Ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, sonke sihlangana nabantu ababonakala ngathi banesiphiwo sokurhabaxa abanye ngendlela engalunganga.
Obu buntu bukrwada bunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo, indlela yokulwa eqinisekisiweyo yokuseta imithambo yabantu abanovelwano ngakumbi.
Ukubangela ungquzulwano kunye nokwenzakala kubonakala kuyeyona ajenda yabo iphambili. Kubonakala ngathi abanaso isihluzo sangaphakathi esimodareyitha amagama kunye nezenzo zabanye abantu.
Ngaphezu koko, abaziva bezisola ngenxa yentlungu okanye uxinzelelo abalubangelayo.
Ukusuka ngaphandle, zibonwa njengezonzakalisa ngabom, zisoyikisa, okanye zikhohlakele, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zimbini iintlobo ezahlukileyo zobuntu oburhabaxa:
Umntu uyazi ngokupheleleyo ubume babo oburhabaxa kwaye uyazingca ngalo.
Olunye uhlobo alunako ukuzazi, ngenxa yoko luyolo ngokungazi ngokungahambi kakuhle kunye nefuthe lazo.
Kodwa zombini ezi ntlobo azikwazi ukudlala umdlalo wokunxibelelana kwezentlalo ngokwemigaqo eyamkelweyo.
Ubuthathaka, ubukhulu becala, ubugcisa bokutolika imbonakalo yobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba lwabantu abadibana nabo yinto abangazange bayazi kakuhle. Amacebo kunye nozakuzo azivele kwisigama sabo.
Babo abanekratshi , indlela ehlekisayo, kunye nengxoxo yokuphikisana nayo yonke into inefuthe lokufunxa amandla kwabanye, ibagxothe amandla okuma ngokuchaseneyo nesoyikiso esoyikisayo.
uxoxa esempilweni kubudlelwane
Phambi kwabo, uxolo kunye noxolo ngokukhawuleza bajika bajike kuxinzelelo kunye nokwanda.
umthemba njani umntu oxokileyo kuwe
Ukwamkela uxanduva lokuphazamiseka abakwenzayo kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu endleleni ngekhe kwenzeke.
Ukulumkiswa kwangaphambili kuxhobile, njengoko besitsho, ke ukuba ukhe waqubisana nale ndlela yokuziphatha phakathi kwabo usebenza nabo, abaphetheyo, okanye iqela lakho lobuhlobo, kunokukunceda ukuba nesishwankathelo seempawu ekufuneka uzikhangele.
Nazi ezinye zezalathi zakudala zobuntu oburhabaxa:
1. Baswele uvelwano.
Ngokwesiqhelo ukuswela amandla okuqonda iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezifunyanwa ngabanye, umntu okrwada uyasokola ukubonisa ububele, uvelwano, okanye ukuqonda.
Abanawo umonde kwabo babuthathaka ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangafuna ezi zinto, ke musa ukufuna ‘ukuchitha’ ixesha labo ngokubabonisa.
Banobuchule obungaqhelekanga bokuthetha into engeyiyo ngexesha elingalunganga, mhlawumbi bade bahlekise xa lo mcimbi ukude nawo ungacacanga.
Elinye iqhinga eliqhelekileyo kukutshintsha ngesiquphe isifundo endaweni yokuqhubeka nendlela apho kulindeleke ukuba babonise uvelwano, abanokubona njengobuthathaka. Into yokugqibela eya kubonelelwa bubuntu oburhabaxa ligxalaba lokuxhomekeka okanye indlebe yokumamela enovelwano.
2. Benza abanye bazive bengakhululekanga okanye bengafaneleki.
Indlela eqhelekileyo esebenza ngayo intsebenzo yentlalontle kukuba utshintshiselwano luyindlela-mbini yesitrato kwaye omabini amaqela enza iinzame zokubandakanya umdla wenye.
Ukutshintshiselana ngomlomo kuxhaswa lulwimi oluhle lomzimba kunye nembonakalo yobuso, ejolise ekwenzeni abanye bakhululeke.
Xa kubandakanyeka ubuntu oburhabaxa- lowo ukhetha ukuba kwiziko lokuqwalaselwa kwaye angabinamdla ungathandekiyo wabanye-loo pateni iyasilela.
ungajonga njani ishishini lakho emsebenzini
Indlela abalawula ngayo incoko imalunga nokwandisa ukuzithemba kwabo, kuba, ezantsi, imeko yabo esisiseko ayikhuselekanga kwaye isesichengeni.
Ukuqhayisa okanye ukuhlekisa okanye ukungavumeli abantu ukuba bathethe ngokuhlala bephazamisa ziindlela zonke zokuziphatha, ezijolise ekuthobeleni isidima nakwabanye abantu ngelixa beziphakamisa.
Ngokwenyani, abanakujolisa ngokuthe ngqo ukwenzakalisa kunye noxinzelelo, kodwa eso sisiphumo esingenakuphepheka sokwenyusa ukuzithemba kwabo ngokucinezela abanye.
3. Banomlomo omkhulu kwaye banezimvo.
Nje ukuba umntu okrwada afudumale kwisifundo sabo, bahlala bezibeka kwinqanaba eliphambili, behambisa izimvo zabo ngokuqinileyo.
Ziyadibana, kwaye inqanaba lokuqiniseka kokuhanjiswa kwabo ngokuzithemba kuhlala kubabona abo banezimvo ezahlukeneyo benikezela xa bejamelene noluvo olungenangqondo kunye nolweembono.
Endaweni yokonwabela ukutshintshiselana okunamandla, abanye abathatha inxaxheba kwincoko badla ngokungakhululeki kancinci kwaye baya kufuna ukuphelisa le meko inzima.
Ngelixa abanye benokubona ngokucacileyo ukuba le brash yokuziphatha yile nto iyiyo, umntu okrwada akanakuyibona ingxaki abayibangelayo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bathethe nje oko bakucingayo ngaphandle kwenjongo yokucaphuka. Yiyo kanye le yokuba abanakho ukulinganisa impendulo yabanye kwaye baswele ukuzeyisa xa bevakalisa izimvo zabo.
4. Abanyamezeli ukusilela.
Ngokubanzi, olu hlobo lobuntu luthanda ukusebenza nzima kwaye luzimisele ukugqwesa kuyo nayiphi na indima okanye unobangela wokuba baqhubeke.
Kodwa umnqweno wabo ujika kukukhathazeka okanye umsindo xa bengakwazi ukufezekisa iinjongo abazibekele zona.
Oku kusilela kusenokubangelwa kukusilela kwabo, kodwa baziinkosi zomdlalo obekek 'ityala, belususa ngokufanelekileyo uxanduva kwabanye.
Baziva ngendlela efanayo ngokusilela kwabanye abantu kwaye bayakhawuleza ukugweba abo bababona njengabaphantsi kubo ebomini okanye ekuhlaleni.
5. Abanyamezelani kwiindawo 'ezingwevu'.
Kumntu onesimilo esirhabaxa, umnyama umnyama nomhlophe umhlophe kwaye abanakho ukujongana nokungaqondakali. Abahlali ocingweni kwaye, ngaphandle kokuthandabuza, bakhethe icala kwaye banamathele kulo.
Kutheni ndiziva ngathi andifanelanga kuthandwa
Emva kokufikelela kwindawo yabo yokujonga, baya kuyikhusela ngokuqatha, ngokuzimisela okungagungqiyo.
Ingxaki ngolu luvo lwe-monochrome zehlabathi, apho ukungalungelelani kungenakwenzeka, kukuba babona abantu abanezimvo ezahlukileyo kwezabo njengabachasayo. Ubomi ke bunokuba yinto engapheliyo kwaye ingenakoyiswa.
6. Bangabaphathi kwaye abanamonde.
Ukulindelwa okuphezulu okuqhelekileyo kuhlobo lwesirhabaxa kubenza banganyamezeli nakuphi na ukusilela.
Ngokuhambelana, abanamonde kwabo bangakwaziyo kunabo kwaye abayeki ukuvumela ukucaphuka kwabo kubonise.
Banotyekelo lokunyanzelwa njengoko bephuma bephumelela, beshiya amaxhoba elandela ekuvukeni kwabo ngaphandle kwengcinga yesibini.
Nangona iinzame zabo ezingapheliyo zokuphumelela zinokufikelela kwimivuzo abayifunayo, oku ngokuqinisekileyo kuyabenzakalisa abanye. Kodwa emntwini olirhabaxa, oku kungumonakalo wesibambiso kwaye akukho ngxaki kuyo nantoni na.
Nabani na obonwa emi phakathi kwabo kunye neenjongo zabo baya kutyhilizelwa kwelinye icala nangawo nawaphi na amandla afunekayo ukuze bafezekise iziphumo abazifunayo.
7. Zithe ngqo.
Akukho mntu unokutyhola umntu okrwada ngokuwuphepha umcimbi lowo. Bachaza izimvo zabo nakwesiphi na isihloko ngokuthe ngqo nangokunyaniseka.
Nangona oku kunokubonwa njengophawu oluqinisekileyo, indlela uhlobo olurhabaxa lokuveza uluvo lwabo ihlala ijongana kwaye ibe ndlongondlongo kunokuba ibe yeyakhayo kwaye iluncedo.
Ngenxa yokuswela ubuchule, uvelwano, kunye nawo nawaphi na amandla okuqonda ezinye iindlela, bayasilela ukuqaphela ukuba indlela ethembekileyo nechanekileyo abayithandayo iyabenzakalisa abanye.
Ngubani indoda yedoli parton
Ukuba bangabizelwa ngaphandle koku, baya kuphendula ngokwala okanye ngokuhlasela nabani na ozama ukujongana nabo.
8. Banendlela elawulayo.
Uhlobo lobuntu oburhabaxa luphawu olukhulu kunobomi (nangona ingekho ngendlela elungileyo).
Babambe umgangatho wokukhutshelwa ngaphandle ngokuzithemba okunokuncoma ukuba babenovelwano oluyimfuneko kunye nokuqonda ukuze bathandeke kwaye babandakanyeke.
Kodwa nantsi into… nangona banokubonakala ngathi bayayalela kwaye balawula, enyanisweni banokuba bazifihla ezabo ukuba sesichengeni, ngaphandle kokuqonda kunye nobuchule babo.
Ukunyanzela le nkxalabo, bayicwangcisela le nto inentembelo engagungqiyo kodwa enganyamezelekiyo, enganyamezelaniyo yonke into kwaye wonke umntu kwaye engenawo umdla okanye uvelwano kubantu abahlangana nabo imihla ngemihla.
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