Ubomi bam abubalulekanga. Andibalulekanga. Izenzo zam azinasiphumo. Akukho mntu ukhathalele iimvakalelo zam okanye izimvo zam.
Ezi ntlobo zeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zinokungena engqondweni yomntu ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, eso sizathu siqatha kangangokuba sidinga ukuhoywa yingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Ukungahoywa, ukuxhatshazwa, kunye nokushiywa ebuntwaneni kunokukhuthaza ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye kondle ezi mvakalelo. Amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala emakhaya kungafuneka aqokelele imvakalelo yokuzixabisa baphinde babuye benzakaliswe ngumntu ongenabuntu.
Nokuba ukugula ngengqondo kunokunika amandla ezo ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo. Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zichaphazela indlela esinxibelelana ngayo nabanye abantu kunye nendawo yethu emhlabeni.
Kwaye sihlala kuluntu oluqhubeka lusixelela ukuba kufuneka sizabalazele okungakumbi, ukufikelela kokukhulu, ukwenza izinto ezinkulu, ukufezekisa, kwaye ubonise ukuba sithetha kangakanani kwihlabathi liphela! Phila ubomi obukhulu! Nokuba ayisiyiyo le uyifunayo ebomini! Ngaphandle koko, abanye abantu banokukugweba njengongaphili ubomi ngokuchanekileyo!
Izandi zihlekisayo, akunjalo?
Okwangoku, ngamanye amaxesha ubomi butshintsha nje, kwaye sihambela kude ebantwini okanye kwiimeko ezisenza sizive ngathi sibalulekile.
akayazi into ayifunayo
Mhlawumbi abantwana baye bafuduka kwaye baxakekile ngobomi babo. Mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi okanye utshintsho lomsebenzi obuyinxalenye enkulu yesazisi sakho. Mhlawumbi ukwinqanaba lokugqibela lobomi bakho kwaye ungaziva ngathi unikela kakhulu kwihlabathi njengoko wawukhe wakwenza.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ezi mvakalelo zinokuphinda zithunyelwe okanye zibunjwe zibe nembono esempilweni malunga nendawo yakho emhlabeni.
Uyenza njani lonto?
1. Vavanya iimvakalelo zokuba 'Andinamsebenzi.'
Iimvakalelo zinokuba ngumthombo wolwazi ongathandabuzekiyo ngamanye amaxesha. Ke into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuvavanya ezo mvakalelo zokungakhathali ukumisela ukuba bavela phi. Ngale ndlela, unokuxela ukuba bamele ubunyani bakho ngokuchanekileyo.
Cinga ngomzali obukele umntwana wakhe esiya ekholejini. Batshintshela kubomi apho umntwana wabo eqala ukuzenzela inkululeko yabo. Baza kuba bexakekile ziiklasi, befunda, bezama ukwenza abahlobo, bejongana noxinzelelo lwesikolo, kwaye abanakuba nexesha elininzi lokufowuna rhoqo okanye ukubuyela ekhaya.
Ayikuko ukuba umzali akabalulekanga kubo. Abantu abadala abancinci banokujonga phambili kwiholide elandelayo okanye xa banokuhlala phantsi bencokole nomama notata. Kodwa kumzali, banokubona umntu obekade exhomekeke kubo kuyo yonke into engasafuneki kubo.
Kwimeko enjalo, izinto ziyatshintsha ebomini. Umntwana uyakhula abe mdala, kwaye umzali uya kudinga ukukhula ukuze azalise ezo zikhewu zishiyekileyo.
Banokukwazi ukulungisa ezo mvakalelo ngokujoyina iqela lezentlalo, ukufumana umsebenzi wesingxungxo, ukwenza into entsha oyithandayo, okanye ukukhangela abantu abanokuthetha nabo.
Khangela izizathu zokuba kutheni uziva ngathi awunamsebenzi ukubona ukuba zivela kwindawo eyiyo. Oko kuya kukunceda ufumane isisombululo sengxaki.
2.Qaphela ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze izinto ezinkulu ukuba zibaluleke.
Ngaba uphila obona bomi bakho bumnandi!? Ngoba kutheni! Kufuneka ube njalo! Ufumana kuphela ubomi obunye! Ubomi bufutshane! Yenza okuninzi! Yenza izinto! Yenza zonke izinto!
Yenza izinto ezinkulu abanye abantu abaza kukumbambazela emqolo kwaye bakuxelele ukuba unesibindi kwaye uyamangalisa ngokwenza! Tsiba kule hoop! Baleka ngokukhawuleza kule treadmill, ukuze ungayi ndawo! Uya kufika apho ekugqibeleni, kwaye ke uya kubaluleka!
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi imfihlo? Ngaba yimfihlo encinci ephumeleleyo kumava obuqu enzima?
Abantu abaphila kobo bomi kwaye baleqe ukuvunywa kunye nokudunyiswa ngabanye bazicwangcisela ukusilela okutshabalalisayo.
Ngaba uMayweather wambetha umfazi wakhe
Unabaninzi abaninzi be-cheerleader. Abantu abaninzi bakuxelela ukuba wenza izinto ezinkulu, ukuba ubalulekile, kwaye ubalulekile!
Kodwa ke kwenzeka into ethile. Mhlawumbi uwa ngamaxesha anzima, kwaye ngekhe uphile ngokuvisisana nomfanekiso wothando abawenzileyo entlokweni yabo. Mhlawumbi uzibonakalisa ukuba ungumntu onesiphene, umntu osilelayo, kwaye awusenako ukusetyenziswa ngokufanelekileyo kwingxelo yabo yengqondo.
Ke bayakulahla kwaye badlulele komnye umntu onokudlala loo fantasy kubo.
Ungaze usekele ukuziva uzixabisile ekuvunyelweni ngabanye abantu. Kulumkele ukwenza izinto ukuze uncome abanye ukuze uzenze uzive ulungile okanye uthanda ukuba ubalulekile. Iya kukubonelela ngento engekhoyo, kodwa iya kuhamba yonke xa ungaseloncedo.
Ixabiso lakho alibophelelwanga kwinto onokuthi unikele ngayo. Ixabiso lakho kungenxa yokuba ungumntu ofanelwe yintlonipho esisiseko kunye nokuqwalaselwa.
3. Zikhumbuze ukuba awuwedwa kwezi mvakalelo.
Ubomi buhamba kwaye buhamba. Ngamanye amaxesha yonke into ibalasele, kwaye ungaphezulu kwehlabathi. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ulwe nodaka ukuze ufike kule ndawo ufuna ukuba kuyo.
Nangona ungaziva ngathi awunamsebenzi ngoku, awuwedwa. Abantu abaninzi bayasokola ukufumana abantu abanokubakho kunye nendawo efanelekileyo kwihlabathi.
Inxalenye yoku kukuzivelela koluntu lwethu. Icawa yayiqhele ukuba yindawo eqhelekileyo ekuhlaleni apho abantu babehlala behlangana kwaye bezonwabisa. Oko kunganceda ukugcwalisa loo mngxuma wedwa kunye noluntu olubotshelelwe kukuziva ngathi ubalulekile.
Owu, kodwa sithe nje ukuba singazibopheleli iimvakalelo zakho ekufumaneni ukuvunywa kwabanye. Andithi?
uyeke njani ukuziva unetyala ngokukopela
Kukho umahluko ochuliweyo apha. Kwimeko engaphambili, uyimvumi eyodwa ozama ukutsala umdla wokufezekisa loo mfuno. Kuluntu, awuyiyo inkwenkwezi yomboniso. Ungumthathi-nxaxheba. Ilungu lasekuhlaleni. Omnye wabantu abaninzi abahlalisanayo kwaye behlangana kunye esiphelweni esithile. Awuzami ukwenza ukuthanda kwabo kwaye ufumane imvume yabo.
Icawe, amaqela entlalontle, umdlalo ojolise ebantwini, kunye nomsebenzi wokuvolontiya zonke iindlela ezilungileyo zokufumana ukuba lilungu kweli hlabathi.
4. Yamkela kwaye uyixabise into encinci yobubele.
Mamela, siza kwenza into encinci malunga nawe apha. Amathuba mahle kakhulu ukuba awukho kweyona ndawo iphambili yentloko ukuba ufunda inqaku malunga nokuziva ngathi awunamsebenzi.
Kwaye kubantu abaninzi, isenokungabi yinto encinci. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba uziva ngathi awunabahlobo, okanye ubudlelwane bakho bexesha elide abusebenzi, okanye konke okwenzayo kukusebenzela ukubakho kwaye uhlawule amatyala.
Ezi ziingxaki ezibalulekileyo ezinemvakalelo enkulu enokuziva inzima ngenene, kungakhangeleka ngathi kuyimpoxo, kwaye kuyanyelisa, ukuthi into enje, 'Yamkela kwaye uzixabise izinto ezincinci zobubele.'
Isenokuba iyavakala iyathoba kwaye ayisosisombululo sokuqinisa ukuba ubalulekile ngenxa yento oyibekayo emhlabeni.
Ngokunyaniseka, nangona kunjalo, izinto ezincinci zezinto ezihambisa umhlaba. Izinto ezinkulu ezibengezelayo zilungele ukuthengisa kunye nokukhuthaza abantu, kodwa zincinci, iintshukumo zemihla ngemihla ezinceda ukugcina eli hlabathi lijika.
Izinto ezinje ngokuthatha ixesha lokuba ubambe ucango luvuleke, uncume nomntu ongamaziyo, okanye wenze umahluko ngendlela onokuthi ubaluleke ngayo.
Izinto ezinkulu ziyathandeka xa zisiza! Kodwa abahlali beza rhoqo. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sigcwalise ixesha lethu ngezinto ezincinci ngaphambi kokufumana uthando olutsha, ukwenza abahlobo abatsha, okanye ukufumana into entsha ukuba yinxalenye yayo.
Oku kukwangummandla “wokuqhelisela umbulelo.” Inokukunceda ukuba uyenze rhoqo ebomini bakho.
5. Sukuthatha uxanduva kwiingxaki zehlabathi.
Ubuntu bujongene nemiba emininzi ngoku - imiba emikhulu, imiba emikhulu echaphazela zonke i-7 yezigidigidi zabemi behlabathi.
Inokuziva ingaphaya ngamanye amaxesha kuba ufuna ukunceda, ukwenza into encinci, ukwenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono kunye nokusombulula ezi ngxaki ziphambili zexesha lethu.
Kodwa ungumntu omnye, akunjalo? Izenzo zakho azenzi mahluko ngokwenene, andibi kunjalo? Abanangxaki kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto.
Misa nje umzuzwana apho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyongangamsha kwaye usenokungabi yititan ethile yemizi-mveliso, ingqondi yesayensi, okanye uvulindlela wezopolitiko, kodwa unoxanduva lwesahlulo sakho esincinci sentlalo.
Oku kubuyela kwimbono yokuba izinto ezincinci zenza umahluko. Kulungile, mhlawumbi hayi kwihlabathi liphela ngokwabo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kubantu abachaphazeleka ngokuqinisekileyo zizenzo zakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isenzo sakho sesinye sezigidi ezijongana nomcimbi.
Ke khumbula nje ukuba ngelixa iingxaki zehlabathi ingezizo ezakho ukuzilungisa ngokwazo, unakho, ngendlela yakho encinci, ukufaka isandla kuphuculo oluthe chu lobomi kulo mhlaba.
6. Funa uncedo olufanelekileyo lobungcali.
Ezo mvakalelo zokungakhathali zinokungabi lula kangako. Izinto ezininzi zinokuba negalelo kubo, izinto ongenakufumana uncedo olufanelekileyo kwinqaku ngazo. Ukuqaqanjelwa ngumntwana, ukugula ngengqondo, ukuxhatshazwa, kunye nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunokubangela ukwahlula iimvakalelo ezinje ngezi.
Kungakuhle ukuba uthethe nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze uxoxe ngezo mvakalelo kwaye ujongane nayo nayiphi na imiba enokubenza babangele. Ukuba awukwenzi, ke zonke izicwangciso zehlabathi kunye neengcebiso azizukunceda kuba azilungisi eyona ngxaki.
Ubalulekile. Ingaziva ngathi awukabikho ngoku, ubomi bunokuba nzima, kwaye abantu banokumunca, kodwa ayizukuhlala injalo ngonaphakade.
usweleke njani owen hart
Izinto ziya kutshintsha, kungekudala okanye kamva. Musa ukunikezela. Yakha impilo yakho kunye nokuphila kakuhle ukuze ukonwabele ezo zinto xa uzifumana.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uziva njani ngathi ubalulekile ebomini? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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