Ke… ukhe wadibana nomntu omangalisayo. Nabelana ngemeko efanayo yoburharha, amaxabiso afanayo, kunye nezicwangciso ezifanayo zekamva.
Ekuphela kwento engalinganiyo kukuqhuba kwakho ngokwesondo.
Inokuthi ichaze ukufumanisa ukuba wena neqabane lakho anikho kwiphepha elinye xa kufikwa kwisini.
Ngelixa kuqhelekile ukuziva ngathi oku kuyisithintelo kulwalamano lwakho, akufuneki kube kukuphela kwayo.
Kukho iindlela zokusebenzela ukuba neentlobano zesini ezahlukeneyo kubudlelwane bakho - nazi iingcebiso zethu ezili-9 eziphezulu malunga nendlela yokuqhubela phambili kunye.
1. Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo.
Nokuba nguwe ongekho kwimeko rhoqo okanye umntu onokonwaba ngesondo ngeyure, ngeyure nganye, thembeka kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuba ukwinqanaba apho usabelana ngesondo rhoqo ngokwaneleyo ukuze ukuqhuba kwakho ngokwesondo kubonakale, ukwinqanaba onokuthi uthethe ngalo.
Khumbula, nokuba kukuphi ukuphela kwesikali se-libido okuso, akufuneki kubekho ihlazo elibandakanyekayo. Abantu abohlukeneyo baneemfuno ezahlukeneyo okanye ukhetho.
Ukuba omnye wenu ukufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha ngaye, kutheni ungayibhali phantsi? Ungabhalela omnye umntu inqaku okanye ulibhale phantsi kwaye uthethe ngalo xa uziva ulungile.
Akukho kungxama ngolu hlobo lwento - ukuba ubakhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ufumane ubomi obukhulu, obulinganayo besondo obusebenzayo kuni nobabini, ukhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ulinde kwaye ube nomonde.
2. Fumana ezinye iindlela enizonwabisayo nobabini.
Le yeyona nto icacileyo, kodwa kumntu onesondo eliphezulu, kukho ezinye iindlela zokukhaba.
Basenokuziva bengakulungelanga ukwabelana ngesondo, kodwa kukho iindlela ezikhoyo apho- ukuphulula amalungu esini, iithoyi zesini, intetho emdaka, njl.
Fumana iindlela zokuzibandakanya ezingasoloko zisabelana ngesondo. Oku kususa uxinzelelo kwaye kukuvumela ukuba nobabini nizonwabele ngezinto kwinqanaba enonwabe ngalo.
Unokuba kunye neqabane lakho ngelixa bephulula amalungu esini, umzekelo, ke akufuneki uzive ushiywe ngaphandle kwaye unokuziva usondele kubo, nokuba awukho kwimo yokulala ngesondo.
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3. Sukuvumela ityala / ihlazo lingene kulo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo yinto engaqhelekanga, engathandekiyo- nakweli xesha langoku!
Ukuba iqabane lakho lizama ukukwenza uzive uneentloni ngokufuna ukulala ngesondo kakhulu, okanye unetyala ngokungabikho kwimeko xa benjalo, ayinguye umntu olungileyo kuwe. Kulula kanjalo.
Ukuqhuba kwabantu ngesondo kuchatshazelwa zizinto ezininzi, zihlala zingaphaya kolawulo lwethu, kwaye akufuneki wenziwe uzive ungalunganga malunga nokuba iphakamileyo okanye iphantsi kangakanani.
Ukuba unomntu kwaye une-sex drive engafaniyo, le inokuba yinto ekufuneka niyamkele nobabini. Isenokungatshintshi, kwaye, ukuba isini sibaluleke kakhulu komnye wenu kunomnye, kuya kufuneka niyamkele into yokuba ingangumbandela oya phambili.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ngesiquphe uqala ukucebisa ngesondo ngalo lonke ixesha, okanye ukuba ungaze uzive ukhululekile ukucebisa, kodwa kufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo.
Uya kudinga ukufumana indlela yokwenza izinto zisebenze nobabini-ngaphandle kokufumana ityala okanye iintloni ezichaphazelekayo.
4. Musa ukuyithatha buqu.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lelona liqhuba ngesondo elisezantsi, khumbula ukuba akunakulindeleka ukuba ube nento yokwenza nawe.
Kukho uluhlu lwezinto ezichaphazela kaninzi kangakanani ukuba sinomdla wokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye umtsalane wethu kwiqabane lethu kunqabile ukuba ube mnye-ubuncinci, hayi kwixesha elide! Mhlawumbi emva kwengxabano xa sinomsindo nabo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa hayi ngokungaguquguqukiyo.
Kungaziva phantse kungenakwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa oku ayikukugatya konke konke, kwaye kuya kufuneka uzame ukuyibona njengento eyahlukileyo kwindlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngawe.
Banokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo ngawe ngezinye iindlela ezikunceda uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uthandwa, kwaye oko kwanele kukodwa.
5. Zama izinto ezintsha.
Abanye abantu abaqhuba ngesondo nje ngekhe batshintshe, kodwa abanye abantu khange babenakho ukuba neentlobano zesini ezibalaseleyo ngaphambili, kwaye ke ngenxa yoko abanalo unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo nalo.
Okukhona unokuzama kamnandi ngezinto ezahlukeneyo njengesibini, kokukhona unokuqonda ukuba kunandipha kangakanani ukwabelana ngesondo kunye.
Zama izinto ezintsha, tshintsha izikhundla, kwaye ukhuthaze ngobumnene iqabane lakho ukuba libenoluvavanyo xa besenza njalo are emdleni.
Khumbula ukuba abantu abanesondo esisezantsi banokuziva benoxinzelelo oluninzi kubudlelwane bangaphambili kwaye banokungakhululeki ukwaba izinto abazonwabisayo, abafuna ukuzizama, kwaye yintoni ebasebenzelayo okwangoku.
Le yinto yokwakha kwaye yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo malunga nokuba kubudlelwane - uhlala ufunda ngazo!
Yenza konke okusemandleni ukubenza bazive bekhululekile, hlala unembeko, kwaye ubakhokele.
Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka ulungele ukwamkela ukuba oku akunakutshintsha izinto.
6. Bambelela kwizinto ezindala ezinokuthenjwa- kunye nezincomo!
Ngokuchasene nengcebiso yethu apha ngasentla, ngamanye amaxesha izinto ezintsha azibethi ndawo-ngokoqobo.
Ukuba nguwe onesondo esisezantsi, thembeka kwinto esebenzayo nengasebenziyo. Ukwabelana ngesondo malunga nobabini niziva nonwabile, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Ukuba kulula kwaye uthatha inqanaba loxinzelelo ngaphandle, bambelela kwinto oyaziyo. Yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba yintoni evakalayo ilungile kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bayayazi indlela ekwenza uzive ngayo.
Akufanele uzive unetyala malunga nokuqhuba ngesondo esezantsi-okoko-kodwa kusengumbono olungileyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lithembekile kwaye likhululekile ukulala nawe.
Ngamanye amaxesha banokuziva bengamkelekanga ukuba baqala ukulala ngesondo kwaye uyala (kwakhona, hayi ityala lakho!), Ke yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukubakhumbuza indlela abalunge ngayo ebhedini kwaye ubanike ukuzithemba amaxesha ngamaxesha.
7. Thatha isondo ngaphandle kwe-equation.
Xa ukunye nomntu kwaye bobabini benolwazi ngokungaziphathi kakuhle kwezesondo, isini sinokuba ngumcimbi omkhulu. Inokuphantse ixhomeke kuwe, kwaye inokuziva ngathi yiyo yonke into kwaye iphele konke.
Umntu one-drive ephezulu yesondo unokuthatha zonke izinto ezincinci njengokuza kuba banomdla wokuba amaqabane abo aqalise ngesondo umntu one-sex drive esezantsi angadibanisa naluphi na uhlobo lokuhlangana ngokwasemzimbeni njengokwakha isondo kwaye ke ngenxa yoko qala ukungaziva ungonwabanga nokuba ukwenzile ngenjongo elungileyo, ukungawolani ngokwesondo.
Zama ukuthatha isondo ngaphandle kwe-equation. Konwabele ukusondelelana kunye ngeendlela ezingezizo ezokwabelana ngesondo.
Oku kuyakunceda ukwakha kwakhona ibhondi yakho enokuthi ifumane ilitye elinalo lonke uxinzelelo lwee-libidos ezahlukeneyo.
Kuya kukunceda uqhagamshele kwaye ufumane ukonwaba ngakumbi phakathi komnye nomnye kwaye uphinde umisele imida yakho kunye.
8. Cinga ngeemeko.
Isini sethu sokuqhuba sitshintsha kakhulu, esinokuthi ngamanye amaxesha sibe sisiphumo seemeko zethu.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu ongafuni ukulala ngesondo iiveki ezimbalwa xa enexinzelelo olukhulu akuthethi ukuba ngekhe aphinde asondele kuwe.
Ngokulinganayo, ukuba omnye wenu uthatha amayeza amatsha awenzekayo ukuba abe nefuthe elongezelelekileyo le-libido eyandisiweyo, oko akuthethi ukuba baya kuba lihorny ngonaphakade!
Kulula ukwenza into enkulu enokuthi ingengombandela oqhubekayo kwaphela-ukuba sele isentloko yakho, unokuziqinisekisa ngento entle kakhulu, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Zama ukugcina izinto zihambelana kwaye usondele kuzo zonke ngengqondo ngaphambi kokutsiba izigqibo.
9. Funa uncedo lweengcali.
Akufanele uthathe amayeza okanye utshintshe indlela ophila ngayo kakhulu komnye umntu, ukuze ucace.
Ukuba ufuna i-sex drive ephezulu, okanye mhlawumbi unamava okudipha kwi-drive yakho eqhelekileyo yesondo ngenxa yobudala, ukwenzakala, okanye amayeza owathathileyo, cinga ngokuthetha nogqirha wakho ngayo.
Zininzi iindlela onokukhetha kuzo, okoko nje uzenzela ukhetho, uqinisekile ukufumana into ekusebenzela.
Njengoko sele sichazile - isondo ayisiyiyo yonke into kwaye iphela konke, kodwa kubalulekile kubantu abaninzi. Ukuba umkhathalele ngokwenene umntu onaye, uya kukhululeka kwaye ube nomonde ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungathetha ngayo neqabane lakho.
Ungaze uzame ukwenza umntu azive enetyala okanye eneentloni malunga nokuqhuba kwabo ngesondo- kwaye khumbula ukuba ayibonisi indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngawe, ke zama ukungayithathi.
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Kukho iindlela zokufumana ibhalansi esempilweni, kwaye eyona ilungileyo kukunxibelelana ngokunyanisekileyo. Unyanzelekile ukuba ufunde okuninzi malunga kunye kuhambo lwakho, kwaye wonwabe kakhulu uphonononge izinto ezintsha kunye.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nezakho kunye nokuqhuba ngesondo okungalinganiyo kweqabane lakho? Ngaba uyafuna ukuthetha ngayo nokuba uwedwa okanye njengesibini? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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