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Ukuba kunjalo, wena (neqabane lakho) sele nithathile imibuzo ukubona ukuba loluphi ulwimi othambekele kulo xa uveza kwaye ufumana uthando.
Ngaba utsaleleke kum ngolwimi lomzimba
Enye ye Iilwimi ezintlanu zothando ngamagama angqinayo, yona kanye loo nto ivakala ngathi: luthando olubonakaliswa ngamazwi, nokuba kungomlomo okanye kubhaliwe.
Ewe kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba wena / iqabane lakho awubonakalisi kwaye uyazixabisa ezinye iilwimi, ezinje ngezenzo zenkonzo, ukubamba ngokomzimba, ixesha elisemgangathweni, kunye nokufumana / ukunika izipho.
Kuthetha nje ukuba kuzo zonke ezo lwimi, intetho ngamagama yeyona indalo kuwe, okanye eyona uyixabisileyo / oyithandayo.
Ithetha Ukuthini Ukuba Amagama Okungqina Ngaba Ulwimi Lwam Lulwimi?
Amathuba kukuba ubusele uyazi ukuba olu yayilulwimi lwakho lokuqala lothando.
Zimbalwa izinto ezikwenza wonwabe ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho likuxelela ukuba liyakuthanda, okanye ubhale ileta ukukwazisa ukuba bacinga ngawe.
Xa bekuxelela ukuba uyathandeka, okanye bayazingca ngawe, uziva uzithembile kwaye uxabisekile.
Abantu abasebenzisa kwaye bawaxabise amagama okuvuma badla ngokuba ziindidi zamagama ngokubanzi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo bayakuthanda ukufunda, kwaye bayathanda ukubhala ngokunjalo. Banokuba nazo zonke iintlobo zejenali ezizele ziingcinga, amaphupha, iikowuti, kunye neengoma zemibongo, kunye nedrowa yokubhala ephuphumayo.
Ukuba usebenzisa amagama angqinayo ukubonisa ukuba ukhathala kangakanani, mhlawumbi ungoyena mntu uthabatha amanqaku othusayo enkuthazo kwiisidlo sasemini sabantwana bakho, kunye nokubhalela abahlobo kunye nosapho ukubulisa nje.
Usenokude ubhalele ii-imeyile kubasebenzi bakho ubazise ukuba uqaphele xa benze umsebenzi omkhulu, kwaye uyayixabisa into yokuba ube neqela lakho.
Mhlawumbi uye wagcina iinyanda zeeleta ezindala ezisuka kubahlobo, abantu ababethandana nawe ngaphambili, kunye namalungu osapho, kwaye mhlawumbi amanye amanqaku abahlobo bakho bezikolo eziphakamileyo bangena kwilokhari yakho.
Amagama athetha yonke into kuwe, kwaye uyawubona umohluko xa umntu enyanisekile, okanye xa ebeka i-facade.
Ungaqaphela ukhetho lwamagama olufihlakeleyo kunxibelelwano, kwaye ukufumana amagama endumiso kunye noxabiso kwabanye kukwenza uzive ubonwa, kwaye uxabisekile.
Olu xabiso lokunyaniseka yiloo nto kusenokwenzeka ukuba lukuchithe xa umntu exoka kuwe.
Kwangokunjalo, izithuko, amagqabantshintshi, kunye namanye amazwi ahlabayo anokukusika ngokunzulu ngakumbi kunokuba enokwenza umntu othetha ulwimi lwabo lwasemzimbeni.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyonzakaliswa zizenzo zeqabane lakho (okanye ukusilela), kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukunxibelelana naloo nto.
Umzekelo, ukuba ubabhalele ileta ende, esuka entliziyweni, kwaye bayinika nje ukujonga nje ngaphambi kokuyityhalela kude okanye ukuyilahla, unokuziva ngathi amagama akho-kwaye ngokwandisa, iimvakalelo zakho-akabalulekanga kubo.
Ukuba basebenzisa amabinzana athile anokukhathaza, nokuba kukuhlekisa, kubalulekile ukubacacisela ukuba kutheni la magama ekukhathaza okanye ekukhathaza.
Ukuba ezo ntlobo zamagqabantshintshi azibakhathazi konke konke, kusenokungaze kwenzeke kubo ukuba zinokwenzakalisa omnye umntu.
Isithandwa sam asisandithandi
Yiyo le nto unxibelelwano lubaluleke kangaka. Asingabafundi bengqondo, kwaye asinakuyiqonda ngokwenyani into eqhubeka entlokweni yomnye umntu ngaphandle kokuba basixelele.
Njengenqaku elongezelelweyo, kubalulekile ukuba ubazise ukuba uyixabisa kangakanani imizamo yabo xa bethatha ixesha lokukunika amagama okuvuma.
Ukuba bathethile into ekwenze waziva ulungile ngesiqu sakho, okanye uthandwa, okanye uxabisekile, emva koko ubazise!
'Heyi, ibithetha lukhulu kum ukuba undixelele indlela onebhongo ngayo ngam,' njl.
Oku kubanika ingxelo eyakhayo malunga neenzame zabo, oko kuthetha ukuba bayakuva ukuxabiseka, kwaye nesangqa esizukileyo sothando oluqinisekileyo, oluqinisekisayo luqhubeka lujikeleza.
Indlela yokubonisa inkathalo ukuba ngaba lolu luLwimi lweQabane lakho loLwimi
Kulula ukubonisa ukhathalelo ukuba ulwimi lothando lomlingane wethu luyafana nolwethu, kodwa kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omncinci ukuba luchasene nolwethu.
Umzekelo, ukuba ulwimi lwakho luthando, kwaye awabo ngamazwi okuvuma, abanakuqonda ukuba iintshukumo ezincinci ozithathayo zenzelwe ukubonisa ukhathalelo.
Imizamo yokubamangalisa ngesidlo esikhethekileyo osiphekileyo, okanye ubenzela into ngesandla, inokuba luhlobo lokulahleka kubo.
Oku kunokudimaza ngokwenene, okanye kunokusetyenziswa njengamava okufunda.
Ungazibamba uphulaphule nje ngentliziyo engaphelelanga xa bevakalisa uthando ngamagama, okanye ngempazamo bachithe ileta abakubhalele yona, kwaye uqaphele ukuba ubenzakalisile.
Singabantu, kwaye siyamosha. Nyaniseka kwaye ucacise malunga nayo, kwaye ubazise ukuba iinzame zabo ziyaxatyiswa. (Ngamagama.)
Cinga ngoluhlobo… uvela kumazwe ahlukeneyo kwaye ubeka umsebenzi ukuze unxibelelane ngolwimi lwabanye.
Kungaba nzima ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ijika lokufunda kunokuba nzima ukuhamba ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuhamba ngokutyibilikayo kuza nokusebenza, akunjalo?
Xa siqonda ukuba uthando lomnye umntu lwahlukile kunolwethu, sinokuziqhelanisa nokubonisa inkathalo kubo ngendlela abayiqondayo.
Ngokusisiseko, sibonisa iinzame zabo, kwaye sibonakalise uthando lwethu kubo ngendlela abavakalisa ngayo eyabo kuthi.
*Phawula : ukuba ulwimi lwakho lothando lwahlukile kolweqabane lakho, kwaye uziva ngathi ababonakalisi inkathalo ngendlela ofuna ukuyifumana ngayo, kubalulekile ukuba ubazise. Kanye njengokuba ubeka umgudu wokuthetha yabo ulwimi, ngokungathandabuzekiyo baya kwenza okufanayo kwi wena ekujikeni.
Imizekelo yamagama aNgqinayo
Xa kuziwa kwimizekelo esebenzayo yamagama okuvuma, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uvile (okanye wathetha) amaxesha amaninzi ebomini bakho.
Nangaliphi na ixesha wena okanye umntu omkhathaleleyo uluvakalisile uthando lwabo, umbulelo, inkxaso yeemvakalelo, inkuthazo, okanye ezinye iimvakalelo ezilungileyo ngamagama- nokuba kungokuthetha, okanye kubhaliweyo- benze njalo ngolu lwimi luthando.
Iimvakalelo ezidweliswe apha ngezantsi zezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo ezisetyenziselwa ukubonisa ukhathalelo kunye noxabiso.
Ukuba ufunda ulwimi lothando lweqabane lakho kwaye ungathanda ukubaxelela ukuba uziva njani, ngazo zonke iindlela zisebenzise oku njengelitye lokunyathela, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uzilungelelanisa ukuze zilungele iqabane lakho njengomntu ozimeleyo.
Ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kumazwi okuvuma umntu. Kananjalo, xa uveza indlela oziva ngayo ngabo, khetha amagama akho ngononophelo.
Endaweni yokuthi nje 'ndiyazingca ngawe,' qiniseka ukuba bayayazi kakuhle into oziqhenyayo ngayo.
Ngaba bafezekisile injongo? Ngaba usebenza ngombandela onzima wobuntu ngobabalo? Ngaba benze into entle?
Chaza imizekelo ethile, eneenkcukacha ezibonisa ukuba uhoye ungagcini ngokufowuna.
Apha ngezantsi kukho imizekelo onokuyisebenzisa njengokhuthazo-yenza nje ngokwakho.
Ungabatsho ngokuvakalayo, ubhale kumanqaku ancangathi, okanye uthumele ngokungacwangciswanga, izicatshulwa ezingalindelekanga emini:
'Ndiyakuthandana.'
'Ndiyayixabisa yonke into oyenzela usapho lwethu.'
'Kuthetha lukhulu ukuba uthatha ixesha lokuthetha nam nokuba uxakekile.'
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'Ndiyazingca ngawe nge ____.'
'Ndiyayithanda indlela endikhule ngayo ngenxa yakho.'
'Undifundise kakhulu nge ____.'
'Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kuba ekugqibeleni ndikufumene.'
'Uliqabane lamaphupha am.'
'Uyalikhumbula ixesha esaya ngalo kunye ne- _____, kwaye i ______ yenzekile? Ukucinga ngaloo nto kuhlala kundenza ndincume. ”
'Ndifuna ukukwazisa ukuba ndicinga ngawe.'
'Umhle, kwaye uthetha umhlaba kum.'
'Ndiyazi ukuba uhambe ngexesha elibi ngenxa ye- _____, kwaye ndifuna nje ukukwazisa ukuba ndiwathanda kangakanani amandla akho.'
'Ndilapha kuwe.'
“Enkosi ngokundinceda nge ______. Oko kuthetha ukuba umhlaba kum uyazi ukuba ndinokukuthemba kwaye ndixhomekeke kuwe. ”
'Uluthando lobomi bam.'
Zama ukudlulisa iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho, nokuba kunzima
Ngokukodwa xa kunzima.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngaphambili, amagama abantu abangqinayo ayakuxabisa ukunyaniseka, ke oko kuthetha okungaphezulu kunokuba unokucinga xa uthetha nabo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Bakuxabisile ukunyaniseka nokungafihli nto xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano, kwaye bayayiqonda into yokuba ukuveza izinto ngamazwi kunokuba lucelomngeni kwabanye abantu.
Abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo, uloyiko, kunye nokuba semngciphekweni ngamazwi, ngakumbi ukuba baye bajongana nomothuko ngaphambili.
Kwaye oko kulungile.
Khumbula ukuba amagama okuvuma awanyanzelekanga ukuba athethwe: angabhalwa, athunyelwe nge-imeyile, okanye athunyelwe.
Ngapha koko, ngamanye amaxesha kuthetha lukhulu ngakumbi ukuba izinto zichaziwe ephepheni, njengoko oko kuthetha ukuba omnye umntu uthathe ixesha lokucinga kwaye achaze ukuba uziva njani.
uziva ngathi awusoze ufumane uthando
Okungcono, iileta ezibhaliweyo zinokufundwa amatyeli aliqela ngaphezulu, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho ndawo yonxibelelwano gwenxa.
Iindlela zeNtu ezinamagama ukuCoca uxhulumaniso
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nobabini ninamagama okuvuma njengenye yeelwimi zakho zothando oluphezulu, kukho iindlela ezithile ezimangalisayo zokwenza nzulu unxibelelwano lwakho lothando omnye komnye.
Umzekelo, ninokudlala umdlalo kunye ofuna ingxoxo yomlomo efanelekileyo.
Umzekelo omkhulu wolu hlobo lomdlalo wokubopha Amakhadi entliziyweni .
Yidesika yamakhadi ezele imibuzo enomdla ukubuzana, konke kulungiselelwe ukukhuthaza ukuvuleka kunye nokuba sesichengeni.
Kuba oku kwenzeka ngeencoko ezinentsingiselo, nina bathandi bamagama (jonga into esiyenzileyo apho?) Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyonwabela inkqubo, kunye nokukhula okuza kubakho!
Kukho noludwe oluluhlobo oluluhlobo lwejenali ezigcwele imibuzo enomdla onokuyiphendula kunye, njenge Imibuzo yeeNcwadi zeZibini .
Ezi ncwadi zigcwele imibuzo esusela kukutya okuthandayo, ukuya kwinto owawufuna ukuba yiyo xa wawusengumntwana, yintoni ekwenza wonwabe / ube lusizi, apho ungathanda ukuhamba khona, njl.
Ibandakanya izihloko ngokubanzi kunye nothando kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye ekugcwaliseni kunye, unokufumana izinto ezintsha ezintle malunga nalowo umthandayo.
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Nalu uluvo lwesipho esothusayo esiqinisekileyo sokukhuthaza uncumo (kwaye mhlawumbi ezinye iinyembezi zovuyo) kwiqabane lakho:
Zenzele ingqayi ye-Mason ecocekileyo enesiciko kuyo, izinto ezintle zokubhala, iqela leepeni, kunye nezikere.
Sika iphepha libe yimicu okanye izikwere, kwaye ubhale into esuka entliziyweni kwaye ethandekayo nganye nganye.
Unokukhetha kweminye yemizekelo eboniswe ngaphambili kweli nqaku, kwaye ubongeze ngegama lakho elikhethekileyo, amabinzana, iingoma ozithandayo… nantoni na oyaziyo iya kubenza bancume.
Songa iphepha ngalinye xa ugqibile ukubhala kulo, kwaye ulipose engqayini. Ndiyathemba ukuba uya kuba nakho ukuyipakisha kakuhle!
Nje ukuba igcwele, ungayibopha iribhoni okanye uyinike ileyibheli emnandi, kwaye uyigcine ekhabhathini de ube uziva ukuba umthandi wakho angasebenzisa i-pick-me-up.
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Emva koko banike kunye nomyalelo wokuba bakhuphe elinye lamaqhekeza asongiweyo ngalo lonke ixesha besiva phantsi.
Izinto ezintle ozibhalileyo ziya kuthetha lukhulu kubo, ngekhe ucinge.
Njengecala, le yinto onokuyenza kuye nakubani na ebomini bakho: hayi iqabane onothando kulo.
Ukuba umntakwenu, umzali, umntwana, umhlobo, okanye nomntu osebenza naye othandekayo ubonakala ngathi unamagama okuvuma njengolona lwimi luthandwayo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo bayakuxabisa oku.
Lungisa nje iimvakalelo ukuze ukwazi ukubonisa izimvo zakho kwilizwi elililo, kwaye wazi ukuba baya kukhanya ngovuyo ngalo lonke ixesha bekhupha enye yala manqaku.
Kuba bavela wena .
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