Ukwenza ibhalansi phakathi kwezenzo zokuzingca kunye nezinto esizenzela abanye kubalulekile. Impilo yethu kunye nentlalo-ntle yethu ixhomekeke kumandla ethu okuzikhathalela. Nangona kunjalo, njengabantu basekuhlaleni, indima yethu eluntwini ikwabeka umgaqo-siseko wethu ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elinjalo, kunokuphikiswa ukuba kukuziphatha kwethu kokuziphatha okuxhasa intlalontle yethu.
Ke kuthetha ntoni ukuba yi-egocentric okanye i-allocentric, kwaye sikwenza njani ukuvumelana phakathi kweempawu ezimbini ezichaseneyo? Ukujonga oku ngokweenkcukacha ezithe kratya, sidinga ii-cookies eziphekwe ekhaya!
Ukuziphatha kwe-egocentric malunga nokudlala indima ekhokelayo ebomini bakho. Kufuna inkalipho kwaye ukunyaniseka ukuya zithande . Ukwamkela iimpazamo zakho kunye nokuqonda amaphupha akho luhambo lobomi. Ngapha koko, inqanaba lethu njengezidalwa zentlalo lenza ukuba kwahlulwe u-'M '' ukusuka 'kuthi' inkqubo edidayo nenomdla. Kwilizwe elikhawulezayo, amajelo osasazo azaliswe, ukungahoyi iifowuni zokukhuphisana 'nebheji yokuba yeyakho' akukho lula.
Ngapha koko, ukuba ufumana indlela eya kwinyani lakho lokwenyani, usadinga ukusebenza ngaphakathi kwinkcubeko yethu. Ukuziphatha okujolise kakhulu kubangela isenzo sokuzingca. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kokuzingca kunokukuqhawula kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba yi-egocentric ayithethi ngokuzingca uhlala uthatha ikuki yokugqibela, ikakhulu malunga nokuqonda ukuba uyayifuna.
Ukuziphatha kweAllocentric ujonge ngaphandle ingqalelo yakho kunye nezenzo zakho kwabanye. Umzekelo: ukuqhuba ukubhaka ii-cookies ukonwaba komnye umntu. Iimpawu zeallocentric zikunceda ukuba uqaphele umntu ngamnye njengenkwenkwezi ebomini babo, ke oko kukushiya nendima yokuxhasa. Imalunga nokubeka iimfuno zabo kuqala.
Uluhlu 'lwabanye' lunokuba lusapho olungapheliyo, abahlobo, kunye nabamelwane ukuya kuluntu olubanzi lwehlabathi. Iinzame ezinje 'ngamanzi eAfrika' okanye 'gcina iplanethi' zisivumela ukuba sinxibelelane ngaphaya kwendawo esihlala kuyo kwaye siziva sinoxanduva lwezizathu ezibanga kude kakhulu.
Xa sisenza imisebenzi yeallocentric, amandla anokupheliswa ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kwethu, kwaye kunganyanzelekanga ukuba kutyalwe kwicala lokhetho lwethu. Kwaye izenzo zethu zihlala zivunyiwe ngokwasentlalweni. Ke ngoku ibhalansi ilala phi?
Enye yeengxaki ekuzameni ukudala imvisiswano phakathi kwala macala mabini yindlela elinzima ngayo elinye nelinye. Ukwenzela abanye izinto kusenza sizive silungile, umzekelo, ukwamkelwa ngenxa yoko kusenza sizive ngcono.
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Ke, buyela kwii-cookies… ukuba ubhaka itreyi egcwele ii-cookies kwaye uzitya zonke, uziva unetyala (kwaye mhlawumbi uyagula kakhulu!) Nangona kunjalo, ukubhaka kunye nokunika ii-cookies kude kukwenza uzive ulungile. Abantu bayayixabisa iicookies zakho ezenziwe ekhaya. Abanye abazenzi ngokwabo, ke bayayithanda xa usenza. Abanye banqwenela utyelelo oluza nokuhanjiswa kwecookie. Abanye bayayonwabela into yokuba iyonwabisa ukwenza ii-cookies. Ngelixa abanye behleli nje emva kokuphatha okumnandi.
Uyayithanda indlela ekwenza uzive ubona zonke ezi zinto zokutya zicookie, ngenxa yoko uqhubeka ubhaka. Singabantu bezentlalo abakhathalelayo abanye basityebisa nge ukuqonda injongo nokuba sempilweni. Indaleko yebhayoloji isalathisa kwelo cala. Isaci esithi 'ayikho into efana nokuzincama' sibonisa ukuba kusoloko kukho umvuzo wokungazingci.
Ubukumkani bezilwanyana bubonelela ngemizekelo emininzi yokuziphatha okungathandekiyo. Eyona nto inzima ngakumbi kulwakhiwo lwentlalo, kokukhona i-altruism eqhelekileyo iphakathi kwenkcubeko yayo. Iinkawu iVervet zibeka ubomi bazo emngciphekweni wokuphakamisa i-alamu ibize ubukho betshaba. Iimbovane, iinyosi kunye nezinye iikholoni zezinambuzane ekuhlaleni zisebenza njengeqela kwaye zinikezela ubomi bazo kwindlovukazi yazo. Ingcamango kaDarwinian ibonisa ukuba ukuzikhethela kwendalo kudla ngokukhetha abo bathanda abanye.
Ke, buyela kumzekelo wokwenza ii-cookies… usapho kunye nabahlobo bayamthanda umenzi wecookie abahlawula izinto ezintle malunga neicookies, kodwa bajonge nentlalo-ntle yakho. Ukudibana kwezentlalo kuyenzeka okuqinisekisayo ukuba wena - umenzi wecookie - unendawo ekuhlaleni. Kuhlawula ukuba ngumenzi wecookie. Kubomi bokwenyani, oku kungaphezulu kwesenzo esinye esifanelekileyo.
Kuya kubakho ke, ngaphezulu, umlinganiso omnye kukuziphatha kweallocentric:
- Isenzo esingokwemvelo sobubele ngaphandle kwengcinga.
- Isenzo somdla wabanye esikhokelela kwimvakalelo 'yokuziva ulungile'.
- Iimpawu zokuziphatha ezinefuthe elihle kwindalo okanye kuluntu.
Oku kubuza umbuzo: kweli hlabathi lihlabathi sihlala kulo, lide kangakanani 'uluntu'? Ngaba ikhona imida kwimithwalo enoxanduva lweallocentric? Ulwazi lwangasese luyaziwa malunga nosapho kunye nabahlobo bethu kwinqanaba elingazange libonwe zizizukulwana ezidlulileyo. Ngokwandayo, sihlala imigama emide ngaphandle kwabathandekayo, kodwa ngoku sinokwazi ukuba yintoni enye esiyityayo omnye nomnye ukusuka kwihlabathi liphela kuba icinezelwe ngombane kwizixhobo zethu ezininzi. Ngaba oku kuyonyusa imvakalelo yethu yoxanduva kuluntu lwethu lwehlabathi?
Iindaba ngeentlekele zemvelo kunye neentlekele ezenziwe ngabantu kude neendawo esihlala kuzo zihlala zisasazwa kwigumbi lokuhlala. Ngaba la mabali anyusa uvelwano lwethu ngokubandezeleka kwabanye abantu? Ingxaki, ewe, kukuba oovimba baphelile. Uyazikhumbula ezo cookies? Emva kokubhaka usuku lonke, uhlala phantsi udiniwe, ulungele ukunyangwa, kodwa awunazo iicookies ezishiyekileyo. Zonke uzinike wena kwaye ushiyekile ukuziva uthathelwa phezulu .
Intsalela phakathi kwe-egocentric kunye nokuziphatha kwe-allocentric ifunyanwa ngokulinganisa izenzo zakho ngokweemeko zakho kunye nezinto ozikhethayo. Kufuneka uzikhathalele ukuze uqiniseke ukuba unamandla kunye nesimo esifanelekileyo sokukhathalela abanye . Ukujonga abanye kuya kukunika ingxelo ekuhlaleni (iimvakalelo ezilungileyo zolonwabo, ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinjengokuziva unetyala) ezikhuthaza ukuzixabisa nolonwabo lwangaphakathi.
Okokugqibela, sikhunjulwa ngento esiyenzela abanye ezi zizinto 'ezenza umahluko'. Khumbula, ukuba awukutya icookie rhoqo, ungaphulukana nesimo sokubaphekela abanye!
