Ke ubethe inqaku elinzima ebomini kwaye usenokuba uyazibuza ukuba wenzeni.
Phantse sonke siye sayenza le nto ngexesha elithile, kwaye nawe uza kuyifumana le nto.
Izinto kusenokwenzeka ukuba zikhangeleka zimfiliba ngoku, kwaye usenokuba usembindini wokuhla usihla, uziva ukuba ubonakalisile ubomi bakho ngokungenakulungiseka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuba kwimeko entle okwangoku, kodwa ucinga ukuba usaphefumla, kwaye ufunda eli nqaku, izinto ngokuqinisekileyo zinokuhlangulwa.
Ukulungisa nokwakha kwakhona ubomi bakho emva kokuba ‘ubonakalisile’, thabatha amanye amacebiso ethu.
1. Bhala uluhlu lokubulela.
Ngesinye isihlandlo, xa ndandikhwele uloliwe onqumla ilizwe, umntu endingamaziyo osisilumko endadibana naye wathi kum: “Yiba nombulelo ngento osenayo, kuba yonke into ingahlala isiba mandundu.
Ndandihamba ngexesha elibi kakhulu ngelo xesha, kwaye amazwi akhe andinceda ukuba ndiphinde ndizinze kwakhona.
Mhlawumbi awufuni ukucinga ngazo zonke ezinye izinto ezinokuthi zihambe gwenxa ngoku, ke masitshintshe umbono kwaye sigxile kokulungileyo okomzuzwana.
Bhala zonke izinto ekufuneka unombulelo kuzo ngoku. Oku kungabandakanya nantoni na esuka kwipeni esebenzayo kunye nebhokisi yeti ekhabhathini, kwisilo-qabane esinothando, okanye kwisityalo esingakhange sikukhathalele okwangoku.
Qiniseka ukuba ubhala yonke into enokuthi ikuncede utshintshele ingqalelo yakho kokuhle.
Ngaba unxibe iikawusi ezifudumeleyo? Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ayadibana, ukuba nje iinyawo zakho zishushu. Ngaba usiba lwakho luyasebenza? Kulungile, bhala phantsi nako.
Zonke ezi ziqwenga zincinci zintle ziya kukunceda wakhe isakhelo esitsha sendlela oza kubakha ngayo ubomi bakho.
Ithetha ukuthini xa umfana esithi intle yakho
2. Qaphela ukuba akukho manyano = inkululeko yokutshintsha.
Enye yezinto abantu aboyikayo kakhulu xa beziva ukuba ‘bonakalisile’ ubomi babo lulo lonke utshintsho abaza kujongana nalo.
Umzekelo, umntu obhaqwe ekopela ngequbuliso unokujamelana nethemba loqhawulo-mtshato, ukuphulukana nendlu yakhe, kunye nokujongana notshintsho olukhulu kubudlelwane babo nabantwana babo.
Kodwa olo tshintsho aludingi ukuba lube yinto embi.
Cinga ngayo okwesibini. Nangona isenokungavakali ngathi ngoku, eli lixesha elimangalisayo kunye nethuba lotshintsho olupheleleyo. Xa ungenawo nawaphi na amakhamandela, ukhululekile ukutshintsha icala ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba yonke into oyisebenzeleyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku yaphukile, kwaye yonke into oyakhileyo okanye uyiqokelele ilahlekile, awunazo izibophelelo ezikubophelelayo. Nantoni na.
Ngokwenene, ukhululekile ukuba uphile ubomi obuhlala ubufuna.
Yonke le meko inokuziva imbi kakhulu, kwaye nangona ungakholelwa ngoku, oku kunokuba yintsikelelo ukuba uyayivumela.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa usebenza ngesileyiti esingenanto, emva koko ulungelelwaniso olupheleleyo lwehlabathi lakho lungaphaya kokubamba kwakho.
Xa ungenanto, awunakuphulukana nayo. Kwaye ke, ngomlilo otyhafileyo kunye nesibindi esibetha esifubeni sakho, unokwenza izinto ezintle zenzeke ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu.
3. Zibuze: ufuna ukuba ngubani?
Nceda wazi ukuba kukho amandla amakhulu ngaphakathi kwakho. Ngaphakathi entliziyweni nasemphefumlweni wakho kukho amandla okuzihlaziya.
Ngaphakathi koloyiko lwakho kuya kubakho umnqweno kunye nomnqweno. Akululanga ukubona ngaphaya koloyiko kwaye kuya kufuna umgudu ongaguquguqukiyo wokungavumeli ukuba kusibekele umbono wakho, kodwa ukuba ujongeka unzima ngokwaneleyo, uya kufumana iinyani ezibalulekileyo apho.
Ezi zinto zezona zinokukunceda ube ngulowo uhlala uphupha ukuba unguye.
Kodwa lumka into oyifumanayo xa ujonge ngaphakathi ayisoloko iyile nto ibonakala iyiyo.
Hlalutya nzulu ukuba izinto ozinqwenelayo (okanye okholelwa ukuba ziya kukonwabisa okanye zizalisekise) zizinto ezixabisekileyo nezixabisekileyo.
Uziva njani xa usenza nantoni na okholelwa ukuba ikwenza wonwabe nyhani?
Ngaba bayakukhuthaza? Ngaba ngokwenene uyakuthanda ukuzenza? Okanye uzenza ngokukrokra kuba ucinga ukuba 'kufanele'?
Ngaba ucinga ukuba ufuna ezo zinto, kodwa emva koko ufumane zonke izizathu zokuphepha ukuthatha amanyathelo afunekayo ukufezekisa oko uphuphayo? Oku ngokubanzi kuthetha ukuba awunyanisekanga ngokwenyani malunga nokufuna ezo zinto kwasekuqaleni.
Njengoko ubhala uluhlu lwezinto ofuna ukuzenza ukwakha ubomi bakho obutsha, landela kuphela izinto ozithandayo. Ngokwenza njalo, uya kunyaniseka kwiinzame zakho, kwaye uya kubeka umgudu wokwenene ekuzilandeleni.
4. Zama ukwamkela olu tshintsho ngenkalipho nangobabalo.
Rhoqo, xa abantu belahlekelwa zizinto, impendulo yabo ekhawulezileyo kukuqonda ukuba bayazifumana, kodwa kufuneka bazibuze ukuba bayayifuna kwaye bayayifuna ngokwenene.
Ngaba wonwabile kwaye waneliseka apho wawukho?
Yeyiphi imiba emibi kunye neziphumo malunga neemeko okhoyo?
Ngamanye amaxesha, into evakala imangalisa kwaye ilungile ngalo mzuzu, sicinga ukuba yile nto besiyifuna nyani, kujika kube kuncinci kunokuba kufanelekile ngasemva.
Ukwamkelwa ayisiyonto yenzeka ngokulula, nangona kunjalo. Yinkqubo yengqondo njengayo nayiphi na enye.
Ngalo lonke ixesha uziva ulangazelela ubomi obudlulileyo obunokuthi ngoku ungaphaya kokuhlangulwa, kuya kufuneka ubuyise ingqondo yakho kwizinto ezintle zemeko yakho entsha.
Phinda ujonge olo luhlu lombulelo. Yenza entsha engqondweni yakho ngalo mzuzu ungqo ukubonisa okuhle okukufuphi.
Okukhona uziva ungcono ngemeko yakho entsha, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukuyamkela kunokuba ulwe nayo.
Oko akutsho ukuba imvakalelo yakho yokuba ubonakalisile ubomi bakho ayisebenzi. Kulungile ukuba namava amaninzi obunzima xa ubomi bakho bujikile, ingakumbi xa kungenxa yezenzo zakho.
Kuya kufuneka uzive ezi mvakalelo kwaye uzivumele ukuba usebenze ngazo. Sukuzifaka ebhotileni kwaye unethemba lokuba ziya kunyamalala kuba ziya kuvuka kuphela kamva.
Yamkela imeko ozifumana ukuyo, yamkela iimvakalelo oziva zona, kodwa yamkele nenyani engenakuphepheka yokuba izinto ziya kuphucula ngokuhamba kwexesha.
5. Chonga amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukuphucula imeko yakho.
Okokuqala nokuphambili, zama ukuhlala kamnandi nokungonwabi okwangoku. Ewe, izinto zinzima ngoku, kwaye kulungile.
Zama ukunqanda ukubaleka okanye ukoyise iintlungu kuba ezo zinto azizukujongana nezizathu zokungonwabi.
Eyona ndlela yokuziva ungcono kukuthatha amanyathelo.
Ke, buyela kuluhlu lwakho ezo nkcukacha ofuna ukuba zizo kunye nohlobo lobomi ofuna ukulwenza.
Emva koko, sebenzela umva ukusuka kuloo ndawo yokuphela kwaye wakhe amanyathelo aliqela afunekayo ukusukela apho ukhoyo ngoku ukuya kwindawo ofuna ukuba kuyo.
Guqula la manyathelo abe ziinjongo- zombini iinjongo zexesha elide kunye neenjongo zexesha elifutshane ezikhokelela kubo.
Khumbula ukuba uhambo lwamawaka eekhilomitha luqala ngenyathelo elinye. Ukuhla nje esofeni linyathelo lokuqala lokukwazi ukuqhuba umdyarho.
Ngokwenza umzamo nje kuphela yonke imihla, usebenza kumntu ofuna ukuba nguye.
6. Yenza izinto ezivelisa iimvakalelo ezakhayo.
Ngaphandle koluhlu lokubulela osele ulwenzile, zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuze uzive ulungile kulo mzuzu wangoku.
Kwaye ngelixa bengenako ukulungisa iingxaki ebomini bakho, banokukunika ukomelela kunye nenkuthazo oya kuyidinga ukuze udlule kweli nqanaba linzima.
Imvakalelo elungileyo phakathi kwako konke ukungakhathali osenokuba uziva ngoku kungonele ukukukhupha kumoya ojikelezayo kwaye ubone ithuba oliboniswayo ngoku.
Ezinye zezi zinto zinokubandakanya:
Ukuphuma kwindalo: kukho into ehlanjululwa ngokwasemphefumlweni nangokweemvakalelo malunga nokubaleka ukuxakeka kubomi bemihla ngemihla nokuzintywilisela kwimeko yendalo.
imiqondiso woyika iimvakalelo zakhe ngam
Ndwendwela iindawo eziluhlaza, ulwandle, amachibi, okanye intle kakhulu naphi na kude nehlathi lekhonkrithi kwiidolophu nezixeko zethu. Zama ukungathathi ifowuni yakho xa unako, okanye uyigcine ithe cwaka kwaye uphephe ukuyijonga.
Izinto ozithandayo sele uzonwabile: xa uziva ngathi ubonakalisile ubomi bakho, kunokuba lula ukunikezela kwimisebenzi oyenzayo ngoku rhoqo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngubani okhathaleleyo malunga nelo qela lezemidlalo okanye elenziwe ngejam xa uthe wajija kwaye ujongene neziphumo?
Kodwa wenze ezo zinto uzithandayo ngenxa yesizathu, kwaye eso sizathu sinethemba lokuba uzonwabele. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awungekhe ufumane ulonwabo olukhulu kubo ngoku, kodwa banokukunceda ukunika ingqondo yakho ukuphumla kwiinkxalabo zobomi bakho kunye nokunyusa imichiza evakalelwa ngumzimba wakho.
Ukuchitha ixesha nabantu onwabela inkampani: Ungaziva ngathi uzivalela kude kwihlabathi ngoku, kodwa ndiyakubongoza ukuba ungavumi. Ukusebenzisana nabantu abachanekileyo kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono.
Ungaxoxa ngeengxaki zakho ukuba uyathanda kwaye ubone ukuba baneengcebiso, kodwa ingangumbono ongcono ukuthetha ngenye into endaweni yoko. Babuze ngobomi babo babenze bathethe kwaye babe nomdla wokwenyani koko bakuthethayo.
Ukuzibandakanya nabanye abantu kuya kukwenza uqaphele ukuba ubomi buyaqhubeka kwaye unabantu ebomini bakho abakuthandayo nabakhathaleleyo ngawe.
Ukuhambisa umzimba wakho: usenokungabi ngumzimba omninzi, kodwa zininzi izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo ekusebenzeni nasekunyuseni izinga lokubetha kwentliziyo yakho.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela eyonika amandla ukwazi ukuba ungabaleka okanye uqubha okanye uhambe uzityhale, umzimba wakho ukhupha ii-endorphins kunye nezinye iikhemikhali njengoko usenza oko kuphucula imeko yakho.
7. Zinike ikhefu.
Okokugqibela, kuya kufuneka uphephe ukuzibeka ityala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokonakalisa ubomi bakho.
Ngoku, oku akuthethi ukuba akufuneki uthathe uxanduva - kuba wena 100% kufuneka ukuba le yimeko oyenzayo - kodwa kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi koxanduva kunye nokusola.
Ukuthatha uxanduva kuthetha ukuba ngumnikazi wento oyenzileyo ngelixa uzibeka ityala kuthetha ukufumana isiphoso kubuntu bakho.
Ukuthatha uxanduva yingcinga, 'Ndiyazi ukuba ndenze impazamo.' Ukuzibeka ityala kukucinga, 'Ndisisidenge, ndibuthathaka, andinalutho.'
Uyawubona umohluko?
Ke sukuba nzima kuwe nakweyiphi na into oyenzileyo ekhokelele kule ndawo ukuyo ngoku.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, inokubonisa isiphoso, kodwa sonke sinesiphene ngeendlela ezininzi. Ayikwenzi umntu ombi.
Ukuba ufuna ukutsala izinto kunye kwaye uye phambili ukuya kwikamva eliqaqambileyo, kufuneka ube nobubele kuwe kwaye ube nomonde nesiqu sakho.
Ukuba konke okwenzayo kukuthetha phantsi - kokubini ngokuvakalayo nasentloko yakho - uyakufumanisa kunzima ngakumbi ukuthatha uhlobo lwenyathelo elifanelekileyo elifunekayo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaya njani phambili ukuba ucinga ukuba ubonakalisile ubomi bakho? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.
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