Kweli nqaku lifutshane, ndikubonisa umthambo olula ngokumangalisayo wokunceda ulungelelanise iingcinga zakho xa uziva uphantsi ngokulandelayo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubomi abunakuba lilanga lonke kwaye uyancuma mzuzwana ngamnye wosuku oza kuthi ujongane nemiceli mngeni kwaye uya kuziva uphantsi amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ngaphandle kwezi zinto ziphantsi, nangona kunjalo, awungekhe uxabise iindawo eziphakamileyo, ke musa ukuphelelwa lithemba xa ubomi bujongana nawe.
ungaxelela njani ukuba umntu ufuna isondo nje
Endaweni yokuba xa into ingahambi ngendlela othanda ngayo, usenokufunda kwaye ukhule kuyo. Unokuyihlaziya ingqondo yakho ukuze izinto ezingakhiyo zingalawuli ngokupheleleyo ukucinga kwakho.
Uyenza njani le nto?
Ewe, kulula ngokwenene. Konke kuqala ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl, owayethetha malunga 'nentando nentsingiselo' kwaye ndiyakholelwa ngokuqinileyo kwindlela yakhe yokuphila. Ucebisa ukuba, endaweni yokulindela into ebomini, kufuneka sibuze ukuba ubomi bulindele ntoni kuthi.
Uye wangqina, ngexesha lakhe kwinkampu yoxinaniso yamaNazi, ukukwazi kuthi bantu bafumane intsingiselo kuyo nantoni na nakwinto yonke-nokuba lolona hlobo lubi lokubandezeleka. Usebenzise amava akhe ukunceda ekwakheni indlela yakhe yonyango lwengqondo (i-logotherapy).
Isiseko sesi: kufuneka uzame ukuqonda intsingiselo kumzuzu ngamnye wobomi, nokuba awuchanekanga, awuthathi cala, okanye ulungile.
Ke, nanga la magama ama-4 ndifuna ukuba ucinge ngawo xa uziva uziva uphelelwe lithemba kwaye uphanzisiwe.
Ndiyayibona intsingiselo ku…
Nje ukuba ucinge la magama, zama ukugqibezela isivakalisi ngokukhangela intsingiselo kwimeko yakho. Nokuba izinto zingabonakala zimbi kangakanani na, kuhlala kukho isuntswana lokuzithemba elifihliweyo ngalo lonke ixesha ekufuneka uyenzile kukukufumana.
Yithathe kum, la magama ama-4 anokukunceda woyise amaxesha amnyama ojamelene nawo kwaye uqonde ngcono i cwangcisa indalo iphela ikunenzele .
Kuya kufuneka uzibuze: ngalo mzuzu, ngezinto endijongana nazo, ubomi bulindele ntoni kum?
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha ubomi buya kulindela ukuba ube lusizi, ukuze buhlungu xa ulahlekelwe , ukuziva uphelelwe lithemba, kodwa wakuba uqondile ukuba kukho intsingiselo ekubandezelekeni kwakho, kuba lula ukukuthwala.
yintoni ibhodi yombono kwaye isebenza njani
Ukufumana intsingiselo kuhlala kulinyathelo lokuqala kwinkqubo yokuphilisa kwaye inokukunika iindlela zokujongana nayo nayiphi na into ephambi kwakho. Ayinakuyithintela intlungu engakhange yenzelwe yona, kodwa intsingiselo inokunika intuthuzelo kunye namaxesha apho iintlungu ziyancipha nangona zifutshane.
Ewe kunjalo, xa ujongene nomqobo wabo nabuphi na ubukhulu, kuyanceda ukusebenzisa indibaniselwano yeendlela. Le yenye yezinto ezininzi ezinokusetyenziswa ngokudibeneyo ukoyisa nantoni na. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, intsingiselo kukutya komoya.
