane obulungileyo nobusempilweni.
Siye sanikwa imeko ngawo onke amava ethu angaphambili ukuba asazi ukuba sizifanele zonke izinto anokuthi anikwe 'ngumfo olungileyo', njengokufumaneka kweemvakalelo, unxibelelwano, kunye nothando.
Siyabambelela kwinto esiyaziyo kunye noko sicinga ukuba kufanelekile, ngokusekwe kwimikhwa esiyenzileyo kule minyaka idlulileyo. Amakhwenkwe amabi asinika into esiyiqhelileyo, kwaye loo nto isenza siziva sikhululekile.
4. Ngu f * ck kuwe kwi ex yethu.
Kulungile, le encinci incinci, kodwa sonke besikhona. Usanda kuphuma kubudlelwane kwaye ufuna ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho. Eyona ndlela yokwenza oko? Qhubeka-nomntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo kubo.
Ukuba i-ex yakho ibona iifoto zakho usenza nomfana onesithuthuthu, ugqunywe ziitattoo, kwaye ukrazuke ngokupheleleyo, uya kuziva esoyikiswa kunye nenkunkuma entle ngaye.
Kwaye, ngandlela thile, luhlobo lwento oyifunayo. Ufuna ukubuyela kubo kwaye ubenze bazive bengabalulekanga kwaye belityelwe malunga nabo - njengoko babekwenza uzive xa bekulahla.
Asikukhuthazi le ndlela yokuziphatha okanye sithi isempilweni okanye ilungile, kodwa iyachaza ukuba kutheni amanye amantombazana ethanda amakhwenkwe amabi.
5. Siyawuthanda umdlalo weqonga.
Bekuya kuba njani ukuthandana ukuba besisoloko sifumana isicatshulwa emva kwimizuzu, okanye ukuba isoka lethu akazange abe naziphi na izihlobo ababhinqileyo super eshushu?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuba mnandi ngokwenene!
Nangona kunjalo, sinikwe imeko yimiboniso bhanyabhanya kunye nemiboniso bhanyabhanya ukuze sihlale sithe qwa kulo mfo sithandana naye. Thina unayo ukubiza iintombi zethu ukuba loo mfo uthatha ngaphezulu kweyure ukuphendula, nathi kufanele Chitha ubuncinci ibhotile enye yewayini b * malunga nabahlobo ababhinqileyo besoka lethu.
Siqinisekile ukuba kufuneka sifumane idrama kubomi bethu bokuthandana, ke sijonge amaqabane aza kubonelela ngenqanaba eliphezulu lawo.
Sifuna umntu esimaziyo ukuba mhlawumbi uzakusibangela ukuba sibe neemfumba zoxinzelelo, oya kusenza sibuze ubudlelwane, oya kusishiya sifundwa kangangeentsuku. Siyenza singaqondanga, kodwa sisayenza-yiyo loo nto sihlala sitsaleleka kubafana abangalunganga.
6. Ziyabelana ngesondo kwaye zingcono ebhedini, akunjalo?
Kukho nje into malunga namakhwenkwe amabi ebenza babenomdla kakhulu. Mhlawumbi yiyo yonke idrama (ekhankanywe apha ngasentla) okanye umsindo ovuthayo kunye nothando. Nokuba yintoni, siyayifuna-kwaye siqinisekile ukuba izakuba yinto eyonwabisayo.
Emva koko kukho inkolelo yokuba abafana ababi balungile ebhedini - banomdla ngakumbi, banomdla ngakumbi, kwaye banomdla ngaphezu kwabahle, abafana abaqhelekileyo. Sinomdla kwinto leyo njengayo nayiphi na enye into, kwaye sifuna ubomi besini obushushu!
7. Sikwimo yokuzibhubhisa.
Kulungile, sithethile ngesondo esineziqholo, kodwa lixesha lokuba nzulu okomzuzwana. Abanye bethu bakhetha ukuba kunye namakhwenkwe amabi kuba sihamba kwinqanaba lokuzibhubhisa.
Ngaba izibini zinokubuya zithandane
Phantse ndifuna ukuya ekwahlukaneni, ke sijonga ukhetho esinalo yazi azisilungelanga. Sitsaleleke kwizinto eziza kusenza sizive ngathi, kuba sifuna ukuva ezo mvakalelo zingalunganga. Kuyamangalisa, siyazi, kodwa akuqhelekanga.
8. Sinendlela yokuphuma emgceni.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba izinto azizukusebenza nalo mfo, sele uyazi ukuba ungaziphelisa ngenxa yokuba bayinkwenkwe embi.
Oku kunxibelelana nenqaku elingentla- sikhangele into embi ukuba yenzeke, kodwa sifuna isingxengxezo sokuyibaleka xa sifuna njalo.
Ngokuthandana nomntu ongalunganga kuthi, okanye thina yazi ziindaba ezimbi, sizinika 'ukuzenzekelayo.' Oku kungasinceda ukuba sizive silawula ngakumbi kwaye kuthetha ukuba sinokulandela ngokwethu ukuzitshabalalisa okukhankanywe ngasentla nangaliphi na ixesha esifuna ukwenza ngalo.
9. Sifumene Imiba katata .
Esinye sezizathu zokuba amanye amantombazana athande amakhwenkwe amabi kukuba awazange abe nolwalamano oluhle notata wawo.
Ukuba abazi ukuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nendoda, kulo naliphi na inqanaba, banokutsaleleka kukhetho olubi kuba bengazi ngcono, njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni kweli nqaku.
Nangona kunjalo, abanye bethu bazama nokulawula imicimbi yethu yobuntwana ngokuziphindisela ngokwemigaqo yethu. Ukuba ubunolwalamano olubi notata wakho ekukhuleni, mhlawumbi kungenxa yezenzo zakhe ngaphezulu kwezenzo zakho- ikakhulu kuba yena ibingumntu omdala kule meko.
Ukuze ugqithe kuloo nto, ujonga iimeko apho wena inokuba sisizathu sokuba ubudlelwane nendoda abuphilanga. Ukuba ikwimimiselo yakho, awungekhe wenzakaliswe yiyo.
Endaweni yokujongana nemicimbi notata wakho, qhubeka Ukuphinda iipateni ezifanayo ezingenampilo namadoda ngethemba lokuba unako 'ukubhala ngaphezulu' loo micimbi katata kwaye uthathe ulawulo.
10. Sicinga ukuba singabatshintsha.
Ewe kunjalo, abanye bethu bayayithanda iprojekthi. Sidibana nomfana ngubani unakho mangalisa, uyinto nje 'yokulungisa-phezulu.'
Sithanda umbono wokuba yintombazana ekwazileyo ukuyilawula indoda yasendle. Ukuba sinokwenza ukuba inkwenkwe embi iyizinzise kwaye izibophelele, oko kuya kuthetha ukuba sikhethekile, akunjalo?
iinyani ezimnandi zokwabelana ngazo emsebenzini
Sithanda ukucinga ngokuba yile ntombazana kuyo yonke imovie eyenza ukuba umfana ekugqibeleni atshintshe iindlela zakhe - usuka kwiziyobisi nakwizithuthuthu aye emtshatweni nasezintwaneni, konke kuba uyasithanda ke kakhulu. Yinto entle, kwaye yinto enkulu yokunyusa…
11. Sithanda umngeni kwaye sondliwa ngabafana abahle.
Abanye bethu amantombazana bafuna ukuthandana nabantu ababi kuba sithanda umngeni wayo yonke. Oku ayikokutshintsha kwabo kumalunga nokugcina phezulu nabo.
Sondliwe ngabafana abasithandayo kangangokuba bahamba nayo yonke into esiyifunayo. Kumnandi ukunqulwa ngumfana ukuya kuthi ga, kodwa kunokuba kukruqula kwaye kuqikeleleke .
Sifuna umceli mngeni, kwaye siyafuna zive umceli mngeni. Sifuna ukuziva ngathi siphuma kubunzulu bethu kwaye ngathi senzelwe ukuba siyisebenzele. Ukuba izinto ziza ngokulula kakhulu, kuhlala kukho isizathu sazo, akunjalo?
12. Abafo abalungileyo basijongela kude nathi-ukuze nathi sihambele inkwenkwe embi…
Asikaze sihlale nenkwenkwe embi ngaphambili kuba sixelelwe ukuba baya kusiqhatha, baya kusenza sizive singalunganga, baya kusishiya… ke siyayihoya indlela esitsaleleke ngayo kubo kwaye ukubheja 'okukhuselekileyo.
Umfana onomdla wokudlala imidlalo yebhodi kunokuba aphume esenza iziyobisi kwiklabhu ngolwesiHlanu ebusuku, umzekelo.
Kodwa, xa umntu olungileyo, okhuselekileyo ekukhohlisa okanye ekuvisa kabuhlungu ngenye indlela, kukwenza ucinge- kutheni ungafiki nje kumfana endinomdla kuye ukuba ndiza kwenzakala phofu?
Ukuba isiphumo mhlawumbi siyakuba sinye, ngokusekwe kwinto yokuba abantu abalungileyo oye wabathandana nabo bajike baba babi nangona kunjalo, unokufumana nomntu onyanisekileyo, onomdla wokwenene.
13. Basivumela ukuba sibabi nathi- kunye, kunye nokuchasana nokutsala, akunjalo?
Esinye sezizathu zokuba amantombazana amaninzi athande amakhwenkwe amabi kukuba ayabavumela thina mbi nawe.
Ukuba ukunye nomfana olungileyo, uziva unyanzelekile ukuba ubuye kakuhle. Isenokungafuni kwenza nantoni na yasendle, ke wena uzilolonge ukutshatisa imeko yakhe. Isenokungabikho kwinto enomdla ebhedini, ke uzenza ngathi nawe awunguye. Uyazithoba phantsi ukuze ulungele yena, ukuze nibe sisibini esihle nesithandekayo kunye.
Xa unenkwenkwe embi, nangona kunjalo, ukhululeka ngequbuliso kwezo zilindelo kwaye unokuzikhulula ngokwenza konke ukungahambi kakuhle, izinto ezonwabisayo ozibambe.
Awusekho phantsi koxinzelelo ukuze ulingane nohlobo 'lwentombazana entle', kwaye awuyi kuziva uneentloni okanye unetyala ngokufuna ukuphonononga izinto iqabane lakho lokugqibela ebengenalo kulo.
Ukuba nenkwenkwe embi kusivumela ukuba sibe lolona hlobo lubi kuthi, kwaye akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto…
Intetho ethi ' izichasi ziyatsala ‘Inokusebenza kakhulu xa isiza kubani esifuna ukuthandana naye. Ke ukuba uyintombazana elungileyo, kukho ithuba elinamandla lokuba uya kufuna inkwenkwe embi, ngaxa lithile ubuncinci.
Sisoloko sithanda izinto ezahlukileyo kuthi, ngamanye amaxesha oku kungenxa yokuba sifuna ukubhencwa 'komnye,' kodwa kungenxa yokuba sithanda ukwahluka kwaye sifuna ukufumana uluhlu olupheleleyo lwezinto nabantu.
14. Siyayithanda into embi kuthi.
Itshokholethi, iwayini, ukuthatha. Izinto ezibhalwe 'njengezimbi' kuthi zilinga ngakumbi!
Kuyafana xa kuziwa kubafana. Sithanda into esalelweyo, okanye i-taboo, kwaye sifuna ukuzonwabisa kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Siyazi ukuba ‘imbi’ kuthi, kodwa loo nto isenza ukuba siyifune ngakumbi. Kukho inzululwazi koku - Okukhona sizithintela kwaye sibhala izinto 'njengezilungileyo' okanye 'ezimbi,' kokukhona siziva silinganiselwe kwaye kokukhona sifuna ukukhululeka kwaye sinayo nantoni na esiyifunayo.
Ngokutya, umzekelo, ukuba uxelelwe ukuba awunasonka, uya kuhlala ucinga ngesonka kude kube ufikelela kwinqanaba apho usinqwenela kakhulu kangangokuba uzakutya isonka esipheleleyo ngaxeshanye- ngenxa yokuba yayingavumelekanga.
Kuyafana nangamadoda. Uya kuthintela kwaye uthintele kwaye uzixelele ukuba ungahambi ngamakhwenkwe amabi, ude uphume kwaye ufune enye ngenxa yokuba yinto ongakhange ube nayo.
15. Banamandla kwaye baya kusikhusela.
Abanye bethu bayayithanda imbonakalo yenkwenkwe embi. Mikhulu kwaye yomelele, kwaye iya kusikhusela. Basenokungaphazamisi iinwele zethu okanye basithengele iintyatyambo, kodwa baya kuqala umlo naye nabani na ongasihloniphiyo.
Kwakhona, asihambisani nayo nayiphi na le nto, kodwa siyavuma ukuba inomdla.
Uninzi lwethu lufuna nesoka elibalaseleyo. Siyayithanda imbono yomfana ongoyikiyo ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe, kunye nomntu oya kuthi abize izithonga kwaye enze izigqibo kuthi.
Ayingawo onke amantombazana afuna le nto, ewe, kodwa kukho intwana yokuba amantombazana athanda amakhwenkwe amabi angazithembi kwaye azenzele ngokwazo. Bakhetha omnye umntu owenza izigqibo, kwaye bafuna umntu oza kuthatha ulawulo.
16. Konke malunga neehomoni.
Iihormone zethu zitshintsha izinto ezininzi kuyo yonke inyanga, kodwa usenokungazi ukuba nazo ziyatshintsha ukuba loluphi uhlobo lomfana esinomdla kuye.
Ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo enyanga nganye, amanqanaba athile e-hormone atshintsha-tshintsha, kwaye anokusenza sitsaleleke kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabafana ngexesha lezigaba ezahlukeneyo zomjikelo wethu.
Kwinqanaba elithile lomjikelo wethu wokuya exesheni, sitsala abafana abalungileyo abanobuso obunolingano, umzekelo, abakhupha iipheromones ezintle kwaye babonakala ngathi bangangotata abakhulu.
Ngaba umntu endisebenza naye undityumzile
Kwamanye amanqanaba omjikelo wethu, sifuna ingozi kunye nolonwabo, kwaye ngokwenzululwazi kunokwenzeka ukuba sitsalwe kubafana abarhabaxa - okanye abafana abanamathambo, ukugqobhoza ubuso, kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezingalunganga, umzekelo.
Iipheromones zibalulekile, kwaye izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba zidlala indima enkulu ekutsaleni. Ngoku, amakhwenkwe amabi akasoloko enazo iipheromones ‘ezinomtsalane’ ezingakumbi, kodwa kusenokubakho izinto ezingqinelanayo apho ezingekafunyanwa!
Akufanelekanga ukuba ezinye izinto ezikhethiweyo zingenayo isayensi okanye ukuqiqa emva kwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, sithanda nje ukuba ngubani esimthandayo-obo buhle bomtsalane!
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