Uninzi lwabantu, ibinzana elithi 'uxanduva lomntu' livakala njengexesha eligcweleyo. Iphantse yavakala njengekhoji, okanye ubunzima obusahlula inkululeko yobuntwana ekusebenzeni nzima, nokungonwabisi okuza nomntu omdala.
Umntwana akanakubekwa uxanduva ngokupheleleyo, ukanti abanalo noluntu olubambekayo. Kananjalo abafanele, kuba ngabantwana, bengenamava obomi asebenzayo anika amandla okuqonda isiphumo, ukuphendula, okanye uxanduva.
Rhoqo kubonakala ngathi kufuneka sithwale uxanduva loxanduva lomntu ngamnye ukuze sizuze inkululeko kunye namalungelo aza nokuba ngabantu abadala.
Kwixesha elidlulileyo, iikhonsepthi ezinjalo 'uxanduva lomntu' zazingafakwanga kakhulu. Unomsebenzi wakho kwaye uyenzile. Ukuba awuzange, ke mhlawumbi uligwala okanye ulula kakhulu unqwenela ubomi bomntwana ngaphandle kokuphendula.
Kwilizwe lanamhlanje, apho 'ukuba mdala' kuthintelwe ukuthanda ukuzonwabisa nokungakhathali, ukuba novakalelo lomsebenzi kunye noxanduva kunokuba yinto enqabileyo.
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Kodwa ngoobani abanoxanduva esibambelele kulo? Eyethu? Okanye imisebenzi kunye nolindelo olubekwe kuthi?
Luyintoni uxanduva lomntu?
Ngaphambi kokuba uxele ukuba kutheni uxanduva lomntu siqu lubalulekile njengomntu omdala osebenzayo, kulungile jonga ukuba nantoni na ekulindeleke ukuba uyenze ingaba luxanduva lwakho.
Ngaba uvumile kuyo? Ufumana ntoni kwesi sivumelwano? Ngaba uyabandakanyeka kule nto kuba ufuna ukuyenza? Okanye ngaba abanye abantu banyanzela ulindelo kunye nemibono yabo kuwe?
Singene kwixesha elitsha apho abantu kunganyanzelekanga ukuba bathwale umthwalo ofanayo kuba abahlobo babo, oontanga babo, okanye iintsapho zabo bebaxelela ukuba benze njalo.
Uxanduva lomntu buhlala luphazamiseka kuxanduva lweqela kwaye amaxesha amaninzi ezinye zeqela azidlali kakuhle okanye ngokufanelekileyo.
Njengomzekelo, abazali bomntu bangabaxelela ukuba kufuneka 'bathathe uxanduva' ukuba balandela indlela eyahlukileyo kunaleyo yenziwe ngabazali, okanye ukuba ngebeyinyulele inzala yabo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali babenombono wokuba umntwana wabo uza kulandela ekhondweni labo, okanye azinze kwaye abe nabantwana abakwiminyaka efanayo neyabo.
Nini kwaye ukuba umntwana wabo ukhetha indlela yokuphila eyahluke ngokupheleleyo, abazali banokucinga ukuba umntwana akanaxanduva, ngelixa enyanisweni bekhetha nje indlela eyahlukileyo yokuphila.
Amanyathelo amaninzi ekulindeleke ukuba siwathathe ayizizo ezo sikhe saphupha ngazo, okanye azavunyelwa.
Rhoqo, xa ukrwela umphezulu wento eyenzekayo, ayiloxanduva, kodwa ukuthobela kunye nokuzithoba kwiimfuno zabanye abantu okanye izicwangciso. Ngokungathobeli iimfuno okanye izimvo zabo, 'ungenaxanduva.'
Ke! Ukuzazi kunye nokuhlekisa kuhamba ngendlela ende kakhulu. Babuze ukuba “kutheni?” ngoncumo olukhulu kwaye ubacele ukuba bazichaze. Ukubukela i-huff kunye ne-splutter kuya kuba yicathartic kakhulu.
Ngenye indlela, indlela yokujongana kancinci kukuma kancinci kwaye ucinge ngaphambi kokuzixolela ngokuthe cwaka kwiibhondi zabo. UKeanu Reeves wayegculelwa ngokuthatha imizuzwana eyi-12 okanye ukuphendula umbuzo othile. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngokwenene wayezipha ixesha lokucinga ukuba impendulo yakhe iphelele. Kungcono ukuba ucinge njengesidenge okomzuzwana kunokuchitha ubomi bakho uyilo lwabanye abantu.
Kutheni uxanduva lomntu lubalulekile.
Ngoku ekubeni sichukumise imiba eyahlukeneyo yoxanduva lomntu, kubandakanya ukuba kutheni kulungile ukubuza ukuba olu lindelo luvela phi, sinokudilika ekubeni kutheni olu hlobo lokuphendula buqu lubalulekile.
1. Ilizwi lakho liyimbophelelo yakho.
Nokuba uza kusebenza ngexesha, ukhumbula imihla yokuzalwa, ugcine umthambo okanye isicwangciso sokutya, okanye ukhumbula nje ukuxubha amazinyo, konke oko kubilisa ukugcina nokuhlonipha igama lakho.
Ndicinga ukuba isithandwa sam siphulukana nomdla
Ngaba uziva unembeko eqinileyo? Njengakwixesha elithile, xa unika umntu ilizwi lakho ukuba uzakubenzela into, ngaba uyaligcina?
Ngaba izithembiso zingcwele kuwe? Okanye uthetha nje nantoni na oyifunayo okwangoku ukuze ufumane into oyifunayo, kwaye ujongane neziphumo kamva?
Umntu oligcinayo ilizwi lakhe ngumntu onokuthenjwa, kwaye ukuthembakala kubonakala kuyinto enqabileyo kakhulu kule mihla. Abantu abaninzi benza kwaye baphule izithembiso nanini na xa kufanelekile ukuba benze njalo.
Masithi uthandana nomnye umntu kwaye umbona ephula isithembiso komnye umntu. Bangayichitha njengongabalulekanga, okanye bathethe into enje ngo 'oh, ndophule eso sithembiso kubo, kodwa andizukuze ndilophule ilizwi lam kuni.'
Hayi. Ukuba abagcini ilizwi labo komnye, abayi kuligcina nakuwe. Uhlobo lwezinto ezifana nokuba 'ukuba bayakopela nawe, baya kukukhohlisa KUWE' imeko.
Ukuba unabahlobo abafanelekileyo okanye umqeshi, baya kukulungela ngakumbi ukunika uncedo / amandla kumntu abaziyo ukuba 'ulungile.' Ukuba uziqeshile, olu luvo loxanduva luya kukukhuthaza, kukukhuthaze, kwaye kukuqhubele phambili.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba kubudlelwane ongenakuthemba? Kuthekani ngokuqhubana ngokushishina nomntu ongaligciniyo ilizwi lakhe?
Uxanduva lubalulekile kuba unokuthenjwa, okanye awuthembekanga.
Ufuna ukuba yintoni?
2. Ukuthatha uxanduva kukhokelela kwikratshi kuwe nakwimpumelelo yakho.
Ukugqiba yonke into oyiqalayo kuyanelisa kakhulu. Uya kuqala ukuba nolindelo oluphakamileyo nolubonakalayo lwezakhono zakho kunye nokusebenza ngokubanzi kwaye, emva kwethutyana, abanye baya kuqala ukuyibona nakuwe.
Iziphumo zentlalo yokuba noxanduva lomntu zinomdla. Abantu abaninzi baya kukucaphukela ngokubonisa umgangatho wangaphakathi abanokuthi bahluleke ukuhlangabezana nawo.
Ngubani bray wyatt mzalwana
Umzekelo, abantu abangaphandle kwemilo bahlala befumana ityuwa kunye nabo baqala inkqubo yokuzinikezela, kwaye bahlekise ngayo. Oku kuhlala kungenxa yokuba abanasizathu sokwenza oko, ke kuya kufuneka benze iprojekti yabo yokuzicekisa kwabo benzayo.
Abanye baya kukuhlonela ngenxa yemizamo yakho kwaye bakukhuthaze ukuba uqhubeke. Banokude bakhuthazwe zizenzo zakho kwaye ukhethe ukuthatha into efanayo.
Nokuba ziphi na izimvo zabanye, uxanduva lomntu lubalulekile kuba oko kuthetha ukuba uyaligcina kuwe ilizwi lakho. Ezintlanu ezilungileyo zokushicilela namhlanje ziya kukhokelela kuma-500 ngonyaka ukusukela ngoku.
3. Ukuzibophelela ngezenzo zakho kuvumela ukukhula ngokwenyani.
Uninzi lwethu lwazi okungenani umntu omnye Ubeka ityala kuyo yonke into embi eyenzeka kubo kwabanye abantu .
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo kubo. Nantoni na engahambi kakuhle yenziwa ngomnye umntu, kwaye bazimisele ukutshintsha amabali ukuze alungele naliphi na ibali abazama ukuzixelela lona ukuze bathethelele ukhetho lwabo olubi kunye nokuziphatha okungalunganga.
kutheni ndingakhali xa ndifuna
Ubahlonipha kangakanani abantu abanje? Ngapha koko, banokubahlonela kangakanani?
Abo bagudle ubomi besola wonke umntu ngezigqibo zabo ezimbi, ukunqongophala kwenkuthazo, kunye nokuzabalaza okungapheliyo akaze akhule kumava abo.
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba ukusilela kubaluleke kakhulu kukuba kusifundisa izifundo zobomi ezixabisekileyo. Thina funda kwiimpazamo zethu , kwaye ngethemba lokufaka la mava kude kubhekiswe kwixesha elizayo, ke ukuba sizifumana sikwiimeko ezifanayo kwakhona, sinokwenza ukhetho olwahlukileyo, olungcono kwiziphumo ezingcono.
Abantu abalahla naluphi na uhlobo loxanduva lomntu kunye noxanduva lokuphendula, besola abanye ngeenzame ezingaphumelelanga, abafundanga. Baqhubeka nje bejikeleza umjikelo ongapheliyo, emva koko bavuke kusasa, bajonge, kwaye bazibuze ukuba aye phi amashumi eminyaka. Abaphumelelanga nto, kwaye baya kuba krakra kwaye babe nomsindo kwihlabathi ngokubenza baphoxeke… kanti enyanisweni, oyena mntu wakha wabaphoxa ngabo.
Uxanduva lomntu oluyinyani ayisosithunzi esikhoyo, okanye isixhobo sokukubambisa kuyilo lwabanye abantu. Ngokwenyani lolona lonwabo kunye namalungelo okuba ngumntu omkhulu!
Okukhona ufunda kwaye ukhula, imisebenzi eyongezelelekileyo kunye nezinto ezinxulumene noko kufuneka zize ngokwendalo.
Umzekelo, ukwanda koxanduva kufuneka kufane nokwamkelwa kwetalente kunye namava akho. Kananjalo, olu hlobo lokuqwalaselwa kufuneka luze nokunyuka kwentlawulo, kwaye ngokubanzi imbeko ngakumbi kwabo bakungqongileyo.
Ekugqibeleni, kuxhomekeke kwindlela ophila ngayo nakwinkampani oyigcinayo. Ukuba yonke into iyanya, kwaye ufumanisa ukuba ngumthwalo ongakhange uvume ukuwuthwala, olona xanduva unalo wena ngokwakho kukuthi 'kwanele!'
Vavanya kwakhona ukuba uphi kwaye wenzani, yenza imida eqinile kwabo baxhamlayo kuwe, kwaye unqume ukuba yintoni, enyanisweni, oluxanduva lwakho xa kuthelekiswa nabanye ekufuneka bephethe endaweni yoko.
Ukuba abahlobo bakho, amalungu osapho, kunye neqabane lakho abayi kutshintsha okanye bancede, baninzi abantu abahle kakhulu emhlabeni abaza kwenza amaphupha akho kunye nabo.
indlela yokwenza umdla ngakumbi
Ngokungenangqondo uvavanye amandla athile entlalontle, indlela abantu abakuphatha ngayo, yintoni oyifumanayo endaweni yokunikezela ngento oyinikayo? Olu xanduva luxanduva lomntu ngamnye kwaye luqhagamshelene noluntu.
Ukuba usebenza nzima kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye akakho omnye umntu okujikelezayo owenza isuntswana labo. FUTHI usebenzisa ikhadi loxanduva njengesixhobo sokubopha, emva koko lukhetho lwakho ukugcina okanye ukuphosa idyokhwe.
Ukuyishwankathela, ukujonga ngokwakho, ukuzazi kunye nokulandela ukugqiba kuzisa inqanaba elikhulu lokuzazi kunye nenjongo. Emva koko unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni kwaye uxanduva olunxulumene noko luya kucaca.
Iya kuba (ubukhulu becala!) Kukuzonwabisa ukuzizalisekisa njengoko bezikhethwe nguwe hayi enye.
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