Umxholo wobumfihlo kunxibelwano lwethu - okanye ukuba kufanele ukuba 'kunxibelelene kakhulu' -ilizwe linokubonakala ngathi liphelelwe lixesha.
Ukukhula kwenkcubeko yethu ekhulayo ngokubonisa yonke imiba yobomi bethu ukusukela ekuseni kude kube ngorhatya nangaphaya kuluhlu lwamaqonga eendaba ezentlalo ahlukeneyo ngokucacileyo kukuchasana nemfihlo.
Kodwa, kuyo yonke loo nto, baninzi abanokukhetha ukuzichaza njengabantu 'babucala'.
Ke, oko kuthetha ntoni kanye?
Umntu wangasese, njengoko unokulindela, ukhetha ukugcina izinto phantsi-phantsi kwaye akafumani lula ukuvula kwabanye abantu.
Uninzi lwabantu ababekelwe bucala ngasese banotyekelo lokungeniswa akunakuze bachazwe njengamabhabhathane entlalontle kwaye ngokubanzi abaniki okuninzi malunga nobomi babo bemihla ngemihla.
Ukusasaza iinguqu kunye nokujika kobomi babo kwimidiya yoluntu ayiyiyo eyabo. Eyona njongo iphambili yomntu wangasese kukuhlala phantsi kwe-radar, kuba uyazi ukuba, nje ukuba ungene kumjikelo wentlalontle, kunokuba nzima ukubuyela kubomi obungenantlonelo apho bonwabileyo.
Abantu babucala banokungaqondwa kakuhle.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kulungile, kumntu okhetha ukugcina ubomi bakhe babucala babucala.
Inyaniso enelishwa kukuba abanye abantu abaphumayo ngakumbi - ewe, abo bazithatha 'njengesiqhelo' - banokuba nengxaki kolo khetho.
Ukuziphatha okufihlakeleyo, okubonakala kungekho ngokwemvelo kwabanye, kunokubangela ukungaqondani, kwaye kuphosakele ngokuzikhukhumeza okanye nangobundlobongela.
Ukungafuni ukuchitha iimbotyi malunga nebali lobomi bakho, okanye ukwala ukuzibandakanya ekuhlaleni nabamelwane kungakhokelela ekucingeni ukuba kukho into efihliweyo, ethi yona ibangele urhano nokungathembani.
Oku kuye kwaba ngumthungo osisityebi kubabhali beentsomi ezantsi kumashumi eminyaka uBoo Radley eHarper Lee Ukubulala i-Mockingbird iklasikhi, ukuba imeko ithe kratya,.
Ke, akukho lula ukuba ngumntu wabucala apho isithethe senkcubeko sichasene ne-diametric.
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Ngaba umntu wangasese unento yokufihla?
Ewe, nangona oku kunokuba yinto ebanzi ebanzi, kunqabile ukuba yenzeke.
Umntu okhetha ukugcina ubomi bakhe babucala ngasese unokubonakala ngathi uyakhathala kwaye akanabuntu, kodwa izizathu zokukhetha kwabo ukuhlala phantsi kwe-radar akunakulindeleka kuba bezama ukufihla into.
Ngokunokwenzeka banemicimbi ngokuthembakala, rhoqo ngenxa yokudaniswa okanye ukungcatshwa kwixa elidlulileyo isizungu sendalo balijonga ikhaya labo njengendawo enoxolo kwaye baziva benelungelo lokonwabela ubukho babo obuzolileyo.
Kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngaso nasiphi na kwezi zizathu.
Kodwa, unalawo manqaku engqondweni, kunokwenzeka ukuba unokuthi abantu babucala banento yokufihla emva kwayo yonke: yabo ubuntu .
Kwaye oku kungenxa yokuba uxolo lwabo lwangaphakathi luyingcwele kwaye baye baqonda ukuba bambalwa kuphela abantu abafanelwe kukuthenjwa. Ubuntu babo bokwenyani buhlala bufihlakele ngononophelo kubo bonke ngaphandle kwabo bambalwa baxabisekileyo abantu abathembekileyo.
Abantu babucala balitshintshile ihlabathi.
Into enomdla kukuba, ezinye zezona ngcinga zibalaseleyo zehlabathi, ezenze igalelo elikhulu kubukho bomntu, zazingabantu ababucala kakhulu.
UAlbert Einstein ungumzekelo obalaseleyo, ocatshulwa esithi: 'Ukuba wedwa nokuba yedwa ubomi obuzolileyo kukhuthaza ingqondo yoyilo.'
Kwangokunjalo, ubuchwephesha be-physics, uSir Isaac Newton, wayedume ngokukhusela ngokufihlakeleyo imfihlo yakhe, nangona wayengomnye woososayensi abadumileyo kwimbali yonke. Ukuhlala kude nokuqaqamba kwamnika indawo kunye nexesha elalifuna ukugxila kuphando lwakhe.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kunzima ukuba nemveliso xa ujikelezwe sisikhalazo esingapheliyo esenziwe ngabantu esihamba malunga neshishini labo.
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Ukuvala i-hubbub, kunye nexesha lokucingisisa kunye nokucinga ungaphazanyiswa, yeyona nto incedise iingcinga ezinzulu zehlabathi ukutshintsha umhlaba.
Mhlawumbi oku kunika abantu babucala umda?
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Ke, ukuba ungumntu ozijonga njengabucala, zeziphi iimpawu onazo?
1. Uyakuphepha ukubalasela.
Kwawona mxholo wokuba kugxilwe ekuqwalaselweni yinto ecekisekayo komnye umntu onobuntu babucala.
Oku kunokuba yinto echaseneyo nesiqhelo sanamhlanje, apho wonke umntu ekhala ngeempumelelo zakhe ngokukhwaza kumajelo asekuhlaleni kunye nokwabelana ngeminutiae yobukho babo kwihlabathi, efuna ingqalelo kunye nokwamkelwa njengohlobo lokuziqinisekisa.
Kodwa, ukuba ungumntu wabucala, akukho nzima ukudada ngokuchasene nomsinga ogqithisileyo, ngenjongo yokunciphisa ubuntu bakho kuluntu. Oku kuyindalo eyoneleyo yokuziphatha kumntu ogcinelweyo kwaye ukhetha ubukho obunengqiqo.
Apho abanye baphumelela kukunconywa ngoogxa babo, befumana 'ii-attaboys' ngokuzingca okukhulu kwaye phakathi kokunconywa, umntu wangasese uyarhoxa kuludumo loluntu.
Yanele wena ukwazi ukuba usebenze kakuhle kwaye iinzame zakho ziye zamkelwa, ngaphandle kokuziva sikhona isidingo sokukhwaza ngempumelelo yakho eluphahleni okanye ukufumana ukuvunywa ngobuninzi.
2. Ucinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe.
Abanye banokuziva ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokuba 'nobukho' kwihlabathi elinokhuphiswano, kunye nokuqinisekisa ubukho babo, kukwabelana ngayo yonke ingcinga evukayo, ukuphalaza umlambo wolwazi malunga nabo, nokuba kufanelekile okanye akunjalo, iviwe.
Umntu wangasese onjengawe, ngakolunye uhlangothi, unzima amagama abo ngokucophelela kwaye anganiki nto ngaphandle kweyona nkcukacha ezisisiseko.
Kuphela kuxa ukuthembela kusekwe apho uya kuthi uveze okungakumbi ngobomi bakho babucala, emva koko kuphela kwabambalwa abaxabisekileyo.
3. Uhlakulela umntu okruqulayo.
Usebenze ukuba eyona ndlela yokuvala inzala yabantu kwizinto zakho zobuqu, kwaye ke ngasese, ubomi kukuzenzela umfanekiso omdaka wendlela yokuba bayadikwa nje kukufa.
Ukuba imibuzo yabo yokungenelela ngobomi bakho ngokubanzi, kwaye nangakumbi malunga neenkcukacha ezithile, idibene neempendulo ze-monosyllabic okanye ezingaqondakaliyo, ngokukhawuleza baya kuyeka ukubuza kuba awulifanelanga ixesha labo.
Kwaeli cebo linye lisetyenziselwa ukusebenza kakuhle ngabantu abadumileyo abayixabisayo imfihlo yabo: imijikelezo embalwa 'yokungaphawuli' okanye 'andazi' ivale ukubuza imibuzo phantsi kwexesha elikhawulezayo eliphindwe kabini.
Ngelixa ubomi bakho busenokuba kude ekudineni, inyani kukuba ukuba usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho abalufumani ulwazi abalufunayo, kungekudala bayayeka ukubuza imibuzo kwaye bakushiye uqhubeke nobomi bakho babucala obukhethayo.
4. Uthembele kubantu abambalwa.
Akukho ndoda (okanye umfazi) sisiqithi, njengoko isitsho njalo intetho, kwaye oyena mntu wabucala uqhele ukuba nenani elincinci kakhulu labantu abanokuthenjwa abathembele kuye ngokungagungqiyo.
Le ntembeko ayizi ngokulula, kuba amaxesha amaninzi amatyala okungcatsha okudlulileyo athe akukhokelela ekubeni ugcine ulwazi lwabucala ngobomi bakho ngokusondeleyo.
Ndityhola intombi yam ngokukhohlisa kwaye ndiphazama
5. Uyakuphepha ukuphendula imibuzo.
Ngapha koko, ukuguqukile kwaba bubugcisa. Unobuchule ke ekuchaseni imibuzo engenelelayo, ukuze umntu othetha naye angakuqapheli nokuba usilele ukuphendula imibuzo yakhe ngokwanelisayo.
Uyazi ngamava akrakra ukuba ukutyhila okuninzi ngobomi bakho kuhlala kuphelela kubantu abagxeka izigqibo zakho.
Okubi nangakumbi, nokuba ubuze ngokukodwa iinkcukacha ezithile ukuba zigcinwe ziyimfihlo, uyazi ukuba kukho ithuba elihle lokuba lo mntu abelane nabanye ngemfihlo yakho.
Ufundile ukuba kungcono ukugcina isiluleko sakho ukuze ungaphoxeki okanye uphoxwe abantu abangathembekanga .
6. Iimfihlo zabantu zikhuselekile nawe.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ingcali yokugcina ezakho iimfihlo zangaphakathi zikhuselekile, kodwa usebenzisa esi sakhono sihlaziyiweyo ukugcina ulwazi olunelungelo malunga nabanye abaphantsi kwesisongelo.
Oku kukwenza ube ngumhlobo othembekileyo nothembekileyo kuba ngekhe ungcatshe ukuthembela komntu okanye uqale ukuhleba ngabo ngasemva kwabo.
Uyabuhlonipha ubumfihlo babanye abantu kwaye ngokubuyisela ulindele ukuba baphathe eyakho ngoqwalaselo olufanayo.
7. Imida yakho yomelele.
Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezikwenza uzive usengozini ngakumbi kunokubanabantu ababukele ebomini bakho.
Xa uziva uhlaselwa ngale ndlela, uya kuhamba ixesha elide ukukhusela imida yakho.
Abantu abathandekayo kunye nemibuzo engathandekiyo isenokunganyamezeleki kuwe kodwa, ngohlobo olufanayo, ngekhe uphinde ungene nakwishishini labanye abantu. Wena, ngaphezu kwako konke, uyaliqonda ilungelo labanye abantu lokugcina imfihlo yabo.
Unezinto ezithile zobomi bakho onokuthi uzimisele ukwabelana ngazo nabanye kodwa okuninzi okhetha ukukugcina kuyimfihlo.
Ngokumisela eyakho imida ngale ndlela, awuyi kuzifumana ulahlekiswa ngengozi ngokunikezela ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nawe kunokuba wawucwangcisile, nokuba ngumhlobo, ilungu losapho, umntu osebenza naye, okanye nawuphina umntu odibana naye. .
Nguwe olawula izihloko okhululekile ukuthetha ngazo kwaye uyinkosi yokukhetha ngononophelo kokubini amagama owasebenzisayo kwaye uthetha nabani.
8. Uyazikhupha kwimithombo yeendaba.
Oku akuthethi ukuba awusebenzisi imidiya yoluntu kwaphela, kodwa awuzukuvumela ubhubhane obugqithisileyo.
Ukuhlaziywa kwemeko yobuqu rhoqo kunye nokuthumela amakhulu ee-selfie ezibonisa ubomi bakho bonke kwi-Insta, Twitter, okanye ku-Facebook ayizezakho.
Nawuphi na ubukho kwi-Intanethi onabo kunokwenzeka ukuba ubukhethwe ngononophelo, uqinisekisa ukuba utyhila ubuncinci ngobomi bakho babucala.
Ukuba ubuchwephesha bakho bufuna ukusebenzisana kwi-Intanethi- kwaye kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezixabisekileyo ezingafakwanga kweli hlabathi linxibelelene ngokwamanani - ke ugcina ulawulo ngononophelo kwinto oyityhilayo ngawe kwisiseko sokwazi kuphela. Kwezeshishini ngokungqongqo, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
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