Abantu abaninzi bayasokola nobunzima bokuba ngabantu abadala. Mninzi umsebenzi odinisayo noxanduva olufunekayo ukuze ubenesidima kunye nekamva elingcono.
Ayinguye wonke umntu ozivumelanisa notshintsho kakuhle.
Ungalifumana njani ithuba lesibini kubudlelwane
Abanye abantu bahamba baye ebudaleni bengenalo ulwazi lokwenyani ngendlela yokusebenza njengomntu omkhulu. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali babo bavumele kakhulu kwaye abafundisanga malunga nokulindelwe lihlabathi labantu abadala.
Ukanti, abanye abantu balangazelela ubuntwana obonwabisayo abangazange babubo. Izinto ezibuhlungu ezinokwehlela nabani na nokuba ungakanani na. Abanye bakhulela kumakhaya ebengenampilo nabazali abanengxaki abangakwaziyo ukubathanda ngendlela ebafaneleyo.
Nokuba sithini na isizathu, umntu akanakuchitha ixesha labo elangazelela ixesha elidlulileyo elingasekhoyo nelingasayi kubakho kwakhona. Ukwenza njalo kuhlutha ithuba lokufumana uvuyo okwangoku.
Uxolo nolonwabo zizinto ekufuneka uzenzele zona, kwaye ngekhe wenze lonto ngelixa uhlala kwixa elidlulileyo.
Uyeka njani ukuphoswa bubuntwana? Makhe sijonge izizathu ezilishumi zokukhumbula ubuntwana bakho kunye nendlela onokuthi uhlakulele ulonwabo ngakumbi ngoku.
1. Umntu omdala uziva engaphaya kwaye edidekile.
Ubomi bomntu omdala bunokuba nzima kwaye bunokudideka kuba kuninzi kakhulu kwihlabathi ekufuneka ulifumene.
Ngaba abazali bakho bakufundise ukuhlawula irhafu? Ngaba utshintsha ivili lemoto okanye ujonge ioyile yakho? Yenza amadinga ogqirha ngokwakho? Uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lwakho? Upheke ukutya? Faka isicelo semisebenzi? Ivenkile yokutya?
Nokuba abazali bakho bebesoyikeka, kuya kubakho izikhewu kulwazi lwakho ekufuneka uzizalisile wedwa. Akukho nje ukuba ujikeleze inyani yokuba ezinye izifundo zobomi kufuneka uzifunde ngendlela enzima.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba unokufikelela kwi-intanethi! Ukuba unemibuzo, omnye umntu uphendule le mibuzo kwindawo ethile kwi-intanethi.
Xa uziva ulahlekile okanye ukoyisiwe, zama ukukhangela ngqo umbuzo wakho kwiYouTube okanye kwiinjini yokukhangela oyithandayo. Amathuba mahle kakhulu ukuba ubuncinci uza kufumana ulwazi malunga nokuba ungaqala phi, nokuba awuyifumani impendulo echanekileyo oyifunayo.
2. Ulwalamano lwabantu abadala lunzima kunolwalamano lwabantwana.
Ulwalamano lwabantwana ngokubanzi alunangxaki kunolwalamano lwabantu abadala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuxhaphaza kuyenzeka, abantwana bakowenu banokuba nenkohlakalo, kwaye abazali banokuba mpilweni kwaye batshabalalise.
Kodwa ukuba usikelelwe ngemfundo enoxolo nenolonwabo, mhlawumbi ngekhe uchithe ixesha elininzi ungqubana nabanye abantu.
Ubuhlobo bobuntwana bunokuba lula njengokuba, “Owu, jonga! Umhlobo omtsha! ” Kwaye baya kudlala. Abayi kujonga kuzo zonke iziqinisekiso kunye nolwahlulo uluntu oluye lwangena.
Ngapha koko, ubudlelwane babantu abadala kunokuba nzima ukubugcina xa iintsapho, imisebenzi, kunye neembandezelo zobomi kufuneka kujongwane nazo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, awunalo ixesha lokondla ubudlelwane bakho babantu abadala kwaye ubagcine besempilweni. Awunakuhlala ulahla yonke into ukuxhoma kunye nomhlobo kuba abantwana bafuna ukondliwa, kwaye kufuneka ubesemsebenzini kusasa.
Oku kunzima ukuhamba ngenxa yokuba kufuna umgudu kubahlobo ngokunjalo. Ukubeka nje, wonke umntu kufuneka athathe ixesha ukugcina ubudlelwane busempilweni.
Cwangcisa ubusuku bomdlalo kube kanye okanye kabini ngenyanga. Yidla isidlo sasemini kunye nomhlobo rhoqo. Khangela abahlobo abatsha ngokujonga kumdlalo omtsha wokuzonwabisa okanye kumaqela asekuhlaleni.
Ukuba sempilweni kokugcina ulwalamano lwakho nabantu abadala, kokukhona uya kuphulukana nobudlelwane bakho bobuntwana.
3. Ubuntwana babungcono nje kunokuba mdala.
Ukuba mdala kunokuba kubi kuwe ngoku, kwaye kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo okukutshintsha. Imivuzo iyanqumama, okulindelweyo akunakuba sengqiqweni, umnini-mhlaba akazukulungisa isokethi sombane esingasebenziyo.
Ukuphila nje kuyabiza, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala kwilizwe elinendleko eziphezulu okanye indawo, okanye awazi ukuba ungayenza njani imali yakho ikusebenzele kakuhle.
Ukuba mdala kunokuba ngumtsalane wokwenene kuba kufuneka uzenzele zonke izigqibo zakho. Unokulangazelela ubuntwana bakho apho bekungafuneki ukuba wenze izigqibo ezininzi kangaka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, imali ayinakuluthenga ulonwabo , kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo inika isibonelelo sokuvula umnyango. Yinto enzima ukonwaba xa isisu sakho sigxwala, kwaye awuyenzi ukuba kufuneka uhlawule irente okanye inqaku lemoto.
Khangela iindlela onokuthi uphucule ngayo isikhundla sakho. Jonga imisebenzi yengingqi kunye namathuba oqeqesho kwiiofisi zeenkonzo zentlalo. Jonga kwimfundo ephezulu. Jonga into enokuthabatha ukuqhubela phambili umsebenzi wakho wangoku kwindawo ehlawula ngcono.
Kuyanuka ukuba imali ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ibonakala kunzima ukuyifumana, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqala ukuhlasela le ngxaki, ngokukhawuleza ungayifumana phantsi kolawulo.
4. Usenokuba awunakuba nethuba lokwenene lokufumana amava obuntwana.
Ihlabathi liyindawo elukhuni, kwaye nabantwana bayakhuseleka kuloo nto. Abanye abazali bathetha kakuhle kodwa nje musa ukwenza umsebenzi olungileyo ngokukhulisa abantwana babo. Kwaye abanye abazali abathethi kakuhle kwaye benza izinto ezimbi kubantwana babo.
Abanye abantu balangazelela ubuntwana obumsulwa abangazange babenalo ithuba lokuba namava abo.
Ingxaki yile yinjongo engekho ngqiqweni, engenakufikeleleka. Inokungena nakwibala lokuphupha okungalunganga, apho umntu echitha ixesha elininzi kwilizwe lamaphupha abenza ezingqondweni zabo ukuba okwangoku bayasokola.
Ixesha elichithwe ukuhlala kwizinto ezingenakufikelelwa lixesha elinokuthi lichithwe ekuphuhliseni izakhono ezitsha, ukukhangela unxibelelwano olutsha lwentlalo, kwaye ngokusebenza ngokubanzi kwikamva elingcono.
Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka wamkele ukuba ubomi abuzange bujongane nesona sandla silungileyo ngexesha lobuntwana bakho. Kwaye kufuneka ufumane indlela yokudlala isandla okwangoku osibambe ngendlela evakalayo ebomini bakho.
5. Ususile kwimvakalelo yakho yokufuna ukwazi kunye nokuzibuza.
Njengomntwana, umhlaba uyindawo enkulu nenomdla. Kuhlala kunento yokuphonononga, into yokufunda, into entsha oyibonayo.
Kodwa emva kokuba ubusilele okomntu okwexeshana, ubomi bunokuqalisa ngokwenene ukuphulukana nobukhazikhazi.
Loo mvakalelo wokufuna ukwazi unokuncipha njengoko ufunda ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ayisiyiyo kuphela eyokuqhelana nayo, kodwa ikwajongana nokuphoxeka kanye xa uqala ukubona ezinye zeenyani ezimbi emva kwezinto.
Ukuwa eluthandweni ngobomi obukhoyo ngoku kulula ukuba unokunxibelelana kwakhona kunye nemvakalelo yakho yokufuna ukwazi kunye nokuzibuza. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo onokuthi uhambe ngazo.
Thatha ezinye iiklasi okanye izifundo kumxholo onomdla kuwo, kodwa ongawaqhelanga. Ngena nzulu emxholweni kwaye ujonge zonke izinto ezinomdla kunye neenkcukacha ezenza ukuba isifundo sibe yintoni.
Ziqhelanise nendalo. Indalo iyamangalisa xa uhlala phantsi uyiqwalasele. Fumana isiqwenga sendalo, hlala, uyenze yonke.
Cinga ngezilwanyana ezihamba-hambayo, izityalo ozibonayo, impepho oyivayo, indlela ilanga likhanyisa ngayo yonke into. Qwalasela indlela esebenza ngayo yonke le nto. Cinga ngendawo yakho emhlabeni nakwindalo iphela.
Yisebenzise njengendlela yokucamngca ukutsala ingqondo yakho kurhuqisa kunye noxanduva lobomi ukuya kumzuzu wangoku, apho ukhoyo, izinto ohlangabezana nazo.
Vumela amava azibuze imibuzo ongakwaziyo ukuyiphendula- emva koko uye kukhangela iimpendulo kamva!
6. Usebenza kakhulu kwaye awuxatyiswanga.
Ukulangazelela ubuntwana bomntu luhlobo lwendlela yokuphathwa gwenxa okubizwa ngokuba yi-escapism. Unobangela obalulekileyo wokufuna ukubaleka kukuxinezeleka kwaye uzive ungaxatyiswanga.
Ke, unxibelelwano olululo lokwenza khangela iindlela zokunciphisa umthwalo wakho kunye nokwandisa ukuxabisa.
Oko kunokuthetha izinto ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo.
Ngaba ngumsebenzi wakho okanye ngumphathi wakho? Mhlawumbi lixesha lokuqala ukukhangela amanye amathuba okanye utshintsho lomsebenzi ukuba awuyithandi indlela owenza ngayo ukuba uzive.
Ngaba ngabahlobo bakho? Mhlawumbi wenza umsebenzi omninzi kakhulu wabantu abangabuyiseli olo ncedo kwaye bakunike inkxaso oyifunayo. Kuya kufuneka ukuba uzobe imida esempilweni ukuqinisekisa ukuba awukhathalelwanga.
Ngaba ubudlelwane bakho? Ngaba wena neqabane lakho nenza iinzame ezifanelekileyo zokugcina ubudlelwane benu bonwabile kwaye busempilweni? Ngaba uchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye? Ngaba uyahlulahlula uxanduva lobomi ngendlela evakalayo kuwe?
7.Awufundanga ukuvela kwaye ukhule ubudlelwane bakho.
Unokulahleka iinkumbulo zakho zobuntwana kuba awufundanga indlela yokukhula kunye nokuguqula ubudlelwane bakho njengoko uqhubela phambili ebomini.
Njengomntwana, unobuhlobo obuxhomekeke kumzali wakho, ekufuneka ekuthande, akukhusele, kwaye akukhusele engozini.
Kodwa njengokuba ukhula, olo lwalamano nabazali bakho kunye nezihlobo luyatshintsha. Uba ngumntwana ofikisayo kwaye uqala ukukhangela ukusasaza amaphiko akho emhlabeni. Uzabalazela inkululeko engakumbi kwaye uzama ukuqonda ukuba ungumntu onjani.
Oko kuyaqhubeka ngokufikisa kwakho kunye nebhonasi eyongezelelweyo yokufikisa, ixesha elinoxolo kunye nelikahle kubo bonke! Kwaye ekugqibeleni uye ebudaleni, apho utyhalelwa khona kwindima yabanye abantu abadala kunye noxanduva kwigumbi.
Lonke olo tshintsho ebomini lutshintsha indlela onxibelelana ngayo kunye nonxibelelana nabantu abakungqongileyo. Awuyi kuba nolwalamano olufanayo owawunalo njengomntwana nabazali bakho ukuba uyenze njengomntu omdala.
Iyakhula kwaye iyatshintsha, kwaye kuya kufuneka uguquke nayo. Ekugqibeleni, abazali bakho banokuthembela kuwe ukuba ubancede ukubanyamekela njengoko bekhula kwaye bejamelana neengxaki zokwaluphala.
UJennie kunye g dragon ukuthandana
Sebenza kwaye uphuhlise olo lwalamano. Funda kwaye uzame ukubona amalungu osapho lwakho njengabantu , endaweni yokuba ngumama notata nje, umakazi kunye nomalume, umakhulu notatomkhulu, okanye abantakwabo.
Yiba nomdla kwaye ufumane iindlela zokunxibelelana nabo ngeendlela ezinengqiqo ngoku, ngoku.
8. Unamava abuhlungu okanye imicimbi yempilo yengqondo engakhange iqwalaselwe.
Amava abuhlungu awavele anyamalale abe ngumphunga. Onke amava abuhlungu anamathela kuwe ngandlela thile, kwaye anganefuthe elikhulu kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo nehlabathi.
Umntu ovela kubuntwana obenzakeleyo usenokuchitha ixesha lakhe elangazelela kwaye ecinga ngeyona ndlela yobuntwana ebengenabo kuba khange babe nethuba lokuqhubekeka nokuphilisa.
Isenokuba yindlela yokubaleka ukuze usuke kwingxaki ekhoyo eziswa yimizabalazo yobomi okanye impilo yengqondo yomntu.
Akukho sisombululo silula kuloo nto. Ukujongana nokuphilisa loo micimbi yinto ethi kuyakufuneka uyenze nengcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo. Unyango oluninzi olunokubakho kunyango olunokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke nentlungu yakho kwaye wenze uxolo kunye nolonwabo ngoku, okwangoku.
Musa ukuvumela ubomi bakho budlule kuwe ngokuhlala kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ukuba unzima okwangoku, jonga kwinkxaso yobuchwephesha enokukunceda ufike kwingcambu yomcimbi, uyiphilise, kwaye uphucule imikhwa engcono.
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