Ngaba uyayazi intetho, Ekuphela kwento ekufuneka siyoyike kukoyika uqobo. ?
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Isenokuba libinzana elisetyenzisiweyo, kodwa liyinyani.
Uninzi lwabantu lukhubazekile luloyiko kunye noxinzelelo mihla le. Batshutshiswa zizinto ezinokuthi zingahambi kakuhle, izifo abanokuba nazo, kunye nezinto ezimbi ezinokwenzeka.
Oko kwathethi, uninzi loyiko lusengqondweni kuphela kwaye aluzange lwenzeke.
Ngapha koko, iingcinga ezoyikisayo zihlala zibi kakhulu kunokuba kunjalo. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abaninzi babandezeleka ngokungeyomfuneko, bexhalabela izinto ezingasoze zenzeke.
Ngaba uhlala uloyiko okanye uxinzelelo rhoqo?
Masikucwangcisele oku, ukuze uqhubeke kwaye uqale ngokuphila ngendlela obudalelwe ngayo.
1. Misela ukuba yintoni kanye kanye le uyoyikayo
Bhala phantsi zonke izinto ozoyikayo okanye ozikhathaza ngazo rhoqo.
Le inokuba yimicimbi emikhulu ekugcina uphapheme ebusuku, okanye ii-frets ezincinci eziza ngamanye amaxesha.
Zibhale phantsi zonke ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nazo nganye nganye ngokufanelekileyo. Ngokwenza njalo, unokufumanisa ukuba zivela phi, kunye nendlela yokujongana nazo.
Uloyiko oludweliswe ngezantsi zezinye ezinokuthi zichaphazele ubomi bakho ngokuqhubekayo, kodwa iingcebiso ekwabelwana ngazo zinokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngokunye nabanye.
Ukoyika Ukufa
Olunye uloyiko olukhulu abantu abanalo kukoyika ukufa. Inyaniso iyaxelelwa, oku kuhlala kusisiseko soloyiko oluninzi abalwa nalo. Ukoyika ukugula okanye ukonzakala kunye noloyiko lokulahleka zombini zivela kukoyika ukufa, umzekelo.
Ngokukhawuleza ungenza uxolo nokusweleka kwakho okusondeleyo, kwangoko ungakhululeka kulo mjikelo woloyiko.
Ndibhale inqaku nge ujongene noloyiko lwakho lokufa kwaye inika iingcebiso ngeendlela zokujongana neenkxalabo ezahlukeneyo ezinxulumene nokufa.
Nje ukuba wenze uxolo nokufa, uninzi lolunye uloyiko luyanyamalala. Ufunda ukuhlala kumzuzu wangoku kwaye uyayixabisa yonke into onayo ngoku, endaweni yokukhathazeka malunga noko kudlulileyo, kunye nento enokwenzeka.
Ukoyika Into Embi Eyenzeka Kuwe
Olunye uhlobo loloyiko olukhubaza luze lucaphukise abantu abaninzi kukucinga ngento embi eyenzekayo kubo.
Banokoyika ukuqhuba kuba bangonzakala kwingozi yemoto. Okanye banokuba yi-hypochondriac ngenxa yazo zonke izifo abanokuzifumana.
Olu loyiko luhlala lubangelwa kukungabikho kolawulo. Ngapha koko, zihlala zivela ngenxa yemicimbi yobuntwana kunokuba zichaphazele ezempilo.
Masithi umntu ukhulele kwindawo ekuhlukumezayo kuyo uhlobo oluthile lwesoyikiso olujikeleze ikona nganye. Banokuba yi-hypervigilant, kwaye bakhule beziqinisa ukuze bafumane into embi eyenzekayo.
Nje ukuba bakwindawo apho bekhuselekile kwaye bekhuselekile, banqamleza isekethe kancinci. Azikho izoyikiso ezisondeleyo kubo zokuba balumke okanye balwe, ukuze iingqondo zabo zize nezinto eziza kuphazamiseka.
Ukuba ngaba kunjalo kuwe, zama ukusebenza apho konke oku kuvela khona ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nako kumthombo. Unokufuna uncedo lwegqirha okanye umcebisi ukuze ufunde indlela yokuhambisa kwakhona iipateni zokucinga ezindala, kwaye kulungile. Khawufane ucinge nje ngokuhambisa umjelo kwindlela esempilweni kwaye egudileyo.
Ukoyika Into Embi Esenzeka Kumntu Omthandayo
Olu lolunye uloyiko olubangelwa kukusilela kolawulo. Xa sibathanda abanye (kwaye aba banokuba ngabantu okanye abangabalingani), ukuphulukana nabo kunokuba yingozi kakhulu. Kukwenzakala nesihogo ukuba bayonzakala okanye bayagula.
Sizama ukukhusela abo sibathandayo kangangoko sinako, sizama ukubakhusela kwizigulo okanye ukwenzakala. Oku kulungelwe thina kunye nokwethu - asifuni ukuba bahlupheke, kwaye asifuni kuva iintlungu ezinxulumene nokubabona besenzakala.
Ingxaki kukuba 'ukhuseleko' yinto engekhoyo.
Ayisiyonto imnandi ukwenza uxolo nayo, kodwa iyinyani. Sizama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba thina kunye nabo sibathandayo bakhuselekile kwaye bakhuselwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa loo nto yingubo yokhuseleko kuthi kunokuba yinyani.
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Nabani na kuthi enzakaliswe okanye abulawe nanini na suku ngalunye. Kuyinyaniso enzima ukujongana nayo, kodwa kwakhona - kwakamsinya nje ukuba wenze uxolo nayo, uyeka ukuyoyika.
Endaweni yokuxhalaba ngazo zonke izinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle, uyayixabisa into onayo ngelixa usenayo. Awuthathi nto ngokungakhathali, kwaye musa ukuchitha ixesha.
Thanda kwaye ukhulise abo ubakhathaleleyo, zama ukwenza ukuba ubomi babo buzalisekiswe kwaye bonwabe kangangoko unako, kwaye ungakhethi imilo ngaphezulu kwezinto ezingabalulekanga.
Yiba khona, ube nobubele, kwaye xa kungenzeki okungenakwenzeka, awuyi kuzisola.
Uloyiko lokungaphumeleli
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokusilela. Kodwa unokuphumelela.
Zimbalwa iziqinisekiso ebomini, kwaye lonke ithuba elithathiweyo linokuphela lisilele.
Oko kwathiwa, ngomthetho we-avareji ukuba uyintoni na, kukho amathuba amaninzi okuba ithuba olithathayo liya kubangela impumelelo.
Zama ukuthatha umngcipheko omncinci ukuziqhelanisa nempumelelo encinci kunye nokusilela okuncinci.
Ngawo onke amava, zama ukungadimazeki, okanye ukuzithemba kakhulu. Ukuzama ukuqhubekeka namava nge-stoicism esondeleyo, ngaphandle kokuncamathiselwa okanye okulindelweyo nangayiphi na indlela.
Ukoyika umngcipheko / utshintsho
Abantu abaninzi bachitha ixesha elide kakhulu kwiimeko ezibenza bangonwabi kuba besoyika into enokuba yeyenye.
Cinga ngendoda ebitshatile nomfazi wayo iminyaka engama-60 nangona besazi kwasekuqaleni emtshatweni wabo ukuba ulifanasini. Kodwa endaweni yokujongana nenyani kunye nesiphithiphithi esiya kubangela ebomini bakhe, wazama ukugcina inkohliso yesiqhelo.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umfazi wakhe wachitha ubomi bakhe engakhathalelwanga kwaye edandathekile, eziphoxisa ngeentlungu zokuthomalalisa iintlungu.
Zeziphi iintlobo zobomi ababenokuba nazo ukuba bebeyiphile inyaniso yabo? Ukuba bebelandele ulwaneliseko novuyo endaweni yokugcina kakubi imeko ekhoyo?
Uloyiko lwelinye icala 'lokwenza isigqibo esikhulu esinokukuyeka ekubeni usenze. Kodwa ukuba awuzalisekanga, awonwabanga, kwaye uyacaphuka kubomi obuncinci obunqabileyo obuzenzele bona, ayingomngcipheko omkhulu hayi ukwenza utshintsho?
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Ngaba indlwane entofontofo ozenzele yona iye yaba lihhoko?
2. Gxila kwiMorale nakuNgxamiseko
Emkhosini, 'uloyiko' aluzange lukhankanywe. Endaweni yoko, zimbini izinto ekufuneka kujongwane nazo: isimilo kunye nokulindeleka.
I-Morale ibhekisa ekugcineni inzondelelo nokuzithemba komkhosi, ngelixa imeko engxamisekileyo ibhekisa ekulindeleni zonke izinto 'ezimbi' ezinokwenzeka, nokuzicwangcisela kwangaphambili.
Awukhathazeki ngokungabinazo iimbumbulu ezaneleyo: upakisha okungaphezulu. Akukho sidingo sokukhathazeka ngendlala okanye ukubanda: nxiba iimpahla ezifudumeleyo kwaye uthathe ukutya okungaphezulu kunokuba ucinga ukuba uyakukufuna.
Le ngcamango yomkhosi elula yinto onokuyifaka kalula ebomini bakho.
Qaphela uloyiko lwakho kunye noxinzelelo, kwaye ubone ukuba zeziphi iimeko ezingxamisekileyo ezinokufuneka, kunye nento ekusebenzela ukuphucula isimilo.
Ngaba woyika ukufumana isigulo? Yenza isicwangciso sokhathalelo kwimeko apho, kwaye ube nezinto onokuthi uzifune ekhaya ukuba ziyenzeka.
Ngaba uyoyika ukulahleka kwamaphepha abalulekileyo xa useluhambeni? Yenza iikopi kwaye uzishiye kwabo ubathembileyo, ikopi eyongezelelweyo kunye negqwetha lakho, kwaye enye kwibhokisi yebhanki yakho yokhuseleko.
Hlala uzikhumbuza amandla akho kwaye uqaphele ubungqina ebomini bakho obubonisa ukuba unakho kangakanani kwaye womelele kangakanani - ndithembe, ikhona ukuba uyawavula amehlo akho kuyo. Oku kuyakunceda ukugcina umoya wakho uphezulu nokuba ujongene nantoni.
3. Nika ingqalelo kwiiPosta, hayi iiNgxaki
Sinamandla kuphela kunye nengqwalaselo yokunika. Xa kuziwa kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, sikhetha ukuba sijonga kangakanani ukuba sinika ezo zinto kangakanani na.
Uqwalasele ntoni?
Ngaba uchitha iiyure ulahleka usasaza kwimithombo yeendaba kwaye woyika malunga nazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezikhankanywe apho?
Okanye wenza izinto ozithandayo, kwaye ugalela ukukhanya emhlabeni?
Kunzima kakhulu ukoyika ukubamba ingqondo yakho xa uxakekile uphila ubomi bakho, usenza izinto ezilungileyo, kwaye uzifaka emsebenzini okanye kwizinto ozithandayo.
Uloyiko lutshabalalisa ingqalelo oyinika lona. Yisa ingqondo yakho kwenye into kwaye uloyiko luya kuncipha. Phinda oku ngokufuthi ngokwaneleyo kwaye uloyiko luza kubanzima ukukhulisa intloko yalo embi kwasekuqaleni.
4. Yenza iMantra yokukunceda xa kuvela uloyiko
Ukuthetha ngokuqondisa kwakhona ingqondo yakho, abantu abaninzi bayazi ngentloko imithandazo, iikowuti, okanye imantras ebanceda ukuba basebenze ngenxa yoloyiko xa luphuma.
Iingcinga zethu zenza lukhulu ukudala ubunyani bethu, ke jolisa amandla akho kwinto ongathanda ukuyilima.
Khangela iikowuti kunye amazwi aphindaphindwayo (okanye ubhale eyakho), uze uphinde xa uziva usoyika.
I-litany ngokuchasene noloyiko oluvela kwi-Dune ka-Frank Herbert yayiyeyona nto ndiyithandayo kwiminyaka yam eyadlulayo xa ndandinengxaki enkulu:
Ngubani okhe wayithanda le nto ucinga ukuba mhle
Andimele koyika.
Uloyiko lubulala ingqondo.
Uloyiko kukufa okuncinci okuzisa ukupheliswa ngokupheleleyo.
Ndiza kujongana noloyiko lwam.
Ndiya kuyivumela ukuba idlule ngapha nangapha kwam.
Kwaye xa sele idlulile, ndiya kujika iliso langaphakathi ukuze libone indlela yalo.
Apho uloyiko luye khona, akusayi kubakho nto.
Ndiza kuhlala ndedwa.
5. Yeka Ukufihla Izizathu
Xa uhlala uloyiko, uya kufumana nasiphi na isizathu esinokubakho sokungenzi into ekoyikisayo.
Uya kwenza izizathu zokungajongani noloyiko engqondweni yakho. Izinto ezinje, 'Ndimdala kakhulu kulonto,' 'Ndixakekile,' okanye 'abantwana bam bafuna uzinzo.'
Kodwa ezo zinto ziyinyani engqondweni yakho. Akukho nyaniso ngokwenyani ethi ezi zinto mazikuyekise ukuthatha inyathelo.
Ukuziyekisa ekwenzeni izizathu zokuba kutheni ungenakwenza nto, vele uqhubeke nokwenza izibophelelo ezincinci kuyo.
Izinto ezininzi azidingi kuba kukutsiba kube linye kokholo kwindawo engaziwayo. Zingacwangciswa kwaye zenziwe kancinci kancinci de ukutsiba kungasoyiki.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuqala ishishini lakho? Qala njengesiqhushumbisi esecaleni kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ufunde iintambo kwaye ungenise abathengi okanye abathengi nganye nganye de ube uziva uzithemba ngokwaneleyo ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho ngokulungileyo.
Ngaba woyika ukuqhuba okanye ukufunda ukuqhuba? Thatha izifundo ezininzi kunokuba bekuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba ufumane ilayisensi yakho ukuze uyiqhele ngakumbi, inkumbulo yemisipha engakumbi, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kubuchule bakho. Nje ukuba uluphumelele uvavanyo lwakho, qiniseka ukuba ufumana uqeqesho oluninzi kwimigama emifutshane kunye / okanye ngomkhweli ozolileyo nonamava okugcina unenkampani. Uloyiko lwakho luza kudamba kungekudala.
Akukho nto ebomini eyoyikwa- kuphela ukuba iqondwe.
Ngendlela efanayo yokuba impilo yokwenyani ivela ekuchongeni unobangela wesifo kunokufihla iimpawu zaso, nje ukuba uqonde umthombo uloyiko lwakho, ungaluthomalalisa.
Kwaye emva koko uya kuba unganqandeki.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni uhlala uloyiko kangaka? Ngaba ufuna ukufikelela kwingcambu yokoyika kwakho? Thetha kunyangi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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