Enye ingxaki ayinakuze yanele, akunjalo? Indalo iphela ihlala ifuna ukuphosa iziqwenga ezininzi ze-sh * t indlela yam ngokungathi iyandivavanya. Okanye, ubuncinci, yindlela onokuziva ngayo ilungile?
Umcimbi onolu luvo kukuba, kwiimeko ezininzi, awuchanekanga kwaphela. Endaweni yokuba ingqondo ithambekele ekuqwalaseleni nasekukhumbuleni okubi, ngelixa ijonge okanye ikulibale okuhle. Oku kwaziwa njengokukhetha ukungakhathali.
URick Hanson, umphandi kunye nombhali kaBuddha's Brain: I-Neuroscience eSebenzayo yolonwabo, Uthando kunye noBulumko uyibeka ngolu hlobo: Ingqondo ifana neVelcro yamava amabi kodwa iTeflon yezinto ezintle.
Ke xa kuvela ingxaki ebomini bakho, uyawagcina ngoko nangoko amava. Ngapha koko, ngeli xesha i-alamu intsimbi iyakhala kwi-amygdala- eyona ndawo iphambili yengqondo yakho inoxanduva lokuvavanya ukuba yintoni elungileyo nengalunganga- kwaye uqala ukugxila kuyo yonke into encinci engahambi kakuhle ngelo xesha.
yintoni umahluko phakathi kokuthandana nokuthanda umntu
Oku kwenza ukuba kube lula ukungaziboni izinto ezintle ezenzekayo ebomini bakho. Nokuba uyeka kwaye uyayixabisa into elungileyo eyenzekayo, xa kuthelekiswa nokungalunganga, kuya kufuneka ugcine ukugxila kuyo ixesha elide-kangangesithuba semizuzwana engama-20- ngaphambi kokuba ibe sisiseko esomeleleyo nesisisigxina kwimemori yakho.
Ke, hayi, ayisoloko igalela xa kunetha ngamanye amaxesha iyanetha. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kungana kwaye kukhanye ngaxeshanye kwaye kudale umnyama - kuphela, ngekhe ububone kuba ungaba uxakeke kakhulu kukuziva uxakanisekile yimvula.
Uwujonga njani umnyama
Njengakwezinto ezininzi ezibandakanya ingqondo-ukuqonda linyathelo lokuqala lokutshintsha. Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba ingqondo inamathele ngakumbi kwizinto ezimbi zobomi kunokuba kunjalo, unokwenza okuthile ngayo.
Khumbula, ingqondo ayingomatshini ozinzileyo, onzima, kodwa kunoko yikhompyuter enokucwangciswa iphinde ilungiswe.
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Ngale ngcinga njengendawo yethu yokuqala, nazi izinto ezimbini onokuzenza ukuze ujikeleze ukungakhathaleli ukubuyela kwinto elungileyo kwinqanaba elithile:
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Nanini na xa izinto ezintle zisenzeka- nokuba zinkulu okanye zincinci kangakanani - kufuneka uzame ukuhlala kuzo ixesha elide kangangoko unako ukuze ungene kula mava akho. Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuba nolwazi ngakumbi ngezinto ezincinci ebomini onokuthi usilele ukuzibona xa usenza imisebenzi yakho yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla.
Imiqondiso yokuba akandithandi
Njengoko kuchaziwe ku eli nqaku Psychology Namhlanje , Abaphandi benze iinzame zokubala umlinganiso olungileyo wokuhle kwiingcinga ezimbi kunye namava kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu. Inani elihlala linyuka li-5 ukuya ku-1.
Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ufumane izinto ezi-5 ezilungileyo kuzo zonke izinto ezingalunganga ukuze ufezekise ukulungelelana kwengqondo kunye nokuthintela umbono ogqithisileyo wobomi.
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Xa ufumana ukulandelelana kweengcinga ezimbi, okanye xa kusenzeka izinto ezimbi kwaye kubonakala ngathi isibhakabhaka siwela ngaphakathi, zama lo msebenzi. Thatha nje usiba kunye nephepha (okanye umnxeba nomnwe ukuba ukhetha njalo) kwaye ubhale phantsi zonke izinto onokubulela ngazo ngalo mzuzu.
Musa ukungxama - chitha imizuzu emi-5 okanye eli-10 ucinga ukuba uyafuna. Ngokubeka ingqalelo kwizinto ezintle ebomini bakho, unokutshintsha indlela ozibona ngayo iingxaki okanye imiceli mngeni ojamelana nayo.
Ngelixa kunokuba nokusebenza kakhulu ukwenza lo msebenzi ngamanye amaxesha xa uziva iphela ngokuchasene nawe, kunokuba luncedo ngokulinganayo ukwenza oku okanye into efanayo rhoqo. Mhlawumbi unokuzama nokugcina “idayari efanelekileyo” apho uthatha khona uqaphele into entle eyi-1 eyenzekileyo suku ngalunye.
uzolile kumsindo
Ngelixa ungazukukwazi ukujija ikhethe ngokupheleleyo kude nokunganaki, kunokwenzeka ukunciphisa umlinganiso we-5: 1 ukuze kuthathe amanqaku amancinci ukulinganisa iingcinga namava.
I-Conscious Rethink: ngolwazi lokungakhathali olugcinwe ngokukhuselekileyo engqondweni yakho kunye nokuzilolonga apha ngasentla njengenxalenye ye-arsenal yakho, ungaqala kancinci ukubumba kwakhona unxibelelwano kwingqondo yakho kwaye utshintshe indlela ojonga ngayo umhlaba kunye neziganeko zakho ubomi. Le yenye yeemeko apho umsebenzi omninzi owufakayo, kokukhona uya kuvuzwa, ke nceda ukwenze oku.
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- Ungayiyeka njani intlekele malunga neziganeko ebomini bakho
- Izizathu ezi-4 zokuba kutheni izinto ezimbi ziqhubeka zisenzeka kuwe (+ Iindlela ezi-7 zokujongana nazo)
- Izakhono ezi-20 zokuPhepha ngokuSempilweni: Iindlela zokunceda kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga
- Uzahlula njani iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho
