Ixhala yinto ebambekayo kubomi bezigidi zabantu, ukanti kunqabile ukuba iqondwe ngabo bangasokoliyo kuyo. Kukho izinto ezininzi eziphosakeleyo malunga noxinzelelo kwaye eli nqaku liza kujolisa ekufumaneni ezinye zezinto abantu abaninzi abacinga ukuba ziyiyo, kanti, enyanisweni, ayisiyiyo.
Ukuba ukhe wanamaxhala kwaye / okanye uqhubeka nokuhlupheka kuwo, ayizukuba ziindaba kuwe, kodwa kwabo bahlala ngaphandle, ungothuka koku kulandelayo.
Ixhala ALikho…
1. Ukhetho
Akukho mntu ukhetha ukuba nengqondo enexhala, kanye njengoko kungekho mntu ukhetha esinye isifo sengqondo. Ukuxhalaba kunokuba neengcambu kwiindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kodwa nokuba yeyiphi na indlela umntu ayikhulisa ngayo, ngokuqinisekileyo khange benze sigqibo sokwenza njalo.
Ixhala ALikho…
2. Isikhalo Sokufuna Uncedo / Ukuqwalaselwa
Abantu abanalo ixhala kuba bafuna uvelwano abalunyamezeli uxinzelelo oluziswa yile nto bayiyo Ukuxambulisana okanye ukunikwa ingqalelo . Ewe banako cela uncedo ezivela kuwe okanye kwiingcali zonyango, kodwa azikaze zikuthathe oku njengohlobo lomvuzo wokubandezeleka kwabo.
Ixhala ALikho…
3. Kulula ukucacisa
Ukuba ingqondo exhalabileyo inokuchazwa ngokulula, kunokuba lula ukuyinyanga kunye nokoyisa. Endaweni yoko, imvakalelo yoxinzelelo inokuvela ngaphakathi komntu ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo kwaye ukudideka malunga nomthombo wayo kuhlala kusebenza ekuhlanganiseni ingxaki. Unokucinga ukuba uyasazi isizathu sokuba umntu axhalabe, kodwa ukuba bona, ngokwabo, abanakusikhomba esona sizathu, amathuba okuba ukude kakhulu kwinqanaba.
Ixhala ALikho…
4. Soloko ucacile kwihlabathi elingaphandle
Ungathanda ukucinga ukuba umhlobo osenyongweni, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane lingathetha ngexhala labo kunye nawe, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi awusoze wazi ukuba banexhala. Njengokugula kwengqondo, abanesifo abasoloko bebonakalisa iimpawu zangaphandle zengxaki yabo yangaphakathi. Unokubona umntu obonakala ngathi uzilawule ngokupheleleyo ebusweni, kodwa ungaboni imfama yeemvakalelo ezihamba emzimbeni nasemqondweni.
Ixhala ALikho…
5. Uvalo
Phantse wonke umntu unengxaki yeemithambo-luvo amaxesha ngamaxesha mhlawumbi ziyavela ngaphambi kwentetho, umhla, okanye ukutsiba kwe-bungee. Kodwa ixhala alifani noloyiko kuba alupheli ngoko nangoko emva komsitho, aluva nantoni na enje ngovuyo, kwaye alunaluncedo lokwenyani. Unokulinganisa enye kunye nenye, kwaye ke, ucinga ukuba uyazi ukuba lunjani ixhala, kodwa de ube uzibonele ngawakho kuqala, kufana nokucinga ukuba uyayiqonda incwadi ngesihloko sodwa.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi koxinzelelo (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuxhalaba okuSebenza ngokuPhezulu kungaphezu kokuba ucinga ukuba kunjalo
- Izinto ezi-8 ozenzayo ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwakho (abanye abangaboniyo)
- Kubantu abaneengqondo ezixhalabileyo: Umyalezo wethemba
- Iziqinisekiso ezi-6 ezinamandla zokulwa noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo
- Ukuthandana nomnye umntu onexhala: Izinto ezi-4 ekufuneka zenziwe (kwaye ezi-4 AKUZUKWENZA)
- I-10 Imikhwa Yovalo Etyhila Ixhala Lomntu Langaphakathi Nexhala
Ixhala ALikho…
6. Kuqikelelwa
Ewe, unxunguphalo lunokuziswa ziziganeko ezithile, iingcinga okanye iinkumbulo, kodwa inokutsiba ngaphandle kwaye imangalise umntu emva kwamatyholo. Ayinamatheli kwithayimthebhile kwaye ayihambelani nayo nayiphi na imigaqo enokuthi ivele ngalo naliphi na ixesha kwaye ihlale iiyure, iintsuku, okanye iiveki ngexesha.
Ixhala ALikho…
7. Ungubani
Njengokuba inokuba nefuthe kubomi bomntu, ixhala akufuneki lidideke nomntu ngokwakhe. Ayisiyo inkcazo onokuthi ubhale umntu ngayo ukuba iyinxalenye yabo, kodwa ayenzi ukuba babe ngubani.
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Ixhala ALikho…
8. Ukungenisa
Ixhala linokuchaphazela abantu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye enye yezona mpawu zixhaphakileyo kukuba umntu ogulayo angala izimemo kwaye afune ukuba yedwa xa engaziva ekwazi ukujongana nabanye. Kodwa ixhala alwenzi ukuba umntu angenise into ayiqhelekanga kubuntu obuphumayo ngaphandle kokuhamba noxinzelelo olunokubenza babonakale beneentloni kwaye bengenise xa bebonwa bodwa.
Ixhala ALikho…
9. Mna Ndiyakulahla
Ixhala linokwenza umntu abonakale ekude okanye exakekile, ade angabinamdla ngamanye amaxesha. Oku akufuneki kuthathwe njengophawu lokuba abaxabisi okanye abakudingi. Isenokuziva ngathi iyaliwa, kodwa ayisiyiyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayizimisele ukukwenza uzive ngale ndlela.
Ixhala ALikho…
10. Into Onokuthi Uyeke Ukucinga ngayo
Ukuba awuzange ukhe ube noxinzelelo nakweyiphi na indlela ephakathi okanye ebukhali, unokuhendeka ukuba uxelele umntu ukuba 'agqithe kuyo' okanye 'ahlise umoya,' kodwa ukuba bekulula. Ukuba ixhala linokunyangeka ngokuzama ukuphumla okanye ukumisa inkqubo ethile yokucinga, ngekhe ibe yingxaki kwaphela. Kodwa ayisiyonto onokuthi ucofe nje iswitshi kuyo kwaye ucime.
Ixhala yimeko enamacala amaninzi engaqondakali lula kwabanye. Inzima kwaye ihlala ilungile, kwaye inokukhubaza umntu ophethwe yiyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ngoku uya kuhamba uqonde ngcono ukuba yintoni ixhala kwaye ayisiyiyo.
Ngaba unengxaki yokuxhalaba? Ucinga ntoni ngolu luhlu? Ngaba ungongeza nantoni na kuyo? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi kwaye usazise.
