Bambalwa abantu abanokuthi umona nomona zizinto ezilungileyo. Zombini ezi mvakalelo zikuphanga uvuyo kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye abantu kuba zikhulisa ukwahlulahlula ngokwakha ulangazelelo lwento ongenakuba nayo.
Kwaye ngelixa umona nomona zihlala zisetyenziswa ngokungafaniyo, azifani.
Umona yimvakalelo oziva ngayo xa unqwenela umgangatho okanye into anayo omnye umntu. Olo phawu lunokuba ngokwengqondo, ngokomoya, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.
Umntu ongonwabanga angamonela umhlobo wakhe obonakala onwabile kwaye engakhathali, engenaxhala okanye uxinzelelo. Umntu osilela kubuchule bokwenza izinto angabumonela ubugcisa obuhle obenziwe ngumzobi, anqwenele uhlobo olufanayo lweetalente.
Xa kufikwa kumona we izinto , ihlala ibila kwimali. Abantu babamonela rhoqo abo banemali yeemoto ezintle, amakhaya amahle, okanye iimpahla zokuyila.
Umona wenzeka xa into esele sinayo isongelwa ngomnye umntu. Umntu unokuziva enomona xa iqabane lakhe lichitha ixesha kunye nomhlobo okhangeleka, umzekelo. Umona uhlala uhambisa ukungcatshwa kunye nomsindo: 'Ingenza njani na intanda yam kum!'
Ukwahlula umona nomona kunokuba nzima, kungekuphela ngenxa yokuba abantu bezisebenzisa ngokungafaniyo kodwa kuba bahlala bengamaqabane. Iqabane othandana nalo elinika ingqalelo kumntu onomtsalane linokumenza umntu azive esongelwa, engonelanga kwaye engazithembanga, kulapho umona uvela khona. Banokubuza imibuzo enje, 'Kutheni ndingabi mhle? Kutheni ndingenakuba ngunobangela womoya nje? ”
Loo mpendulo ingakumbi malunga nolwalamano umntu analo kunye naye kunezenzo zeqabane lakhe. Umntu okhuselekileyo kubudlelwane babo ngekhe abe nezo ntlobo zeengcinga.
Umona nomona ziyityhefu kulwalamano kunye noxolo lwengqondo. Baza kutshabalalisa yonke into abayichukumisayo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba banokusebenza! Umona udla ngokuba yingcambu yekhwele, ngoko ke siza kugxila kwindlela yokuyeka ukubamonela abanye.
Makhe sijonge ezinye iingcebiso.
1. Ziqhelise ukubulela.
Umbulelo sisixhobo esinamandla sokuhlakulela ukwamkelwa ngothando kwesiqu sakho kunye nobomi.
Umona udla ngokubangelwa kukufuna izinto ezingakumbi, ukufuna izinto esingenazo. Ixesha elininzi esilichitha sihlala kwinto esingenayo kunye nento esiyifunayo, ixesha elincinci esilichitha sisebenzisa umbulelo olula ngezinto esizenzayo.
Oko kuya kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo.
Abanye abantu sele benentabalala yezinto kunye neempawu kodwa babamonela abo banazo ngaphezulu. Aba bantu bafuna ukuma kuphela ukuze baxabise ngokwenyani konke okulungileyo esele kukho ebomini babo.
Kodwa kuthekani xa usokola ebomini? Ewe, lelo lixesha apho sifuna umbulelo kakhulu.
“Ndingabulela njani xa ndineengxaki ezininzi kangaka?” Ukwenza oko, kuyanceda ukujonga izinto onazo, nokuba zifezekile kangakanani.
Imoto yakho isenokuba kwimilenze yayo yokugqibela kodwa isakufumana ukusuka ku-A ukuya ku-B, abahlobo bakho isenokuba ayingabo abona bantu baninzi kodwa basabonelela ngobuhlobo, irayisi kunye neembotyi ziguga emva kwethutyana kodwa zigcina isisu sakho sigcwele.
Kwaye ulapha, usenakho ukusebenzela izinto ezingcono ebomini bakho-ihlala iyinto onokubulela ngayo.
soze ndifumane uthando
Nje ukuba ufumane umbulelo, uya kuba nesixhobo esimangalisayo sokuchasana neemvakalelo zakho ezimbi, nokuba uphantsi kangakanani.
2. Yeka ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho kwabanye.
Kwangoko, sinike imizekelo embalwa yomona - umntu ongonwabanga omonela umntu owonwabileyo, umntu ongaziva enomona ekhweletela igcisa, nomntu ongenamali ekhweleta umntu ngobutyebi.
Into kukuba, olu thelekiso kunqabile lubonakalise iyonke kunye nenyani epheleleyo yemeko.
Umntu ohamba encumile ebusweni bakhe oko akuthethi ukuba bonwabile. Abantu abakho lula kangako. Kuthetha ukuba bafuna ukwenza umfanekiso wobume kunye nolonwabo kwihlabathi liphela.
Uninzi lwabantu abahluphekileyo banobuchule ekuhlaleni kwaye banenkathalo ngokwaneleyo yokuzifihla iintlungu zabo ngoncumo. Awunalo nofifi lokuba yintoni esemva koncumo lomntu.
Ukudala kuyamangalisa. Abantu bahlala bekuxelela ukuba banqwenela ukuba netalente okanye ubuchule kodwa bahlala bekungahoyi xa ubaxelela ukuba ayisosipho sikaThixo sisiphumo sokusebenza nzima kunye nokuziqhelanisa.
Nabani na onokuba nobuchule bokuyila ukuba bangathatha ixesha lokwamkela umdla wokuyila kunye nomsebenzi wokuphuhlisa izakhono. Kwaye oko akupheleli ekubhaleni, ekuzobeni, okanye ekupeyinteni! Ikwabandakanya izinto ezinje ngomatshini owenziwe kakuhle, apho icandelo ngalinye lisebenza ngokuchanekileyo injongo yalo kuba umntu onobuchule ngamanani ayila ukuba ibe njalo.
Imali inamaqhinga. Iza kunye nexabiso elongezelelekileyo eliqhotyoshelwe kuyo, ihlala ikwimo yokusebenza nzima okanye intlawulo yenzala yezinto ezithengwe ngekhredithi.
Wakhe weva 'ngemixokelelwane yegolide?' Kulapho ke ufumana umsebenzi ohlawula kakhulu, uthenge indlu entle, imoto entle, kwaye wenze indlela yokuphila efuna ukuba wenze okuninzi, ukuba akunjalo. Ngoku ubotshelelwe kulo msebenzi ukugcina indlela yakho yokuphila, nokuba uyafuna okanye awuyifuni, ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukubuphucula ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakho.
Ungaze uthelekise ubomi bakho nobabanye. Awusoze wazi ukuba baphethe ntoni okanye bancama ntoni ukuze babenako oko banako.
3. Chitha ixesha elincinci nabantu abanomona.
Abantu ochitha nabo ixesha banempembelelo enkulu kwiminqweno yakho, kwiminqweno nakwiminqweno yakho.
Masithi uhlala nabantu abahlala kukhuphiswano. Kwimeko apho, uya kuzifumanisa utshayelele kolo khuphiswano. Oko kuquka ukuba nomona.
Abanye abantu zezona zimbi ekuququzeleleni nasekukhuthazeni ezo mvakalelo zingalunganga. “Unendlu engcono! Imoto ebiza kakhulu! Impahla ebhetele! Kufuneka ubabonise abanye aba bantu ukuba uyifumene! '
Ngoba? Abona bantu banenkathalo yokwenene ngabanye abantu abakolu khuphiswano lunye. Ke kutheni ungade uzixakekise ngokuhlala nabantu abo xa konke kuzakukwenza ukondla ukungazithembi kwakho, kubangele ukuba uzive ngathi awulunganga ngokwaneleyo, kwaye uzive ngathi ufuna ukukhuphisana.
Phicotha izangqa zakho ezikufutshane. Chitha ixesha elincinci nabantu abakuloo treadmill ingapheliyo.
4. Funda ukubhiyozela impumelelo yabanye.
Indlela elula yokuphelisa umona kukufumana ulonwabo lokwenene kwimpumelelo yabanye abantu.
Ubomi abudingi ukuba lukhuphiswano. Ngenxa yokuba umntu ephumelele akuthethi ukuba ulahlekile. Nokuba uyaphulukana, kuhlala kukho amathuba amaninzi okusebenzela kule nto uyifunayo kwaye ufumane eyakho impumelelo.
Sukugxila kwinto oziva ukuba umntu uyayifanele okanye ayikufanelanga. Endaweni yoko, jolisa kuvuyo lwabo, uncume ngokuqaqambileyo, kwaye ubhiyoze kunye nabo.
Ukumomotheka ngokwendalo kuyiphucula imeko yethu ngokukhuthaza imveliso ye-endorphin, ke unokuzama ukwakha ikhonkco phakathi kwamava amahle kunye nolonwabo ngaloo ndlela.
5. Cacisa malunga nento oyirhalelayo.
Sebenzisa umona wakho njengomthombo wesikhokelo ukuze uqonde ngcono eyona nto ufuna ukuyiphumeza.
Yithi unomona ngeqabane lakho uSue kuba uhlala ebonakala ngathi uzithembile. Kodwa xa ujonga kufutshane, eyona nto unqwenela ukuba ungayenza kunye nayo kukubeka intetho efanelekileyo kunye nomphathi wakho okanye abathengi. Oko kunento yokwenza nokucwangciswa, ukuziqhelanisa, kunye nokufumana ingxelo evela kwabanye njengokuzithemba.
Okanye mhlawumbi umonela umhlobo wakho uChris kuba uhlala kwindlu enkulu kwindawo entle. Ukanti, xa ujonga loo mona, yindlela ophila ngayo le ndlu oyifunayo. Mhlawumbi kuye kwahamba emaphandleni emnyango okanye igadi ilungele ukonwabisa iindwendwe. Unokwazi ukufumana izinto ezifanayo ngendlu encinci kakhulu onokufikelela kuyo.
Zama ukususa umntu kwi-equation kwaye ufumane ngokuthe ngqo malunga nezinto kunye neempawu ezinqwenela ukuba nazo.
Emva koko…
6. Yiba nokuxakeka uziphucula wena nobomi bakho.
Ngaba uchitha ixesha kunye namandla ngokwaneleyo ukwakha ubomi obufunayo? Kuyinselele ukufumana ixesha lokuba kumashishini abanye abantu xa ujolise kwinto ekufuneka uzenzele yona, ukuze ufumane into oyifunayo ebomini.
Ukuba unexesha lokuba nomona, ngokuqinisekileyo unexesha lokusebenza kwiindawo ezikwenza uzive ungakhuselekanga kwaye ubamonela abanye.
Zininzi iindlela onokuhamba ngazo. Kungenzeka ukuba ufuna unyango ukuze ujongane nemicimbi evelayo malunga nokungaqiniseki kwakho.
Mhlawumbi yinto yokutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo. Mhlawumbi umsebenzi owahlukileyo? Okanye ubuyela ekholejini uyokufumana umsebenzi ongcono? Ukutya okunempilo? Usebenzisa ngakumbi?
Nokuba yintoni na, yenze. Yenza izicwangciso, zibekele iinjongo, fumana inkuthazo yokutshintsha ubomi bakho ngeendlela ozifunayo.
Sebenzisa oonondaba abambalwa kunye nemidiya yoluntu.
Imithombo yeendaba idala iimbono ezininzi ezingekho ngqiqweni ngobomi. Ayikokuthengisa nje kunye nentengiso eyenzayo nokuba. Uninzi lweenkqubo zikamabonwakude zenza ulindelo olungeyonyani lomsebenzi, umdlalo, kunye nobudlelwane abantu abangenamava abanokuthatha njengenyaniso.
Enye yeetropu eziqhelekileyo kukuba nesangqa esikhulu sabahlobo apho wonke umntu ehlangana khona rhoqo. Ngokwenyani, ubomi buxakekile. Abantu baneentsapho, imisebenzi kunye noxanduva. Ubudlelwane buba nzima ukugcina kuba omabini amaqela kufuneka anikezele ngexesha kunye namandla ukugcina olo lwalamano luphila.
Ukuthengisa kunye nentengiso akukho ngcono. I-FOMO, okanye 'uloyiko lokulahleka,' yindlela eqhelekileyo yokukhuthaza umnqweno kunye nongxamiseko.
“Uyayifuna le nto! Jonga indlela abonwabe ngayo bonke aba bantu! Ngaba awufuni ukonwaba? Thenga imveliso yethu kunye / okanye inkonzo! Yeyona nto yakutshanje, inkulu, intsha, ishushu! '
Yindlela abathengisi abasebenzisa ngayo ukungazithembi kwakho.
Kwaye imithombo yeendaba zentlalo zihlala ziyinto eqaqanjisiweyo ekhethiweyo yobomi bomntu. Bambalwa abantu abathumela ngento abangenayo okanye ubomi babo abuhambi kakuhle.
Kwaye abo benzayo, ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuthatha abo bantu ngokungathí sina. Banokuba luhlobo oluhlala lubandakanyeka kumdlalo weqonga abawenzayo okanye ekuhlaleni abanomdla ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangaqondi ukuba ngumbono ombi ukuhambisa iimpahla zabo ezimdaka kwindawo yeqonga.
Imithombo yeendaba encinci ihlala iyinto elungileyo, nangona kukho izibonelelo ezisemgangathweni phaya ekuncedeni ufumane indlela yakho kwiingxaki ezithile.
8. Musa ukuhlala ubomi bakho njengokhuphiswano.
Ubomi yile nto uyenzayo. Ukuba uyiguqula ikhuphisane, iya kuba lukhuphiswano.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhuphisane nomnye umntu ngaphandle kwakho ukuze ube ngumntu ongcono kunokuba wawunjalo izolo.
Kwaye, eneneni, nangona unokwaneliseka yile nto unayo, ayilunganga kwaphela ukuba uthethe okanye ucinge ukuba silungile njengokuba sinjalo. Kwezinye iimeko, loo nto iba yinto enetyhefu ebangela ukuba abantu beme xa besakhula bekwenza.
Endaweni yokuba ufuna ukuvavanya iindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho. Uziva phi wonwabile? Awonwabanga? Yintoni ofuna ukuphucula kuyo? Kwaye okona kubalulekileyo- kutheni ufuna ukuphucula?
Khumbula: oku kwenzelwe wena kuba unelungelo lokusebenzela uhlobo lobomi olufunayo, hayi ukukhuphisana nabanye abantu.
Ukhuphiswano lunokulunga kwiidosi ezinomda kunye nezilawulwayo. Kodwa ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ulwa nomona ngenxa yabanye abantu, ungazihlutha ezo mvakalelo zamandla abo ngokungadlali nje lo mdlalo.
Khumbula ukuba usebenza kwiinjongo zakho ngokwakho. Ayinamsebenzi indlela olinganisa ngayo nabani na ongomnye, nokuba abanye abantu bafuna ukuziva njani.
Ngaba umona uyayichaphazela impilo-ntle yakho yengqondo ngendlela enkulu? Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kujongana njani nayo? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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