Ukuphuma ngaphandle ngokwethu kubonakala kungumsebenzi onzima kwihlabathi eliya lisiba lityekele kuye wonke umntu ofumana elona nani liphezulu lonxibelelwano lomntu. Ngaphantsi kwelensi engaguquguqukiyo, uvelwano kwabanye luye luthathe indawo yomnyhadala ukuze sifumane ukuthandwa, ukucofa, ukujonga, okanye ukutshintshela zonke iindlela zokuzibhiyozela eziphuma kwilizwe 'lentlalontle' ukuya kubomi bokwenyani.
Siyakulibala oko asingabo bonke abantu, iingcinga zethu aziyonyani eqinisekisiweyo, kwaye kananjalo asikhululwanga ekukhutshweni ngamadolo ethu amaxesha ngamaxesha kwiindlela zobomi ezinamatye okuziphatha.
Ukuba ubomi bethu buchaphazeleke kakhulu bubuchwephesha, ngamaxesha entlalontle, ngaba singafumana ukuthula emva apho sive into ethethwa ngumntu kunokuba siphendule ngokungathi bayimemezi yosuku?
Ngokuqinisekileyo nangokungenakuphikwa ewe.
Singatshintsha.
Singaguqula.
Kwaye kuqala ngothando…
Uvelwano Kubomi Bakho Bothando
Nye) Masithi usebudlelwaneni (njengoko uninzi lwethu lukhona). Olu lwalamano lunokuba lutsha okanye lube kukuma ixesha elide. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ufuna ukuba intyatyambo kunokuba ube yindawo engenamntu egcwele ngamarhawu. Ukuvuleleka kwi- iimfuno , iimvakalelo, neengcinga zabanye ngamanzi kulomhlaba. Ukwandisa uvelwano lwakho kuya kukwenza ukuba unake ngakumbi, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuzisiphula neengcambu iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba zibe yimicimbi engene nzulu. Igadi yakho iyakhula.
Mbini) Iya kunceda unxibelelwano , yeyiphi kwandisa ulwalamano , eyonyukayo ulwalamano. Nudge nudge wink wink. Ukuba ukunyuka kwamaxesha okufumana amava e-nibbly bits yakho ayikufanelanga inguqu, singavala ivenkile size sibone ukuba yintoni ngoku kwi-telly.
3) Uya kuzifumana sele ufumene isiphelo sokuncanywa okuninzi ngakumbi. IiHugs ziye zaqinisekiswa ukuba ziphucula amajoni omzimba ngokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ukuwolana kwandisa uluvo lomntu ngenkxaso kwezentlalo kwaye kunciphisa imvakalelo yokuzahlula umhlaba oqhutywa ndim ngokungathandabuzekiyo uyadala. Kwaye ukwangana kwenza abantu ababini abangazange badibane ngaphambili baziva unxibelelwano kwangoko. Khawufane ucinge ngento eyongeza phakathi kwezithandani!
4) Uvelwano kunceda umntu ukuba abeke phambili . Izinto ezingabalulekanga ebezikade ziyidreyini enkulu (kodwa yayiqala emgceni kuLuhlu lweZinto eziNdichazayo) ziqala ukubuyela umva, ziphele, kwaye oothixo bavuma-bawe. Ngoba? Kuba uvelwano nalo luyanda intuition , Kwaye ukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba izinto ezinobunzima obucinga ukuba zibaluleke kakhulu… azikho.
Umanyano losapho
Abanye bethu beva amagama athi 'ukudibana kosapho' kwaye bacinga ngokukhawuleza 'ngeMfazwe yesibini yeHlabathi.' Ukuba ubudlelwane bezothando bunokubakho ngokufanelekileyo kumhlaba wamarhawu, iintsapho zinokutshiswa emhlabeni ngamatye e-volcanic avelise amaqunube amnandi athi u-Aunt Meg ongathandabuzekiyo azame ukubhaka ipayi.
Iintsapho zethu zihlala zingabo ubuncinci Ezingqonge esizigcinayo, ubukhulu becala kuba sifundisiwe ukuba kufuneka sinyamezele naziphi na izitya zosapho. (Ndingaphezulu kwe 'Igazi linokuba linyinyithele kunamanzi, kodwa uya kuphuma igazi ngaphambi kokuba ufe lunxano'.
5) Ukuba ukugweba yamkelwe njengentsapho engenakuphepheka enamandla - nangona ingeyiyo - khawuthelekelele iyantlukwano ukuba wonke umntu kusapho uziva evile, ebonwa, kwaye ehlonitshwa. Khawufane ucinge ngokwanda kothando, inkathalo kunye nokuqwalaselwa ngaphakathi kwiyunithi yosapho. Ukufunda ukuba yintoni uvelwano kwaye kutheni kubalulekile kuyakwenza oku. Kuyamangalisa ukuba intshayelelo yethu yokuqala kwiiyunithi zentlalo yenye ebhiyozela a ukungabikho kovelwano .
Ukukhathalela kuthetha ukomeleza nokwenza imixokelelwane yokwenene ngaphaya kwe-DNA nje!
Amathemba emisebenzi
Sonke siye sababona abantu abenza ukuba ibe yinto bacaphukela yonke into ngemisebenzi yabo . Oku akuthethi ukuba akukho misebenzi egqibeleleyo yomphefumlo. Bona: 90% yelizwe elinamashishini. Kodwa abo batyhafileyo, abantu abafakwe ngokukrakra kunqabile ukuba babonakale behamba phambili, ecaleni, phezulu okanye ezantsi: bahlala kanye apho bakhoyo.
Ukunyusa kunye nokukhula kwenzeka kuyo yonke indawo kodwa phantsi kweenyawo zabo. (Ngaphandle kokuthetha ukuba iijezi aziphumeleli, kuba, kwakhona, iipesenti ezingama-90 zehlabathi elihambele phambili, kodwa intliziyo enovelwano ichaza ukuchuma ngeendlela ezingasoloko ziluncedo ngaphezu kobume nobutyebi kuphela.)
6) Ukwanda kovelwano, ukubeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuyakwenza kubonakale ngathi uzilahla ngaphezulu kokuchuma kwakho. Ukubonwa njengomdlali weqela okhathalayo malunga impumelelo epheleleyo (okt abo bakungqongileyo) iya kuvula iingcango ezininzi, iingcango ezinokukukhokelela kude Ukusuka kwinkampani A iye kwindawo entsha ngokupheleleyo kunye nenkampani B!
7) Kwaye njengoko kuvela amathuba, umdla wakho uyonyuka… ovula amathuba nangakumbi! Iileta zokuncoma ziye zinciphe “Ewe, usebenze apha” nangakumbi “Bekumnandi ukuba naye apha!”
Uvuyo luzala uvuyo. Oko kuthwala ukuphindaphinda ukusukela ngoku kude kube yinto yokugqibela ewayo evela kwincam ye-sooty yenkwenkwezi yokugqibela. Unokude uvelise loo msebenzi mtsha ungcono ubungazi ukuba uzokugcinelwa wona.
Uvelwano lubalulekile kulonwabo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Kutheni ukungabikho kovelwano kungafunyanwa kuphela kwiiNarcissists nakwiiSociopaths
- Izakhono ezi-5 zoNxibelelwano eziBalulekileyo kuMsebenzi wakho, ubudlelwane kunye nobomi
- Izinto ezi-4 zaBantu abaXhalabileyo
- Nika abantu ezi zinto zintathu ukubenza bonwabe
Ubuhlobo
8) Eyona ndlela ilungileyo tshintsha ukwazana-iinqanawa kubuhlobo kukuba nobuhlobo ngokwenene. Ukuze ube nobuhlobo ngokwenene, kufuneka ukhathalele ngaphezu kwakho. Kuya kufuneka ukhathalele indlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo malunga nento oyenzayo nayithethayo.
Ukuba umhlobo omnye umntu angathetha naye yiglue kunxibelelwano oluninzi lwasentlalweni, ukusuka kumatheko ukuya ekudibaneni ukuya kwizidlo ezithe cwaka kwimisebenzi yecawa, kuba zisebenza zisuka kwimvakalelo yothando oluhamba ngaphandle kunokuba ngumjelo wangaphakathi Ndibone!
Ukwanda kovelwano kuthetha abantu ndifuna ukuba kufutshane nawe bafuna ukukubandakanya kwezona ndawo zivuyayo ebomini babo kuba, ngokulula, luyintoni uvuyo? (Jonga ngasentla.)
Eyakho Imvo yeNjongo
9) Okokugqibela, ukwandisa uvelwano kuguqula u-o-u. Ayizizo izibonelelo zangaphandle, ezimangalisayo, kodwa yinyama yenjini ehamba yodwa ejikelezayo kweli litye likhulu, liluhlaza elijija indlela yalo ngesithuba sangaphandle njengebhetshi ephuma esihogweni. Zonke izibonelelo ezidwelisiweyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ziba yinzuzo ngaphakathi kuwe mdala.
10) Ukwanda kovelwano kukuvulela imvo yokunxibelelana. Uyayiqonda loo nto, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, awuwedwa. Umntu apha phandle uziva nawe. Uxabisekile, uyafuneka, kwaye kukho abo bakulungeleyo nabakulungeleyo okomzuzwana ukukhupha nawuphi na umthwalo okufikelayo ude ube nakho ukubuyela ezinyaweni zakho. Kwilizwe lovelwano olwandileyo, ubalulekile. Ubaluleke kakhulu.
Oku kukhokelela ekubeni uqonde ukuba abantu, banikwe ithuba lokuba boyike, baya kuba boyikeka. Thabatha ingxolo kunye nodonga esixelelwa ukuba 'bubomi bale mihla' (ngendlela efanayo naleyo sixelelwa ngayo ukuba igazi liyajiya kune… ufumana ukukhukuliseka), unxibelelwano lwethu omnye komnye lube zizinto eziqinisekisa ubomi ngokumangalisayo. Abantu bafuna ukubhiyozela kangangoko ufuna ukuba babhiyozele.
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Utshintshiwe
Siguqula ubomi bethu kwiichunks ezinkulu nezincinci, zihlala zilungile okanye zigula zibonwa njengengqekembe yemali, xa inyani inguquko inokuqikelelwa: into engenayo yile iphumayo. Ukwakha ubunzima bemisipha, songeza ubunzima. Ukunyusa inkxalabo esinayo omnye komnye, kufuneka sizingqonge ngokuqwalaselwa okuyinyani, imo yokunxibelelana, kunye nokuzimisela ukuvumela iingqondo neentliziyo zethu ukuba ziqhakaze kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo.
Ubomi buhamba buye ekubeni yile teapot iyodwa isoloko ikhupha umphunga ukuya kunkcenkceshela unokunika amathontsi ngokufana nokupholisa, ukwamkela imvula.
Ihlabathi elingcono, elinovelwano ngakumbi alinakwenzeka, kwaye izibonelelo ziyamangalisa.
