Iminyaka engamashumi amabini ayilishumi uyakulibala ungxamile. Iminyaka elishumi eyolula phakathi kwe-20 yakhothusuku lokuzalwa kunye nomhla obethe ngawo i-3.0 enkulu zezona zikrola ngokwenyani ukuba ungumntu onjani.
Ngelixa sonke silahlekile ngexa leminyaka yethu yokufikisa, kwi-20s yethu siqala ukuqonda ubume bomhlaba kwaye sifumane umbono wokuba siphokophele phi.
Sibetha iminyaka elishumi njengabantwana, kwaye kunokuba kubonakale ngathi asenzi nto ekukhuleni ngelixa siphakathi kwayo, siphuma kwelinye icala njengabantu abadala abasebenza ngokupheleleyo.
Ngelixa sikhula ngokusesikweni sineminyaka eyi-18, kuninzi lwethu, kude kube sekupheleni kweminyaka yamashumi amabini apho siqala ukuziva nantoni na esondeleyo 'ekukhuleni.'
Ngapha koko, ngombulelo, izazinzulu ziye kutshanje kubhengezwe ukuba ubuchopho bethu abukhuli ngokupheleleyo de sibe neminyaka engama-25. Andazi ngawe, kodwa loo nto icacisa into embi malunga namashumi amabini eminyaka yam yokuqala.
Kukho izintlu ezingenakubalwa ngaphandle apho zisitshela oko thina kufanele yenze kumashumi amabini, kodwa ibaluleke nje njengezinto ezizayo kuya kufuneka ubeke phambili zizinto ekufuneka uzenzile ngokuzikhethela ukuba uziphephe kule minyaka ilishumi ibalulekileyo.
Wonke umntu wahlukile kwaye akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokuphila ubomi bakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba izikhombisi ezimbalwa kwicala elifanelekileyo azinako ukusenza sonke ilizwe elilungileyo.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka ulumkele ukuzenza kumashumi amabini.
1. Ukuzama ukwenza ukuba ubomi bakho bukhangeleke ngendlela ethile xa uneminyaka engama-30.
Kukho uluvo oludumileyo lokuba ubudala be-30 luhlobo lomgangatho, kwaye ukuba asikanyanga iibhokisi ezithile ngexesha esifikayo apho ke siyasilela.
Lo ngumbono ogrunjwe kuthi luluntu xa sikwishumi elivisayo kwaye i-30 ibonakala ngathi kukukhanya kweminyaka kude. Kodwa njengoko eso siganeko sisondela kuthi, sinokuqala ukwenza izigqibo ezithandabuzekayo njengoko siziva ngathi kufuneka sifake ezo bhokisi ukuba sifuna nyani okanye asifuni.
Abantu abaninzi babona amashumi amathathu esiza kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokuba kufuneka batshate okanye bathenge indlu okanye benze into efanayo 'yabantu abadala' ukubonisa ukuba banamadada ngokulandelelana.
Ukwenza izigqibo zobomi ezinkulu nje kuba uziva ngathi ixesha liyaphela, kunokuba kungenxa yokuba ufuna ngokwenene, kunokuba yirisithi yentlekele.
2. Ukumisela nantoni na engaphantsi kweyona intle.
Kukho ixesha kunye nendawo yokulalanisa, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayikho ngoku. Kuya kufuneka ukhethe malunga nabantu ochitha ixesha lakho kunye nabo kwaye wabelane ngobomi bakho nangaliphi na ixesha, kodwa kuya kufuneka ugcine isibhakabhaka esiphakamileyo kwiminyaka yakho yamashumi amabini.
Sukuzilungiselela ubudlelwane obulunge ngokwaneleyo. Cela umhlaba.
3. Hayi ukuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela .
Indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela yindawo ethandekayo, efudumeleyo, eneshushu, kodwa akukho nto inika umdla eyakhe yenzeka apho. Izinto ezintle ziqala ukwenzeka xa uthe wakhupha impumlo ngaphandle kwayo kwaye uzama izinto ezintsha, uye kwiindawo ezintsha, kwaye udibane nabantu abatsha.
Ixesha lokutyhala imida yakho ngoku, ngelixesha usenako (mhlawumbi) ukuba bhetyebhetye nenkululeko yokuzama izinto ezintsha kwaye uxanduva lwakho ngokwakho.
Ukuba unephupha elibeka intliziyo yakho emlilweni kodwa Uhlobo loloyikisayo , njengokuhamba hamba kwihlabathi okanye ukuqala ishishini lakho, ke musa ukukubekela amangomso. Ngoku lixesha lokuba uyenze.
4. Ukuzicinezela.
Umbutho ubeka uxinzelelo olwaneleyo kuwe, ke musa ukubeka nawe. Zisike kancinci. Ngokuqinisekileyo, sebenza nzima. Zityhale. Kodwa sukuzibetha xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle.
Musa ukuzinyanzela ukuba wenze into engaziva ilungile kuwe kuba yile nto ukuxelelwa luluntu ukuba ubufanele ukuba uyayenza.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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5. Ukuthelekisa.
Abantu bebenjalo bezithelekisa kwabo babangqongileyo ukusukela kumhla wamachaphaza, kodwa ukusasazeka kweendaba zosasazo kuye kwayongeza ingxaki. Thelekisa-itis sisifo esibi esinokuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu kubomi bakho ukuba uyasivumela.
Kule minyaka ingamashumi amabini yobomi bethu, sibahle kakhulu senza into efanayo njengabo bonke ubudala bethu. Xa isikolo siphelile, iindlela zethu ziqala ukuphambuka kancinci, kodwa uninzi lwethu luya kwimfundo ethe xhaxhe, kwaye sonke sihlala kakuhle kwisikhephe esinye.
Kulapho ubetha khona amashumi amabini eminyaka apho wonke umntu aqala ukugqiba, ukufumana unyuselo, ukufumana ukubandakanyeka, okanye nokuba nabantwana. Yilapho ubomi bomntu wonke buhamba kuzo zonke iindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ubomi bakho abuzukuphinda bufane nentombazana ohlebe ngamakhwenkwe akwiklasi yesayensi xa wawuna-13.
Kulula kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha lakho ujonga izibonelelo zabanye abantu kwimithombo yeendaba kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba banobomi obugqibeleleyo kwaye nguwe owenza loo nto ingalunganga.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba abayi kubelana ngeempawu ezimbi kunye nehlabathi, njengokuba ungeke wenze, kwaye ngabo, kwaye nguwe.
Oyena mntu ufanele ukuzithelekisa naye ngulo mntu ubuyizolo, kulo nyaka uphelileyo nakwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo. Jonga emva kwaye ucamngce ngokufika kwakho kwaye ukhule kangakanani.
6. Ukwenza konke malunga nemali.
Ngoku andikukhuthazi ukungakhathali okupheleleyo kwemali, kodwa kukho umgca ococekileyo phakathi kokungakhathali kakhulu nemali yakho nokwenza imali njengeyona nto iphambili kuwe.
Musa ukuthatha umsebenzi ngenxa yomvuzo ophezulu ukuba uyazi ukuba awuzukuvuya kuwo. Sukukhetha ikhondo lomsebenzi wakho ngokusekelwe kuyo yonke imali oza kuyenza, uzixelele ukuba uya konwaba xa uthatha umhlala-phantsi.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngekhe wenze umhlala phantsi (uxolo ukuba uloyiko, kodwa kuyinyani).
Qiniseka ukuba ubeka imali kude kusuku olunethayo, kodwa ukuba unayo imali engenayo qiniseka ukuba uyayonwabela nawe, njengoko ungazi ukuba kulindwe ntoni ngekona.
7. Ukukhalaza malunga nokuba uxakeke kangakanani.
Kubonakala ngathi kuyimfashini kwezi ntsuku ukuhlala uncwina malunga nokuba uxakeke kangakanani.
Oku kusenokwenzeka ukuba kubangelwa kukothuka kokungena kwihlabathi labantu abadala kunye nokuqonda zingaphi iimbopheleleko onazo . Inyaniso ekrakra: ubomi ngaphambi kwe-20 ngumdlalo womntwana ngokoqobo xa kuthelekiswa nokuba ngumntu okhulileyo.
Ixesha elininzi olichitha ukhalaza malunga nokuba uxakekile kangakanani ubomi bakho bobuchwephesha kunye noluntu, ixesha elincinci olichitha ngokwenza izinto zenziwe.
Oko kwathethi, ngelixa kufanelekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba awugqithisi, kuya kufuneka uvuyiswe kukuxakeka kwakho.
Ubomi abuyi kuhlala buvuselela kakhulu, ke qiniseka ukuba awungxami ngokungaboni, kodwa uthathe ixesha lokujonga ngawe kwaye wonwabe.
8. Usajika ebhankini kamama notata.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba imitya yefaskoti yayinqumle nje ukugqiba kwakho iminyaka eli-18, kodwa uninzi lwethu lunethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba nabazali abonwabileyo ukuqhubeka nokusixhasa de kube ngamashumi amabini.
Kungenxa yokuba bonwabile ukuyenza, nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uyicele. Nangona kumnandi ukwazi ukuba baya kuhlala bekhona ukuba ubadinga ngokwenene, ukufunda ukuzimela ngokwakho kunika amandla.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akusoloko kulula, kodwa imvakalelo yenkululeko yokwenene iwufanele umzabalazo.
9. Ukucinga ukuba uyoyiswa.
Xa sikwiminyaka yamashumi amabini, sihlala siphantsi kwengcinga yokuba asichukumiseki ngokupheleleyo. Awunguye.
Unoxanduva lokuzikhathalela impilo yakho kwaye ungathathi umngcipheko wobuyatha. Akukho mntu usisiqithi, kwaye ayinguwe wedwa oza kusokola xa kukho into eyenzekileyo kuwe.
Ukuba umama wakho ufuna ukuba uthumele iitekisi zakhe ukumqinisekisa ukuba ulungile, zithumele ngaphandle kokuncwina. Akukho lusu ngaphandle kwempumlo yakho, kwaye ulapho kuphela apho unombulelo kuye.
wazi njani ukuba akakuthandi
10. Ukuzikhathaza ngokujika 30.
Abantu abaninzi kakhulu baphulukana nobuthongo ngombono wokujika i-30, kodwa ukukhathazeka ngayo ayizukucotha ixesha.
Iminyaka yakho yamashumi amathathu iya kuba yiminyaka elishumi entle kwaye uya kuba mdala, ulumke, kwaye ube nembono eyahlukileyo ngobomi, ngenxa yoko akukho sizathu sokuchitha amashumi amabini ukhathazeka malunga noko kuzayo. Phila ngoku .
