Andiyikhathalele nakuphi na ukunconywa okanye ukutyholwa. Ndilandela nje ezam iimvakalelo.
-UWolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Ngaba ukhe uzive ngathi ubambekile kumbindi wokutsala phakathi kwentliziyo yakho nengqondo yakho? Ukuba kunjalo, yeyiphi onokuthi ngesiqhelo iphumelele?
Ukuba ufana nabantu abaninzi, impendulo inokuba yingqondo yakho. Bambalwa kuthi abamamela iimvakalelo zethu zokwenyani ngenxa yoko siyehluleka ukuyithatha imiyalezo ebalulekileyo abayithumelayo.
Kule nqaku, ndiza kujonga ukuba kutheni le nto isenzeka, into ekufuneka uyikhumbule ngeemvakalelo, indlela yokuziqonda, kunye nendlela eyiyo yokujongana nazo.
Imeko yangoku
Andicingi ukuba ndilahlekile kakhulu xa ndisithi uninzi lwabantu ikakhulu lukhokelwa ziingcinga zabo. Umnqweno wokulinganisa ubuhle kunye neengozi zayo yonke imeko unamandla kuba oku kuhlala kufundiswa njengeyona ndlela yokujongana neengxaki.
Ngokubhekisele kwimicimbi ethile, apho isisombululo esifanelekileyo sinokufumaneka ngesizathu, oku kwenza ingqiqo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ndibuze ukuba zingaphi izihlandlo ezinokwenzeka ngokwenene.
Ukanti apha sidibene ngabantu abavumela ukuba iingcinga zilawule indlela esibuphila ngayo ubomi bethu. Siyazicinezela iimvakalelo zethu ngokuthanda iingqondo zethu, sikholelwa ukuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo ukufikelela ulwaneliseko kwaye uphephe ukuphoxeka.
Ukungazivezi ezona mvakalelo zakho zokwenene kumntu omkhulu kubonakala ngathi yinto yemvelo ukusukela kwiminyaka esixhenxe okanye esibhozo ukuya phambili.
-George Orwell
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zoku kungenxa yokuba sinqwenela ukungqinelana noluntu olugatya iimvakalelo ngokungathandekiyo.
Iinkqubo zethu zemfundo zihlala ziza 'ngohlobo olunye lulingana nazo zonke' indlela apho umntu ngamnye azabalaza khona ukuba aqhakaze phakathi kwekharityhulamu engqongqo ebekwe libhunga lolawulo. Endaweni yokwamkela iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yomfundi ngamnye, izama ukufaka izikhonkwane ezisisikwere kwimingxunya ejikelezileyo. Ke, abantu bethu abancinci bafundiswa ukufihla isiqwenga sabo kude ukuze baphile.
Umdibaniso wehlabathi lamashishini amakhulu awunakubangcono ngaphambili. Iinkampani zifuna uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi olonwabisayo, ongaphazamisiyo, 'umdlali weqela osebenzayo' osebenza nzima kwaye olungileyo ukucinga ngokugxekayo . Abathandanga kangako ukuqesha abantu abanovakalelo abasebenzisa amathumbu abo ukunceda ekukhokeleni izigqibo zabo.
ukuba wenzeni xa ungakhathali nje
Nokuba sikunye neentsapho zethu kunye nabahlobo, sisenokungasoloko siziva sikwazi ukwenza njalo siveze ezona mvakalelo zethu . Ukuba sikholelwa ekubeni ziya kuchasana nezabanye, sinokukhetha ukungazihoyi kwaye sinxibe isigqubuthelo ukuze samkelwe ngobuxoki.
La kunye namanye amaziko ezentlalo afana neendaba zosasazo kunye norhulumente konke kubonakala ngathi kusikhokelela kwinkcubeko yokuthintela kunye nokuthintela.
Zama ukungalahleki xa uzithelekisa nabanye. Fumanisa izipho zakho kwaye zivumele zikhanye!
-UJennie Finch
Esinye isizathu esiphambili sokungakhathaleli ukumamela iimvakalelo zethu kukuba sixakeke kakhulu sinqwenela ukuba ngomnye umntu.
ithini inqaku loku
Inkqubo ye- unqwenela ukuzithelekisa nabanye kubonakala ngathi ikhule yaya kubungakanani benyikima yezinto ezibanzi kakhulu ukuba zingangena apha.
Kodwa iziphumo kukuba sihlengahlengisa indlela iimvakalelo zethu ezisixelela ngayo ukuba siyayifuna ngenene kwaye, endaweni yoko, sijolise kwinto esiziva simelwe ukuba siyayifuna ngokusekelezelwe kwabanye nokuba yintoni abanayo.
Kuphantse kufana nokuba sibe ngabantu abenziwe ikakhulu ngabantu abalandelanayo abalibeleyo ukuba ngumntu.
Ngaba asiziqondi ngokuchanekileyo iimvakalelo kwasekuqaleni?
Ukuba umntu ukubuza ukuba uloyiko okanye usizi zilungile okanye azilunganga, ubunokuthi ngokwemvelo zibi. Cinga kwakhona…
Imvakalelo, iyodwa, ayilunganga okanye ayilunganga.
Xa ulusizi, luhlobo lwe intlungu engokweemvakalelo kwaye inokuthi, ngeendlela ezininzi, ilinganiswe nentlungu oyivayo xa usika umnwe wakho okanye utshise idolo.
Kodwa iintlungu luphawu nje oluxelela ingqondo yakho ukuba kukho into engalunganga kukusikwa okanye ukugruzuka okuyingxaki esisiseko ekufuneka ujongane nayo umzimba.
Ngokufanayo, imvakalelo luphawu nje olusuka kwisiqu sakho sangaphakathi ukuya kwingqondo yakho ukuxelela ukuba into ayilunganga ncam. Ngokungafaniyo neentlungu zomzimba, ingxaki esisiseko ihlala ingaphandle.
Kodwa iimvakalelo azinakuhoywa, nokuba zibonakala zingenabulungisa okanye zingenambulelo.
-U-Anne Frank
Ngelixa umzimba unganyanga izifo ezininzi ngaphandle kongenelelo lwakho, okufanayo akunakuthethwa ngemicimbi yeemvakalelo. Awungekhe ungaluhoyi usizi ngethemba lokuba luzakunyamalala, kuba kuya kufuneka ujongane nezona zinto zibangela, ngokufana nomzimba wakho xa usenza iingxaki zomzimba.
Ndingacebisa ukuba abantu abaninzi bacinge ukuba iimvakalelo azikho ngqiqweni, zingenangqondo kwaye azincedi ukwenza izigqibo . Endaweni yoko, bajonge kuncedo lwangaphandle kunye nolwazi ekunokusekwa kulo.
Okwangoku, iimvakalelo zethu aziphelelanga kulwazi esinokulufumana ngokulula ezingqondweni zethu, kodwa ilayibrari enkulu kakhulu yeenkumbulo kunye nolwazi igcinwe zingabikho zingqondweni .
Ke, enyanisweni, iimvakalelo zethu ngokuqinisekileyo zinikezela ngesibonakaliso esichanekileyo sazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga kwimeko uninzi lwazo esingenakho ukuyiqonda ngokuvakalayo.
Isiphetho, ke, kukuba ngelixa ingqondo yakho esengqiqweni iluncedo kakhulu kwezinye iimeko, isikelwe umda kakhulu kwezinye. Ke, iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho kufuneka zisetyenziswe ngaxeshanye kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo.
Ayizizo iimvakalelo OKANYE ingqiqo ziimvakalelo KUNYE nokuqiqa.
Ukufunda ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho
Nje ukuba ukubone ukubaluleka kokumamela iimvakalelo zakho, iba ngumthambo ekufundeni ukuba kanjani.
Le nkqubo inokufana nokufunda ulwimi olutsha - kuyakuthatha ixesha elincinci ukuqonda oko kuthethwayo kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula. Ke sukulindela ukuyilawula ngobusuku!
Inyathelo lokuqala lenkqubo kukufunda ukwahlula phakathi kweemvakalelo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo onokuba nazo. Akonelanga ukuhlanganisa zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zibe lusizi, uloyiko okanye umsindo kunye nazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo zibe kulonwabo, uvuyo okanye uthando kufuneka sandise isigama sethu seemvakalelo ukuze siqonde oko kuthethwayo.
izinto ukujonga emfazini
Thatha umona kunye nekhwele umzekelo abantu abaninzi abaza kusokola ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwabo. Nangona kunjalo zahlukile ngendlela ebaluleke kakhulu: umona yile nto uziva ngayo xa unqwenela into onayo omnye umntu, ngelixa umona kukuziva xa kukho isoyikiso sokuba ungaphulukana nento esele unayo.
Unokuba nomona ngolwalamano oluhle lomnye umntu, kodwa awunakuba nomona ngalo, kuba akukho loyikiso lwelahleko kuwe.
Ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakho, ke, linyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo lokufunda kubo.
Umzimba wakho unokubonelela ngeendlela zokuziva kwakho, nangona kufanelekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukubonakaliswa komzimba okufanayo kwenzeka kwiimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo.
Umzekelo, ukonwaba kunye noxinzelelo kwabelana ngezinto ezifanayo zomzimba: iintende ezibilayo, intliziyo ebalekayo, kunye novakalelo olukhulu kwisandi kunye nokukhanya. Kodwa ngelixa uxinzelelo lunokukunika isisu esingazinzanga, le ayisiyiyo uphawu oluhlala lunxulunyaniswa nemincili.
Ke, kuya kufuneka udibanise iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo zomzimba, kunye neendlela zokukunceda ukuba usebenze kakuhle.
Iintloko zentloko eziqhelekileyo ziyafana noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, ukukhanya okukhanyayo kukothuka, kunye nesicaphucaphu ngokucekiseka. Ke, qaphela into exelelwa ngumzimba wakho.
Indlela ebhetele yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho
Nje ukuba uchonge ukuba yeyiphi imvakalelo, inyathelo elilandelayo kukufumanisa unobangela wayo.
Ngaba kukho ngaphezu kwesinye soulmate
Ngaba kufanelekile yiva umona ngokuvuleleka kweqabane lakho nomnye umntu, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba ngubani umntu wesithathu onomona ngaye kunye nento abelana ngayo neqabane lakho ofumanisa ukuba iyasoyikisa.
Mhlawumbi bathetha ngeengxaki zabo nomzali okanye umntakwabo kunokuba baxoxe nawe. Kuqala, zibuze ukuba kutheni le nto uyibona isoyikisa ulwalamano lwakho. Mhlawumbi uziva ngathi wena neqabane lakho aninabo ubunyani bokwenyani ngenxa yokuba ninjalo Andikwazi ukunxibelelana nzulu njengoko ungathanda.
Iingcinga zam zizithunzi zeemvakalelo zethu-zihlala zimnyama, zingenamandla kwaye zilula.
- UFriedrich Nietzsche
Emva koko, cinga ngendlela onokuthi ubazise ngayo ngendlela engenangxabano.
Okokugqibela, jonga ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo anokuthathwa ukusombulula umba. Kule meko, wena neqabane lakho ninokuzibophelela ekuvulekeni ngakumbi komnye nomnye, okanye unokukhetha ukwamkela ukuba iqabane lakho linazo ezinye izibophelelo kwaye oku akubonakalisi ukuba ulwalamano aluphumelelanga.
Eli nyathelo liyaphikisana nendlela yesiqhelo ethathiweyo, eyokukhupha iimvakalelo zakho ngendlela engenachaphaza (umzekelo, ukuba nomqolo) okanye ukubacinezela. Akukho ndlela imele isisombululo.
Ukudibanisa iimvakalelo zakho kubomi bemihla ngemihla
Okwangoku, kubalulekile ukuba uxoxe malunga nendlela ovumela ngayo iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ukuba zikukhokele yonke imihla.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibonisa rhoqo ukuba indlela oyikhethileyo ebomini ifana njani nobume bakho bangaphakathi. Oko kukuthi, baya kukwazisa xa uphambuka kwindlela enqwenelwa yintliziyo yakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho okuvumelana nayo.
Ngale nto engqondweni, kuya kufuneka uqale ukufunda ukuzithemba kwaye uyazi ukuba le nto uziva ngathi ingoyena mkhokelo ubalaseleyo oya kuze ube nawo.
Le ntembeko ifana nesihlunu-inokuqiniswa ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko usebenza ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Ke, icebo lam kukuqala kancinci. Qalisa ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho kwiimeko ezibandakanya umngcipheko omncinci kwaye emva koko wakhe izigqibo ezinokuba neziphumo ezibanzi.
Isayina umntu ofuna nje isondo
Mhlawumbi uziva uthintelwe yimida, idolophu engwevu okanye idolophu- qaphela indlela ezikuxelela ngayo kwaye wenze okuthile ngayo. Phuma uye emaphandleni okanye elunxwemeni uthathe uhambo, okanye ufumane intwana yokuzola epakini okanye egadini.
Thembela nje ukuba nantoni na eyenye obuya kuyicwangcisela usuku, unikwe umyalezo obalulekileyo kwaye kufuneka wenziwe ngoku.
Ngokuya uzilungelelanisa ngakumbi neemvakalelo zakho - kokukhona ukwazi ukuzicacisa kwaye wahlule phakathi kwazo-kokukhona ungazivumela zikukhokele kwizigqibo ezikhulu nezinkulu.
Iimvakalelo zakho zinguthixo wakho. Umphefumlo uyitempile yakho.
- Chanakya
Ke, ukuphinda uphinde amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathile ukuze usebenzise iimvakalelo zakho:
- Inyathelo 1-mamela iimvakalelo zakho (kubandakanya ukuziqhelanisa nokuqonda nganye nganye)
- Inyathelo 2-cinga ngesona sizathu sokuziva kwakho (ngubani, ngoba, ngoba?)
- Inyathelo lesi-3-zama ukufumana indlela yokufikelela kwisisombululo ukuze iimvakalelo zakho zinokuthomalala ngokwendalo (okt musa ukuzicinezela)
- Inyathelo 4 - ukuziqhelanisa, ukuziqhelisa, ukuziqhelanisa
Akufanele ubaleke kwiimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ungazifihli xa ziqondwa kakuhle, zinokuba ngumthombo wobulumko obukhulu. Unethuba namhlanje, kwaye yonke imihla, lokufumanisa iinkolelo zakho eziphambili kunye neminqweno kwaye uphile ngazo.
