Izinto zokucinga zibekho-hayi, ayilulo uhlobo lomlingo we-voodoo, kodwa a ukuzalisekisa isiprofeto yeemvakalelo.
Iingqondo zethu zizinto ezinamandla, kwaye sinokuhlala sizikhathaza ngoxinzelelo-lweengcinga okanye ngoxinzelelo oluninzi kangangokuba sizenzele imeko eyoyikisayo.
Ininzi yale nto inxulumene nendlela ezisebenza ngayo iingqondo zethu, kwaye kukho inzululwazi ethile ye-neural echaphazelekayo nayo.
Kule nqaku, siza kuhamba ngeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokuxhalabisa ukuzaliseka, kunye nezinye izinto ezinobungqina emva kwayo yonke into!
Uloyiko lokuzifeza
Ngokusisiseko, uninzi lweemvakalelo zethu zoloyiko okanye unxunguphalo luvela kwiingcinga zethu endaweni yeemeko esijamelana nazo.
Njengomzekelo olula, asinakufumanisa ukwenza ikomityi yekofu inoxinzelelo konke konke, kodwa ukuba sicinga kakhulu ngayo, siyakufumana iindlela zokuba ngamava azele luxinzelelo.
Okukhona sicinga ngokufumana umothuko wombane kumatshini wekofu, sizitshise ngamanzi, okanye siyiphose ikomityi yethu, imeko iba noxinzelelo ngakumbi.
Ngeli xesha sisenza ikofu, sinxunguphele ngenxa yazo zonke iingxaki ezinokubakho kangangokuba iba ngumsebenzi ogcwele inkxalabo kunye noloyiko.
Kananjalo, siye sajika imeko engenalo uxinzelelo saba yinto yoxinzelelo, ngokukholelwa nje ukuba iyabanzima. Yenza ingqiqo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku?
Ngoku, lowo ngumzekelo osisiseko, kodwa uqaqambisa uluvo lokuba uloyiko lunokuzanelisa. Ingqondo yakho iyakwazi ukuguqula imeko ibe yinto engalunganga kwaye igcwele uxinzelelo, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba kunjalo.
Le ngcamango yokuba unokucinga ukuba izinto zikhona ayiyinto entsha, kodwa yinto abantu abaninzi abasokolayo nayo. Ngenxa yokuba wenze into inyani yakho entsha, indlela oziphethe ngayo iyatshintsha kwaye iyenze yenzeke ngakumbi.
Olu luvo lunokuvakala lungaqhelekanga, kodwa thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngobomi bakho kunye nendlela onokuba nefuthe ngayo kwizinto ukuba zenzeke kuyo, ngokucinga ngayo…
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Ukuhamba
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhamba kunokuba noxinzelelo, kodwa uninzi lwethu ngempazamo lwenza kubi ngakumbi kuthi.
Ungaqala ukucinga malunga namava oxinzelelo ayakuba kuwo - ungaphoswa yinqwelomoya yakho, ungaphulukana nepasipoti, ungabinakho ukufumana ikhabhathi xa ufika emhlabeni, njl.
Okukhona uzisebenza ngokwakho malunga nendlela oluza kuba lubi ngayo uhambo, kokukhona uhambo luyoyikeka ngakumbi kuwe - nokuba zikhona na ezi zinto zingalunganga ezenzekayo.
Khumbula ukuba olu hambo luxinzelelekile ngoku ngenxa yomjikelo wakho wokucinga - uthathe isigqibo, kwangaphambili, ukuba awuzukunandipha ukuhamba kwaye ngenxa yoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nexesha elibi lokuyenza.
Oku kuyakuchaphazela indlela oziva ngayo kwixa elizayo xa useluhambeni: “Ixesha lokugqibela belisoyikeka, ke ngeli xesha liza kuba libi.”
Iyaqhubeka ke…
Ukuthandana
Ah, ukuthandana. Yonke liphupha elibi kakhulu .
Zininzi izinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle, kwaye zininzi izinto ezihlazo umntu anokuzithetha okanye azenze.
Uninzi lwethu lubaleka ngamathuba kwiintloko zethu kwaye luphele ngengqikelelo yokuba umhla uza kuhamba ngokungalunganga.
Okukhona siba noxinzelelo malunga nokuthetha into ngobuwula okanye ukuchitha isiselo kuthi, kokukhona imeko iya kuba noxinzelelo.
Ngelixa kungenakulindeleka ukuba uzenze isidenge ngokupheleleyo, uya kushiyeka uziva uxhalabile kwaye ungonwabanga ngenxa yengqondo oya kuyo yonke.
Isiphumo sihlala singumhla ongathandekiyo ongenakufane uhambe kakuhle, kwaye oku kuyayomeleza inkolelo yakho yokuba ukuthandana ngamava amabi.
Umsebenzi
Umsebenzi ngumthombo woxinzelelo kubantu abaninzi njengokuba unjalo, kwaye abo bahlala bexinzeleleka ngayo benza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi kubo.
Ingavakala irhabaxa, kodwa kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuba uza kuyenza nini ziyeke izinto kwaye uyeke ukwenza.
Okukhona ulungisa ukuba usuku lwakho lube lubi kangakanani, okanye uxinzelelo olufumana kwintlanganiso yeqela yeveki, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba ube namava amabi.
Zonke ezo mvakalelo ziphuphuma ngaphantsi komhlaba zinokutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo, zithintele unxibelelwano lwakho, kwaye ziguqule imbono yakho yeemeko kunye nonxibelelwano.
Thatha ixesha lakho ucime!
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Izinto ezi-10 ezingaqhelekanga ezenziwa ngumzimba wakho ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kwexhala
- Ukuxhalaba okuSebenza ngokuPhezulu kungaphezu kokuba ucinga ukuba kunjalo
- Ungayiyeka njani intlekele malunga neziganeko ebomini bakho
- Iziqinisekiso ezi-6 zokuphinda kwakhona xa ucinga kakhulu
Ubunzululwazi beBit
Usenokuba uvile ngentetho, 'IiNeurons ezivuthayo kunye, zibambane ndawonye,' kwaye ayinakulunga ngakumbi apha.
Xa unengcinga okanye impendulo ethile, ubangela uthotho lweziganeko kwingqondo yakho. Kule meko, enye ingcinga engalunganga ikhokelela kumthwalo opheleleyo wezinye iingcinga ezimbi.
Kungenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho isebenza-kwinqanaba elisisiseko-ngokwenza iindlela phakathi kwe-neurons, kunye neqela ngalinye le-neurons kunye neendlela ezilandelayo phakathi kwabo ezijongene neengcinga ezithile, iimvakalelo, okanye iintshukumo.
Okukhona usebenzisa ezo ndlela, kokukhona ziya zisomelela kwaye zomelela ngakumbi ubudlelwane phakathi kweziganeko, iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo.
Ke, okokuqala xa ucinga, 'ndiza kuhamba ndiza kuyikhumbula inqwelomoya yam ndiza kuba nohambo olubi,' ingqondo yakho yenza indlela evulekileyo phakathi kwezi ngcinga zintathu kunye neemvakalelo zoxinzelelo abazenzayo.
Okukhona uvumela olu luhlu lweengcinga ukuba lujikeleze ingqondo yakho, kokukhona ingqondo yakho ifunda le patheni, ukuya kuthi ga apho ucinga khona ukuba, 'ndiyahamba,' kwaye ingqondo yakho igcwalisa kwizikhewu kwaye ikukhumbuze, 'Ndizakukhumbula inqwelomoya yam ndiza kuba nohambo olubi.'
Siphantse sibe yiPavlovian ngaphakathi kweengqondo zethu, kwaye ezi ndlela zinokuvela ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunokuba nzima ukwahlukana nazo.
Uyihlaziya njani ingqondo yakho
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela umngcipheko kwaye uhlale uxanduva ebomini bakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ukujonga izinto ngokugqithiseleyo ngekhe kuphele kakuhle.
Zama ukuqala ucwangcise kwakhona ingqondo yakho. Ingavakala iyothusa, kodwa kukho iindlela onokuthi uhambise ingqondo yakho ngayo.
Okokugqibela, ufuna ukubuyisela umgaqo kwezo ndlela ukuze ingcinga yakho, 'Ndiyahamba' ikhonkco kwiingcinga ezinje, 'Ixesha lokugqibela belilungile bendinexesha elimangalisayo.'
Okukhona sinokuzibuyisela ezingqondweni zethu kwaye someleze iindlela ezilungileyo zeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo, kokukhona siya kukonwabela amava ethu!
Xa uqala ukukhathazeka ngemeko ethile, bhala phantsi. Yenza inqaku lokuba uziva njani kwaye zeziphi iinkalo zosuku ezenza uzive uxinezelekile.
Ekupheleni kosuku, thatha ixesha lokudlulela kuluhlu lwakho kwaye ubeke izimvo ecaleni kwengxelo nganye ngaphambili.
Umzekelo, usenokuba ubhale ukuba ubusoyika intlanganiso yakho kusasa, kodwa uya kuba nakho ukuqaphela ukuba intlanganiso ihambe kakuhle kakhulu.
Ezi zikhumbuzi zomzimba zinokukunceda uqonde ukuba ayizizo zonke iingcinga ezimbi eziza kubakho.
Okukhona uzivumela ukuba ubone izinto ezintle, kokukhona kuya kufane ukuba ube nezi ntlobo zokuzifezekisa.
Imicimbi yokuthemba emva kokuxokiswa
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Amanyathelo angaphezulu okuqwalaselwa
Ukuba unengxaki yokwenene yokulawula unxunguphalo, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba uthethe nogqirha wakho. Unokuba unengxaki yokuXhalaba ngokuBanzi, exhaphake kakhulu.
Kungenzeka ukuba uthunyelwe kumgqirha onokukunceda ufumane iindlela zokubeka iliso nokulawula iingcinga zakho kunye neemoods.
Unyango lweCognitive Behaeveal Therapy (CBT) inokusebenza ngokumangalisayo ukuba unengxaki yokuxhalaba- lunyango lonyango oluthethwayo olukunceda ukuba uphinde ubambe ingqondo yakho.
Endaweni yokuqhagamshela kwangoko ingcinga enye kwinto eyoyikisayo, ufunda ukuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva, ulungelelanise imeko, kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakho. Oku, kudityaniswa neendlela ezilungileyo ze-neural oya kuzenza, kuya kukunceda kakhulu.
