Wonke umntu unombono owahlukileyo wento 'epholileyo'.
Kuxhomekeka kwinto onomdla kuyo, ukuthanda kwakho, kunye nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, umntu ocinga ukuba upholile unokuqwalaselwa ngabanye ukuba uyathandeka okanye uyadika.
Kokwakho, isimntwiso sendawo epholileyo inokuba yinkwenkwezi ye-rock, umdlali weqonga, okanye iqhawe eliphezulu le-eco.
Isenokuba ngumntu omaziyo ngesiqu, okanye umntu omlandelayo kwimidiya yoluntu okanye ombona ezindabeni.
Isenokuba ngumntu onesiphiwo esikhethekileyo, okanye italente ethile, okanye isenokuba ngumntu nje onobuntu obuthile opholileyo.
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Uyakhumbula abo bantwana esikolweni wonke umntu esazi nje ukuba liqela 'elidumileyo'? Ngaba ungakhe ubeke ngamazwi ukuba yintoni malunga nabo eyenze ukuba bahluke kwabanye?
Njengoko sikhula, ukuphola kuyahamba nje ekubeni 'kuthandwa' kwaye kuthatha lonke elinye icala, elingenanto yakwenza nokuba nezihlobo ezininzi okanye ukunxiba ngendlela ethile.
Ukuba uzama ukufumana intloko ujikeleze umxholo ophakamileyo opholileyo, nolu uluhlu lweempawu ezipholileyo ngokwenyani zabantu ukuba babelane ngazo, nokuba zithini na iimfuno zabo okanye iitalente zabo.
1. Ababi namona.
Ngokubanzi, abantu abapholileyo ababamoneli abanye, izinto abanazo, okanye izinto abazenzayo.
Endaweni yoko, kuyabonwabisa xa izinto zibahambela kakuhle abanye kwaye bangabamoneli okanye babacaphukele.
Bonwabile ukuvutha umkhondo wabo ukuze bangaziva isidingo sokuzithelekisa nabanye.
Basenokuba lixhoba lokuthelekisa-ngoku kwaye kaninzi, njengoko sisenza sonke, kodwa ngokubanzi bonwabile yindlela abaphila ngayo ubomi babo kwaye abayifumani impumelelo yabanye abantu.
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2. Bazimele geqe.
Bonwabile ukwenza izinto ngendlela yabo kunokuba balandele isihlwele.
Bayakwazi ukuzanelisa kwaye bayakwazi, kwaye abajongi ukuxhomekeka kwabanye abantu ukuba babenzele izinto.
3. Bonwabile kwinkampani yabo.
Umntu opholileyo unokuba neqela elikhulu labahlobo, kodwa banokuba nje nabahlobo abambalwa abasondeleyo kubo.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, abayifuni inkampani rhoqo. Bonwabile ukuchitha ixesha labo kwaye abanangxaki malunga nokuya kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya, ukutya ngaphandle, okanye ukwenza into entle kakhulu bebodwa.
Abakhathazeki malunga nokuba abanye abantu bazothini malunga nokuchitha ixesha bebodwa.
4. Bakhululekile ukuba bangoobani.
Akukho nto ipholileyo kunomntu ozama ukuba yinto engekho phantsi kwempazamo ephosakeleyo yokuba izakuhamba kakuhle nabanye.
Abantu abapholileyo bayazazi ukuba bangobani, bayamkele loo nto, kwaye bonwabile ngayo. Sonke sahlukile ngeendlela zethu, kwaye abantu banokuxela xa silwa ne-quirkiness yethu eyahlukileyo kunokuba siyamkele.
Umntu opholileyo akazenzi into abangazukuyithanda abanye. Ziyinyani kwaye ziyinyani kubo kuyo yonke into abayenzayo.
5. Bayazithemba kwizakhono zabo.
Yintoni emenza umntu apholise kukuba akaziphakamisi kakhulu kwaye uyazi ukuba akanako ukwenza yonke into. Kodwa bayazi nokuba banakho ukwenza ntoni kwaye banokuzithemba ukuba bazenze izinto.
Ababuzi okanye baqikelele okwesibini kwaye babeke konke kubo kuyo yonke into abayenzayo.
6. Bambelela kwimigaqo yabo.
Abantu abapholileyo baneenkolelo ezomeleleyo, kwaye baphila ubomi babo ngokufanelekileyo. Abathethi nje intetho.
Ngokwenene benza ukhetho ebomini babo bemihla ngemihla olubonisa imigaqo-nkqubo yabo.
Bazimisele ukuma kukhetho lwabo kunye neenkolelo zabo, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuya ngokuchaseneyo neenkozo.
7. Banengqondo evulekileyo.
Kungenxa yokuba baneenkolelo ezomeleleyo akuthethi ukuba abavulelanga ukutshintsha iingqondo zabo ngezinto.
Bahlala bezimisele ukufunda nokuziqhelanisa, bamkele ezinye izimvo, kwaye bavume xa bephazamile ngento ethile.
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Abalahli abanye abantu ngokuthe ngqo kuba becinga ngokwahlukileyo kubo, kodwa bahlonipha ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo loluvo lwabo.
8. Balungile ekuzivakaliseni.
Ukuba ubuzwa uluvo lwabo okanye xa unencoko, umntu opholileyo uyathetha kwaye ulungile ekuvakaliseni izimvo nakwimbono yakhe.
Kodwa loo nto ayizi ngeendleko zabanye abantu. Abathethi ngaphezulu kwabanye okanye bahlala belawula incoko. Balungile, bayancokola abahloniphayo.
9. Ziyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa neemeko kwaye zibambeka.
Bayayazi indlela yokuqengqeleka ngamanqindi kwaye bathathe ubomi njengoko busiza.
Endaweni yokulwa nezinto ezenzeka ngokungalindelekanga, bayazamkela kwaye bajonge kwindlela abanokuyiqhelanisa nayo nayiphi na imeko entsha abajamelana nayo.
10. Banokuxolela balibale.
Abantu abapholileyo bayazi ukuba ukugcina ingqumbo akunantsingiselo kwaphela. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukucaphuka nomntu ngumsebenzi onzima. Ubomi bulula kakhulu, buzolile, kwaye bumnandi ngakumbi ukuba sinokuyeka izinto zihambe.
Bayayazi indlela yokuxolela abantu kwaye baqhubele phambili, bejolise kwikamva kunokukhanyisa kwixesha elidlulileyo.
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11. Balungile ekwenzeni abanye abantu bazive bekhululekile.
Balungile ekudibaneni nabantu abatsha kwaye babenza bazive bamkelekile.
Ngokwenene banomdla kubantu abadibana nabo kwaye babenza bazive bebandakanyiwe, nokuba bakweyiphi na imeko.
Inxalenye enkulu yokupholisa iyathandeka, kwaye akukho ndlela ikhawulezayo yokwenza abantu abanjengawe kunokuba ubakhulule.
12. Abagwebi abanye.
Abantu abapholileyo abekho kwishishini lokugweba abanye ngokhetho lwabo.
Bayayiqonda into yokuba sonke siyazenza iimpazamo kwaye akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo.
Abacingi kakubi ngabanye abantu ngezenzo zabo kuba bayazi ukuba nabo abanakusilela.
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Abantu abapholileyo abakuthandi ukuhleba.
Abayiboni inqaku lokudlulisa i-titbits yolwazi olumnandi malunga nabantu ababaziyo okanye abasebenza nabo kuba ngokubanzi banezinto ezinomdla kakhulu ekugxilwe kuzo.
14.Abahlupheki zizidenge.
Bayaqonda kwaye abahlali behleba, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba baya kukunyamezela ukuziphatha okubi.
Abanaxesha labantu abakhohlakeleyo, abangacingiyo, okanye abazicingela bodwa, kwaye banokuzibona ngokubanzi ezo mpawu zikude ngemayile.
15. Banomdla ehlabathini.
Bahlala benomdla wokufunda ngakumbi malunga nehlabathi elibangqongileyo.
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Abantu abapholileyo banomdla kwilizwe esihlala kulo kwaye bahlala befuna ukufumanisa ngakumbi ngalo.
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16. Banomdla.
Umntu opholileyo ngokwenyani uhlala enomdla, okanye ukuthanda izinto ezininzi. Into abayithandayo. Into ebenza bakhanyise xa bethetha ngayo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na into yokuyila, into yezemidlalo, okanye into eyi-niche kunye ne-quirky, ibenza bagqame kwisihlwele kwaye ngokwenene babazisela ulonwabo.
17. Banethemba.
Abantu abapholileyo ngokubanzi bajonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo lobomi. Bahlala bephaphama kwaye bajonge kwizinto ezintle nakweyiphi na imeko kunokuhlala kububi.
Babukho obuvuyisayo ukuba babekufuphi, kwaye bahlala bebenza abanye abantu bazive benethemba ngakumbi.
18. Banendlela yabo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, bajongeka behle ixesha elininzi. Kodwa ubukhulu becala kuxhomekeke ekuzithembeni abanxibe iimpahla zabo kunangokwempahla abayinxibileyo.
Banendlela yabo eyahlukileyo kwaye aboyiki ukuma ngaphandle kwesihlwele xa kufikwa kwiingubo zabo.
19. Bahlala kulo mzuzu.
Bayazi ukuba akufanelekanga ukukhathazeka malunga nexesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo, kuba konke esinako okwangoku ngumzuzu wangoku. Kwaye bayayazi indlela yokonwabela loo mzuzu.
Baziphosa kuyo yonke into abayenzayo kwaye bafumane uninzi lwayo kuyo.
Abantu abapholileyo baphila ubomi babo ngokupheleleyo apha kwaye ngoku ngokwemiqathango yabo, nokuba bathini na abanye abantu.
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