Umlingane othandana naye yinto efunwa ngabantu abaninzi-ngakumbi abasetyhini.
Kodwa ikwayinto amadoda amaninzi azabalazela ukuba yiyo.
Ukuthandana yinto eyahlukileyo ngokulinganisa, kwaye ukuba ufunda oku, kubonakala ngathi isoka lakho lihleli kakhulu kwisiphelo esingathandekiyo!
Kwaye oku kuyatya kuwe kancinci… okanye okuninzi.
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Ke makhe sijonge ukuba kutheni indoda isenokungabi ngoyena mntu uthandana kakhulu emhlabeni.
1. Ulwimi lwakhe lothando aluhambanga kangako.
Iilwimi ezintlanu zothando ngumba kaGqirha Gary Chapman owathi abantu bobabini baziva uthando kwaye babonisa uthando ngokwahlukileyo.
Weza neendlela ezintlanu ezingundoqo ababekwenza ngazo oku - iilwimi zothando. Bazi:
- Amagama aNgqinayo
- Imisebenzi yeNkonzo
- Ukufumana izipho
- Ixesha elibalulekile
- Ukubamba ngokomzimba
Ngoku, ukuba ufuna ukuqonda ukuba nganye kwezi zithetha ntoni, ndwendwela eyethu Iilwimi ezintlanu zothando iphepha emva koko uye kwinkcazo nganye nganye.
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Kodwa, inqanaba lokuthandana (okanye into abantu abayibona iyathandana) iyahluka ngokolwimi lomntu oluphambili.
Amagama okuQinisekiswa (ukuthetha izinto ezintle malunga neqabane lakho kwaye ubaxelele ukuba zithetha ntoni kuwe) kunye nokufumana izipho (ukuthenga iqabane lakho izinto ezinkulu okanye ezincinci) zezona lwimi zimbini zifana nothando.
Ukuxelelwa ukuba 'ndiyakuthanda' okanye 'ulilizwe lam' okanye ukufumana ileta yothando kuya kugcwalisa iintliziyo ezininzi ngokukhanya okufudumeleyo. Ngokunjalo, iintyatyambo zakho eziqhelekileyo, ubucwebe, iitshokholethi kunye nezinye zihlala zibonwa njengokubonisa uthando.
Ixesha loMgangatho linokuthandana kakhulu (cinga isidlo sangokuhlwa kwekhandlela okanye uhambo oluya eParis), kodwa isenokungabi njalo (cinga ukubheja uthotho esofeni).
Izenzo zeNkonzo (ukuba nomntu akwenzele into entle), kunye nokuPhathwa koMzimba (izandla-ekubonakaliseni uthando) banokuba bobabini ngothando ngendlela yabo, nayo, kunjalo. Kodwa zisenokungabonakali njengothando kuwe okanye umntu obukele ngaphandle.
Ngoku, ukuba ulapha ubuza ukuba kutheni umntu othandana naye engathandani, kusenokwenzeka ukuba Amagama esiQinisekiso okanye iZipho eziFumanekayo okanye zombini ziilwimi zakho ezibalaseleyo zothando, kodwa ukuba isithandwa sakho si / yenye into.
Ukuba bathetha ulwimi lwenkonzo kwaye banolwazelelelo malunga nokwenza isiselo xa besenza esinye, okanye babeke iimpahla ngaphambi kokuba ufike ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, usenokungayiboni loo nto njengothando.
Ngokufanayo, banokuthanda ukuwola okanye ukuncamisa okanye ukugaxana nawe, kodwa unokucinga nje ngokuba yinto eyenziwa sisibini ngasinye hayi ngakumbi kwezothando.
Ukuba abakhathazwa kukukuva uthetha izinto ezintle kubo okanye ngabo, ufumana izipho ezivela kuwe, okanye uchitha ixesha lothando kunye, basenokungakuqondi ukubaluleka kwezi zinto kuwe.
2. Ukuthandana kufuna ukuba sesichengeni.
Iimpawu zothando zothando zithande ukuba zicace ngakumbi kwaye zicace kunezinye iziboniso zeemvakalelo zikabani.
Kwaye oku kubeka umngcipheko. Ukuthwala intliziyo yakho emkhonweni wakho kunye nokubonisa uthando lwakho kumntu ngendlela ecace gca kukushiya uvulekile kwaye usengozini.
Ungathini ukuba omnye umntu akayithandi into oyenzayo? Kuthekani ukuba abanambulelo? Kuthekani ukuba abalubonakalisi uthando lwabo?
Ngelishwa, uluntu lunomkhwa wokumisa amadoda ukuba azibambe iimvakalelo zawo kwaye angababonisi kakhulu njengabafazi abathanda ukwenza. Iimvakalelo zibonwa ngamanye amadoda njengobuthathaka kwaye ke ukuthandana kujongwa njengobuthathaka nako.
Mhlawumbi yiloo nto amadoda amaninzi egcina uthando losuku lweValentine kunye nemihla yokuzalwa. Baziva ngathi kuvunyelwe kwezi ntsuku kodwa hayi kangako kulo lonke unyaka.
Kwaye masingakulibali ukubonakaliswa kwezothando esidlangalaleni-amadoda athambekele ekubeni angabi mkhulu kwezi zinto nazo. Baye babe nexhala, bazive bengaphandle kwendawo yabo yokuthuthuzela, kwaye ke bayiphephe naphina apho kunokwenzeka.
3. Ezothando zithandwa kakhulu ngabantu basetyhini.
Ukulandela ukusuka kwinqanaba elidlulileyo, uninzi lwamadoda alubonakalisi ukuthandana kakuhle kuba lubonwa njengowesifazana.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba abasetyhini banamathuba okuba babe neelwimi zothando, kodwa umbono oqinisekileyo wesenzo sothando ngowendoda eyenzela umfazi into.
Amabali amakhulu othando ahlala ebandakanya indoda ehexa umfazi ngandlela thile. Kwaye nokuba kusezincwadini okanye kwiscreen, loo mabali ayathengiswa ebafazi.
Kwaye uthathe umzuzwana ukuqaphela ukuba yeyiphi imibala enxulunyaniswa nothando- reds, pinks, purples mhlawumbi. Akunemibala onokucinga ngayo xa ucinga ngendoda, akunjalo?
Kuba uthando luyinto yamakhosikazi, amadoda anokuziva engazithembanga ekuyiboniseni kuba ngandlel 'ithile ayenzelwanga ukuba yazi ukuba yenzeni. Indoda 'yamehlo' ayisiyiyo eyonxibelelana neemvakalelo zayo- hayi ngaphandle, ubuncinci.
4. Amadoda awahlali ebonisa izinto ezifana nezothando namanye amadoda.
Nokuba kungokwemvelo okanye kukondla, abasetyhini bathambekele ekuzibonakaliseni ngokuphandle nabanye abafazi.
Abasetyhini bancoma abahlobo babo ababhinqileyo, babathengele izipho ezincinci, kwaye bakhumbule iinkcukacha ngobomi bomnye nomnye. Ezi ziindawo zeplonic-zothando zolwalamano lwabo.
Amadoda, kwelinye icala, awazukuvela ngoluhlobo lwezinto xa kufikwa kwamanye amadoda.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba zihlala zingadingi zimpawu zothando zigqithileyo, kodwa yinto enqabileyo kakhulu ukuba umntu athengele umhlobo wakhe oyindoda isipho okanye atsho ukuba ubonakala emhle kangakanani.
Kwaye, njengayo nayiphi na into, ukuziqhelanisa kuyawenza ugqibelele. Abasetyhini bafumana ukuziqhelanisa okuninzi ekwenzeni izinto ezinesiseko sothando-nokuba asenziwanga ngendlela yothando.
Amadoda awafumani kwaqheliselo olufanayo kwaye ke akakhululekanga ukwenza ezo zinto.
5. Akazi ukuba ungathanda ukuba enze ntoni.
Sele simisele ukuba into oyithatha njengeyothando inokwahluka kakhulu kwinto yokuba iqabane lakho liyithatha njengelothando.
Ke esinye isizathu sokuba angathandani kukuba akayazi into ongathanda ukuba ayenze.
Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kubudlelwane mhlawumbi obuncinci apho ungamxelelanga into oyithandayo kwaye akachazanga imikhondo oyishiyele yena.
Kwaye ke akukho nto ayenzayo, okanye wenza izinto ongazifumani zithandana kwaphela.
Into omawuyenze malunga nesoka elingathandekiyo
Ngokuqonda okungcono kwesizathu sokuba umntu othandana naye eswele isebe lezothando, lixesha lokuba ujonge into onokuyenza ngayo.
1. Thetha ngeemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho ngokucacileyo.
Eyona nto inkulu onokuyenza ukunceda isithandwa sakho ukuba sithandane ngakumbi kukumcacisela ngokucacileyo ukuba uthanda ntoni.
Emva koko, akakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho. Ukuba kwawona mqondo wokuthandana awuqhelekanga kuye, uya kudinga imiyalelo ethile ukuba uza kuthetha ulwimi lwakho.
Mhlalise phantsi ngexesha eninokugxila kuzo zombini into ethethwa yenye - hayi emva komsebenzi oxineneyo wosuku okanye xa uzama ukubukela ezemidlalo - kwaye uchaze ukuba isenzo sothando ngamanye amaxesha sibalulekile kuwe.
Emva koko mnike imizekelo emininzi yeentlobo zezinto othanda ukuziva okanye ukufumana okanye azenze.
Unokufuna nokumthumelela uluhlu ngombhalo ukuze abuyele kuwo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ingavakala ngokungathi umyalela ukuba uthandane, kodwa inokufuna oko, ubuncinci ukuqala.
Ungamlindeli ukuba ngequbuliso angoyena mfana uthandana naye ubusuku bonke. Kusenokufuneka umkhumbuze ngesidingo sakho sothando ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ulibele okanye akayibonisi njengokuba ungathanda.
Oku akuyomfuneko ukuba angazihoyi ngabom iimfuno zakho kungenxa yokuba umcela ukuba enze into engafikeleliyo kuye. Ingqondo yakhe iyakuthatha kancinci ukuyiqhela kwaye ibe yinto acinga ngayo ngesiqhelo.
Ke, nceda, ube nomonde kuye.
2. Ishedyuli.
Mhlawumbi kwaoluvo lokucwangcisa ukuthandana lubulala elo litye lothando likufele.
Kodwa yinike ithuba.
Ukwenza ixesha lokuthandana ngamaxesha aqhelekileyo kunokuba yeyona ndlela ilula yokugcwalisa kwakho kuba inika umfana wakho ulindelo oluchanekileyo.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba zonke ezinye iiCawa zigcinelwe ixesha lesibini esemgangathweni, unokuzilungiselela kunye nayo nayiphi na imimangaliso emincinci kwangaphambili.
Nokuba lelo xesha lichithwe ukuhamba emaphandleni, kwindawo yokutyela yothando, ubukele ukuphuma kwelanga, okanye nantoni na… uyakuyazi kwaye niyazi ukuba ukuthandana kumakhadi.
Heck, yonke ingcinga 'yobusuku bomhla' isekwe kwingcinga yokuba ukuthandana kuya kunikwa kwaye kwamkelwe ngexesha elithile ngosuku oluthile. Kwaye izibini ezininzi ziyalivuyela eli lungiselelo.
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3. Qaphela indlela alubonakalisa ngayo uthando nenkathalo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Mhlawumbi ubona izimbo zomzimba zothando njengezibonakaliso zothando, kodwa njengoko sithethile ngentla apha, wena kunye nesoka lakho mhlawumbi uneelwimi ezahlukeneyo zothando.
Ukuba uluvo lwakho lokuthandana okuzenzekelayo ayizukuza, kubalulekile ukuba ungalinganisi oko kunye nokungabikho kwenkathalo okanye uthando.
Isithandwa sakho sinokubonisa uthando lwaso ngeendlela ezingacacanga kuwe. Kwaye kukuwe ukuba ukhangele kwaye uxabise ezo ndlela.
Ngaba uza neziliphu zakho ungakhange ubuzwe? Ngaba ucebisa ukuba u-odole ukuthatha kwakho oyithandayo xa unosuku olunzima? Ngaba uthembisa ukusiphulula umqolo obuhlungu?
Mhlawumbi ezi zinto ayizizo izimbo zakho zothando, kodwa zibonisa ukuba ukukhathalele ngokwenene kunye nokuphila kwakho.
Unelungelo lokufumana ukubonakaliswa kothando ngeendlela ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kodwa unelungelo lokubonisa uthando lwakhe ngeendlela ezibaluleke kakhulu kuye.
Ubudlelwane bakho ngumlinganiso wokunika kunye nokwamkela uthando ngeendlela ezizezendalo kwiqabane ngalinye.
4. Yiba nothando kuwe.
Ukuzithanda kubaluleke kakhulu. Ke kutheni ungafanele ukubonisa olo thando kuwe ngeendlela ezivakala ngakumbi kuwe?
Ukuba oko kuthetha ukuzinyanga kwiintyatyambo ezintle okanye ugxile kwintetho ethile enothando kunye nokuzithemba, yenza nje.
Yiba nebhafu yokukhanya kwekhandlela kunye neebhulebhu kunye nevumba elimnandi kunye nomculo opholileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ayifani ncam nokuhlamba ibhafu yothando kunye nenkwenkwe yakho, kodwa uya kufumana ulonwabo oluninzi kuyo nangona kunjalo.
Ukuba umntu othandana naye akakwazi ukuzalisa isabelo sakho sothando ngokwakhe, kuya kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokuzongeza.
5. Gcina ulindelo lwakho lusengqiqweni.
Ukuba umntu othandana naye akathandani ngoku, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba angaze athandane ngendlela othanda ngayo.
Ke kwakhona, njengoko ekhula ngeminyaka kwaye ebona izibonelelo zokwenza izinto zothando kuwe, unokumangaliswa.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ube nengqiqo malunga noko ukulindeleyo kuye.
Ngelixa ukukhathazeka okanye ukudana kwakho kufanelekile, yinto oya kuthi usebenze kuyo, njengoko kuya kufuneka naye asebenze ekuboniseni uthando.
Alukho ulwalamano olugqibeleleyo, kodwa ukuba wena kunye naye nisebenza kakuhle ngokwenene kwezinye izinto, eyakho yintsebenziswano ekufanele ukuyenza.
Olukhulu njengokuthandana, ayisiyiyo yonke into kunye nokuphela kothando -yinxalenye nje yalo. Uthando lwenene ludlulela nzulu kunothando.
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