Wonke umntu uyacaphuka ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ukngeniswa komntu ngamanye amaxesha kungangunobangela.
Kodwa kutheni, ngoba, kwaye unokwenza ntoni ngayo?
Yiloo nto esiza kuyihlolisisa kweli nqaku.
Oku kulandelayo zezona zizathu ziphambili zokuba umntu ongenayo angenza ukuba abe nomsindo emva kokunxibelelana nabantu ixesha elide, kunye neengcebiso kubangenisi kunye nabangeniso.
xa uziva ngathi awungowakho
1. Badiniwe.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba ngokwenene, udiniwe ngokwenene- luhlobo lokuziva udiniwe ngokudinwa okuza emva kokulala ubusuku obubi.
Oku kukungenisa emva kokunxibelelana kakhulu.
Oku kwenzeka kuba Ingqondo ye-introvert ibuthathaka kakhulu kwi-dopamine , ikhemikhali ye-neurotransmitter ekhutshwa xa umntu esenza izinto ezikhuthazayo okanye ezinomdla… njengokuthetha nokuba kunye nabanye abantu.
(Siyacebisa ukuba ufunde Isikhokelo sethu kwinto ekuthethwa ngayo kukungenisa egubungela zonke iindlela ubuchopho babo obahluke ngazo kwezo zibalaseleyo.)
Isingeniso esikhawulezayo sinengxaki yokudinwa kwentlalo kunye namava okuphelelwa ngamandla ngenxa yoko.
Xa umntu-engenisa okanye e-extrovert-edinwe engqondweni, kuyindalo kubo ukuba bacaphuke ngakumbi.
2. Abakwazi ukugxila.
Ingqondo ye-introvert ihlala ixakekile kumaxesha amahle, kodwa ngexesha nasemva kwexesha lokunxibelelana, kunjalo njalo.
Oku kwenza ukuba kube nzima kubo ukugxila kuyo nantoni na konke konke.
Batyekele ekuzikhupheni ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na into eyenzekayo ejikeleze bona njengoko iingqondo zabo zixakekile ziingcinga.
Ke ukuba uhlobo oluthile lwesicelo okanye ibango lenziwe ngabo ngeli xesha, Ingqondo yabo ayinakuyiphatha kwaye banokumxhuzula nabani na oyenzileyo.
Yindlela yabo yokuthi, 'Nceda, hayi, hayi ngoku, hayi xa ndisokola.'
bangaphi abajijisanayo kwi-wwe
3. Abakwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo.
Ukungakwazi ukugxila kuthetha ukuba isingeniso asikwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo, ngokusengqiqweni, okanye ngengqondo.
Oku kunokubathintela ekwenzeni izinto ngesiqhelo abanokukwazi ukuzenza.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kukhokelela unxunguphalo ezinokubonakalisa kwifayile ye- umlinganiso, isimilo esikhawulezayo ukukhawuleza.
Cinga ngale ndlela: ukuba ubuza kugxila kwenye into kwaye umntu aphazamise uloliwe wakho wokucinga, uya kuyifumana iyacaphukisa.
Ewe, oku kukungenisa emva konxibelelwano oluninzi lwasentlalweni, nokuba bazama ukufezekisa ntoni.
Uninzi lwezinto ziba ngumzabalazo zide zivuselele iibhetri zazo.
4. Abakwazi ukuvakalisa izimvo zabo.
Ingqondo efakwe kwi-introvert's frazzled yenza kube nzima kakhulu kubo ukuba bavakalise iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo.
Yonke into iba nzima kwaye abayazi indlela yokunxibelelana nabanye kwabanye , ngakumbi kwabo bantu banomdla ngakumbi abangakwaziyo ukunxibelelana namava okungenisa.
Kwaye xa umntu engasiqondi isizathu sokuba i-introvert iziphathe ngale ndlela iyiyo (umzekelo: ukurhoxa, unqwenela ukuba yedwa, uthule, njl.
Yiyo kuphela kwendlela abayaziyo ngayo indlela yokwenza ukuba abanye abantu bahloniphe isidingo sabo sokuba bodwa.
5. Bafumana iimpawu zomzimba.
'I-introvert hangover' ibinzana elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza indlela i-introvert evakalelwa ngayo emva kokunxibelelana nabantu ixesha elide.
Oku kugubungela uninzi lwamanqaku angasentla, kodwa njenge-hangover ebangelwa butywala, ihlala iza neziphumo zomzimba.
Intloko ebuhlungu ziqhelekile, kwaye iimpawu ezinje isiyezi, iintlungu zemisipha, kunye neengxaki zesisu inokwenzeka kwakhona.
Akumangalisi ke ngoko ukuba umntu ongenisayo anganyamezeleki kwaye abe nomsindo kancinci xa eziva enje.
6. Baziva bevalelekile.
Ukuba i-introvert ayinakho ukubaleka kwaye ifumane ixesha lodwa, baziva bevalelekile.
Banqwenela into abangenako ukuba nayo, kwaye njengayo nayiphi na into enqwenelekayo, oku kubenza babe bhetyebhetye.
Bayala ukubandakanyeka nakuphi na ukunxibelelana okude kwaye banokufumana ukungakhathali kunye nokude ukuba umntu uyaqhubeka nokuzama ukunxibelelana nabo.
Into abafuna ukuyenza kukubaleka kule meko kwaye babe bodwa.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Amandla ali-9 afihliweyo ama-Introverts
- Ukuchuma kwiLizwe eliDlamkileyo: Isikhokelo se-Introvert sokuhlaziya iiBhetri
- Uyenza kanjani iNtetho ngeNgeniso
- Iingcaphuno ezingama-30 zokubhiyozela amaNtshayelelo, iintyatyambo zodonga kunye neengcuka zodwa
- Iindlela ezili-15 zokuSebenzisana nokuNxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo neLizwe
- Izinto ezi-5 onokuzifunda kubahlobo bakho abangenisayo
Into onokuyenza ngayo
Akukho zindlela zimbini malunga nayo, ukuba uziva ucaphukile, kufuneka ube wedwa.
Kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuzisusa nakweyiphi na into ekufunxayo kwaye ubuyisele amanqanaba akho amandla emva apho kufuneka abe khona.
Kubantu onxibelelana nabo rhoqo, njengosapho, izihlobo, okanye amaqabane, kuyacetyiswa ukuba wena zama ukucacisa ungeniso lwakho kunye nokuba kuthetha ntoni.
njani ukuthandana nomntu ongakuthandiyo
Kuya kufuneka ubaxelele ukuba ixesha lakho wedwa liyazala kwaye libalulekile kuwe njengokutya nesiselo.
Usenokufuna ukubaxelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo indlela oziva ngayo nokuba kutheni uziva njalo nokuba bade bava njalo fumana yiyo.
Kodwa xa unikwe ukuba kunzima ukwenza oku xa ukhutshiwe, kungcono ube nale ncoko xa uziva uhlaziyekile.
Izopolitiko iluncedo kakhulu ekuqhubaneni nabantu. Ungavuma kwizicelo ezithile zexesha labo okanye zokwenza izinto ezithile, ngokuqonda okucacileyo kokuba uza kunikwa ixesha lakho emva koko.
Ngale ndlela, unokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo ukhuselekile kulwazi lokuba uya kuba nakho ukwenza amandla kwikamva elikude kakhulu.
Oku kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nexhala lokuba uza kuba nini ngokwakho elandelayo.
Into onokuyenza ngayo -kungabangenisi.
Ukuba ufunda oku njengomntu ozifumana eqhubeka ukuya esiphelweni esibonakalayo, unokuzama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni isingeniso ebomini bakho sicaphuka ngamanye amaxesha.
izinto ezintle zokwenza usuku lokuzalwa lwenkwenkwe yakho
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngoku uya kuba nokuqonda okungcono ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba ungangenisi.
Esona sitshixo sokujongana nesingeniso esingenakuchukunyiswa kukwamkela oko bakuko.
Kungenxa yokuba ungafumani ukudinwa ekuhlaleni, oko akuthethi ukuba ayisiyonyani kubo.
Ngokuzama ukunyanzela unxibelelwano okanye unxibelelwano emqaleni wabo xa sele benamandla, usenza amava abo angasebenzi. Oku, kukodwa, kunokucaphukisa kwaye kukhokelele kwimpendulo ekhawulezileyo evela kwisingeniso.
I-crux yomcimbi yile: ungatyhala isingeniso ngaphaya komda kwaye ujongane nokungabinakuphepheka njengesiphumo, okanye ungabanika ixesha kunye nendawo abayifunayo ukunqanda ukufika ngaloo ndlela ukuqala ngayo.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba bonke ubudlelwane ngumcimbi wokunika kwaye uthathe. Ukuzibandakanya nabanye abantu kuhlala kuvakala ngathi kukunika umbono we-introvert, kwaye ke kufuneka bathathe ixesha bodwa njengesiphumo.
Ukuvumela ixesha lokungenisa ngokwabo banokuziva ngathi banikezela kakhulu ngokwembono yakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukhetha ukukhetha ukwenza into nabo okanye ubenzele into (umzekelo, imisebenzi yasekhaya) ejikeleze indlu.
Kodwa khumbula nje ukuba, xa sele befumaneke ngokwaneleyo, uya kuthi uzalise ngokwemigaqo yokunxibelelana kunye / okanye nemisebenzi.
