Umyeni ongacingi ukuba angaphazama ubeka umthwalo omkhulu ngokweemvakalelo zakho.
Ngokungakwazi ukuvuma ukuba uphosakele, uyakunyanzela ukuba wenze isabelo sakhe kulwalamano lomthwalo wemisebenzi yeemvakalelo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, olu hlobo lokuziphatha luzibandakanya ekuxhatshazweni ngokweemvakalelo kuba luyityeshela kwaye liyiphika impilo yakho yeemvakalelo.
Indoda engakwaziyo ukonwabela uluvo lokuba inokuba iphosakele inokuthotywa, ihlekise, okanye iqonde ngokungakhathaleli amaxesha apho ingalunganga khona. Abanye banokuzama ukwenza ulawulo olupheleleyo kubudlelwane obungalinganiyo. Abanye baya kuzama ukuzama ukulawula icandelo elincinci lobudlelwane.
Kwaye xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle xa luxanduva lwakhe? Kuphuma ukungabi nantlonelo, ukubiza ngamagama, ukujongela phantsi, kunye nokungazi.
Unokwenza ntoni ngaloo nto?
1. Zilumkele kakhulu iingcebiso ozifunda kwi-intanethi.
Mhlawumbi ufake ibinzana, 'umyeni wam ucinga ukuba akukho nto ayenzileyo' kwiinjini yokukhangela wafika kweli phepha. Mhlawumbi ufike kwelinye lamanqaku abhalwe ngokucacileyo ukuba anike amandla, akukhumbuze ngokubaluleka kwakho, kwaye akukhuthaze ukuba uthathe inyathelo!
Kukhetho olunomdla ababhali bala manqaku maninzi abawenzayo, kodwa bonke bahlala betyeshela umqolomba obalulekileyo: ukhuseleko lwakho.
Uhlobo lokuziphatha kwendoda engazange icinge ukuba iphosakele liza kulawula, ukungazithembi, kunye nokungahloniphi. Luhlobo lokudibanisa olunokwandulela okanye lube yinxalenye yobundlobongela basekhaya.
Uninzi lwala manqaku lukhuthaza ukuthatha ubuqhetseba, iindlela ezingenaxhaphetshu zokuguqula iimpikiswano, ukubandakanyeka kwimpikiswano enokuthi inyuke ngokukhawuleza ukuba uziva ephulukana nolawulo okanye i-ego yakhe yonakele.
Cinga ixesha elide kwaye kunzima ngaphambi kokuba uthathe naliphi na ingcebiso kwi-intanethi malunga nomcimbi obuthathaka. Amanqaku akwi-intanethi-nkqu nale-ayikwazi ukuvavanya imeko yakho, jonga iiflegi ezibomvu onokuthi ungazi, kwaye uqinisekise ukhuseleko lwakho.
2. Funa umbono wobungcali kumtshato okanye kumcebisi wedwa.
Olu luhlobo lweemeko apho kubalulekile ukuba ufumane indlela yakho ngokukhuselekileyo.
Umcebisi olungileyo uya kukunceda usete imida, ufumane iindlela ezichanekileyo zokujongana neengxaki ezithile ohlangabezana nazo, kwaye akulumkise ngokuziphatha kweflegi ebomvu okungafanele kutyeshelwa.
Kwihlabathi elifanelekileyo, umyeni wakho uya kufuna ukusebenzela ukusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane, mhlawumbi ngoncedo lomcebisi womtshato.
Musa ukulindela ukuba oko kwenzeke.
Indoda engacingi ukuba inokwenza nantoni na engalunganga ngekhe ifune ukuya kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwengcebiso kuba kuya kufuna ukuba ivume ukuba ayilunganga okanye ayazi nto.
Usenokukuxelela ukuba uyakuya, azimase isihlandlo esinye, emva koko akhuphe ibheyile ngesizathu sokufumana ingcebiso, 'Ukungakulungeli yena.'
Musa ukwenza impazamo malunga noku, ukuqeshwa okukodwa akukho ndawo ikufutshane ngokwaneleyo ukwenza olo hlobo lwesigwebo.
Le yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuba abantu babonakale ngathi batyale imali ekusombululeni ingxaki ngaphandle kokwenza nantoni na. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uphikisane ngayo, kodwa fakela eso senzo kude engqondweni yakho ukuba yindlela aziphethe ngayo leyo.
3. Beka imida ngoncedo lweengcali.
Abantu basiphatha ngendlela esivumela ukuba basiphathe ngayo.
xa umntu ejonge emehlweni akho engancumanga
Oko akuthethi ukuba indlela aziphethe ngayo yimpazamo yakho okanye luxanduva lwakho. Ayiyo.
Kungenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi benza izizathu zokuziphatha gwenxa kwabo babathandayo, bayakugatya ukungabi nantlonelo, abazimeli ngokwabo, okanye abahambi kwimeko apho bengaphathwa kakuhle.
Abantu benza oko ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha baziva ngathi kufanelekile. Ngamanye amaxesha baziva ngathi abaphethe kakuhle kwiqabane labo, okanye abayazi nje indlela yokujongana nomcimbi. Kwaye uthando lungasimfamekisa kwinto esinokungafuni ukuyamkela.
Iseti yemida esempilweni iyakukhusela. Imida iqinisekisa ukuba awuyamkeli imikhwa emibi okanye uvumela abanye abantu bangakuhloniphi.
Amathuba mahle kakhulu ukuba umyeni wakho akacingi ukuba angenza nantoni na engalunganga ukuze imida yakho ingabi sempilweni njengoko kufuneka ukuba ibe yiyo. Yinto onokuyiphucula kwaye usebenze kuyo.
Ezinye iingcebiso zemida oza kusebenza kuyo kukungamkeli isimilo esingabonakalisi ntlonipho, ukubona abantu ukuba bakuphethe njani, kunye nendlela yokujongana nembambano ebakho xa uqala ukunyanzelisa imida yakho. Ingcali iya kuba nakho ukunika iingcebiso ezithile ngakumbi onokuzilandela.
Ukuba ungumntu onobunzima kunye nemida, unokuba nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe abasebenzisa loo nto. Banokuphendula ngenzondo xa uqala ukuthi kwanele. Lindela ukuphulukana nabahlobo mhlawumbi uya kuthi.
4. Qala ukucinga ngesicwangciso sokuphuma kwimeko.
Isicwangciso sokuphuma? Sele? Ewe. Kwaye kutheni.
Ungacwangcisa imida, unokuba neengxoxo, ungazibandakanya nakweyiphi na into ecekeceke, coy Machiavellian iyelenqe lokuba ubudlelwane babaqeqeshi bunokubeka emngciphekweni. Okwangoku, zonke ezi zinto zityeshela inyani esisiseko:
Indoda engayamkeli into yokuba iphosakele yalatha kukungabikho kwaphela kwembeko kumntu onguye, iimvakalelo zakho, kunye nembono yakho.
Ungavumelani ngezinto kwaye uneendlela ezahlukileyo zobomi ngelixa uhlonipha iqabane. Inyaniso yokuba akakwazi okanye akayikuziphatha akuyiyo into ehambelana nendoda eyithandayo kwaye ikhathalele.
Akufanele uqinisekise indoda yakho ukuba ikuhloniphe. Ayisiyonto ekufanele ukuba yenzeke nakweyiphi na into enothando.
Ngaba lo mbandela unokusonjululwa ngaphandle kokuphulukana nobudlelwane? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba uyavuma ukuba akalunganga kwaye uzimisele ukusebenza kuyo. Izinto ezininzi zinokulungiswa ukuba sithobekile ekwamkeleni iimpazamo zethu kwaye sikulungele ukuphucula. Kodwa ukuba bekunjalo, ngekhe ulifunde eli nqaku ngoku, andibi kunjalo?
Yiba nesicwangciso sokuphuma ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukubeka imida okanye ukuthatha inyathelo. Ngale ndlela, ukuba uyaphendula ngobundlobongela, awuyi kulahleka malunga nokuba wenze ntoni okanye uqhubeke njani.
Yenza ukhuseleko lwakho lube yinto ephambili. Awunokwazi nje ukuba abanye abantu abalawulayo baya kuphendula njani xa ulawulo lwabo lusongelwa, kodwa kuhlala kungalunganga.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nokuziphatha komyeni wakho? Ngaba ufuna ingcebiso malunga nento ekufuneka uyenzile kunye nendlela yokuhlala ukhuselekile? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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