Kukho ubungqina obukhulayo bokucebisa ukuba enye yeemfihlelo kubudlelwane obude kunye nokonwaba kukuhleka kunye rhoqo.
Usenokucinga ukuba oku kuyacaca, kodwa kude kube ngoku kutshanje inzululwazi iphumile ukubuyisela le mbono. Ngaphambi koko yayiqikelela.
Ngoku, nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukudibanisa ukuhleka okwabiweyo okwenyani kwizibini ezide, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo . Ke, ukuba ukhe wafuna inkuthazo engakumbi yokuhleka neqabane lakho, nantsi ke.
Isifundo esinye ifumanise ukuba ukuhleka okwabelwanayo 'kunxulunyaniswa ngokuqinisekileyo novavanyo lwehlabathi lomgangatho wobudlelwane' - ngamanye amagama, ezo zibini zichithe ixesha lokuhleka kunye zinamathuba amahle okonwabela ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, obuqinisekileyo.
Umbhali ofundayo uLaura Kurtz, osuka kwiDyunivesithi yaseNorth Carolina, uxelele i-Independent :
Oko kuthetha ukuthini ukuba singatsho ukuba kukho into eyahlukileyo malunga nokuhleka okwabiweyo kobudlelwane. Akwanelanga ukuhleka nje phambi kweqabane lakho - ngamathuba apho nihleka kunye nobabini kubonakala ngathi kubalwa.
izinto zokwenza xa udikwe ekhaya
Olunye uphononongo ibonakalise ukuba ukukhumbula malunga nokuhleka okwabiweyo kwabanefuthe elihle kubudlelwane. Kwagqitywa kwelokuba xa izibini zikhumbula amaxesha xa behleka kunye, izibonelelo bezinkulu kunezinye, ngokubanzi, iindlela zokukhumbula.
Njengoko kuchaziwe kwisifundo:
kukho izibonelelo ezikhawulezileyo, zexesha elifutshane zokukhumbula malunga nokwabelana ngokuhleka kulwalamano lwentlalo oluya ngaphaya kokudala imeko elungileyo.
Ukuthetha “ngelixesha xa si…” nokwabelana ngokuhleka xa usenza oko kuyanceda ukuqinisa ubudlelwane obugcina abantu ababini bekunye.
Kodwa singahleka njani ngakumbi njengesibini?
Ngoku uyazi ixabiso lokuhleka kubudlelwane, usenokuba uyazibuza ukuba ungenza ntoni ukuze wandise ukuphindaphinda kokudibana kokugigitheka.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akufuneki unyanzele ukuhleka - isifundo sokuqala kwezi zimbini zikhankanywe apha ngasentla safumanisa ukuba ukuhleka phambi kweqabane lakho akwanelanga kwaye ukuhlekisa okungathandekiyo okanye okungeyonyani kunokuba yingozi kubudlelwane.
Kukho, nangona kunjalo, izinto onokuzenza ukonyusa amathuba okuzenzekelayo, okwabelwana ngokuhleka.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, mhlawumbi, kukungazithathi nzulu. Ukuba ubuphethe bonke ubomi ngokulinganayo ngokulinganayo, uya kusebenza ekhaya kakhulu njengoko usenza emsebenzini okanye kwenye indawo ekuhlalwa kuyo. Ewe impendulo engacacanga kwaye egxile kwindalo xa kukho into efuna ukwenziwa, kodwa ngamaxesha okuphumla, vumela ukuba ukhululeke, ubengumntwana, nokuba ungxamile.
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Danisa ekhitshini, yiya kwiindawo ezonwabisayo, ungcolise, dlala imidlalo (hayi olo hlobo lweemidlalo!) Kwaye, njengoko kuye kwacetyiswa apha ngasentla, khumbula la maxesha omnandi wawukhe kunye, jonga kwiifoto ukuba unazo, kwaye uphinde utyelele iindawo apho kwenzeke khona ukuhleka.
Yidlalani, ninikezane ngamagama ezilwanyana ezingenangqondo, nenze iziqhulo zangaphakathi ezaziwa nguwe kuphela, danisa (kufanelekile ukuphinda-phinda kuba iyasebenza), kwaye nidlale omnye nomnye (kodwa kuphela ukuba nobabini niyonwabele ipranking elungileyo).
Enye into onokuyenza kukuhlala kumzuzu wangoku njengesibini- sukuhlala apho kunye ujonge iifowuni zakho xa ninokonwaba kunye. Ban umsebenzi wentetho emva kwexesha elithile ngokuhlwa, kwaye uxhathise isilingo sokugcwalisa ukuthula ngengxolo awudingi kudlalwa komculo okanye i-TV ikhala ngalo lonke ixesha.
Okukhona unokukwazi ukuhlala ngoku kunye, kokukhona lithuba elikhulu lokufumana ithuba lokonwaba.
Ukuhleka kunezibonelelo ezininzi zendalo, kwaye ngoku sinokongeza ukuphucula ubudlelwane kolo luhlu. Ukwabelana ngoncumo, ukugigitheka, okanye nokuba yi-guffaw kunye neqabane lakho kunokwaphula uxinzelelo, kunike imvakalelo yokusondelelana, kwaye phucula unxibelelwano . Gcina ukhumbula konke okuhle okwenzayo ngexesha elizayo xa uqhekeka kukuhleka okuzenzekelayo.
