Hayi, ingxaki yekota-yobomi. Nangona i-25 yiminyaka yobudala, sinokudlula kwinqanaba elinye nakwiminyaka engamashumi amabini.
Banokubangelwa zii-curveballs zazo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu obuthandwayo ubomi kubo ukusiphosa ngeli xesha linzima.
Ininzi, ziza kwiminyaka emva kokuba uphumelele kwi-uni kwaye uqala ukuhamba ngendlela yakho kwihlabathi 'labantu abadala', kodwa awukwazi ukusebenzisa igama lomntu omdala ngaphandle kweengcaphuno zomoya.
Sinethamsanqa elimangalisayo lokuhlala kweli xesha. Kule mihla, uninzi lwethu kunanini na ngaphambili lunamathuba phantse angenamda kwizandla zethu.
Nangona kusekho indlela ende yokuhamba malunga nokulingana, uninzi lwethu lukwisimo esithetha ukuba sinako ukwenza nantoni na ngobomi bethu. Ewe, nantoni na.
Ngelixa ilizwe elizele ngamathuba linomdla omangalisayo, ikwaye yoyikeka kwaye yoyikisa. Yonke ingumbono wembono, kodwa kulula kakhulu ukuyibona njengeyokugqibela xa ujongene nesinye sezigqibo ezinkulu ebomini kwaye uziva ukuba uvalo luqala ukunyuka.
Kukho loo nto, kwaye inyani yokuba, kwi-20s yethu, iminyaka iqale ukubhabha. Ixesha lihamba phakathi kweminwe yethu njengentlabathi kwi-timer yeqanda kwaye siqala ukuqonda ukuba asiyi kuphila ngonaphakade, njengokuba sasicinga ukuba siza kuba ngabaselula.
Kwangelo xesha, sinoluntu (kwaye mhlawumbi noomama bethu) lusinyanzela ukuba sinyuke ileli yomsebenzi, sihlale phantsi, kwaye sibe nabantwana abayi-2.4 ngokukhawuleza.
Owu ... kodwa ukhenketha nehlabathi kwaye wonwabe. Konke ngaphambi kwethu ndibethe 30 ezoyikekayo .
Akumangalisi ke ngoko, ukuba ingxaki yekota-yobomi ikhulisa intloko yayo embi. Usenokuba ujongene nenye ngoku ungazi.
Ungakhathazeki, nangona bonke abantwana abapholileyo bekwenza oko.
Iimpawu zeKota-yoBomi obuNgxaki
Nazi ezinye zeempawu, ezinye zibonakala ngokungaboni kwaye ezinye usenokungaziqwalaseli, ukuba uhlangabezana nenye.
1. Awunakho ukwenza izigqibo
Ngaba ukhe wazibona sele ungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo, nokuba zincinci, zingabalulekanga?
Ukujongana nezigqibo ezinkulu eziza kuchaphazela ikhondo lobomi bakho, nokuba uthathe ezincinci kube nzima ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
kutheni ukugcina ixesha kubalulekile
Uzifumana uchitha iiyure kwivenkile ekubonisana malunga nokuba yeyiphi na ipasta oza kuyithenga. Nokuba kufuneka ukhethe into kwimenyu yokutyela kuye kwaba ngumceli mngeni ongenakoyiswa.
2. Uqalile ukubuza i Imibuzo Emikhulu
Funda naziphi na iincwadi zefilosofi kutsha nje? Uzifumanise ukhangela iinkwenkwezi uzive ungabalulekanga?
Uqale ukuzibuza ukuba yintoni emhlabeni inqaku layo yonke into? Ngaba ucatshukisiwe kukuba iimpendulo zale mibuzo ziyaqhubeka zikude?
3. Uyakoyika Ukuba Konke Ukwehla Ukusuka Apha
Ubethe ama-25 akhothumhla wokuzalwa kwaye wonke umntu ucinga ukuba kuyathandeka ukukuxelela ukuba, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngoku ubethe incopho yakho, kwaye izinto ziqala ukonakala ukusuka apha ukuya phambili.
Kanye le nto ubufuna ukuyiva.
Uyothuka ukuba eyona minyaka yakho intle isemva kwakho kwaye akhange wenze nto ngayo.
4. Unetyala eliKhulu le-Imposter Syndrome
Unexhala ngomsebenzi owoyikekayo owenzayo ‘ekukhuleni’ kwaye uzive ngokunyanisekileyo ngathi ubuqhetseba emsebenzini, uzibuza ukuba umntu omdala ‘wokwenene’ uza kuqonda nini ukuba kukho uhlobo oluthile lomxube ombi kwaye akubonise umnyango.
5. Awunasiphelo
Akunakubonakala unamathela kwinto enye, nokuba ngumsebenzi okanye ubudlelwane, okanye nokuba uhlale kwindawo ethile ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezimbalwa ungakhange uphambanise kwaye ufuna ukubaleka.
Awuqinisekanga nokuba yintoni le ufuna ukubaleka kuyo.
imiqondiso yokuba akakho kuwe
6. Kodwa ngekhe ubaleke
Ngelixa into ethile ngaphakathi ikuqhubela ukuba uyijike yonke kwaye uye kubona umhlaba, unyamalale iinyanga okanye iminyaka ukuphela, esinye isiqingatha sakho sisoyika ukutsiba ileli yomsebenzi njengoko ucinga ukuba uza kungena mahala.
Uphantsi kwengcinga yokuba awusoze uphinde ubuyele kuyo, kwaye wonke umntu owaziyo uya kuba elawula iinkampani kwaye esebenza kwiiofisi zeglasi ngelixesha uyakuhlala unamathele kumgangatho ongezantsi ukuba ungazama ukuthatha ikhefu lomsebenzi kwangoko.
Ungalifumana njani ikhefu lomsebenzi xa uqinisekile ukuba into oyenzayo ayinakubalwa njengomsebenzi phofu?
7. Ukufumanisa Kunzima Ukonwaba Ngokwenene Kubahlobo Bakho
Ngelixa usazi ukuba ubomi akufuneki bube malunga nemali nomsebenzi, ngalo lonke ixesha umhlobo ovela e-uni osebenza kumzi-mveliso ohlawulwa kakhulu (kwaye mhlawumbi nokuziphatha kakubi) ufumana umsebenzi omtsha omnandi kunye nokunyusa, awungekhe wonwabe ngokwenene kubo kuba uxakeke kakhulu ukothusa ngaphakathi.
Wenza umsebenzi olunge kakhulu wokuzenza ngathi uyabonwabela, nangona kunjalo.
8. Nawe ngaxeshanye Ukoyikiswa kokuzibophelela Kwaye unqwenela ukufumana uthando
Wonke umntu okujikelezile ngokukhululekileyo unikezela uluvo lwakho kubomi bakho bothando.
Isiqingatha sabo sikuxelele ukonwabela i-20s yakho kwaye uyigcine ngokungaqhelekanga, ngelixa esinye isiqingatha sikulumkisa ukuba bonke abalungileyo bayacinywa, kwaye bakunike amanani malunga nokuba ungabulawa njani ngumgrogrisi kunokuba utshate emva kweminyaka ethile, ke kuya kufuneka uqhubeke.
Vuyani ngentetho ye-pep, bafana.
Uyoyika ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane obunzulu, kodwa kananjalo awazi ukuba uziva ukhululekile na ukuthandana macala onke, oko kuthetha ukuba ubomi bakho bothando buhle kakhulu abukho.
9. Imidiya yokuncokola ayingomhlobo wakho na
Ngalo lonke ixesha uqala ukuskrolela kuFacebook, ubona umhlobo eposa malunga nomsebenzi omtsha, okanye ukuzibandakanya, okanye nosana, kwaye akunakubonakala ngathi uziva wonwabile ngabo, ngumxube nje ongaqhelekanga womona, uloyiko, nokudelela.
Uyazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba akufanele ube nomona ngee-feed ze-Instagram zabantu, njengoko zilayishe kuphela izinto ezintle, njengawe, kodwa oko akukuthinteli ekubeni uzive amawele eemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo.
Uyamangaliswa kukuba nabani na kufuneka enze ezo zinto kule minyaka, kwaye uyadelela kancinci… emva koko uyaqonda ukuba ayisiyiyo loo nto intsha.
Uyazi ukuba awufuni nokutshata okanye ube nabantwana (ukuba kunjalo?!), Kodwa loo nto ayiyeki i-mini freak-outs. Ngapha koko, ikwenza ube nexhala lokuba KUFUNEKA uzifune ezo zinto ngoku.
10. Uluvo lukaMama wakho luseseSigqibo
Nangona ulahlekelwe sisakhono sokwenza izigqibo (jonga inqaku loku-1), uziva ngathi kufuneka uzenze… kuphela awufuni. Usafuna uluvo lukamama wakho kuyo yonke into entle.
11. Ucinga ukuba nguwe wedwa oziva ngale ndlela
Uqinisekile ukuba wonke umntu unesenzo sakhe kunye kunye nesicwangciso seminyaka emihlanu esihambelanayo, kwaye nguwe wedwa oyenzayo njengoko uqhubeka kwaye uphambuka kuwo onke amanyathelo endlela.
Ngethamsanqa, unenkampani elungileyo. Sonke sikwisikhephe esivuzayo kunye nesirhabaxa, kwaye nabani na okhangeleka ngathi uyifumene le nto yabantu abadala ngumdlali omangalisayo.
Mamela nje ilizwi elilumkileyo elingaphakathi kuwe elizolileyo lizama ukuzenza ukuba live phezu kwaso sonke isikhalo entlokweni yakho.
Ilizwi elikukhumbuza ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke into malunga nokuba sisityebi okanye ukuba nomsebenzi we-stellar, kwaye iminyaka yakho yamashumi amabini yenzelwe ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uqikelele ubomi.
Njengoko uJohn Lennon eyenzelwe ukuba itshilo, 'konke kuya kulunga ekugqibeleni, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ayisosiphelo.'
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Kutheni le nto uninzi lweMillennials ludlula kwiNgxubakaxaka yobomi?
Iingxaki zobomi bekota ziye zaba yingxaki yanamhlanje, kodwa ngoba?
Kubonakala ngathi sihlangabezana neyethu iingxaki ezikhoyo malunga neminyaka engama-20 kungekudala kunezizukulwana ezingaphambi kwethu.
Ukuba uhlala uziva uxinezelekile, ilahlekile , kwaye uzibone ukhala kwi-shower, awuwedwa. Uloyiko ngumnyama omtsha…
Ingxaki eNtsha yoBomi
Sonke siqhule malunga nabazali bethu ukuba babe neengxaki zobomi obuphakathi - bethenga iimoto zemidlalo, ukuthandana ngokungafanelekanga, kunye nokufumana iiTattoo 'ezikhululayo'. Ngelixa konke kulungile kwaye kulungile, iyalatha kwinto engalunganga kancinci.
Iyaqondakala, inene, inikezwe ukuba uninzi lwabantu abadala luye lwaphula iintlungu ezahlukeneyo, uqhawulo-mtshato kunye notshintsho olugqithisileyo ngexesha abafikelela kwi-40.
Bafanelwe ukuba nomzuzu woloyiko kwaye balibale ukuba ngoobani kwaye benza ntoni ngobomi babo.
Kodwa kuthekani ngathi bethu ababonakala ngathi banokunyibilika kancinci kwi-20s yethu ?!
Ukuba uneminyaka eliwaka kwaye ungazi ukuba wenzani ngobomi bakho, ungothuki - awuwedwa. Ngakumbi nangakumbi kuthi kubonakala ngathi siyasokola kwizicwangciso zethu zekamva, kunye nobukho bethu bangoku.
Sivame ukuziva ngathi asizenzi kakuhle izinto, okanye kwangethuba ebomini bethu. Sinamathuba amaninzi, kodwa yonke into iyasongamela, kwaye siziva sibhidekile, silahlekile, kwaye singonelanga ngokwaneleyo.
Imibongo malunga nokuphila ubomi ngokuzeleyo
Kubazali bethu nakubantu abadala, siyadlala kwaye siyathandabuza, kodwa kunokubakho into emva kwayo…
Imidiya yokuncokola kunye nokulindelwa okungenakwenzeka
Ngoku, ndiyayithanda i-Instagram ngokungathi ngumntu olandelayo - ukuya kuthi ga apho ndiza kujonga khona ifowuni yam ngaphambi kokuba ndithethe nesithandwa sam esisecaleni kwam ebhedini. Rude, ndiyazi, kodwa ibe ngumkhwa ongaqhelekanga kwaye siyayenza sobabini.
Kwaye asisodwa.
Uninzi lwee-millennials ziqhula malunga neziyobisi zabo zentlalo, kwaye sonke siqhelene nomthetho wegolide we-Instagram - ukuba awuzange uyifote, ukhe wayitya naloo brunch ye-hipster-vegan-gluten ?!
Imidiya yokuncokola inokuba ninzi ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye ivumela abantu ukuba benze uluntu oluxhasayo kwi-Intanethi, bakhuthaze amashishini abo, kwaye bagcine wonke umntu ehlaziywa nge-selfie yemihla ngemihla.
Kodwa yintoni eyenzayo ukuzithemba kwethu kunye neminqweno yethu?
Sonke siqhela kakhulu ukubona abantu abahle, abanesikhumba besitya ukutya okungathethekiyo kwiilwandle ezingenabantu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, siyazi ukuba kukho icebo lokucoca ifoto, kodwa kutheni kungenjalo yethu ubomi obunje?
I-Instagram kunye neFacebook ziyatshintsha indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngobomi bethu, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba andindedwa ndiziva ndinganqabisekanga malunga nokuba ndikuphi ngobomi bam.
Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ndiyayenza loo nto, apho, kunye nabo?! Ukubona ukuba bonke aba bantu baphakamise ntoni kuphakamisa imibuzo emininzi malunga nobomi bethu. Mhlawumbi kufanele ukuba sihambe ngakumbi, ngelixa sisebenza kubudlelwane bethu, kwaye sinyuka ileli yomsebenzi.
Owu, kunye nqanaba lepropathi, ngokweFacebook yam. Owu, nokuba nosana kunye neqabane lethu leminyaka emihlanu, nangona ubudlelwane bethu bokugqibela buhlala malunga nemihla emithathu enzima kakhulu.
Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokuba yinto ethandekayo, kodwa ikwabangela ukwethuka kwaye yenza eyethu, ibe yeyokwenyani, ubomi bube ngathi abonelanga.
iindlela zokubonisa uthando kwisithandwa sakho
Kukho imifanekiso emininzi kunye nemiyalezo esixelela into ebesifanele ukuba siyayenza kangangokuba konke kuyasongamela.
Siqala ukukhulisa ulindelo olungeyonyani olusekwe kwinto wonke umntu kubonakala ukwenza, ukwenza ubomi bethu bonke bubonakale bungafanelekanga kwaye bungaphumeleli.
Olu lindelo luqala ukungahambi kakuhle apho siqala khona ukuvavanya ubomi bethu, rhoqo ngokuthelekisa inkangeleko yethu kunye namava kulawo esiwabona kwi-Intanethi.
Iingxaki zobomi, nakweyiphi na iminyaka, azonwabanga kwaphela - zizele kukungazithembi, unxunguphalo, uthelekiso kunye nexhala. Ngokuzibona thina kunye nobomi bethu njengabaphantsi kunako konke okucociweyo, ubomi 'bobuhlakani obubhatalwayo' bezithixo zethu, sihlala sinoluhlobo lwengxaki.
'Ndidiniwe'
Sonke sibonakala ngathi sidiniwe rhoqo. Ukuzama ukwenza yonke into kuyadinisa ngenxa yoko unokuzibona ucinga ngokusisigxina ngombhede wakho.
Ukuba asisebenzi iiyure eziphambeneyo ngamehlo ethu ekubekweni, sizama ukuya kwimihla, senze izicwangciso kunye nabahlobo esingaze sibonakale ngathi siyayilandela, okanye sibaleka sijikeleza indlu (ukuba sinako ' t afford) ukuhlamba impahla.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, asinabo ubunzima njengabazali bethu okanye ootatomkhulu, kodwa sisasokola.
I-intanethi iyamangalisa, itekhnoloji iqhubele phambili kakhulu, kwaye sinokufikelela kwizibonelelo ezininzi kangangokuba izizukulwana eziphambi kwethu zazingenazo nje. Kodwa, ngandlela thile, silahlekile kancinane apha endleleni kwaye sihlala sidiniwe kwaye sinoxinzelelo ngaphezulu hayi kakhulu.
Kubonakala ngathi wonke umntu ukuhlobo olungaqhelekanga lobuhlanga ukwenza izinto kuqala, okanye ngcono, ngaphandle kokwazi ngokwenyani ukuba ziyintoni na kanye kanye izinto.
Yonke into iyabhidisa kwaye iyaphefumla ikhupha kakhulu kwaye ayonwabisi kwaphela.
Iinketho ezininzi kakhulu?
Kwezi ntsuku, sinokwenza into entle kakhulu.
Iidigri zeYunivesithi zixhaphake kakhulu kunakuqala, ukuhamba kulula kakhulu, ukuba kuyabiza, kwaye zininzi izinto onokukhetha kuzo ebomini.
Oku kuhle kwezinye iindlela, kodwa kunokuba nzima kakhulu.
Kufana nokuba simi kwi-buffet kwaye sixelelwa ukuba sikhethe phakathi kwe-avocado kwi-toast kunye nesitya se-smoothie. Ndiyazi, kuvakala kumnandi kakhulu 'kunelitye nendawo enzima,' kodwa iyabhida kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Bekuya kuthini ukuba la maqanda ebexhonyiwe ebelinqanaba elifanelekileyo lokubaleka ngewawongeze amajikijolo ejiji kunye nomungu weenyosi?
Sinezinto ezininzi onokukhetha kuzo phambi kwethu, kwaye zonke zibonakala zilungile. Kodwa senzelwe njani ukuba sazi ukuba yeyiphi indlela esifuna ukuba kuyo ebomini xa singenako nokwenza isigqibo esichaphazela usuku olunye?
Ingathi kufuneka sinyanzele yonke into ukuthandana ngokwaneleyo ngaphambi kokuhlala phantsi, iintsana, indlu, ukwenyuselwa, impilo enentlalontle… Wonke umntu osingqongileyo ubonakala ngathi uyayenza, kwaye oku kwenza ukuba kubenzima nangakumbi.
Okukhona sizama ukuqhubela phambili yonke into, kokukhona sibonakala sifumana.
Ngelixa kuyinto engakholelekiyo ukuba ne-buffet yokhetho phambi kwethu, ingca ihlala iziva iluhlaza kakhulu kwelinye icala.
Naluphi na ukhetho luziva njengokukhetha okungalunganga, kusenza sibuze ubukho bethu kunye noxinzelelo nangakumbi kunokuba besele sisenza.
Xa unokuba yiyo nantoni na oyifunayo, ukhetha njani?
Yonke into ibiza imali
Uphumile kwikhaya losapho, uye e-uni, uchithe imali-mboleko yakho kwi-Sambuca shots, kwaye ngoku awunandawo yokuhlala kunye namatyala amaninzi.
Ukubuyela ekhaya emva kokuba uphumelele hayi ikakhulu inomdla kuninzi lwama-20. Ikhaya ligcina iinkumbulo zolutsha olufikisayo, izithambiso ezimbi kunye nexesha elibekiweyo lokubuya. Kumnandi ukuhlamba impahla kwaye utye isidlo sokwenyani, kodwa uziva ngathi linyathelo elikhulu elibuyela umva.
Enye indlela? Ayilunganga kangako, njengoko kuvela.
Iidipozithi kunye nemirhumo ye-arhente ubhale uluhlu lwezinto ezahlukeneyo kwi-Craigslist, kwaye ekuphela kweendawo ezinokufikeleleka zokuhlala ziigaraji (ndiyifumene indawo yokupaka edweliswe ' nje ‘$ 500 ngenyanga).
Yonke into ibiza kakhulu kwezi ntsuku!
Ngokuqinisekileyo, konke kunxulumene nokunyuka komvuzo omncinci, kodwa intengiso yepropathi ivakala nje njengehlaya elinye elikhulu. Akumangalisi ukuba sonke sishiyeke siziva silahlekile kwaye sixinezelekile xa irente kwigumbi elincinci, eligungxayo liphanga.
Ukungabinakho ukubanakho ukufumana indawo entle, okanye enendawo yokuhlala enesidima ayisiyiyo yonke into ekhuthazayo, kungoko sineengxaki ezikhoyo ngalo lonke ixesha sijonga ukuvumela iisayithi zearhente.
Yongeza kuyo yonke le nto ukuba sinamanani amakhulu emali yokufunda / iGap-Yah / ubomi ngokubanzi, kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba kutheni sinengxaki.
Imicimbi yezemali ayenzelwanga ukuba ibe nale nto yoxinzelelo xa sikwi-20s yethu - siyikota yendlela ebomini bethu, asiyidingi yonke le nto yobudenge 'yabantu abadala'.
Akukona Konke Okubi
Eyoyikisayo njengokuba kunokuba nekota-yobomi beengxaki, kubalulekile ukuzama ukubona ulayini wesilivere.
Ukuba nale ngxaki yokuzithemba kwangoko ebomini bethu siziva singenabulungisa kwaye singeyomfuneko, kodwa ihlala ibandakanya ukukhangela umphefumlo. Oku kunokuba buhlungu, kwaye kuhlala kubandakanya isixa esifanelekileyo seBen & Jerry's (okanye i-tequila, nokuba yeyiphi), kodwa inokuba yinto elungileyo…
izinto zokuthetha nabantu
Ngokubuza imiba emininzi kangaka yobomi bethu, sinokuphuma kwelinye icala lentlekele siziva sicace gca.
Ukuhlalutya ngokuxhalabisayo yonke into esiqhubeka nayo inokuba yinto enzima, kodwa ihlala isishiya siziva sijolise ngakumbi kwisaqhwithi.
Kwezi meko, unyanzelekile ukuba ucinge ngenene malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza ngobomi bakho. Oku kunokuthetha ukufumanisa izinto ezithandwayo okanye izinto onomdla kuzo, okanye ukuphinda ufumane izinto ezindala olibele ukuba uzithandayo.
Ukuvavanya ubomi bakho kunokuziva ungonwabanga ngalo mzuzu, kodwa kunokukunceda ukuba ucwangcise ikamva lakho kwaye usebenzele iinjongo ezintle ...
