Ngaba abantu banokutshintsha?
Ewe banako.
Ngaba abantu baza kutshintsha?
Ewe, ngumbuzo ohluke ngokupheleleyo lowo.
Ngaba zikhona iimpawu zokuba ukrelekrele uyakopa
Isidingo sotshintsho sihlala sivela kwisityhilelo esithile sokuba indlela umntu abuqhuba ngayo ubomi bakhe ayisasebenzi kuye.
Eyona nto ibangela ukuba utshintsho lube yinto enzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Yinto ekufuneka yomelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ibambe indlela ababuqonda ngayo ubunyani babo, zibangele ukubonakalisa, kunye nokukhuthaza isenzo sokwenza utshintsho olunentsingiselo.
Isakhono sokwamkela ukuba umntu kufuneka atshintshe linyathelo elikhulu kuhambo lokuchacha. Kwaye asithethi ngokuvuma nje ukuba kufuneka kwenziwe utshintsho. Kulula ukuyamkela ingxaki emva koko ungenzi nto kwaphela ngayo.
Oko sithetha ngako kukwamkelwa. Ukwamkela ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha yenza ubomi bam bube mandundu, ichaphazele abanye abantu, kwaye ibangele iingxaki.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba umntu avume ukuba kufuneka atshintshe?
Akukho mpendulo inye ehambelana ncam, kuba abantu bangcolileyo, izidalwa ezinemvakalelo.
Enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu ekutshintsheni kukuziva iziphumo zomntu ongenampilo, ukuzilimaza, okanye ukuziphatha okunetyhefu. Oko kuhlala kwenzeka xa abantu abakungqongileyo benemida esempilweni.
Izinto ezinobuchule zokwenza intombi yakho
Umntu uya kuzifumana efumana uhlobo oluthile lweziphumo ezibi okanye iimpembelelo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo.
Cinga ngalo mzekelo ulandelayo.
USarah uzinyanga amayeza akhe ngemicimbi yempilo notywala kuba akakholelwa ukuba ufuna uncedo. Ekuqaleni, wayefuna into encinci apha naphaya ukumnceda afike kumaxesha anzima.
Into ayaziyo uSarah, kodwa angahoyi, kukuba utywala buyadandathekisa kwaye bunokwenza ukugula ngengqondo kube kubi.
Into angayamkeliyo kwaphela kukuba ingxaki yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye nokunxila zizifo zengqondo ezizezabo. Kwaye uzenzela oko ngokusebenzisa utywala njengesixhobo sokulwa.
Emva kwethutyana, iqala ukubonisa. USarah ufuna utywala ukuze asebenze. Unotywala obufihlwe apha endlini. Unebhotile emise edesikeni yakhe yedesika emsebenzini, uyazi, kuba xa efuna ukuthatha umda.
Iphuma egazini kulwalamano lobuqu. Akanakuthembela ekulandeni abantwana kuba waqala ukusela xa ephuma emsebenzini kwaye engakwazi ukuqhuba. Uchitha imali usapho lwabo olungenayo ukusela kuba iyamvumela ukuba abaleke iingxaki ezisengqondweni yakhe kunye noxinzelelo lobomi. USarah akalindelekanga kwaye akathandeki ngelixa esela.
Akukho nanye kwezi ingxaki ixesha elide. Umlingane kaSarah uyamthanda kwaye akafuni ukumbona elusizi, engazinzanga, okanye ekhathazekile, ke ayithethi ngayo. Iqabane likaSarah linikwe amandla, kude kube ngoku bengekho.
Iqabane ekugqibeleni liyadinwa nguSarah ngokungathembeki, ukungazinzi, nokunxila. Ke, baqala ukuzoba imida kunye nokulwa noSara ngokusela kwakhe.
Mhlawumbi uSarah ekugqibeleni uyabona ukuba kukho ingxaki kwaye ufuna uncedo. Okanye mhlawumbi uSarah uyayala kwaye ucinga ukuba iqabane yingxaki.
Mhlawumbi uSarah akayamkeli de kube yiminyaka engamashumi amathathu ezantsi kwendlela xa ejonga emva kubomi bakhe bobudlelwane obuqhekekileyo, aphulukene namathuba, kwaye waphoswa lulonwabo kuba ebengenakho ukwamkela ukuba kufuneka atshintshe.
Kutheni abantu bengatshintshi xa kukho ingxaki yokwenene?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba abantu bengatshintshi.
Unabantu, i-narcissists kunye ne-sociopaths, abangakwaziyo ukuzibonakalisa okanye ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo. Abatshintshi kuba bengaziva ukuba kufuneka batshintshe.
Nguye wonke umntu oyingxaki. Yimpazamo yakho ukuba wenzakaliswe, okanye ungathandi isenzo sabo, okanye ungenzi into abathi yenze, okanye awuvumelani nendlela abaphila ngayo ubomi babo.
ungenza ntoni xa uyadika ekhaya
Bayala ukuyeka kwaye bathathe umzuzwana wokucinga ngako kuba sele besazi ukuba banyanisile. Ke kutheni befanele ukukhathazeka?
Emva koko unabantu abangafuni kutshintsha kuba utshintsho luyothusa. Utshintsho alwaziwa ukuba uhamba ungenalo nofifi lokuba izinto ziya kuhamba njani.
Mhlawumbi ubeke wonke umsebenzi wokwenza utshintsho, kwaye isiphumo asiyiyo le nto ubuyilindele. Mhlawumbi ubulindele okungaphezulu mhlawumbi ubungalindelanga kwanto. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, kunzima ukucinga ukuba ubomi bakho buya kwahluka njani wakuba usete indlela yotshintsho.
Ukwaneliseka kuthintela notshintsho. Mhlawumbi umntu wanelisekile ngokupheleleyo ngobomi babo. Mhlawumbi abasiboni isidingo sokutshintsha kuba sele besenza yonke into abafuna ukuyenza kwaye iimfuno zabo zifezekisiwe.
Oko kubanika inkululeko yokulinganisa nayiphi na imfuneko yenguqu. Sicinga ngasemva kumzekelo wangaphambili, uSarah wayenokubuthethelela ngokulula utywala kunye neengxaki ukuba ubambe umsebenzi oqhelekileyo. “Andizange ndiphoswe ngumsebenzi. Ndizalisekisa uninzi lweembopheleleko zam. Yintoni ke ingxaki? '
Kwaye abanye abantu abatshintshi kuba bengaziva benamandla okanye amandla okutshintsha. Olu luhlobo lokuqiqa olubona ebantwini abasindileyo ekuphathweni gadalala ekhaya okanye emntwaneni abaye bazithemba.
Umntu ocinga ukuba akakwazi okanye akafanelekanga usenokungazami ukutshintsha kuba ekhokelwe ekubeni akholelwe ukuba abanalwazi ngokwaneleyo. Obu bubuxoki ukuba abaxhaphazi bafuna amaxhoba abo akholelwe ukuze babalawule.
indlela yokufumana amaxesha anzima kubudlelwane
Inyani yile yokuba nabani na unokufezekisa okuninzi ukuba uzimisele ukusebenza kuko, wamkele ukusilela njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda, kwaye uzame kwakhona ngezinto ozifundileyo.
Ndingalukhuthaza kwaye ndilukhuthaze njani utshintsho?
Isenzo sokukhuthaza kunye nenkuthazo yotshintsho incangathi. Abantu bayakucaphukela ukuxelelwa ukuba mabenze ntoni kwaye benze njani.
Ukurhwebelana kwishishini lomnye umntu kwaye ubaxelele ngendlela abamele baphile ngayo ubomi babo buza kudibana nembambano nobutshaba. Oko kuhlala kubeka omnye umntu ekuzikhuseleni, kwaye abayi kumamela kuba baya kugxila ngakumbi ekuzikhuseleni.
Into eqhele ukusebenza ngcono kukuba nemida esempilweni, eqinileyo kwaye uyinyanzelise. Khuthaza ngokukhuthaza. Uninzi lwabantu ludinga ukukhunjuzwa ukuba bayakwazi kwaye bafanelekile, kwaye banamandla ngakumbi kunokuba banokuqonda.
Ngelishwa, ukuzoba nokunyanzelisa imida kunokubangela ungquzulwano. Isenokuthetha ukuphela kobudlelwane okanye ubuhlobo ukuba izenzo zomntu zibangela ingozi kuwe nakubomi bakho. Yinyani nje elusizi ekufuneka sonke siyamkele.
Kwaye emntwini ekufuneka etshintshile, inyani engeyiyo inokuba yeyona nto bayifunayo ukuze ekugqibeleni bazamkele iingxaki kunye nokwenza kwabo. Isenokuba sesona senzo sikhulu sobubele onokubanika sona.
Ndazi njani ukuba umntu utshintshile?
Uzoba imida yakho, ukhukuliseka umke kothandekayo wakho otshabalalisayo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, bayabuya bakuxelele ukuba batshintshile.
Wazi njani ukuba ngokwenene batshintshile okanye bazama nje ukubuyela kwizibabalo zakho ezilungileyo? Lo mbuzo unempendulo elula ngokulula.
Buza nje ukuba benze ntoni ukutshintsha. Ukuba baphendula into enje, 'Owu, ndenze ukhetho ndenza,' mhlawumbi abathethi nyani. Kungenzeka, kodwa akunakwenzeka.
Ukutshintsha imikhwa emibi kunye nokutshabalalisa kunzima kwaye kunzima. Ifuna umsebenzi omninzi, ukuzihlola, ukutshintsha imikhwa yakudala, ukuphucula imikhwa emitsha.
Abantu kunqabile ukuba babone ukuba bangayenza njani yonke le nto ngokwabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo baya kufuna inkxaso eyongezelelweyo, umcebisi, umcebisi, iincwadi, naziphi na iindlela zokungafundi imikhwa yabo emidala kwaye endaweni yazo bathathe ezintsha.
Kwaye kuthatha ixesha. Kungathabatha iinyanga okanye iminyaka ukwenza iminyaka yobuthi obunobungozi. Ayisiyonto inokusombululwa ngokukhawuleza kweminwe.
Ufuna ngokwenene ukuva naluphi na uhlobo lobunzulu okanye impendulo entsonkothileyo. Oko kuhlala kungumqondiso olungileyo wokuba bathetha inyani.
Ukukhula komntu kunye notshintsho kuhlala kuyinkqubo ende, ebuhlungu. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba utshintsho lunokwenzeka kakhulu kubantu abazimiseleyo ukutshintsha, abazimisele ukufaka umsebenzi, kwaye bajongane nokungaziwayo.
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