Siye sonke apho. Uhleli ujikeleze itafile nosapho lwakho okanye izihlobo zakho kwaye wonke umntu uncumile. Emva koko, ngaphandle kwesilumkiso, uluvo olumsulwa lukhokelela kwimpikiswano kwaye incoko ephucukileyo inyuka ngokukhawuleza ibe ngumdlalo wokukhwaza.
Ihlala ilihlazo xa into ibinokuba yingxoxo eyonwabisayo nenomdla ngobomi, indalo iphela, nayo yonke into equlethwe kuyo - enokukunceda ukuba nazane ngakumbi (singasathethi ke uzazi ngcono ) -Ijika ibe yingxoxo epheleleyo.
Akukho mntu unokucinga ngokucacileyo xa enomsindo, kwaye abantu banokuphela ngokulula bethetha izinto abangazithethi kubushushu bomzuzwana
Ezi zihloko zinzima ziza kuzo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu (thatha ezi imibuzo ekwenza ucinge umzekelo). Ubomi nokufa, isimilo, inkolo, indima yoluntu, kwaye ke, ezopolitiko, zizinto sonke esineembono eziqinisekileyo ngazo, kwaye kufanelekile.
Kubalulekile ukuba noluvo kwimiba ethile kwaye ungahlali ngasemva ngokungenziwanga , kodwa kukwabalulekile ukuba uhloniphe izimvo zabanye abantu kwaye ukwazi ukwenza ukuba omnye nomnye acinge ngaphandle kokubangela imfazwe yehlabathi yesithathu ukuba iqhume ijikeleze itafile yakho yesidlo sangokuhlwa.
Xa enye yezi mpikiswano ijika ibe yingxabano, imeko elungileyo yeyokuba ushiyeke nomoya oxakekileyo.
Ityala elibi kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, banokuqhuba ngokudibana phakathi kwabantu ababini okanye amaqela ekunzima kakhulu ukuba bakhethe ngokukhululekileyo kamva.
Ukuba iphakathi kwamalungu osapho, ezi 'ncoko' zinokuqala ubundlobongela obunokuqhubeka iminyaka ukuba awalumkanga.
Ungakhathazeki, nangona kunjalo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uxhome umnqwazi wakho wengxoxo ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ungquzulwano. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba uhamba njani ngayo.
Nazi iingcebiso zethu zengxoxo esempilweni, enomdla malunga nenye yemicimbi emikhulu yobomi engayi kuphela kwiinyembezi.
1. Ziphephe naziphi na izihloko ezizezobuqu kakhulu.
Nangona ungafanelanga ukuba neentloni kwizihloko ezinzima, ukuba kukho umntu omaziyo ukuba unoluvo olunokuphikisana nesihloko esithile, mhlawumbi ungayihoyi.
Ukuba, umzekelo, umntu osegumbini unomdla wobomi kwaye uyazi ukuba omnye umntu okhoyo ukhuphe isisu, tshintsha umxholo ngaphambi kokuba uphele kummandla wamalungelo okuzala.
Ngelixa kunokuba kunjalo isihloko esinomdla sokuxoxa Kwinkampani elungileyo, ukuba abantu baziva ikakhulu malunga nesizathu esithile, akukho nto izakutshintsha iingqondo zabo.
Ngokusisiseko, ukuba uyazi ukuba isihloko esithile siyakucaphukisa umntu ngenxa yezizathu zobuqu okanye ukuba uluvo lomntu omnye luya kubenzakalisa abanye abakhoyo, ngumhlaba oyingozi lowo.
Ewe, awunakuhlala uyazi imbali yobuqu yomntu wonke kwaye ngekhe uyazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yeyiphi na ikhampasi yokuziphatha komntu wonke, ngakumbi ukuba awukho nosapho okanye iqela labahlobo abasondeleyo.
Awunakuhlala ubona izinto kwangaphambili, kodwa ungazama ukusebenzisa intuition yakho.
Cinga ngezizathu zokuba kutheni umntu ebonakala ngathi unomdla ngakumbi, okanye uchaphazeleka, sisihloko esithile esiphambi kwakho bagwebe kwindlela abasabela ngayo.
2. Ukuba ihamba kakhulu, tshintsha umxholo.
Ukuba impikiswano igcwele ngokupheleleyo kwaye izinto ziqala ukuba shushu kancinci, thintela incoko kude nomhlaba onempikiswano.
Sukucaca kakhulu ngayo, nangona kunjalo, njengoko abantu bengathandi ukuziva ngathi bayanqunyulwa. Oko kuyakubacaphukisa nangakumbi.
Ukuba ingxoxo yenzeka ukuba ujikeleze itafile ekhayeni lakho, mhlawumbi qala ukucoca iipleyiti okanye ubuze ukuba ngaba kukho umntu ofuna ukuba isiselo sakhe songezwe, mhlawumbi acele uncedo komnye wabo babambeke kakhulu kwingxoxo-mpikiswano.
andingowalapha kweli hlabathi
3. Yiba nomculo ongasemva.
Kunzima ukuba nomsindo xa kukho ingoma edlamkileyo edlala ngasemva. Umculo ongasemva ukwathetha ukuba akukho zwi zibaxekileyo xa umntu ethetha into enempikiswano.
Zine. Yiba nembeko .
Sukuzigxotha ezinye izimvo zabanye abantu, kwaye uhlala umamela ngokufanelekileyo kwinto ethethwa ngumntu wonke.
Nangona usenokungavumelani kwaphela nenqaku labo, ungangxoli, kwaye ungangxolisi. Yenza kwabanye, nayo yonke loo jazz.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungabamkela njani abanye ukuba bangoobani (endaweni yokuba ufuna babe banjani)
- Indlela yokujongana nabantu abangaze baXolise okanye bavume ukuba baphosakele
- Izinto ezili-12 ekufuneka uzenzile xa uziva unomsindo
- Uthetha Njani Ngokucacileyo, Yeka ukuMmumba, kwaye uve amaxesha onke
- Iindlela ezi-8 Amadoda nabafazi baNxibelelana ngokwahlukeneyo
- Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ezi zinto zi-7 ngokwahlukileyo
5. Musa ukufunga.
Nokuba ulwimi lwakho olukhethiweyo alujoliswanga kuye nawuphina umntu okhoyo, uninzi lwabantu luya kukusabela gwenxa ngokusebenzisa amagama athukayo, ubabone njengabanoburhalarhume kwaye bafumane uburhalarhume ngokubuyisela.
Unesigama esibanzi, ke yenza uninzi lwayo, kwaye ugcine amagama athukayo ngelinye ixesha.
6. Musa ukusika omnye komnye.
Ndithembe, ndiyayiqonda indlela ekunokuba nzima ngayo ukubamba ulwimi lwakho xa umntu evele wathi into oyifumeneyo ibuye ngokumangalisayo, kodwa yenza inqaku lengqondo kwaye ugcine umlomo wakho ude ugqibe ukwenza inqaku.
Khumbula indlela oziphethe ngayo. Kungenxa yokuba zi umhlobo olungile okanye ilungu losapho, oko akuthethi ukuba unelungelo lokuphazamisa. Mamela, ngokungathi uyafuna ukumamela.
7. Musa ukulawula ingxoxo.
Sonke siyasithanda isandi samazwi ethu, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uyathanda naye.
Musa ukuba neentloni, kodwa qiniseka ukuba awulawuli imeko ngeli xesha wonke umntu esokola ukufinya igama emacaleni.
8. Phosa ihlaya okanye ezimbini.
Gcina kukhanya. Nangona izihloko ezithile zingazibolekisi ngokwazo kumdlalo wokuhlekisa kwaye kufuneka usoloko ugcina izinto zinembeko, kwiimeko ezininzi, akukho bubi ekwenzeni ikhaphu-khaphu ngentloko ngesihloko ekuxoxwa ngaso.
9. Musa ukunyusa ilizwi lakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba ngumzabalazo ukugcina ilizwi lakho likwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo xa uzama ukuveza uluvo olushushu oziva unamandla ngalo, kodwa khumbula nje ukuba amazwi aphakanyiswe ngothakazelelo anokujika ngokulula abe ngamazwi anyuswe ngomsindo. Qhubeka ngononophelo.
10. Faka wonke umntu, ngaphandle kwabo ngokucacileyo abafuni kubandakanyeka.
Abanye abantu bayathula ngokwemvelo kunabanye , kwaye nangona benokuba nemibono enomdla kwaye bafuna ukuyinika, abazukukhwaza ngaphezulu kwabo bakhoyo. Endaweni yoko, unokubabuza ngokuthe ngqo ukuba bacinga ntoni.
Abanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, baya kuhlala ngovuyo behleli nje bemamele kwaye bengenamdla ekuthetheni ngokwenyani.
Umama, umzekelo, unomkhwa owoyikekayo wokubuza utata, ongafane angene kodwa anelisekile ukusimamela sibetha umva umva, ukuba luthini uluvo lwakhe, kwaye uyaphumelela kuphela ukumenza azive engonwabanga.
Sebenzisa isigwebo sakho ukumisela ukuba umntu uhlala ethe cwaka okanye wonwabile njengombukeli.
Shumi elinanye. Musa ukuyithatha buqu .
Ngenxa yokuba umntu engavumelani nesimo sakho sezopolitiko kwinto ethile ayithethi ukuba bayakugxeka njengomntu, ke sukuyithathela entliziyweni.
Uluvo lwakho lonyanzelekile ukuba lukhethwe kwiingxoxo ezinje, kwaye yindlela entle yokuba uphuhlise izimvo zakho ngakumbi kwaye ufunde kwabo bakungqongileyo.
Ukuba umntu othile wenza into ebonakala ngathi ingagqabazi kakuhle embindini wengxoxo, khumbula ukuba bekutshiwo kwigazi elishushu kwaye zama ukuxolela ulibale.
12. Shiya impikiswano etafileni.
Ukuba umntu ongamazi kakuhle ukuba uzingqine ukuba ulilungu le-neo-fascist okanye umntu owabelana ngesondo ngexesha lengxoxo, zive ukhululekile ukuyithatha loo nto njengesizathu sokungaze uphinde umbone.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubukwitheko losapho kwaye uMalume uBob uthetha into eyothusayo, zama ukungasebenzi kakhulu ngayo.
Ngelixa kufanele ukuba uzive ukhululekile ukucela umngeni kwiimbono zakhe ngexesha lengxoxo, ukuba kuyakufuneka umbone kwakhona kwindibano yosapho elandelayo, ukubamba ingqumbo kusenokubangela ukuba ube nentlungu engaphaya kunaye.
imiqondiso yendoda yakho ephelelwa ngumdla
13. Yonwabele!
Akukho nto ifana nengxoxo elungileyo! Bambelela ngaphakathi kwaye wonwabe kancinci kwintenetya, kwaye ubone ukuba ufunda into entsha.
