Xa uninzi lwabantu luva ibinzana elithi 'izenzo zenkonzo,' banokucinga ngokuzohlwaya okanye ukohlwaya.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, 'inkonzo yoluntu' ihlala isohlwayo esincinci esenzelwa ulwaphulo-mthetho oluncinci, akunjalo?
Kodwa ye Iilwimi ezintlanu zothando , oku kunokuba yeyona ilula ukuqondwa. Khawukhumbule eli binzana liqhelekileyo:
Izenzo sithetha ngaphezulu kunamazwi.
Oku akuthethi ukuba umqondiso omkhulu, nokuba.
Imisebenzi yenkonzo inokuthatha iindlela ezininzi, ukusuka ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ikhitshi lihlala licocekile, ukuya kwimisebenzi ethile ukuze omnye umntu abe nexesha elingakumbi.
Abanye abantu bakholelwa ngempazamo ukuba abo baveza uthando lwabo ngenkonzo zii-sycophants okanye i-doormats, njengoko zihlala zithatha ngaphezulu kunabanye, njengemisebenzi yasekhaya, imisebenzi, umsebenzi wasekhaya, kunye nokunye okunjalo.
Kodwa olo lukhetho, kwaye uninzi lwezenzo zenkonzo abantu bayonwabile ukwenza ezo zinto.
Banethemba nje lokuba nabanye baya kunyuka babenzele izinto ngokulandelelana.
Ithetha Ntoni Ukuba Izenzo Zenkonzo Ngaba Lulwimi Lwam Oluthandwayo?
Njengoko ibinzana elingentla lisitsho, ukuba uluhlobo olunezenzo zenkonzo njengolwimi lwakho oluphambili luthando, ayithethi kuphela ukuba umhlaba xa abantu bekwenzela izinto ezintle-nawe uyahamba ukwenza izinto kubo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuyithanda kwakhona xa iqabane lakho likuxelela ukuba likuthanda kangakanani, kwaye uyakonwabela ukwangana kunye nexesha elisemgangathweni njengabanye.
Kodwa xa intanda yakho ikwazisa ukuba kuthetha ntoni kubo ukuba ubeke inkathalo engako kuyo yonke into obenzela yona, okanye babeke ecaleni nantoni na abayenzayo ukukwenza ikomityi yeti okanye bakunike umyalezo wonyawo. lithetha umhlaba kuwe.
Xa usithi uza kwenza into komnye umntu, uyayenza.
Ilizwi lakho lisisibophelelo sakho, kwaye unemilinganiselo emikhulu yokuthembeka xa kufikwa ekugcineni izithembiso zakho.
Kuwe ukubonisa ukuba uyamthanda umntu kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokubaxelela nje loo nto.
Ke uya ngapha nangapha ukwenza izinto ukunciphisa umthwalo wabo, kwaye wenze ubomi babo bonwabe.
Ngenxa yoko, ukuba olu lulwimi lwakho lothando, unokukhathazeka kwaye wenzakaliswe xa iinzame zakho zingathandwa, okanye ukuba / xa uziva uthathelwa ingqalelo.
indlela yokubuyisela ubomi bakho kwakhona
Umzekelo, ukuba uye wenyuka kwaye wanyamekela indawo yokuhlamba iimpahla iminyaka, iqabane lakho linokuyijonga loo nto ukuba ibe 'ngumsebenzi wakho', kwaye unokukhalaza ukuba abanazo iikawusi ezicocekileyo kwidrowa yabo.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba uphuma kwindlela yakho usenzela umlingane wakho izinto ezithandekayo, kwaye bahlala besophula izithembiso zabo kuwe malunga nezinto abathi bazazenza, unokuziva ngathi awulifanelanga ixesha kunye nomzamo kubo.
Kwaye kuyonakalisa.
Uluchaza njani ukhathalelo ukuba ngaba olu luLwimi lweQabane lakho loLwimi
Okokuqala nokuphambili, ukuba bacela ubenzele into, nceda ubenzele.
Isenokubonakala ingabalulekanga kangako okanye ingabalulekanga kuwe, kodwa ukuba bakucelile ukuba ubenzele into, okanye ubakhathalele, luxanduva olukhulu olo kunokuba ucinge.
Uninzi lwezenzo zenkonzo zabantu bayonwabile ukukhathalela izinto ngokwabo, ke ukuba / xa bafuna uncedo, bahlala benengxaki ekuyifuneni.
Kwaye xa bebuza, kubaluleke kakhulu.
Abanye abantu bathi 'ewe, kunjalo' xa iqabane labo libacela ukuba benze into, becinga ukuba banokuyinyamekela nanini na.
Kodwa xa usithi uyakwenza into, kwaye emva koko awuyi… baya kuziva ngathi akubalulekanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungagcina ilizwi lakho kubo.
Bangakhathazeka okanye babe lusizi ngokuba ungayenzanga loo nto, nto leyo inokukwenza uzive ucaphukile okanye ucatshukisiwe kuba UTHI uzakuyenza le nto, kwaye uzakuyifumana NGOKUQINISEKILEYO… thambisa, hlamba, phinda .
abantu abaqhayisa ngemali yabo
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ulwimi lothando lomlingane wakho lunokuba zizenzo zenkonzo, thatha umzuzwana ukuba uhlale phantsi kwaye uqwalasele ngokwenyani zonke izinto ezincinci abazenzela zona ngaphezulu kosuku, okanye iveki.
Zibhale phantsi, ukuba kunokwenzeka.
Amathuba kukuba baya kongeza phezulu kuninzi, kwaye unokuqonda ukuba kuninzi kakhulu abakwenzela wena kunye nosapho kunokuba ubusazi.
Ngaba amashiti ahlala ecocekile? Njani ngempahla yakho? Ngaba iinkonkxa zenkunkuma zihlala zingenanto? Izitya zihlanjwe?
Yenza uluhlu lwayo yonke imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kunye neminye imisebenzi ekufuneka igcinwe ekhaya, kwaye ubhale igama lakho phantsi ecaleni kwayo yonke imisebenzi oyenzayo rhoqo.
Zonke ezingenalo igama lakho ecaleni kwazo ziyakhathalelwa ngomnye umntu, akunjalo?
Ewe. Iqabane lakho.
Ukuba intanda yakho inezenzo zenkonzo njengolona lwimi lwabo luthando, banokuhamba ngaphezulu nangaphezulu kwesabelo sabo semisebenzi yasekhaya kunye noxanduva.
Enye indlela efanelekileyo yokubonisa uthando lwakho ngendlela abayiqondayo kukuthatha loo nto kubo.
Ngaba bahlamba izitya? Bamba ilaphu lokomisa kwaye ujoyine. Okanye unikezele ngokuthatha ngokupheleleyo.
Kuyafana nangokucoca iibhokisi zenkunkuma yekati, okanye ukucoca, okanye i-bajillion eminye imisebenzi emincinci efuna ukwenziwa.
Imizamo yakho ayizukubonwa, kwaye iya kuthakazelelwa kwaye igcinwe ngaphezu kokuba ucinga.
Imizekelo yeZenzo zeNkonzo
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngaphambili, ukuba ulwimi lomlingane wakho luyinkonzo, nikela ingqalelo ekhethekileyo xa bekucela ukuba ubenzele izinto. Kubalulekile.
Unokuhlala phantsi ubabuze ukuba ngaba ikhona into onokuyenza ukuze benze ubomi babo bonwabe / bukhanye / bube lula, okanye ubancede nantoni na.
Into oyibuzayo iya kwenza ukuba intliziyo yabo inyuke, kwaye ukuba uyayilandela kwaye uyenze ngexesha elifanelekileyo, iyakubabonisa ukuba bangakanani kuwe.
Nazi ezinye izinto ezongezelelweyo zenkonzo onokuzenzela zona:
- Thatha umsebenzi oqhele ukwenziwa, ngaphambi kokuba ufike kuwo.
- Bothuse ngesidlo abasithandayo.
-Ukuba bakhangeleka bediniwe okanye sele bekhankanyile ukuba banobuhlungu emva kosuku olude okanye ukuzilolonga, zinike ukubanika umyalezo, okanye ubahlambele
- Pakisha isidlo sasemini sosuku, kwaye bathumele inowuthi emnandi ukuze bayifumane.
- Yenza into abangayithandiyo ukuyenza, njengokucoca umngxunya wenja eyadini, okanye uku-ayina.
izinto ezinokwenziwa ngabahlobo abasenyongweni kunye
- Buza ukuba ungabanceda ngantoni.
Ngenelela kwaye uthathe imisebenzi abayenzayo, ucebisa ukuba bayokwenza into abayithandayo endaweni yoko.
-Qiniseka ukuba xa / xa uzifumanela isiselo okanye into yokutya, uyabuza ukuba ingaba ikhona into abangathanda nayo.
- Qaphela xa into abayithandayo iphela (ijusi oyithandayo, ibhafu yokuhlambela, i-spirulina powder, njl.) Kwaye uyitshintshe ngaphambi kokuba ingenanto.
-Yenza uluhlu lokudlala lomculo kwiSpotify, njenge-mixtape yale mihla, kwaye wabelane ngayo nabo.
- Qokelela yonke into oyifunayo ukuze ugqibezele iprojekthi ebikuluhlu lwakho 'lokwenziwa' ekwabelwana ngalo, kwaye ubameme ukuba bayigqibe nawe.
- Yiba nesiselo esifudumeleyo esilungele bona xa bebuya ukuba bayaphuma bebaleka ukwenza imozulu ebandayo. (Buyisa umva oku ngesiselo esibandayo ukuba siyabila phandle.)
-Ukuba unabantwana, cwangcisa isitter ukuze nina nobabini niphume niyokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa / umhla wokuzonwabisa wobusuku.
-Dibana kunye nabantwana kwaye wenze isidlo sakusasa ebhedini kwiqabane lakho ngentsasa engaqhelekanga, hayi usuku lomama / lotata, okanye usuku lwabo lokuzalwa.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, khumbula ukwenza izinto othembise ukubenzela zona.
Zama ukunxibelelana ngeemfuno zomnye nomnye
Xa abantu bethetha iilwimi ezahlukeneyo zothando, izenzo kunye namazwi abo anokungaqatshelwa kwaye axatyiswe ngamaqabane abo.
Ngokwenyani kufana nokuthetha iilwimi ezahlukileyo, kwaye ukuba nobabini ninamagama othando ahlukeneyo, unokuziva ungabonwa kwaye ungazalisekanga.
Ukuba iqabane lakho khange lenze Imibuzo yeelwimi zothando ukanti, ngandlela zonke bakhuthaze ukuba benze njalo!
Emva koko, nina nobabini ninokuhlala kunye nixoxe ngokuba nilubonisa kwaye nilwamkela njani uthando.
Ninokuba nobabini nge-epiphanies ngequbuliso xa uqaphela indlela omnye umntu abezama ngayo ukunxibelelana ngononophelo lwabo, kunye nendlela izenzo / amagama akho ngewayengazange abe yile nto ayifunayo.
Kungenxa yesi sizathu le nto unxibelelwano lubaluleke kakhulu, njalo.
Ukuba sizama ukubonisa abantu esibathandayo ukuba siyakhathala, kodwa ababoni okanye abazichazi gwenxa izenzo zethu, basenokungaqondi ukuba bathandwa kangakanani kwaye bayathandwa kangakanani.
Kwaye ngokuchaseneyo.
Ukuba ulwimi lwakho lukuzinkonzo, chazela iqabane lakho ukuba ukubenzela izinto yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubabonisa ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba khange baqonde ukuba ezi zinto bazithatha kancinci.
Kananjalo, unokubazisa ukuba izinto zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi kuwe, kwaye ubanike imizekelo yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ngokwenene asizazi ezi zinto ngaphandle kokuba sixelelane, akunjalo?
Iindlela zeMisebenzi yeNkonzo yaBantu yokuQinisa iiNxibelelwano
Nje ukuba uxoxe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo okhetha ukunika kunye nokufumana imisebenzi yenkonzo, wena kunye neqabane lakho ninokusebenzisana ukumisela ukuba zeziphi izinto ezintle eninokuzenza omnye komnye.
Enye into, unokuba nengxoxo ephandle, evulekileyo malunga nendlela umntu ngamnye athanda ukwenza ngayo izinto, kwaye ufumane iindlela zokulalanisa okanye ukudibana nesiqingatha.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba kukho ukungalingani kwimisebenzi yasekhaya, yila 'ivili lomsebenzi' kunye, kwaye uyijikeleze ngeveki ukuze imisebenzi yohlulwe ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngapha koko, dlala ngokwamandla akho, kwaye uthathe imisebenzi efanelekileyo kakhulu kwiiseti zakho zobuchule, kunye nezinto ozikhethayo.
Uyakuthanda ukusonga impahla, kodwa uyakucaphukela ukuhlamba izitya? Bona ukuba ninokukhetha nina bobabini imisebenzi enikezelweyo enithanda ukuyenza nobabini, kwaye emva koko niyitshintshe eyona ingaphantsi kuneyona imangalisayo.
Vumela iqabane le-math-savvy ngakumbi ukuba lithathe uxanduva olukhulu lwezezimali, ngelixa umcwangcisi olungileyo angalungisa ulawulo lwekhaya nolwekhalenda.
Njengenqaku lokugqibela, khumbula ukuba izenzo zenkonzo azilingani nenkonzo engafakwanga yonkonzo.
Nokuba olu lulwimi lwakho oluphambili luthando okanye iqabane lakho, akukho namnye kuni ofanele ukuziva ngathi unyanzelekile ukuba wenze into xa intliziyo yakho ingekho kuyo.
Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba uceliwe ukuba wenze into ekwenza ungonwabi.
Kulungile ukuba uthi 'hayi.'
Ukuba uyayenza, nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uchazele omnye umntu ukuba kutheni usala ukwenza lo msebenzi.
Asingabo abafundi beengqondo-asinakuqonda ukuba senza omnye umntu azive engonwabanga, okanye ebophelelekile, ngaphandle kokuba sinxibelelana.
Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu uqhubekeka umhlaba ngesicoci samava abo.
Kananjalo, ukuba umntu uziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunale ayenzayo, okanye kubonakala ngathi akakwiphepha elinye, basenokungaqondi ukuba kutheni.
ungaxelela njani umhlobo ukuba uyabathanda
Izenzo zenkonzo zinokuba ziindlela ezintle zokubonisa ukuba uyakhathala. Isitshixo kukuziqonda nokuzazisa xa zisenzeka, kwaye uphinde uzibuyise kakuhle.
Ngaba usenemibuzo malunga neZenzo zoLuthando loLwimi? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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