Kuyalinga kodwa akunakwenzeka ukupeyinta onke amalungu esini ngebrashi enye ukuya kuthi ga kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo kubudlelwane.
Wonke umntu uyindibaniselwano yendalo kunye nokondla, amava obomi, ukuthambeka kobuqu, ubushushu, umnqweno, ukungathandi, nokunye okuninzi.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho isimilo esihlala sinxulunyaniswa namadoda ekuziphatheni kobudlelwane amanye amaqabane awo anokufumana ukuba ayabhidisa.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezi mviwo zilandelayo zinokunceda ekuchazeni oku ukuze kwenziwe obu buhlakani buqhubeke kakuhle.
1. Amanye amadoda ahlukanisa iimvakalelo zawo kwaye azntywilisele ukuze aziphazamise.
Oku kuhlala kusetyenziselwa ukulibala / ukungahoyi ezo zinto abanye bazibiza ngokuba ughhh… uzive ..
Xa bejamelene neemeko ezinzima ngokweemvakalelo, amadoda amaninzi aziphosa emsebenzini nasemsebenzini.
Ngokwenza njalo, benza amakhaka okufihla iimvakalelo zabo kumaqabane abo nakwihlabathi ngokubanzi.
Baye bazikhusela ekubeni nemicimbi eyongezelelweyo iphoswe kwicala labo ngelixa beqhuba yonke into abayicingayo kunye nemvakalelo yabo.
Ukuba ujonge itemplate eyomeleleyo yexesha elidlulileyo ukunxulumana nayo, ibali elilungileyo lelo le knight Tristen evela kwimbali yothando yaseArthurian…
Kuba wayehlala ekrazukile phakathi kokuthanda kwakhe ikhaya kwilizwe lasemzini, kwaye kufuneka ayeke uthando lwakhe (Isolde) kuKumkani uMarko omncinci, uTristen wavelisa isimilo esimnyama.
Emini, wayeyindoda egqibeleleyo: eqinile, enobuchule kwaye enesibindi emfazweni nasezinkundleni. Ngobusuku, nangona kunjalo, wayexakeke ngumbono wokubaleka umsebenzi wakhe ngokufa.
Le mimoya yetectonic yeemvakalelo yayimqhekeza ngokoqobo.
Khange akwazi ukudibanisa umsantsa phakathi kweemvakalelo zakhe kunye nomsebenzi wakhe. Ke yena wahlukanisa kwaye wazihoya iimvakalelo zakhe, ezamqhubela kwiimfazwe ezingapheliyo kunye neentshaba eziyingozi. Eyona nto imbi kukuba, ilizwe limqhwabele izandla ngenxa yoko.
Bacinga ukuba umnqweno wakhe wokufa ekhephu ngenxa yezenzo zobukroti kunye nobukroti. Kuphela Isolde wayenalo uluvo into ebilayo phantsi komhlaba.
Amanye amadoda awele ngokukhululekileyo nakule bracket. Bafundiswe ukusukela ebusaneni ukuba bangachazi indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, bafunda kwangethuba ukuba kufuneka bahlukane.
Kananjalo, bagcina uninzi lwabo lutshixiwe kwaye ngokuqinileyo phantsi kwesongelo. Nokuba zivela kubo.
Ukuqonda amadoda kubudlelwane kubilisa ukubukela kunye nokuhlalutya indlela abaziphethe ngayo-ukukhangela amabinzana angachazwanga ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo nento abayicingayo.
Amanqaku angaphezulu apha ngezantsi kufuneka akhanyise ngakumbi koku.
2. Amadoda amaninzi akhetha ukugxila kwizinto ezibonakalayo.
Amadoda amaninzi anamava amancinci ekuzicazululeni nasekuzivakaliseni.
Ngaba ukhe wazibuza ukuba kutheni amagqabantshintshi alula anokuzisa ukubonakala komntwana, okanye ubuso beendudumo ngaphambi kokuba baphume baye kulwa nomsebenzi osondeleyo?
Azikaze ziphuhlise, okanye zinikwe, izixhobo zokujongana nazo okanye zokuveza into eyenzekayo ngaphakathi.
Bacubungula amandla ovakalelo ngokusebenza, ukoyisa, ukulungisa, nokwakha-ukuhambisa izinto abangaziqondiyo ngokwenene zibe yinto ekhonkrithi.
Iimvakalelo zonakele, zenziwe gingci, kwaye ziyajikajika: imigaqo iyatshintsha rhoqo. Kodwa injini yemoto efuna ukulungiswa okanye imfumba yeenkuni efuna ukusikwa iyavakala. Intonga ifuna ukutshintsha, i-ax haft ifuna ukuyitshintsha: konke oku ngqo.
Amadoda ngokubanzi abambelele kutshintsho, olusengqiqweni, kunye nolwasemoyeni. Zonke ezi zinto kunokuthenjelwa kuzo ukuze zihlale zibonwa kwaye zithuthuzele. Iteyiphu yokulinganisa ihlala ithembekile. Umlindo ogcinwe kakuhle uhlala unika ixesha elichanekileyo.
Kuqonde oku malunga namadoda: bakhuliswe ukuba bafune imihlaba yocwangco, ukuqiqa, ukusebenza ngokukuko, ulawulo kunye nokuchaneka.
3. Amadoda amaninzi anokuthintela ukungqubana (kubudlelwane, ubuncinci).
Kumadoda amaninzi, ukuva amabinzana anje ngokuba 'awusoze uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho,' okanye 'kufuneka sithethe ngobudlelwane bethu,' okanye nokuba 'Ndifuna undixelele ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye uziva njani' kwanele ukubaphelisa ubuyele kwigaraji.
Ewe kunjalo, oku kukwenza jikelele kwaye kukho amadoda athile athanda ukuthetha ngezi zinto, kodwa nalapho, kuhlala kunjalo ngokwemiqathango yabo.
Ngokubanzi, ukuphazanyiswa ngenxa yokuba amaqabane abo ngequbuliso efuna ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo kwanele ukuvala uninzi lwamadoda.
Ukuba ufuna idrama, intshabalalo, isiphelo sokuqhushumba kubudlelwane kunye nendoda, bajongane ngqo kwaye uphindaphindeke kuyo.
Ngobundlobongela ukufuna ukutshintsha abantu ukuba ucinga ukuba bakhuliswe ngokungachanekanga (njengokuhambelana nemeko yangoku) iphazanyisiwe njengokukhulisa umntwana kakubi.
Abantu bangabo, kwaye amadoda awathandi amaqabane afuna ukutshintsha ukuba angobani kanye njengokuba abafazi befuna amaqabane afuna ukutshintsha indlela abajongeka ngayo.
Ihlaya elibalekayo okanye ubuxoki bokuba abafazi abanakuze bazi ukuba bafuna ntoni. Kukwanjalo ke nangamadoda angenazo iimvakalelo. Ewe siyakwenza: khange siqonde ukuba singabasusa njani. Okwangoku.
Ukuba uziva ngathi awusondelelwanga ngokusondeleyo nomfana wakho ngendlela othanda ngayo, cinga ukusebenzisana kunye nokudibanisa ngokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi eguqukayo kunokuba usebenze ngokungagungqi.
Ukuhlala kwiivenkile zekofu ukuxoxa ngeemvakalelo mhlawumbi ngekhe kubeke iqabane lakho eliyindoda ngokukhululeka.
Endaweni yoko, ukukhaba ngeenxa zonke epakini, ukusebenza kunye, okanye ukubandakanyeka kwiprojekthi enomdla kuye kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi kwabanye ukuba baqale ukuvula.
Uninzi lwamadoda luyakuthanda ukubonisa izakhono nobuchule babo, luhlobo lokuthandana ngaphambi kwexesha kunye nokubonisa into abanomdla kuyo, ngaloo ndlela bakunike ithuba lokudibana.
Abanye, ngakumbi iinjineli kunye neendidi zesayensi kakhulu, ziya kudibana ngokukodwa ngomsebenzi. Kwaye emva koko, abanye basenokukufumanisa kunzima ukubona ukuba ukudibana kuyenzeka.
Bambalwa kuthi abaza kuthi gqi ngokungxama njengo-Will Ferrell ngenxa ye-OMG! Sinexesha elimnandi kwaye siyabophelela kakhulu.
Ngokubanzi, uya kwazi ukuba umntu wakho uziva ekhululekile ngakumbi xa evula malunga nento ngokwemiqathango yakhe.
Omnye umzekelo olungileyo wokuba le nto inokwenzeka njani kwaye xa abafana bethetha malunga noko bakucingayo okanye ukuziva ngexesha lenkampu yokuhamba.
Ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho lihlale nzima ukuhlala esixekweni elilahlekelwa lilo xa lifumana isuntswana lodaka kwizihlangu zalo, inkampu ihlala iyindlela ebalaseleyo yokubopha kwaye uyiqonde ngcono indoda.
Thina madoda sihlala siphendula kakuhle ngaphandle, kwaye ukuba semzimbeni ngaphandle kwendalo kunokusinceda sehlise iindonga zethu. Siyayiqonda indalo, siyayihlonipha, kwaye kukho into ebaluleke kakhulu malunga nokuqokelela iinkuni, ukupheka phezu kwedangatye, ukujonga phezulu ezinkwenkwezini, kunye nokuziqinisa kwimeko apho kufuneka silwe neebhere okanye iingcuka.
Makuthi cwaka. Amanye amadoda ayakonwabela ukuthula, kwaye anelisekile ukuba neeyure ezininzi zawo ngexesha. Ukuhlala kuthe cwaka ngokudibeneyo kuhlala kukhokelela kumazwi aqondayo anzulu awakwazi ukuveza, ukuba uzimisele ukuthathela ingqalelo izinto ezingathethwayo, kunokuba uncokole ngokungapheliyo.
4. Amadoda amaninzi ayasindwa ngumdla ekulindeleke ukuba enze.
Uninzi lwethu lwafundiswa ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwinjongo yendoda kukwenza kunye nokubonelela. Iimvakalelo kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo kwakungekho nakwisilabhasi.
Olu lindelo luza kwenzeka kwigumbi lokulala kunye nasemsebenzini.
Kungenxa yokuba indoda inzima, oko akuthethi ukuba wonwabile. Rhoqo ukucinga kwigumbi lokulala kukuba if Indoda ifuna isondo , emva koko unomdla kulwalamano ngokubanzi. Okanye olo lwalamano luya kuyicola imeko enengxaki.
Uninzi lwamadoda alusisiseko, kwaye ubudlelwane bezesondo obusetyenziswe ngale ndlela kutyalo-mali kumonakalo wexesha elizayo. Sonke siyakuthanda ukuzalisekisa iingcinga, ukomeleza ubudlelwane, ukudlala, kunye nokuveza iziqu zethu zangaphakathi. Oku kugqiba imisebenzi emininzi kakhulu ukuba ayichazwe apha.
Ukucinga ukuba ubunzima = ulonwabo sisixhobo kuwo omabini amaqela. Kwicala lobudoda, kufuneka senze. Ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokucela into eyahlukileyo okanye (izulu alivumi!) Ukwala inkqubela phambili yeqabane lethu kuthetha ukuba asikwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wethu wobudoda. Okanye ukuba asinamandla okanye asisenamdla kwiqabane lethu.
Ngokwenyani, sinokuba senza nje lo msebenzi, sizama ukonwaba kwaye singahlalutyi ngokunzulu malunga nokuba kutheni singonwabanga. Ukuqonda ukuba ukusilela kwethu akunakuba malunga nawe kwaphela.
Ngamanye amaxesha asonwabanga okanye sibuhlungu, kodwa sisavakalelwa kukuba kufuneka siphumelele. Njengabafazi ngokungathandabuzekiyo benza kwezinye iimeko. Ukucinga ukuba sihlala simile kwaye sinamatye endaweni yokuziva yile nto kanye:
Amandla ezesondo anamhlanje ngale ndlela anokubamba ngawo wonke umntu angama-22. Ukuba sinikwa isondo njengesixhobo sokubeka, asinakukwala. Ukuba senza njalo, siya kubonwa njengokwala iqabane lethu okanye ukuba nesondo esisezantsi . Ke enye into kukuthatha ithambo kwaye yonke into ihleli ingasonjululwanga… kunye namaqamza engqumbo ahlala ekhula phantsi komphezulu.
Khumbula ukuba amadoda amaninzi acinga ngesondo cathartic. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, imizimba yethu inezinto ezomeleleyo, ezinomdla ongapheliyo wokuzala. Abasetyhini banokucaphuka xa amadoda ewagculela xa beziva bengoomama, okanye bepholisa iintsana okanye izilwanyana ezincinci ezinamanzi. Senziwe nzima ngokungafaniyo, kwaye akufuneki sibekwe phantsi ngenxa yolwethu utyekelo lwendalo nokuba.
5. Onke amadoda ayathanda ukuvakalisa izimvo zawo ngokwemigaqo yawo, ngexesha lawo.
Ngaphandle kwezalathi ezicacileyo okanye iingxelo, kulula ukucinga ukuba umntu uyindlela enye xa eneneni echasene ngokupheleleyo.
Uninzi lwabantu lucebisa ukuqikelela kwabanye ngokusekwe kwizinto abazivelayo, okanye izinto abazilungiselelwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zosasazo.
Umzekelo weklasikhi kukuba imeme apho indoda nomfazi belele ebhedini ebusuku. Unexhala lokuba angacinga ntoni, kwaye uneentlobo ngeentlobo zeemeko ezibi kakhulu ezihamba engqondweni yakhe, ukusukela ekubandakanyekeni nelinye ibhinqa ukuya kufuna ukwahlukana nalo. Okwangoku, uzama ukugqiba ngokulungileyo kunye nokubi kwento elandelayo ayifunayo.
Unokucaphuka kuba umntu wakho akathumeli iifoto zakho ezininzi kwi-Intanethi, ngelixa i-Instagram yakho ityatyekwe ngemifanekiso yenu nobabini.
Oku kunokwenzeka kuba uninzi lwamadoda aluthumeli mininzi yeefoto kwimidiya yoluntu-ubuncinci, hayi uninzi njengowasetyhini ophakathi.
Ngaba oko akuthethi akekho kuwe , kananjalo ukuba akazimisele ngolwalamano lwakho: akasiqondi nje isidingo sokusasaza iinkcukacha ukugqibezela abantu ongabaziyo.
Qiniseka ukuba ubonisa abantu ukuba uyakhathala ngeefoto zakho (kunye nobabini kunye), kodwa ngasese, ngokwemiqathango yakhe, kunye nexesha lakhe.
Ukongeza, khumbula ukuba oko baziva kusenokuba yimfihlakalo kubo. Ukuba ubakhathalele ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nabo kunye nolwalamano, ke banike ixesha.
Xa umntu ebuzwa ukuba aphucule ekuthetheni ngeemvakalelo zabo, kufuneka babe nomonde ukuze bafunde indlela yokwenza kanye loo nto, akunjalo?
Zibuze ukuba kutheni kubaluleke kangaka ukwazi ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye uziva ntoni ngalo lonke ixesha? Ngaba oku kuvela kwindawo yokhathalelo kunye nokuqwalaselwa? Okanye uziva ungazithembanga kwaye nawe ufuna / ufuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo konke kulungile?
Oyena mntu unokuziqonda nguwe, kungenjalo uyakubetha ngesikhubekiso somoya rhoqo.
Sonke siyafunana ukuze sikhule kwaye sikhule, kodwa ubomi bangoku benza iimeko zokunxibelelana zibe yimidlalo yokuqagela engathandekiyo. Akukho namnye onobuganga bokutsho ukuba baziva njani okanye bafuna ntoni ngokwenyani njengoko bekhuthaza iimvakalelo zokuba sesichengeni.
Ngomntu olungileyo, nangona kunjalo, ukucaca, kunye nokunyaniseka ngamagama kunye nembewu kubudlelwane obuhle, ngaphandle kwesiphumo.
Musa ukungcolisa. Yitsho njengokuba injalo nendlela oziva ngayo. Musa ukuchitha ixesha. Uyakufumana indoda 'elungileyo' ngokukhawuleza.
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Okokugqibela, khumbula ukuba akukho mithetho xa kufikwa kumadoda nakubudlelwane. Uninzi lweendlela zokuziphatha ekuxoxwe ngazo apha zinokuboniswa ngabasetyhini abanengqondo engqiqweni okanye eyindoda.
Kwaye amanye amadoda anemvakalelo ngakumbi ngendalo, izinto ezininzi ezithethiweyo apha aziyi kusebenza kubo. Njengamaxesha onke, ngaphandle kwesiqhelo kuhlala kulawula nabantu.
Xa ungathandabuzeki, buza. Buza iqabane lakho ukuba unxibelelana njani ngcono, okanye nokuba uyafuna ukunxibelelana nendlela aziva ngayo.
Ukuba uliqanda elilungileyo, ke yiba nomonde kuye. Endaweni yokuba nolindelo lomntu wakho ngokubhekisele kwimfuno kunye neemfuno zakho, sebenzisana naye ukubona ukuba bobabini banokunxibelelana njani ngokuvisisanayo.
Yonke into ethi 'awusoze undiqonde kuba uyindoda' ayisiyiyo kwaye ayinamsebenzi ngathi 'awusoze undiqonde kuba ungumfazi.'
Ngomlinganiselo ofanelekileyo wokunyamezela, unxibelelwano, kunye nokuphosa iipleyiti, abantu banokuqonda ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngaba usenemibuzo malunga nendoda yakho kunye nendlela acinga ngayo okanye enza ngayo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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