Zininzi iintlobo zeenjongo anokuthi umntu abeke, kodwa mhlawumbi ezona zibalulekileyo ekuhambeni kwexesha zezo zikhokelela ekukhuleni ngokomoya.
Kuba ukukhula kwalo naluphi na uhlobo kunqabile ukuba kwenzeke ngokwalo. Njengayo nayiphi na enye into, ifuna isicwangciso kunye nesenzo.
Esi sicwangciso sinokuza ngohlobo lweenjongo zokomoya, imizekelo eliqela yayo elandelayo ngezantsi.
Ngokusisiseko, iinjongo zokomoya ziyilelwe ukusinceda sidibane neenkolelo zethu ezingaphakathi kunye nokholo. Olu nxibelelwano luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhokelela kubomi obonwabileyo kunye nomxholo.
Imizekelo engezantsi iyasebenza kumntu olandela ikhowudi ethile yenkolo njengoko injalo kumntu ongumoya kodwa engenguye owenkolo.
Cinga ukubeka ezinye zeenjongo zokomoya- mhlawumbi enye okanye ezimbini ngexesha- kwaye unamathele kuzo de zibe yinxalenye yobomi bakho kunye nemikhwa.
1. Cacisa gca ukuba zithini na iinkolelo zakho.
Ukholelwa entwenini?
Lowo ngumbuzo omkhulu, kwaye lowo akusoloko kulula ukuwuphendula, kwanakwabo benza inkolo ethile.
Kodwa ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi imigaqo esisiseko onqwenela ukuyisekela ebomini bakho yinto ebaluleke kakhulu yokucacisa.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awunakho ukwenza iinkolelo zakho ukuba awuzazi ukuba ziyintoni.
Kwaye nokuba uyinxalenye yenkolo ehlanganisiweyo, kuya kubakho iimfundiso eziziva zibaluleke ngakumbi kunezinye.
Ukwazi iinkolelo zakho kuvela ekujongeni ngaphakathi kwaye ubuze ukuba uziva njani kukusondeza kwindawo yakho yokugqibela-nokuba inguThixo onguthixo, umthombo, iphela, okanye enye into.
Ngawaphi amanyathelo onokuwathatha-ngokwengqondo nangokwenyani- ukuphakamisa umoya wakho?
Mhlawumbi ezinye zeenjongo ezikolu luhlu zinokunika iimpendulo kulo mbuzo.
2. Cinga ngezenzo zakho.
Nje ukuba uyazi ukuba ukholelwa entwenini, kuyahlawula ukugcina umkhondo wokuba ubambelela njani kwezo nkolelo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Ngaba ukwenzile oko ukushumayelayo? Ngaba uzenzile izinto ezichasene neenkolelo zakho? Ngaba ukhe waziva ungqubana konke konke?
Ezi ziindidi zemibuzo onqwenela ukuyibuza ngexesha ixesha lokucingisisa .
Cinga nje okomzuzwana ukuze ume kancinci kuhambo lwakho kwaye ujonge zombini apho ukhe kwaye uya khona.
Ngaba uphila ngendlela onqwenela ukuphila ngayo, ukuba akunjalo, yintoni onokuyitshintsha ukuze uzibeke kwindlela efanelekileyo ngokwasemoyeni?
Ngamanye amaxesha ungafumanisa ukuba la maxesha okucinga acela umngeni kwiinkolelo oziva uqiniseke ngazo. Ayisiyiyo ukusilela kwicala lakho, kodwa kukucacisa nje ngakumbi ukuba yeyiphi eyakho yinyani iinkolelo.
3. Hlakulela uxolo.
Ubomi obulunge ngakumbi ngokomoya bobunye boxolo lwangaphakathi nolwangaphandle.
Injongo efanelekileyo, ke ngoko, kukufumana iindlela zokuzisa uxolo ngakumbi kwizinto ozenzayo, ubudlelwane onabo kunye neengcinga ezijikelezayo engqondweni yakho.
wenza ntoni xa udikiwe
Uxolo luchasene nembambano, ke ngoku kuchonga imithombo yongquzulwano kunye nokusebenza ukunciphisa uxinzelelo sisixhobo esisebenzayo sokukhula ngokomoya.
Oku kuninzi okuza kwindlela ophatha ngayo abanye, indlela ophendula ngayo kunyango lwabanye kuwe, kunye nengqondo ohamba nayo ebomini.
Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukhetho onalo kuwo wonke umzuzu wokuthatha isigqibo ngendlela oza kuziphatha ngayo. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na macala onke kuwe nokuba yintoni eyenziwa ngabantu, unokukhetha indlela yoxolo.
Unokukhetha ukuqonda, ukuxolela, ukujonga ngaphaya kwempindezelo okanye impindezelo.
Unokukhetha ukujongana nazo naziphi na iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo onokuthi ube nazo.
Unokukhetha ukuba ngumenzi woxolo naphi na apho uya khona.
Oku akuthethi ukwamkela unyango olungalunganga. Akunjalo. Inxalenye yokuphila ubomi obunoxolo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kukwazi ukuba uhambe nini emntwini oneentlungu ezibangela ukuba aziphathe ngendlela eziyingozi kuwe.
Okanye, ubuncinci, ukuseta imida kwinto oyithandayo nongayi kuyinyamezela.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iimpawu ezi-8 zoMntu oQolileyo ngokomoya
- Iimpawu ezi-12 zokuTshintshela kwinqanaba eliPhakamileyo loNgcono
- Imibuzo emi-5 emiNcinci enokuVusa uMoya wakho
4. Yiba nemfesane.
Ukuthetha ngentlungu yomnye umntu, enye indlela yokunxibelelana ngokunzulu nomoya wakho kukufuna iindlela zokunciphisa ukubandezeleka kwabanye.
Abantu abaninzi banemvelo yokufuna ukunceda abanye, kodwa ukwenza njalo ngendlela engaguqukiyo kwaye ngaphandle kokulindela ukufumana into njengembuyekezo kwahluke kwaphela.
Ukukhula ngokomoya ayingomvuzo wokusebenzela abanye- kodwa kuhlala kunjalo (nangona ngoku kusoloko kuyimveliso).
Ukuphila ubomi obunemfesane kukunceda uzive unombulelo ngakumbi ngezinto ezintle onazo kwaye uncede ekuthomalaliseni ukungakhathali okuhlala kungaphaya
Xa uziva kwaye ubonakalisa uvelwano emntwini, uyaziqonda ukuba ukuye. Uyabona ukuba wena nabo awahlukanga kangako.
Ngokwenza njalo, uye uthobeke ngakumbi kwaye ungaphantsi kokutya yiminqweno engeyiyo yokuqokelela kunye nokugcina ngakumbi izinto.
Imfesane sisiqwenga esikhulu sephazili kwinjongo elandelayo kuluhlu lwethu…
5. Qaphela unxibelelwano lwayo yonke into.
Inxalenye yobomi bokomoya ibandakanya ukujonga ngaphakathi, kodwa icandelo elikhulu ngokulinganayo lifuna ukuba ujonge kwihlabathi elikungqongileyo.
Uxolo nemfesane, njengoko sele sibonile, ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yale nto, kodwa kunjalo nokuqonda ukuba awuhlali wedwa.
indlela yokuphelisa ububi
Ngapha koko, nokuba uwedwa kwimiba emininzi, uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ebantwini nakwizinto ezikungqongileyo.
Yonke into idibanisa kuyo yonke enye into ngokusebenzisa iwebhu entsonkothileyo yemisonto, uninzi lwazo olungabonakaliyo nolungaxabisekanga.
Umoya esiwuphefumlayo, ukutya esikutyayo, izinto esizonwabelayo- zonke ziyimveliso zehlabathi apho uqhagamshele kuyo yonke enye into.
Nditsho nescreen ofunda kuso esi sisongezelelo sobomi, esenziwe bubukrelekrele boluntu kunye nezixhobo esithembele kuzo.
Unxibelelene nezo zinto-abo bantu, ezo zixhobo-ngendlela esondele kakhulu. Bachukumisa ubomi bakho kwaye nawe ubachukumise.
Oku kukuqonda okunzulu ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye enye inokuqhuba ukucinga ngokomoya, isenzo kunye nenkolelo kwinqanaba elitsha.
6. Ziqhelise ukunyamezelana.
Nangona sonke senziwe ngezinto ezifanayo kwaye siqhagamshelene ngeendlela ezinzulu, akukho bantu babini bayafana.
Kwaye ezinye zahluke kakhulu kuthi ngeendlela ezininzi. Indlela abakhetha ngayo ukuvakalisa izimvo zabo, iminqweno yabo, iinkolelo zabo, nezinto abazikhethayo.
Lo mahluko unokuba yimithombo yongquzulwano ukuba siyabavumela, kodwa unyamezelo lunokuthintela ukuba kungenzeki.
Ukunyamezelana kukwamkela loo mahluko kwaye kungenzi ukuba kube zizizathu zokungathembani.
Ukunyamezelana sisixhobo esiphambili soxolo, kodwa njengasentla, akufuneki kukhokelele ekwamkelweni kwonyango olubi.
Zinyamezele iiyantlukwano zethu, ewe, kodwa ungabanyamezeli abo banqwenela ukukwenzakalisa.
Unikwe ithuba, kuya kufuneka uhambe ngaphaya kokunyamezelana neyantlukwano yethu kwaye uyibhiyozele.
Ngummangaliso wobomi ukuba singaba nezigidigidi zabantu abahluke ngokupheleleyo, bonke benezipho zabo ukuba bazinike umhlaba.
7. Baxabise abantu ebomini bakho.
Uninzi lwamanqaku angaphambili abuyela kwinto enye ebalulekileyo: uluntu.
Kodwa ngelixesha usenokucinga ngoluntu njengeqela elibanzi labantu abahlala apho uhlala khona, sithetha ngoluntu lwakho.
Oko kukuthi, abo bantu banomdla (okanye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinxalenye) yobomi bakho.
Usapho lwakho, abahlobo, amaqabane, osebenza nabo… aba bantu mhlawumbi banempembelelo enkulu kubomi bakho kunayo nantoni na eyenye.
Kungenxa yeso sizathu le nto indawo enkulu ekukhuleni kwakho ngokomoya ijikeleze ukuhlangana kwakho naba bantu kwaye uyixabise kangakanani indawo yabo ebomini bakho.
Qaphela ukuba kuya kufuneka usebenzele kubudlelwane bakho kwaye awunakubathatha njengento engenamsebenzi.
Sebenza ekuboniseni uxabiso lwakho kwabanye abantu, ububele bakho kubo, kunye nokuqonda kwakho xa besebenza kwindawo ebuhlungu okanye eyenzakalisayo.
8. Yithi cwaka.
Njengoko uhamba kwindlela yakho yokomoya, uhlawula ukuyeka ingxolo engapheliyo yelizwe langaphandle nelingaphakathi kwaye uthi cwaka.
Unokubiza eli xesha umthandazo okanye ukucamngca, okanye usenokubiza ngokuba wedwa ngokuzolileyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela oyifunayo, ibinzana elithi 'ukuthula ligolide' lifanelekile.
Lithuba elihle lokuba uphumle kwaye uvumele 'umphefumlo' wakho, ngokusilela kwelizwi elingcono, ukuba uze kubuso bakho.
Kuyamangalisa ngokwenyani ukuba ixesha lokuthula linokuthini ngengqondo, umzimba, kwaye, kunjalo, nomoya.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungasebenza njani ngokomoya? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.