Kwakungenxa yesincomo sencwadi endandiqala ukuba nomdla kwihlabathi lokuzinceda (a.k.a. ukukhula komntu, ukuziphucula, okanye enye into ongathanda ukuyibiza).
Ndiyakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uninzi lweencwadi endizifundileyo ukusukela ngoku zitshintshe kakhulu indlela endibona ngayo kwaye ndibuphila ngayo ubomi bam. Ngelixa ndifunde izihloko ezininzi ezinomdla ngexesha lam, zikhona ezimbalwa ezishiye umbono oqinisekileyo kum ezincwadini endikufumene kunzima ukuzibeka phantsi kwaye ezinye ndizakubuyela kuzo amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Nazi ezi-9 onokufuna ukongeza kuluhlu lwakho ukuba awukazifundi.
1. Ukufuna komntu ngeNjongo nguViktor Frankl
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Kuya kufuneka ndiyifunde le ncwadi ka-3 okanye ama-4 amatyeli asele, kwaye sihlandlo ngasinye ingumcimbi oshukumayo notshintshisayo. Isiqingatha sokuqala sencwadi sichaza amava ombhali kwiinkampu zoxinaniso zamaNazi ezahlukeneyo, ngelixa isiqingatha sesibini sinika intshayelelo emfutshane kwisebe lonyango lwengqondo awaphuhlisa ngaphambi, ngexesha, nasemva kwemfazwe.
Yincwadi emfutshane- enye onokuyifunda kwiseshoni enye ukuba ubunalo ixesha - kodwa oku akuphazamisi kwimpembelelo ebenayo kum nakwizigidi ezinjengam. Ivula umnyango kwihlabathi elinentsingiselo ebelikade livaliwe kum. Ngenxa yoko ndiya kuhlala ndinombulelo.
Ndizifundile uninzi lweencwadi zikaFrankl ukusukela kwaye indlela yakhe ebomini yenye yeempawu ezihambelana nam. Ndingothuka ukuba ibingenalo uhlobo lwempembelelo kuninzi lwabafundi.
2. Amandla aNgoku ngu-Eckhart Tolle
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Le yayiyincwadi eyayiqalela yonke into kum, kodwa okunene ndiyifumene kunzima ukuya okokuqala ngqa. Andithandabuzi ngoku ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba yayiyinto yam yokuqala yolu hlobo kwaye ndandingengomfundi mkhulu ngelo xesha.
Ndiyifunde okwesibini emva kweminyaka embalwa kwaye ngequbuliso yenza ingqiqo kum. Ndiyasiqonda isizathu Ukuphila ngoku ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ndaye ndenza iinzame zokwenza oko kufundiswa nguTolle.
3. Umphefumlo wemali nguLynne Twist
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Ndiyifundile le ncwadi ngexesha lokuphumelela okukhulu kum, xa bendifumana umvuzo ongaphezulu lee komntu oqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kolwalathiso oluqinisekileyo lokuba ibhalansi yam ebhankini yayisiya phi, ndaziva ndinqunyanyisiwe emalini kwaye ndingakwazi ukuyonwabisa.
Le ncwadi itshintshe umbono wam wemali kunye nobutyebi indenze ndabona ukuba ukulangazelela ukuba sisityebi kusekwe kwi uloyiko lokunqongophala kwaye ukusukela ubutyebi obugqithisileyo kwafihla intabalala yokwenyani eyayindijikelezile.
kutheni kubuhlungu kangaka xa uthanda umntu
Ndicinga ukuba le ncwadi ingabuguqula ubomi babantu abaninzi kangaka kuluntu olubonakala luthanda ubutyebi kunye nokuzuza izinto eziphathekayo.
4. Ubuchopho Obuzitshintshayo ngoNorman Doidge
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Le yincwadi endiyifunde kutshanje kwaye ibingcono kakhulu kunokuba bendicinga. Ixoxa ngenkqubela phambili kwisayensi yobuchopho kunye nonyango olutsha oluphuhliswayo kuzo zonke iintlobo zeemeko zengqondo.
Into endicinga ukuba inokuba ngumceli mngeni kunye nencwadi yezobuchwephesha engenakukwazi ukuyifunda, ibandakanyeka ngokupheleleyo ukusuka kwiphepha ukuya kwelokugqibela, kwaye ikhuthaza kakhulu. Indifundise ukuba ingqondo yeplastiki injani kwaye ingakhokelela njani kutshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha.
Le ncwadi indinike umdla omkhulu wokuya phambili kuba ngoku ndiyayiqonda indlela ingqondo yam enokuthi ikhule ngayo kwaye ingandinceda njani ukuba ndijongane nemiceli mngeni enje ngoxinzelelo, ixhala kunye nokuba nengqondo.
5. Ukwamkela ukungaqiniseki nguSusan Jeffers
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Ndandifunde incwadi kaJeffers ethengisa kakhulu 'Yiva uloyiko kwaye uyenze njalo' kwiminyaka embalwa ngaphambili kwaye, ngelixa ndiyonwabile, andizange ndiyilinganise kakhulu njengoko kubonakala ngathi baninzi. Ke xa bendinethuba lokufunda esinye sezihloko zakhe, bendinolindelo olulinganiselweyo kokona kulungileyo.
Njengoko kuvela, ndadibanisa kakhulu ngakumbi nokubhaliweyo kule ncwadi ilandelayo, kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba iikhonsepthi kunye nezifundo zigutyungelwe ukuba zisebenza ngakumbi kubomi ngokubanzi endaweni yeemeko ezithile.
Kuya kufuneka sonke samkele ngakumbi ukungaqiniseki kuba ukuba kukho nantoni na eqinisekileyo ebomini, kukuba ubomi abuqinisekanga. Le ncwadi ingqina ukuba sisikhokelo esikhulu sokujongana noku.
6. Izipho zokungafezeki nguBrené Brown
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Siphila kwihlabathi elibeka ixabiso elikhulu kwimfezeko kwaye ndicinga ukuba abantu abaninzi-mna ndibandakanyiwe-bayoyika ukubonisa imiphetho yabo emibi, iimpazamo zabo kunye nokusikelwa kwabo umda.
Kule ncwadi, uBrown uthatha abafundi ngamanyathelo ali-10 (okanye izikhokelo njengoko ebabiza) ukuzama nokuzama ukusiqinisekisa ukuba kufanele ukuba siphila ubomi obunyanisekileyo, ngaphandle kwezinkxalabo zokuba abanye bacinge ntoni ngathi. Kuya kufuneka sizenzele imfesane, ukomelela , unombulelo, kwaye uthembekile.
Ndiyazi ukuba ndiza kuphinda ndifunde le ncwadi kwikamva elingekude kakhulu, xa ndiziva ndikwazi ukungafezeki kwam kunye nokusilela.
7. Ubomi obuViweyo nguStephen Grosz
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Ndiyifundile le ncwadi ngelixa bendikwiholide kwiminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo kwaye yayiyeyona nto yandenza ndema ndacinga ngesahluko ngasinye esidlulayo. Ngokusisiseko ingqokelela yamabali asuka kwisingqengqelo se-psychoanalyst malunga nezigulana zakhe kunye nendlela abajamelana nayo-kwaye bahlala boyisa-imicimbi yabo ngoncedo lwakhe.
Into endandiyithanda ngale ncwadi yayikukuba kwakulula kangakanani ukuyifunda yayivakala ngathi ngumsebenzi weentsomi ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa yayizele zizifundo zobomi ezinamandla.
Iinjongo zesayikholoji zezi
Ndiza kuthi nqumama emva kokufunda ityala ngalinye, ndetyise oko bendikufundile. Ndaziva ndisisilumko kancinci emva koko, kwaye yandikhumbuza ukuba sonke sijamelene nemiceli mngeni ebomini bethu kwaye akunangqondo ukukholelwa ngenye indlela. Kodwa ndikwafundisiwe ukuba nawuphi na umqobo unokoyiswa ukuba intando ikhona yokwenza njalo.
8. Kutheni amaZebra angafumani izilonda nguRobert Sapolsky
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Uxinzelelo yeyona nto inkulu ekufuneka ndijongane nayo kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla, ke ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndifumane okungakumbi ngento enokuyenza emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
USapolsky ugubungela isihloko ngokweenkcukacha ezithile, esenza le ncwadi ibe ntle kakhulu. Ngaphandle kobubanzi kunye nobunzulu bezinto eziphathekayo, ngokwenene kufundwa ngokulula. Uyakwaziswa kweyona nto iphambili yimveliso yoxinzelelo kunye nendlela ezinokuchaphazela ngayo ukwakheka komzimba kunye nokusebenza komzimba nengqondo.
Ukuba ukhe wafuna umnxeba wokuvuka malunga noxinzelelo olwenzayo kuwe, le kuphela kwencwadi onokuya kuyo.
Ngelixa ingazukukunyanga kuxinzelelo, inokukuqala kwindlela eya kwikamva elizolileyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba yile nto indenzele yona.
9. Ukuphuma ebumnyameni nguSteve Taylor
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Ndiyifundile eliqela kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ngoku, kodwa ndiyakhumbula ukumangaliswa yindlela abantu abomelele ngayo. Le yenye incwadi eyenziwe ngamabali obomi bokwenyani, kwaye ngeli xesha lijonga ifuthe lotshintsho olunokubakho kuxinzelelo olukhulu okanye isiphithiphithi.
izinto ezinomdla zokuthetha ngawe
Ibali ngalinye libonisa ukubanakho kwabantu ukuze babuye umva baphelelwe lithemba. Abalinganiswa kumabali baye bahlupheka oko kunokubonakala njengamaxesha oyikisayo ebomini babo, ukanti bonke bafumene inqanaba lokuzola ngenxa yeentlungu zabo.
Kuyandithuthuzela ukwazi ukuba uxolo kunye nokukhanyiselwa kuyenzeka kwaye baya kuhlala kunjalo nokuba zeziphi na izilingo kunye neembandezelo endidibana nazo ebomini bam.
Ithetha ukuthini i- *? Le webhusayithi isebenzisa amakhonkco onxibelelwano ukunceda ukuxhasa iindleko zayo eziqhubayo. Naphi na apho ubona * ecaleni kwekhonkco, oko kuthetha ukuba sinamalungiselelo entengiso naloo webhusayithi kwaye sinokufumana intlawulo yemali xa undwendwela kwaye usenza isenzo esithile (umzekelo, ukuthenga). Oku kusinceda ukuba sigcine indawo sayisebenzisa simahla kwaye ivumela ukuba siqhubeke nokupapasha amanqaku aluncedo kunye neengcebiso rhoqo.
