Ibinzana elithi 'yenza konke okusemandleni akho' yinto onokuyiva kakhulu xa ukhula.
izihloko ezingahleliwe onokuthetha ngazo nabahlobo
Kamva ebomini, ukuba ukhe uzifumanele kwindawo yokuzinceda kwivenkile ethengisa iincwadi yakho yasekuhlaleni, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uyakunikwa iingcebiso ezifanayo ngohlobo lokuba 'ube ngoyena uguqulele wena' okanye enye into elolo hlobo.
Akumangalisi ke ngoko, ukuba uninzi lwethu luze lube nemeko enzima yokuba nzima kakhulu kuthi.
Siyakhawuleza ukubeka ityala kwiminyango yethu, ukuze senze imvakalelo ebonakalayo, yokuziqhubela phambili yokuphoxeka kunye nokungoneliseki.
Emehlweni ethu, sihlala sifunyanwa sifuna ukuba besinokuhlala senze ngcono.
Siya kusoloko sisilela ekufezekiseni ulindelo lwethu olungenangqondo oluphezulu.
Ukuba unomdla wokwazi ukuba ngaba uwela kulo mgibe, zibuze ukuba zingaphi kwezi mpawu uzibona ebomini bakho.
1. Uzabalazela ukugqibelela
Mhlawumbi yindalo yendalo ye 'yenza okusemandleni akho' ingcebiso ukusuka ebuntwaneni, kodwa ujonge ukusondela ngokugqibeleleyo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukufumanisa kunzima ukunyamezela iintsilelo zakho kwaye, endaweni yoko, lungisa ekupheliseni zonke iziphene zakho.
Ngaphezulu, izinto kufuneka zenziwe ngendlela ethile-indlela yakho.
Xa abanye bebandakanyeka, uzama ukunyanzelisa imigaqo ethile ukuze baziphathe kwimigangatho yakho kwaye izinto ziyinto oyithandayo.
2. Ujoliso lwakho luCalucalulo malunga nokusilela kwakho endaweni yeempumelelo
Uyakhawuleza ukubona iindlela othe wafika ngazo zimfutshane, kodwa uhlala ungenako ukubhiyozela xa izinto zihamba kakuhle.
Kungenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho icwangciselwe ngaphakathi ukuba ijonge iindlela onokuthi wenze into eyahlukileyo enokuthi ikhokelele kwisiphumo esingcono.
Xa uphumelele, unokuzidlalela phantsi okanye uzikhanyele kwaphela.
3. Uhlala Kwiimpazamo
Awujongi nje kuphela kusilelo lwakho kuwo onke amathuba, uchitha iiyure ezininzi ucinga ngezinto ozibona ziyimpazamo.
Nokuba yinto oyithethileyo ngexesha lencoko, indlela owenze ngayo kwimeko ethile, okanye ukhetho olwenzileyo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba ibe yimpazamo, uyakuyiphinda entlokweni yakho kwakhona…
… Ngamanye amaxesha iiyure, ngamanye amaxesha iintsuku.
4. Ufuna ukuFunda iZifundo kwangoko kwiimpazamo
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba uthambekele ekugxileni kwiimpazamo zakho kukuba uyakholelwa ukuba kukho isifundo esinokufundwa kuyo nganye.
Unomdla kakhulu ekusebenzeni ukuba sesiphi isifundo osikhathalelayo ukuthathela ingqalelo into yokuba kungenzeka ukuba akukho nanye, okanye awukabikho kwimeko yokufunda.
Awunamonde wokufumana nayiphi na imfundiso enokubakho, ke uyayikhanyisa impazamo ukuzama ukuyinyanzela ukuba izityhile.
5. Ubona izinto ziMnyama okanye ziMhlophe
Nawe, izinto zilungile okanye zimbi, impumelelo okanye ukusilela, nokuba kulungile okanye akulunganga akukho phakathi.
Uyasokola ukuqonda ukwahluka okungangqalanga okungaphaya kwezikhewu - uninzi lweegrey ezingwevu ezikhoyo phakathi komnyama nomhlophe.
Oku kwenza ukuba ukhawuleze uzikrwempe xa izinto zingakhange ziye ngokupheleleyo ekucwangciseni, nokuba zisebenze kakuhle ekugqibeleni.
Kuyintlekele ukuba ufike emva kwexesha ngemizuzu emi-5 kwinto ethile.
Ukutya kuyonakaliswa xa ubeka ityuwa eninzi kuyo.
Awunathemba emsebenzini wakho ukuba awufumananga olona vavanyo luphezulu kuvavanyo lwakho lonyaka.
Ezi ziindidi zeengcinga ezihamba entlokweni yakho.
6. Awunamonde ngempumelelo
Kungenxa yokuba, kuwe, akukho ndawo iphakathi kwempumelelo nokungaphumeleli, uhlala uxhalabile okoko umbono wakho wempumelelo usinda.
Nokuba wenza inkqubela phambili entle kumbono wangaphandle, uhlala ungonwabanga de ufikelele usukelo oluthile.
Awoneliseki yiyo nayiphi na into engaphantsi kokugqibelela ojolise kuko, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba uhlala ufuna iindlela zokukhawulezisa inkqubo yokukufumana.
Oku kukwenza ukuba ube semngciphekweni wendlela emfutshane, ukukopela, ukulungisa okukhawulezileyo- nantoni na ukuze ufike apho ufuna ukuba khona.
7. Ukoyika Ukungaphumeleli
Ukungakhathali kwimpumelelo kuqhutywa luloyiko lwakho lokungaphumeleli.
Uzama kanzima ukufikelela kwiithagethi eziphezulu ozibekele zona kuba awunakuma umbono wokudanisa abantu.
Uyakholelwa ukuba nantoni na engaphantsi komzekelo ibala kumlinganiswa wakho kwaye abantu baya kukujonga kancinci ngenxa yakho.
8. Wena Paranoid Malunga Abanye Bacinga ntoni ngawe
Awunakho ukulugcina uluvo lokuba abanye abantu banokungakuthandi, bakuhloniphe, okanye bakuxabise, ngenxa yoko uzama ukuba nzima ngakumbi ukubakholisa.
Uyazityhala ngaphaya kwemida yakho ukuthintela ugculelo olunokuza xa unokwenza impazamo.
Uyayoyika umphathi wakho kunye nabaphathi bakho emsebenzini, uziqinisekise ukuba abanelisekanga yindlela osebenza ngayo kwaye nomsebenzi wakho usemngciphekweni.
Uyakholelwa ukuba abahlobo bakho bahlekisa ngokufihlakeleyo ngempumelelo yakho kwaye nosapho lwakho ludanile kwimeko yakho ebomini.
9. Uyakruquka Xa Umntu Ekugxeka
Uyenyanye ngokupheleleyo xa ukugxeka kujolise kwicala lakho.
Uyithatha nzulu ngaphakathi kwentliziyo yakho kangangokuba iyaphula imimoya yakho kwaye ikuthumele kumnyama wobumnyama.
Ayinamsebenzi indlela amagqabantshintshi angenantsingiselo ngayo, indlela angabalulekanga ngayo omnye umntu anokuyicinga, okanye ukuba afuna ukuba ibe yeyokwakha kangakanani, xa umntu othile esithi unokwenza ngcono, Ukuziva ungaxabisekanga kuqhuma ngaphakathi kuwe.
10. Ukanti ugxeka kakhulu isiqu sakho
Njengokuba kunzima ukufumana ukugxekwa kwabanye, uyakhawuleza ukubonisa zonke iziphene ozibonayo kuwe.
Uhlala ububalaselisa ubuthathaka bakho, kokubini kwabanye abantu naphakathi kwengqondo yakho kuba uyakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba onke la manqaku mabi akhona.
Kwaye akunamsebenzi ukuba bangaphi abantu abakuxelela ngenye indlela, nje ukuba uqiniseke ngokusilela, kuhlala nawe ixesha elide kakhulu.
11. Ujonge Abanye Ngomona
Ngaba ungqwabalala kuwe, uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ngeentsilelo zakho ozifumanise ukuba awunakuzinceda kodwa ujonge abanye ngomona.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ungazihoyi iintsilelo zabo, uzibone njengezinto ezingenasiphako kubomi obugqibeleleyo.
Unqwenela ukuba ungonwabela inqanaba elifanayo lolonwabo, inkululeko, kunye nobutyebi bezinto abanazo, nokuba bajongane naziphi na iingxaki ongazaziyo.
Funda ngakumbi (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iimpawu ezingama-40 Wenza Kakuhle Ebomini Nangona ungacingi njalo
- Isizathu esiyiyo sokuba woyike ukusilela (kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngayo)
- Ungakoyisa njani ukungafezeki: Iindlela ezi-8 zokwamkela okungaphantsi kweyona ilungileyo
Ungayeka Njani ukuba nzima kuwe
Ngoku ukuba sihlolisise ezinye zeempawu eziqhelekileyo ezibonisa ukuba uziphatha kabuhlungu ngokwenene, masikhe siqwalasele iindlela onokuthi uphume ngazo kule ngqondo yonakalisayo.
Ukuba ukulungele ukusebenza kuyo kwaye wamkele ukuba kungathatha ixesha ukuyiphumeza, kukho izinto onokuzenza, imikhwa ethile onokuyamkela, eya kuthi ikunike umbono onovelwano ngakumbi ngempumelelo yakho.
1. Qaphela i-Monologue yakho yangaphakathi
Kuba ungoyena ulukhuni, kwaye kunokwenzeka kuphela, umgxeki, kusengqondweni yakho ukuba kufuneka wenze utshintsho oluninzi.
Into yokuqala ukuyenza kukumamela intetho yakho yobuqu ngokungathi uvela kumntu wesithathu.
Qaphela ulwimi oluthile olusetyenziselwa ukuzibeka phantsi kwaye ufunde ukungavumelani nento ethethwa yingqondo yakho.
Ke xa unengcinga ' Ndisisidenge , 'Uyilandele ngononophelo ngengcinga' eneneni, hayi andinguye okrelekrele. '
I-monologue yakho yangaphakathi inokubonakala ngathi yinto ongenakulawula kakhulu kuyo, kodwa ngokwenene ungatshintsha i-vibe iyonke ekhupha ngokuphendula kukungakhathali nge-positivity conscious.
2. Buza ukuba ingaba iya kuba neveki okanye inyanga / unyaka
Uloyiko lwakho lokungaphumeleli kunye nokuzimisela kwakho kwimfezeko kunokuwiswa ngokuthi uqhelane nombuzo othi “ingaba ibalulekile….”
Ngalo lonke ixesha into ingalandeli isicwangciso sakho esifanelekileyo, endaweni yokuwela kwisimo sokuzigxeka kwengqondo, jonga nje ukuba ngaba le bump endleleni iya kuba neveki, inyanga, okanye unyaka.
Cinga ukuba awusoze uyikhumbule okanye uya kujonga ngasemva ngoncumo ebusweni bakho, emva koko jonga njengoko uqala ukuziva uvelwano ngakumbi kuwe ngalo mzuzu wangoku.
3. Yamkela Ukungaqiniseki
Rhoqo zikhumbuze ukuba wena, okanye nabani na ongomnye, unokuqikelela into enokwenzeka kwixesha elizayo.
Into oyibona njengokusilela okwangoku inokuthi ivele ibe sisiqalo sento entle, kwaye into ocinga ngayo ngokugqibeleleyo namhlanje isenokungagqibeleli kwixesha elizayo.
Yamkela into yokuba ubomi abunakulindeleka kwaye bunamaxhala ngamanye amaxesha.
Usenokungakwazi ukubona okuhle kokubi okanye okubi kokulungileyo, kutheni ke ukhathazeka ngokuba yeyiphi kwaye uzixabele ngayo?
4. Ziphathe Njengawe Ngaba Ungoyena Mhlobo Wakho
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ungoyena mntu kunzima kuwe kunokuba unjalo kwabo bantu babalulekileyo kuwe.
Ngale nto engqondweni, kutheni ungazami ukuziphatha ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo abanye abantu, ngovelwano, inkuthazo, kunye nendlela ethambileyo yokusilela kunye neempazamo.
Zibuze ukuba ungathini kumhlobo oza kuwe engonwabanga ukuba basilele kwinto ethile.
Ungabathuthuzela njani, ubenze baqiniseke ukuba izinto azikho mbi ngokwendlela abonakala ngayo, kwaye ubakhumbuze ukuba bangabi nzima kubo?
Phinda loo nto ngokwakho.
5. Zityand 'igila Kumhlobo Wakho
Ukuba awukwazi ukucinga ukuba ungathini kumhlobo okwisikhundla sakho, kutheni ungathethi nje ngomnye wabo malunga nezinto ezikukhathazayo?
Bazise ukuba uziva ngathi usilele okanye uyasilela, kwaye ubone nje ukuba bathini.
Amathuba kukuba, esona senzo sokuvuma izono siyakukubonelela ngesiqabu kwangoko, kwaye ingcebiso abakunika yona iya kuba kukuyeka ukuba nzima kuwe.
Ukuthetha ngale micimbi kunokukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni ekuqhubela ekubeni ucinge ngale ndlela kunye nendlela onokutshintsha ngayo.
6. Yeka Ukuzithelekisa Nabanye
Nguwe wedwa umntu okhe waphila ubomi bakho, ke akuncedi ukuzama ukuzithelekisa nabanye.
Awazi ukuba ngawaphi amathuba ababenawo okanye amava abaye bawela kuwo ukuze babe lapho bakhoyo namhlanje, kodwa amathuba okuba babe nexesha elidlulileyo kuwe.
Ukuzithelekisa nabanye yitikiti elikhawulezayo lokungoneliseki ebomini bakho kuba nokuba uphumelele kweliphi inqanaba, kuya kuhlala kukho abantu onokuthi uthelekise nabo ubomi bakho ngokungathandekiyo.
7. Yeka Ukugxeka Abanye
Ngelixa ungazifumani ugxeka abahlobo abasenyongweni kunye nosapho rhoqo, ukuba ukhe uthule isonyeliso kukhetho kunye nempumelelo yabanye, yeka kwangoko.
Xa uzivumela uhlambalaze abantu ngasemva komhlana wabo, usebenza kuphela ukomeleza imiyalezo oya kuthi ke uqhubeke ngqo phambili.
Ngamanye amagama, ngokugxeka abanye, womeleza umgxeki wakho wangaphakathi.
8. Ukuphuhlisa ulusu oluLuhlaza
Kuphantse ukuba akunakuphepheka ukuba uya kujongana nokugxekwa amaxesha ngamaxesha, ke kubalulekile ukuba wenze ulusu olungqindilili ukuze uthintele umonakalo owenzayo kwimvakalelo yakho yokuxabiseka.
Ukufunda ukuthatha iingcebiso kwibhodi kubalulekile ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukuzibona njengohlaselo lobuqu, kwaye kusempilweni ukuqaphela ezi ndawo zokujonga njengamathuba okufunda.
Khumbula, ngenxa yokuba omnye umntu engavumelani nendlela oyenza ngayo into, oko akuthethi ukuba uchanekile kwaye wena uyaphosisa.
Ungaze uvumele omnye umntu ajongele umbono wokuba ubambe inkanuko kuba eyibona ngokwahlukileyo.
9. Yamkela into ongenakuyitshintsha
Kukho izinto ezithile kobu bomi ongenagunya kuzo, kwaye ezi zizinto ongafanele uvumele ukuba ziphazamise inkolelo onayo kuwe.
Ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha into, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuyamkela.
Ukuba akwenzi njalo, unokufumana ukuba uthatha ityala kuseto olungalawulekiyo kwaphela lweemeko.
Zikhumbuze Ngempumelelo yakho
Kungaba lula ukuphinda ubuyise ingqondo yakho kuzo zonke izinto ezibonakala ngathi zihambe gwenxa ebomini bakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka ucinge ngawo onke amaxesha apho ukhe wangcamla impumelelo.
Xa ukhumbula izinto ezahlukeneyo oziphumezileyo kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, uya kuqala ukuzenzela ngokwakho okwangoku.
Iya kukukhumbuza ukuba unokwazi kangakanani kwaye sele uhambile kangakanani.
Iya kukhupha iimvakalelo zokungoneliseki onokuba uhlangabezana nazo ngoku.
11. Zirhangqe Ngabantu Abakholelwa Kuwe
Xa unengxaki yokukholelwa kuwe, kuhlawulela ukuba nabantu abaninzi obathandayo abakungqongileyo inkolelo yabo ingaze iqhubeke.
Banokukunceda ukukhupha ingqondo yakho ebumnyameni kwaye ubuyele ekukhanyeni ngokuqinisekisa eyakho iitalente ezininzi , kwaye ngokunika umbono wendlela ukuze ukonwabele apho ukhoyo namhlanje kunye nayo yonke intabalala ekufuneka ikunike yona.
Xa abanye abantu beqiniseke kangaka ngawe, akunakunceda kodwa kukwenze uqiniseke ngokwakho.
