Ke, zingaphi iintsuku zokulala ochithe ubukele esilingini? Udibene noRoger, la chum wakho mdala, owakubetha ngomqolo ukubabaza:
“Heyi! Sisahlala kwinkampani enye / kwindawo yokuhlala / siqhuba imoto enye ……? ” Nokuba yintoni ethathe ukuthanda kwakhe.
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Uye wanyusa ileli yequmrhu emva kokutshintsha imisebenzi izihlandlo ezintandathu, kwaye ngoku uqhuba imoto entle. Abantwana bakhe bafunda phesheya, kwaye unendawo yokuhlala kwindawo entle. Mkhulu kuye!
Ngaba ibalulekile loo nto? Ingaba lonto yi ubufuna ntoni ebomini ? Ngaba yiloo nto awayeyifuna ngokwenene, okanye ngaba waqhutywa ngumtshangatshangiso?
Ukuba uziva ngathi unokubuyela emva ebomini, funda le ngcebiso ilandelayo ngenyameko. Ndiyathemba ukuba iyakuqinisekisa ukuba wenza kakuhle njengokuba unjalo .
1. Ihlala phi iZero yakho?
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Iimpendulo zakho zahluka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Wawumangaliswa ligunya utitshala wakho awalisebenzisa eklasini, kwaye wafuna ukufana naye. Wawunomona ngommelwane wakho, owathi wakhwela iBMW kayise, kwaye wafuna ukuba sisityebi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungathenga loo moto. Uzimisele ukuthatha naliphi na ishishini / uqeqesho ukufezekisa loo njongo.
Ubonile imifanekiso kwiDonga loDumo, ngaphandle kweofisi yeNqununu yeKholeji, kwaye wafuna ukuba kuyo. Uyazi ukuba oku kunokunceda ekufumaneni ukwamkelwa kwi-crème-de-la-crème yamaziko emfundo. Ubuyidinga loo nto ukuze ukwazi ukuphumelela ebomini. Ke ishishini kunye nehlabathi elidibeneyo laye latshintsha imbono yakho, zaphinda zatshintsha zonke iiparadigms kwakhona.
I-Zero yakho itshintshile kuwo onke la manqaku ebomini bakho. I-Zero yindawo apho uqala ukulinganisa ukukhula ebomini, kwinqanaba lomgama. Uchitha ubomi bakho usoyika ukuwela kwicala elingalunganga, kodwa ngubani odale le ngongoma, kwaye wayivumela ukuba ilawule ubomi bakho? Amathuba kukuba le Zero lilifa elibi nelifaxekileyo. Uyinike ubungcwele, kunye nokwamkela kwakho ngokungathandabuzekiyo okufanayo.
Isiseko esinjalo siya kuhlala sikhona, kodwa ikwangumbindi wesangqa. Ukukhula kungangqinelani:
2. Athini amaNqaku akho kwiSangqa soBomi?
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Zilinganise nganye kwezi arcs, kwaye zivumele ukuba ukhule ukusuka embindini ukuya kumda. I-Zero yakho iba ngamandla e-centripetal, ukudala uxinzelelo kububanzi, kunye nokukhawulezisa ukukhula. Njengoko indawo enye yobomi bakho iphucuka, yenza amandla kuwo onke amanye amacandelo esangqa.
Ngoku zibuze ukuba uRoger usebenze njani kwezi arcs.
3. Khetha ngobulumko iimodeli zakho
Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo inamabali atyhutyhiweyo aphuma ekholejini esiba ziibhiliyoni, okanye eqala ezona zishushu zishushu elizweni. Kungumsebenzi weendaba ukubonisa impumelelo enjalo. Ukanti, ngaba ukho umntu okhe wajonga amanani malunga nenani labantu abwenzileyo? Kwaye zeziphi ezinye iimpawu ababenazo, ngaphandle kokuba babe ‘ngabalahli-phandle abanombono oqaqambileyo’?
Ixesha elininzi, umgudu kunye nemali iya ekufumaneni ulwamkelo kumaziko enkulumbuso emfundo. Kutheni uchitha olo tyalo-mali ngephupha? Kutheni ucinga ukuba ukuphuma phakathi kwabafundi kusoloko kwenza okungcono kunokuphuma? Cinga ngononophelo ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo zokungxama qinisekisa ukuba zezilungele wena kwaye ungakhethi indlela esekwe kulwakhiwo lwabanye abantu. Yintoni esebenzela uRoger isenokungakusebenzeli.
4. Amabhongo-Impumelelo Ibhalansi
Izinto eziphilayo zichazwa ngohlobo olukhethekileyo lwe-DNA, ekunzima ukuyiphinda. Mhlawumbi uwubonile lo mfanekiso usasazwa kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo:
Ngokuqinisekileyo, andinakuba yinkawu ukukhwela kulomthi, kwaye inkawu ayinakuzama ukuba ndim, intlanzi okanye unombombiya.
Kukho uninzi lweemvavanyo zobuntu ezikhoyo ukukunika iprofayili yamandla akho kunye nobuthathaka. Zonke zisenokungachaneki, kodwa umndilili wesithathu ukuya kwesihlanu uya kukunika umbono olungileyo. Kwaye ayenzelwanga abafundi nabaqalayo kuphela. Ukuba awonelisekanga bubomi, ngokubanzi, oku kuya kukuxelela ukuba kutheni kwaye yintoni engahambi kakuhle. Ukutshintsha umkhondo akukaze kube lula, kodwa akunakwenzeka, nokuba.
Jonga utshintsho kumbutho wakho, ishishini lakho, okanye kwenye indawo ngokupheleleyo. Thatha iikhosi ezongezelelweyo ukomeleza isiseko sakho kwaye ugubungele umsantsa wemfundo. Indlela entsha inokuvela, kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo. I-metamorphosis ayizukuhlala ingenantlungu, kodwa umbungu uya kuthi ekugqibeleni uphume ube libhabhathane.
5. Iindleko zeSunk Fallacy
Owona mqobo mkhulu endleleni yakho utyalo-mali osele ulwenzile ukufikelela kweli nqanaba. Uzakhele isazisi, elindelwe kwindalo yakho ukuba uqhubeke nayo.
Abazali bakho batyale imali kwimfundo yakho. Iqabane lakho litshatile nomntu onobuchule obuthile kunye nokuma ngokwasentlalweni. Abantwana bakho baziwa njengoonyana neentombi zaloo mntu. Ngamafutshane, isazisi sakho sichazwa lulindelo lwabo kuwe. Abaphathi bakho kunye nabacebisi bakho bakumisele ikhondo lomsebenzi othile, elinokuthi okanye elingayi kuba lilo eyakho ukuthanda.
Ukuba uyatshintsha kwaye ukhule njengomntu ngamnye, umntu unokukuqonda ukungonwabi kwabo xa ujongene nalo mntu mtsha. Banokuziva ngathi abamazi lo mntu, kwaye kufuneka bayenze ngokutsha imigaqo kunye neemeko zokujongana nawe. Kodwa ikwangabo bakwenza uzive ungonelanga apho wawukho. Banike ixesha kwaye baya kuphinda benze imeko apho baya kujongana nawe. Abanye baya kuwa ecaleni kwendlela, kwaye abanye baya kufunda ukudibana nokwenyani, hayi isinxibo osinxibileyo.
Imali ayinakuhoywa. Thatha ubungakanani bendawo okhoyo kuyo, kwaye ufumane indlela yokwabiwa ngokufanelekileyo kwezixhobo zakho ukulungiselela indawo yokuhlala eyakho iimfuno. Mhlawumbi uye wahlangabezana neemeko apho abantu bafumana imali kumgca othile womsebenzi, gcina ngokwaneleyo, kwaye emva koko batyale imali kwinto abayithanda ngokwenene ukuyenza. Mhlawumbi i-crossover yakho yenzeka iminyaka embalwa ezantsi emgceni, kwaye hayi kwangoko. Ukuba kunjalo, oku kukunika ixesha elaneleyo lokuzilungiselela, kunye ne-ecosystem, ukulungiselela utshintsho oluzayo.
6. Guqula uluvo lwakho lweDini
Igama elithi 'idini' liphoswa kwiindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Uncama iholide yoviwo lomntwana wakho, okanye yexakeka yeofisi. Uncama ikhondo lomsebenzi phesheya, ukhathalele abazali bakho apha. Kukho ‘amadini alindelekileyo,’ abathi bonke abazali bawenzele abantwana babo. Emva koko kukho ‘amadini anyanzeliswayo,’ afana nalawo uwenzela umbutho owusebenzelayo.
Ulichaza njani eli gama? Ukutshintsha isiqwenga sobomi, ngento enexabiso elincinci? Ukutshintsha into oyithandayo, eyokuthandwa nokungathandwa ngomnye umntu? Ukutshintsha ubuqu bakho, ukulungiselela indawo yokuhlala efanelekileyo? Ukutshintsha umnxeba wakho ebomini, ngemali?
Andifane ndibonane nemeko apho into ekuthiwa ngumnikelo ibiyindlela enye yokunikela. Umntu onikelayo uzuze into ngembuyekezo: ebambekayo, engabonakaliyo, okanye ebambekayo. Inokuba luyolo olufumanayo ngokubona abantwana bakho bekhula ebomini.
Umbuzo kuphela wendlela ochaza kancinane okanye ngaphezulu. Qonda iiparameter, kwaye wakhe isikali sokulinganisa ifuthe lezenzo zakho. Uya kulibona ixabiso kwenye indawo, kuzo zonke izenzo zakho. Akukho nto ililize. Unokuba nomsebenzi ongenambulelo, kodwa ufumene amava, ukuba awaziwa.
7. Phinda uchaze impumelelo
Ekuphela kwendlela yokwamkela ukusilela kukuchaza kwakhona impumelelo . Impumelelo ixhomekeke kulindelo lwabanye.
Walumkele amagama owasebenzisayo ukuchaza impumelelo. Amagama abeka iingcinga zethu, kwaye isigama esibolekiweyo sinokuyiphazamisa inkqubo yakho yokucinga. Ukuba kunjalo, amagama aba sisixhobo sokulawula iingcinga zakho, kunokuba ibe yindlela yokubonisa ngokunyanisekileyo. Hlala unyanisekile ngokusemandleni, kwaye ujonge imicimbi kunye nabantu njengoko benjalo, ngalo mzuzu, ngaphandle kokufaka izihluzo. Yenza ibhodi yombono , Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nabantu obathembayo, ukhangele amathuba amatsha okukunceda ufumane eyona nto uyifunayo ebomini. Hlala ucacile kulindelo kunye nemidlalo.
Olu lwazi luyakubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba umi phi kwiSangqa soBomi. Uya kuziva 'ugxile' kweyakho umntu owahlukileyo . Kuya kufuneka ucofe i Cwangcisa kwakhona iqhosha, ukuqala ubomi kwindawo oyifunayo.
