Ukuba ubunemihla embalwa kunye nomfana, okanye benincokola okwethutyana, unokucinga ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle…
… Ade anyamalale ngesiquphe okanye abonakale andisenamdla kuwe .
Kuyadida ngokwenene xa oku kusenzeka, kwaye kunokukwenza uzive ukhathazekile kwaye ungafunwa.
Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba mhlawumbi awenzanga nto ukuba ikufanele oku, Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa anokugqiba ekubeni angafuni ukuba ube yintombi yakhe.
1. Awuyiyo nje uhlobo lwakhe.
Xa umntu esala, singaqala ukubuza ‘Yintoni engalunganga ngam?’ okanye nkqu ‘Ndenze ntoni ukuyonakalisa?’
Siqala ukuzivavanya ngokwethu-inkangeleko yethu, ubuntu bethu, nokuba 'besininzi kakhulu' kumhla wokugqibela. Siphindaphinda izinto entlokweni yethu kwaye asinakukwazi ukubona apho izinto ziye zonakala khona.
Kungenxa yokuba akukho nto yahamba gwenxa! Unokuba ungumhle, ulumkile, uyathandeka, kodwa ubungakulungelanga yena.
Kulungile ukungabi yindebe yomntu wonke yeti. Cinga ngamakhwenkwe abahlobo bakho: babaphatha kakuhle abahlobo bakho, uthanda ukuhlala nabo, kwaye bangabafana abapholileyo. Kodwa ... awufuni kuthandana nabo, akunjalo? Ayikuko ukuba akukho nto 'iphosakeleyo' ngabo, nje ukuba abakulungelanga.
Zama ukusebenzisa le ngqondo inye xa isiza kuwe kwaye ungasithathi isigqibo sakhe buqu.
Umfana omthandayo ngokucacileyo wayenomdla kuwe ngokwaneleyo ukuba akuthumele umyalezo okanye ukuthandana nawe, kodwa awuhambelani ncam.
Yintoni i-chris brown's net
Oko akunanto yakwenza nawe, kwaye konke ngaye - ayikuko ukuba uyaphosisa yena, kodwa ukuba nobabini aningomdlalo ulungileyo omnye komnye.
2. Akayiva i-vibe.
Sikhona sonke-umntu esithandana naye uyatshisa, uyahlekisa, uyasithenga iziselo, kwaye sonwabile, kodwa… into ayiziva ilungile.
Akukho nto bayenzayo (okanye abayenziyo) okanye ukwenza ngendlela abakhangeleka ngayo, kodwa akukho nto uyifunayo.
Esi isenokuba sesinye sezizathu zokuba angafuni ukuthandana nawe. Mhlawumbi, kuye, 'intlantsi' ayikho nje kwaphela.
Oko akubonisi ukuba umkhulu kangakanani, okanye ukuxabiseka kwakho yinto nje ebuhlungu yokuba izinto bezingazukusebenza phakathi kwakho nobabini, ixesha elide.
3. Kukho omnye umntu.
Ukuba izinto bezihamba kakuhle kodwa ngequbuliso uye wabanda kuwe, ungashiyeka uzibuza, ‘ndenze ntoni embi?’
Umahluko phakathi kothando kunye neenkcazo zenkanuko
Esinye sezizathu zokuba anyamalale inokuba kungenxa yokuba kukho omnye umntu ebomini bakhe.
Ingangomntu sele ekunye naye, kwaye wayekufaka ngentambo kunye ngelixa ulolunye ulwalamano.
Kungenzeka ukuba uye wadibana nomnye umntu oziva enonxibelelwano olunzulu.
Okanye mhlawumbi unxibelelana nomntu kwaye uye waqonda ukuba ufuna ntoni na ngokwasemzimbeni endaweni yokuthandana nomntu ngokungathí sina.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ukuba wenza ngathi akasakufuni, kusenokwenzeka ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakhe komnye umntu.
Kubuhlungu ukuyiqonda le nto, ngakumbi ukuba ubucinga ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle phakathi kwenu nobabini, kodwa kungcono ukufumanisa ngoku ukuze uchithe ixesha lakho kunye nomzamo kumntu onokukunika into oyifunayo noyifunayo.
4. Wayefuna nje ukudibanisa.
Abanye abantu banomdla de izinto ziqale ukuba nzulu. Inokuba ebenomdla wokwenene wokuchitha ixesha nawe, ade abone ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka ujola naye ngaphambi kokuba ulale naye.
Mhlawumbi ubuxhumekile kwaye uyifumene le nto ayifunayo. Inkunkuma, ngakumbi ukuba ubuphantsi kwengcinga yokuba ufuna enye into, kwaye unokushiyeka uziva usetyenzisiwe kwaye unomsindo.
Nangona kunjalo, oku kukusinda ngethamsanqa! Kubuhlungu ukuba yile ndlela ufumanise ngayo ngeenjongo zakhe, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba akanakuchitha ixesha lakho elininzi.
Ukuba akazange abe emva kwento enzulu, bekufanele ukuba abe ngaphambili nawe kwasekuqaleni.
Khumbula ukuba oku kuye, kwaye ayisiyonto ekufuneka uzive uneentloni ngayo okanye uneentloni ngayo!
Isenokungafuni enye into enokuyenza nawe, kodwa ubuncinci uzifundile iinjongo zakhe zokwenyani ngoku kwaye ungadlulela emntwini okuxabisileyo ngendlela ofuna ukuxabiswa ngayo.
5. Akaqinisekanga ukuba uziva njani.
Ukuba umntu omthandayo uqalile ukwenza ngathi akafuni wena, usenokuba uzama ukukutyhalela kude kuba engaqinisekanga ngento ayifunayo.
Abanye abantu bayothuka xa beqala ukuhlakulela iimvakalelo zomntu othile. Banokuba nexhala lokuba ngesiquphe oko kuthetha ukuba kulindeleke ukuba bazibophelele kuwe kwaye baya kuphulukana nayo yonke inkululeko.
Basenokungaqiniseki nge-100% malunga neemvakalelo zabo kwaye abafuni ukukuphazamisa, ngenxa yoko bacinga ukuba kungcono ukuphelisa izinto ngoku kunokukufaka ngentambo ngelixa befumanisa indlela abaziva ngayo.
Inokucaphukisa kwaye iphazamise xa umntu onqwenela ukwenza i-180 kuwe! Zama ukuba ungayithathi ngokobuqu, njengoko kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuyehla kukhuseleko lwabo, okanye kukungabi namava.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bobabini bangaphantsi kokucinga kunye nokucinga kakhulu, kwaye kwenza ukuba kubenzima kubo ukuba bazi indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngawe.
Endaweni yokungena kwiimvakalelo zabo, bathatha indlela elula yokuphuma-babaleke kuba bengazazi ukuba bafuna ntoni.
6. Uphumile kubudlelwane.
Mhlawumbi nobabini niyathandana, kodwa uyatsala kuba ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo lokuba alandele nantoni na nawe.
uyeke njani ukuxhomekeka kumyeni wam
Usenokuba wadibana nawe ngelixa uphuma ekwahlukaneni. Mhlawumbi wayengacwangcisi ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu kungekudala, kodwa wadibana nawe kwaye uyakuthanda kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, oko akwanele kuye ukuba angene kwinto enzulu kunye nawe, njengoko enokuziva ngathi ufuna ixesha lokufumana ngokupheleleyo i-ex yakhe kwaye aphilise ekwahlukaneni.
Kubuhlungu kakhulu oku, kodwa kwenzeka kakhulu.
7. Akanaxesha layo nantoni na e serious.
Unokuba nokuqhubeka okuninzi ebomini bakhe, kwaye engenalo ixesha okanye amandla okubeka kubudlelwane ngoku.
Iimpawu ukuba ukuwe emsebenzini
Ngelixa kuyaphazamisa ukuva oku, khumbula ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uyenza ngenxa yentlonipho ngawe.
Uyazi ukuba ibiya kuba yinkunkuma kuwe ukuba ebehlala exakeke kakhulu ukuba angakubona okanye engazange aphendule kwimiyalezo yakho, ke kulula ukuba uziqwalasele kwaye ungabinalo uxanduva olongezelelekileyo xa sele enezinto ezininzi ezenzekayo.
8. Usoyika ukuzibophelela.
Endaweni yokubuza into engalunganga kuwe kwaye kutheni engakufuni, zama ukuqonda ukuba ayisiyonto yobuqu.
Ayikuko ukuba akafuni ukuba nawe, kodwa akayazi ncam - kwaye woyika loo nto ingaziwayo.
Ukuba akazange abe kubudlelwane ngaphambili, okanye ebekhe ngokwenene imbi ubudlelwane ngaphambili, unokoyika kakhulu ukuhlala nomntu aze azibophelele kubo.
Ukuba wayenamava amabi kuloo nto ngaphambili, unokuba nemicimbi yokuthembela okanye uloyiko lokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo. Kananjalo, uyanyamalala ngoku ngaphambi kokuba izinto zingene nzulu kuba akafuni kuphinda enzakale.
Lo unokuziva ngathi sisizathu senkunkuma, kodwa eneneni sisemthethweni.
9.Awuhambelani kwixesha elide.
Esinye isizathu sokuba ngephanyazo abe sisiporho unokuba kungenxa yokuba eqondile ukuba unemilinganiselo eyahluke kakhulu, okanye indlela yokuphila, kwaye izinto azizukusebenza ekuhambeni kwexesha phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Oku akusiyo eyakho njengokuba kungaye njengoko kunjalo ngawe! Unokulandela iinkolo ezahlukeneyo okanye iinkolo, okanye usenokuba nencoko kumhla wakho wokugqibela malunga nendlela ofuna ngayo abantwana kwaye angaze ayifune.
Ukuba incoko enje ifike kwaye awuvumelani, usenokuqonda nje ukuba wahluke kakhulu ukuba ingaphumelela.
Ngelixa ezinye iiyantlukwano zilungile, ezinye zinkulu kakhulu ukuba zingoyiswa, kwaye kungangcono ukuphelisa izinto ngaphambi kokuba kube kubi kakhulu.
Ukwenzela ubabalo, nokuba aluzivakali ngoku.
10. Akakhuselekanga.
Oku kuyafana nokuzibophelela-phobe guy, kodwa iya kancinci kancinci kunoko.
Ukuba izinto zibonakala zihamba kakuhle nomfana, i-vibe-detector yakho mhlawumbi yayingalunganga. Endaweni yokuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyaphambana ayikulungelanga ngokwaneleyo , okanye ukuba awumthandi njengokuba wayekuthanda.
Kudala nithetha okwethutyana, okanye nikwimihla eliqela, mhlawumbi bekukho into phakathi kwenu nobabini ebethetha ukuba nifuna ukuqhubeka nincokola kwaye nibonana! Ke, le inokuba lukhetho olunokwenzeka.
Ukuba akazithembanga ngesiqu sakhe, unokufumana ixhala xa kufikwa kumba wokuthandana, kwaye usenokungaqiniseki ukuba umi phi nawe ngenxa yalonto.
Endaweni yokubeka esichengeni isifotho kwi-ego yakhe, okanye ukwaliwa okanye ukwenzakaliswa nguwe, ubeka unogada kwaye ahambe phambi kokuba ube nethuba lokushiya yena .
Kungakhathaza kakhulu xa usazi ukuba umntu uyakuthanda kodwa uneentloni kakhulu okanye unxanelwe ukwenza oko, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzihloniphe iimvakalelo zabo kwaye, ukuba ucinga kufanelekile, yiba nomonde kwaye ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
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Zininzi izizathu ezinokubangela ukuba umfana angafuni ukuba ube yintombi yakhe, kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba yeyiphi.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu ogciniweyo
Into ephambili ekugxilwe kuyo kukuba ayisiyonto oyenzileyo engalunganga! Ngamanye amaxesha, izinto azilunganga kwaphela phakathi kwabantu ababini, nangona kunjalo ininzi (okanye zombini) yazo ifuna ukuba isebenze.
Khumbula ukuxabiseka kwakho kwaye uthathe ukuphefumla ukuze uzenzele kutshanje, yakha ukuzithemba kwakho kwakhona, kwaye ubuyele apho xa uziva ulungile. Zininzi iintlanzi elwandle, emva kwayo yonke loo nto!
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