Abantu benza umsebenzi omangalisayo wokuthetha ngokwabo kulonwabo lwabo. Kubonakala ngathi kwakamsinya nje ukuba sifikelele kwizinto esizilangazelelayo, amehlo ethu atshintshela kwinto elandelayo esondeleyo.
Oku kusukelwa rhoqo kwezinto ezintsha, amava amatsha, iimeko ezintsha kukungqisha okungapheliyo okusidinisayo kude kube singasafumani lonwabo novuyo ezizinto zisinike zona.
Kwaye akuncedi oko ubomi bunzima . Kuhlala kukho into eyoyikekayo eyenzekayo emhlabeni ukusikhumbuza ukuba kufanelekile ukuba sibe noxabiso ngakumbi, senze okungakumbi, sifune ngakumbi, sizame ukufumana into ebhetele kuko konke oku.
Endaweni yoko, kufuneka siqonde ukuba kutheni singonelisekanga kwaye sisebenzele ukulungisa lo mbandela.
Makhe sijonge ezinye zezizathu ezikhulu zokuba kutheni 'ungenakufumana ukwaneliseka' njengoko iiRolling Stones zicula.
1. Awuyixabisi into osele unayo.
Umbulelo yindawo eqhelekileyo yokuthetha kwindawo yokuzinceda kunye nempilo yengqondo. Naphi na apho ujonga khona, konke malunga 'nombulelo, umbulelo, umbulelo!'
Nangona kunjalo, kuyamangalisa ukuba bambalwa kangakanani abantu ababonakala bezichaza ngenene izibonelelo zombulelo kunye nendlela enokububumba ngayo ubomi bakho.
Masenze oko ngoku.
Umbulelo umalunga nokutshintsha umbono wakho. Umntu ojolise kuyo yonke into angenayo kwaye ayifunayo kudala ukungavisisani ngaphakathi. Bahlala bezixelela ukuba abanelanga, ukuba bafuna ukuba ngaphezulu, kwaye kufuneka basebenze nzima. Leyo ayisiyondaba esempilweni onokuyiphindaphinda engqondweni yakho.
Ukubulela kukwaphula loo ngxelo. Endaweni yokugxila kuyo yonke into ongenayo, ujolisa kwizinto onazo, nokuba azininzi. Nokuba ubomi bakho abuyonto intle, okanye ukhe wehlelwa zizinto ezimbi. Yonke imihla esidonsa ngayo umoya sisipho kunye nento esinokuyibulela kuba uninzi lwabantu alunaso eso sibonelelo.
Kulula kakhulu ukoneliseka nguwe kunye nobomi bakho xa ujolise kwinto onayo. Uyazisusa kwi-treadmill 'ufumane ngaphezulu' kunye noxinzelelo lwexesha elizayo.
ukuba wenzeni xa umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ekungcatsha
Ngokwenyani, yonke into onayo namhlanje ingahamba ngomso. Yindlela nje yokuphila ehamba ngamanye amaxesha.
2. Awuziceli mngeni.
Uninzi lwabantu luthintela umda kukoyika kwabo kunye noxinzelelo. Ufuna ntoni kanye kanye? Ngaba uyasukela? Okanye uyoyika ukuyilandela?
Ngaba uyafuna ukwazisa eli shishini? Ungathini ukuba iyasilela? Ungathini xa ikubiza yonke into kwaye ikufaka ematyaleni? Ungathini ukuba akukho nto ihamba kakuhle?
Ngaba uyafuna ukwakha usapho olunothando? Ngaba uzibeka phaya? Ukuzivumela ukuba ube sesichengeni kwaye uthathe umngcipheko oza nokuba sesichengeni kubantu abatsha?
Endaweni yokubeka amandla kwizinto esizifunayo ngokwenene, siyaziphazamisa ngeenjongo eziphambili ezingatyhaleli imida yethu.
Woneliseka njani bubomi bakho kanti awuhambelani nento eyenza ukuba umphefumlo wakho ucule?
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Ukuba ufuna ukoneliseka ebomini, kuya kufuneka ulandele izinto ezikubizayo.
'Kodwa qhubeka,' Ndikuva usithi, 'Khange undixelele nje ukuba ndibulele into endinayo endaweni yokuleqa ngaphezulu?'
Ewe ukhona kodwa umahluko phakathi kokuzicel 'umngeni kunye nokungabi nambulelo ngento onayo.
Ngapha koko, ukuzibeka ngokwakho kwimiceli mngeni kunye nokuziqhelanisa nombulelo akuhambelani ngokukodwa - ungazenza zombini ngaxeshanye.
Konke malunga nokufumana indawo eyonwabileyo phakathi kokuhlala kakuhle kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela apho ungangayilandeli loo nto ikwenza wonwabe ngokwenyani, kwaye uzityhale nzima ukuze ungazonwabeli izibonelelo zakho.
Akukho mngeni uhlala uthetha ukungoneliseki. Ngokunjalo, ukugxila kakhulu kumceli mngeni kushiya indawo encinci yolwaneliseko.
3. Awuhlali kweli xesha langoku.
Izinto zazingcono kakhulu ngaphambili! Ewe, mhlawumbi babenjalo, mhlawumbi babengekho. Izinto ziya kuba ngcono kakhulu kwikamva! Ewe, mhlawumbi.
Ubomi abuhlali buhamba ngendlela esiceba ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha asikwazi ukuwabonisa amaphupha ethu ngendlela ebesithembe ngayo. Okanye mhlawumbi ubomi bukuphose nje nge-curveball enkulu, kwaye ngoku kuya kufuneka ujongane nokuwa kwento embi. Ukugula kuyenzeka, abantu bayafa, iintlekele ziyanda. Kwaye akukho namnye kuthi okhethekileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ayiphephe le ntlekele. Konke kuyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yamava omntu.
Kuqhelekile ukulangazelela ixesha apho izinto bezinokuba ngcono, xa umhlaba ubunokuba yindawo ekhanyayo, okanye ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke into ebuhlungu. Ingxaki kukuba asinabo obo bunewunewu. Kuninzi ukuchitha ixesha njengokulangazelela ikamva esele singenalo.
Ukwaneliseka ngobomi kunokufumaneka kuphela kulo mzuzu wangoku, ke kuya kufuneka phila okwangoku ukuziva wonelisekile.
Awuyenzi loo nto ukuba unqwenela ixesha elidlulileyo elingasekhoyo okanye ikamva elingenakuze lifike. Buyisa ingqondo yakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku xa uzifumana uphupha malunga nekamva okanye uphulukana nexesha elidlulileyo.
Ungasiphucula njani isipho sakho? Ungalufumana njani ulonwabo ngalo mzuzu, ngoku? Leyo yimibuzo bekufanele ukuba uyayibuza.
4. Awunazo naziphi na iinjongo okanye iminqweno.
Ngaba uyayiqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo ukoneliseka bubomi xa ungazazi nokuba ufuna ntoni ebomini?
KukuBamba okungama-22. Kwelinye icala, ufuna ukufumana ulwaneliseko ngobomi bakho. Kwelinye icala, awuyazi eyona nto iya kukwenza uzive wanelisekile. Uqala ngaphi? Ingaba wenza ntoni? Uyazi njani into ekufuneka uyenzile?
Ufuna ukwazi imfihlo? Imfihlo eyimfihlo ngokwenene?
Ayinamsebenzi into oyenzayo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uyeke ukuzibuza, uyeke ukucinga, kwaye uqale ukwenza izinto.
Unokuchitha iminyaka ungaziqondi ucinga kwaye ucingisise, kwaye awuyi kuba nanto konke konke ukubonisa lonke elo xesha lichithwe. Thelekisa loo mntu nomntu ongena nzulu emsebenzini kwaye aqale ukuhamba. Baza kufika apho baya khona ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Indlela elula yokufumana izinto eziza kukufezekisa ebomini ukuphuma kunye nokwenza izinto. La mava akufundisa into oyithandayo, ongayithandiyo, kwaye ikuveze kumathuba onokungawaqondi. Ikwaquka abanye abantu onokuba nefuthe kubo okanye abanokukuvulela iingcango.
ndithandana nendoda endala etshatileyo
'Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ndithatha isigqibo esingalunganga!'
Uza ku. Sonke siyakwenza, kungekudala okanye kamva. Yamkele njengengaphephekiyo. Xa oko kusenzeka, bonwabela amava, kwaye udlulele kwinto elandelayo. Oko kunzima njengoko kufuneka kube njalo.
Ubomi abuhlali buhamba ngendlela esibufuna ngayo, kodwa singaya kwicala eliqhelekileyo apho sicinga ukuba singafuna ukuphelela khona. Kwaye ngubani owaziyo, unokufumana ukwaneliseka kwindawo ethile ekude obungakhange ucinge ukuba iya kukulungela. Ubomi buyinto engaqhelekanga ngamanye amaxesha.
5. Awuyigqibi into oyiqalileyo.
Ukoneliseka kuhlala kuvela ekuboneni iprojekthi okanye injongo ukuya esiphelweni. Kodwa abanye abantu banengxaki yokugqiba oko bakuqalileyo.
Endaweni yoko, bayaxhuma-jika besuka kwenye into besiya kwenye, benza amasuntswana apha naphaya, bezibandakanya kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo okanye kwiindawo zomsebenzi kunokuba babambelele kwinto enye ixesha elide.
Ungayibiza ngokuba yi 'shiny object syndrome' kuba xa nje lo mntu eqala enye into, intloko yakhe ijikwa yenye into abacinga ukuba ingangcono kwaye ibe mnandi ngaphezu kwale banayo. Bahlala belangazelela into elandelayo ekhazimlayo, bekholelwa ukuba iya kuba yeyona nto ibazisela ulwaneliseko.
Into abayifumanayo endaweni yoko yimfumba yeeprojekthi ezigqitywe ngesiqingatha emva kokuvuka kwabo.
Ke xa ubeka ingqondo yakho kwinto ethile, yenze ngokwenyani. Ngena nzulu kuloo nto kwaye uyizame okwethutyana. Yibone ugqityiwe kwaye uya kuziva ungcono ngayo.
Kufana nokufunda isiqingatha sencwadi ngaphambi kokuba uyilahle ecaleni kwaye uqale enye. Awusoze uzive wanelisekile ngokungazi ukuba ibali lenze njani. Fikelela esiphelweni, vula iphepha lokugqibela kwiprojekthi, bhanya kukukhanya okufudumeleyo okuvela ekugqibeni into.
ungajongana njani nomyeni ozifunayo
6. Uhlala ngaphandle kwezinto onazo.
Wakhe waliva ibinzana elithi 'indlela yokuphila ihamba'? Ukuhamba ngendlela yokuphila ligama elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza ukwanda kweendlela zokuchitha imali ukuze zithelekise umvuzo ophezulu.
Oko kukuthi, xa ufumana olo nyuselo lukhulu okanye ekugqibeleni umhlaba lowo ungcono, uyayonyusa inkcitho yakho kuba hee! Ngoku ungayifumana! Oku kukwanika inkcitho ngokubanzi yemali kwizinto zemihla ngemihla kuba unengeniso engaphezulu. Ingxaki kukuba oku kunokuphazamisa ngokulula ubomi bakho kwaye kukushiye ngasemva.
Omnye umba wokuhlala ngaphandle kwendlela onayo usebenzisa imali ukufumana izinto ozifunayo. Imoto entsha inokuba yinto entle. Ukuba ne-30,000 yeedola kuyo akukuhle kangako. Oko kukuzinikela kweminyaka-yonke yokuqinisekisa ukuba kufuneka ubekwimo yokukwazi ukwenza iintlawulo zakho, kungenjalo usengozini yokuphulukana nemoto kunye nokungabinamali.
Elinye igama elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza olu hlobo lwezinto 'zii-handcuff zegolide.' Ligama elisoloko lisetyenziselwa ukuchaza abantu abasuka emsebenzini okanye kwimfundo ephantsi baye kwimisebenzi ehlawulwa kakhulu. Bayaphuma baye kuthenga imoto entle, indlu entle, iimpahla ezintsha, kwaye ngoku kufuneka bagcine loo msebenzi kunye nengeniso ephezulu ukuze bagcine konke. Abasenalo ukhetho lokuntywila kuloo meko ukuba abayifuni kuba besongelwe luxanduva lwezezimali.
Kuyinto enzima ukoneliseka bubomi bakho xa uzama ukugcina zonke iipleyiti zijikeleza ukuze zingangqubeki ezikujikelezile.
Esona sisombululo sisiso kukuphuhlisa imikhwa elungileyo yemali, ukwenza uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali (nokuba lusisiseko), kwaye uphile ngaphantsi kweendlela onazo.
Gcina ingxowa-mali engxamisekileyo yeedola ezili-1000 kwimeko yokuba isifudumezi-manzi sakho siqhuma okanye imoto yakho yonakala. Zama ukugcina okungenani i-20% yomvuzo wakho. Yitya kancinci. Funda ukupheka, kwaye ungonga umthwalo. Kungekudala okanye kamva, ubomi buza kwenzeka, kwaye uya kufuna loo mkhosi.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni ungoneliseki bubomi? Ngaba uyafuna ukuba? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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