Ngaba ungumntu onekratshi ofuna ukutshintsha? Oko kuyakwenza eyona ngqondo kuba ufunda eli nqaku kwasekuqaleni. Sifuna ukuvuyisana nawe kwaye sithi:
Yinto entle leyo. Ngokwenene. Kuthatha lukhulu ukuvuma ukusilela kwaye ufuna ukusebenza ukulungisa oko ukuze ube sempilweni, wonwabe.
Ukuze sisebenze kwaye silungise le ngxaki, kufuneka siyiqonde eyona nto sithetha ngayo kwaye yintoni eyenza ukuba ibe yingxaki enjalo.
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Yintoni ikratshi?
Masiqale ngenkcazo yesichazi-magama.
Ukuzikhukhumalisa -Imeko yokuba nekratshi. Ukuba okanye ukutyhila imeko ebaxiweyo yokubaluleka komntu okanye ubuchule bakhe.
Umntu onekratshi uya kucinga ukuba wazi ngcono okanye zezona zilungileyo. Banokuziva ngathi abanye abantu ngekhe benze into abayenzayo ngempumelelo efanayo.
Uluvo lwabo luthatha ukuba umbono wabo wehlabathi uphezulu kwaye uchanekile, kwaye bahlala kunzima ukuba bacelomngeni. Imiceli mngeni kwimbono yehlabathi inokubenza babe nomsindo kakhulu.
Ukuzikhukhumeza akunaso isizathu esinye. Inokuphuma kumntu ophumelele kakhulu, ukuzithemba nokuzithemba, okanye isidingo sokwamkelwa. Isenokuba sisiphumo sobudlelwane obuhlwempuzekileyo obunamandla kunye nomzali njengomntwana, apho umntwana waqhathwa ukuba afumane uthando nothando lwabazali.
Umntu onekratshi unokuziva ukuba kufuneka afezeke kwaye aphakame kunabanye abantu ukubonisa ukuba bafanelekile.
Banokuzinyanzela kwipateni yokucinga apho kufuneka bazi ngcono kuba baphumelele kwezinye izinto. Olunye ujongo lwehlabathi kunye neembono azibalulekanga kangako, kuba abacingi ngokwaneleyo ngamava obomi babanye abantu.
Kweminye, ikratshi yindlela ekhuselayo eluntwini olukhathaleleyo ngakumbi malunga nento onokuyenza ngayo kunokuba unguye. I-facade yokuphakama yenzelwe ukuba ibe sisixhobo esikhusela umntu ekugxekweni kwangaphandle nasekuhlaselweni. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ndiyazi bhetele kunawe, kutheni ndifanele ndikhathalele ukuba ucinga ntoni ngam okanye ngento endiyenzileyo?
Into umntu onekratshi angayiqondiyo kukuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo. Akukho mntu unayo yonke impendulo. Akukho mntu unako okanye ufuna ukwazi yonke into.
Wonke umntu unesiphako, iimpazamo, kwaye ulwa nezinto amaxesha ngamaxesha. Oko akumenzi nabani na umntu ongaphantsi. Obo bubomi kuphela.
Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kwekratshi nokuzithemba?
Igama elinye - ukuthobeka.
Ukuthobeka - imbono ethozamileyo okanye ephantsi ngokubaluleka kukabani ukuthobeka.
Kukukwazi ukwamkela ukuba unokuba ungalunganga, ukuba abanye abantu baya kuba ngcono kunawe kwezinye izinto, ukuba uneziphene kwaye uyakwazi ukwenza iimpazamo.
Umntu ozithembileyo angacinga ukuba ngoyena mntu ulunge kakhulu kulo msebenzi, kodwa ukulungele ukuva abanye abantu baphume okanye basebenzise ulwazi lwabo ukunceda ukufumana iziphumo.
Umntu ozithembileyo angavuma xa bengalunganga kwaye acele uxolo. Oko akusoloko kuziva kamnandi nako. Ngamanye amaxesha iba neentloni okanye ibe buhlungu kufuneka uvume xa ungalunganga. Yinxalenye yendleko zokungalungisi nokulungisa naziphi na iingcingo ezifuna ukulungiswa.
Ngethamsanqa, abantu abaxabisekileyo- uhlobo lwabantu oya kuthi ufune ebomini bakho-baya kuyibona kwaye bayihloniphe.
Abantu abanetyhefu nabatshabalalisayo bahlala bejonga uxolo okanye baphosakele njengobuthathaka obunokuxhatshazwa. Le yinto ofuna ukuyazi kwaye uyilungele xa inokuthi yenzeke kuwe kuhambo lwakho lokuzikhulisa.
Eyona ndlela yokuyisingatha kukuba nemida eqinileyo oyinyanzelayo. Kulungile ukwamkela uxanduva kunye neziphumo zokhetho olubi. Akulunganga ukuvumela nabani na ongomnye ukuba atyhale uxanduva lwabo aze asolwe kuwe.
Ukuzithemba ngokwako akukubi. Kulungile ukuzithemba kubuchule nakwizakhono zakho. Kodwa ikratshi lidla ngokubangela ukuzithemba ngokugqithiseleyo. Idala amabala angaboniyo apho unganakho ukubona ukusilela kwakho okanye ukhetho olubi.
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Ndiyeka kanjani ukuba nekratshi?
Inkqubo yotshintsho ayikho lula. Ukuba uye wazikhukhumeza ixesha elide, ngoko kukho iimbono ezininzi oza kuyidinga ukujongana ne-rewire.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kunokwenzeka! Ifuna nje umzamo oqhelekileyo, ukujija amaxesha ngamaxesha, emva koko uzame kwakhona.
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho utyibilika kuhambo lwakho lokuziphucula ngokwakho, kodwa kulungile. Ayisiyiyo kuphela isiphelo sehlabathi, kodwa ikwayinxalenye elindelekileyo yohambo!
Nazi ezinye zeendlela onokuqala ngazo ukutshintsha umbono wakho.
1. Vuma xa wenze impazamo.
Inyathelo elikhulu lokuthobeka kukukwazi ukwamkela nokuvuma xa ungalunganga. Xa wenze impazamo, ungazami ukuphepha uxanduva. Musa ukuyixubha, zama ukuyityhalela komnye umntu, okanye wenze ngathi khange yenzeke. Yeyakho. Yithi kuwe nakubantu abachaphazelekayo, 'Ndiyaqonda ukuba andilunganga kwaye ndingathanda ukuyilungisa. Ndingenza ntoni ukulungisa le nto? ”
2. Funda ukuzihleka.
Wonke umntu uneziphene kunye neempawu zakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha bayahlekisa. Ngamanye amaxesha senza izinto zobuyatha ngengozi okanye ngenxa yesimo sobuntu esinaso. Zonke ezi zinto zilungile.
Ukukwazi ukuzihleka kwaye ungathathi ezi zinto zibaluleke kakhulu kuya kunceda ukunciphisa iimvakalelo zakho zokuzithemba kakhulu. Kwaye baninzi abantu ababophelelayo ekudlaleni ngokunika ixesha elinzima. Qiniseka ukuba ayisiyonto yakuthetha okanye yenzelwe ukukwenzakalisa.
Isibonelelo esongeziweyo sokufunda ukuzihleka kukuba uhlutha amandla kubantu abaya kusebenzisa iimpazamo zakho okanye ii-quirks njengendlela yokukulimaza. Banokwenza i-snide, ingxelo eyenzakalisayo, kwaye ilahlekelwe yiyo yonke ipunch yayo ukuba unokuyinyusa kwaye uyihleke. Uninzi lwabantu alufanelekanga ukuba lube nomsindo.
3. Ziphathe ngobubele obukhulu.
Ukuzikhukhumeza kunokuba yimveliso yesidingo sokuziva ngathi ungoyena ulungileyo. Kodwa awungoyena ulungileyo, hayi kuyo yonke into. Unokuba mkhulu, kodwa awungoyena ulungileyo. Kuhlala kukho umntu ongcono phaya. Zikhumbuze ukuba akulunganga ukuba ungangoyena ufanelekileyo
Uvumelekile ukuba ube neentsuku ezingekhoyo emsebenzini, ukuze izinto zingahambi kakuhle, ukuba uve iintlungu, ufuna ukuphumla kunye nokuphumla. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho ukuzibetha xa ungekho kakuhle. Zikhumbuze ukuba kulungile ukuba ungasoloko ugqibelele.
Chitha ixesha elincinci uzixhalabisa ngokuba ulungile.
Abantu abanekratshi bahlala becinga ukuba balungile amaxesha amaninzi, ukuba inyani yabo iyinyani ebalulekileyo. Ngokwenyani, zihlala zininzi iinyaniso ezinamacala ahlukeneyo olwazi. Into oyikholelwayo inokuba yinyani, kodwa iyinyani kuphela okanye iyinyani ngaphandle komxholo ofanelekileyo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ulungile ngalo lonke ixesha. Kwaye ngekhe ubekhona. Mhlawumbi uphosakele ngaphezu kokuba uqaphela, kodwa ukuzikhukhumeza kunokusenza singaboni kwiintsilelo zethu.
Abanye abantu mababe lilungisa. Ayizizo zonke iimfazwe ezifanelekileyo zokulwa. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uncume uyeke izinto zihambe.
5. Abanye abantu mabakhokele.
Eyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokuziqhelanisa nokuthobeka kukusebenza phantsi komnye umntu okanye njengelungu elilawulayo kwiqela. Landela ukukhokela kwabo kwaye ubavumele ukuba bafeze nawuphi na umsebenzi osele usezandleni ukuze uzibonele ngokwakho ukuba abanye abantu banokufumana iziphumo.
Musa ukwenza iingcebiso ngaphandle kokuba ufuna njalo. Kwaye ukuba wenza iingcebiso, mabavumele ukuba badutyulwe ukuba umkhokeli akacingi ukuba oko kuyakulunga. Kulungile ukuba ayenzi njalo.
Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba oku kuziva kungonwabanga. Kunzima ukuyeka ulawulo xa uziva ufuna ukwenza izinto ngokwakho ukuze zihambe zilungile. Kodwa ukufaka amandla kuyo kuya kukunceda.
6. Cela uncedo kwabanye abantu.
Ukucela uncedo komnye umntu yenye indlela yokuthomalalisa ikratshi kwaye ukhuthaze ukuthobeka. Ngokucela uncedo, ubonakalisa ukuba lo mntu angayazi indlela engcono yokufezekisa into osebenza kuyo.
Ibuyela umva ngokuvumela abanye abantu ukuba bakhokele kwimicimbi enokuthi ingabi ngubuchule bakho. Kwaye qiniseka ukubulela umntu lowo kwaye ubanike ikhredithi ukuba kufanelekile.
7. Nika izincomo ezinentsingiselo, eziyinyani.
Khangela izizathu zokwakha abanye abantu abakungqongileyo. Ukuba benza umsebenzi omkhulu, baxelele loo nto. Ukuba uchukumisekile yile nto bayenzayo, bazise. Ngaba iinwele zabo zibukeka zintle? Ngaba banxiba ngokulula? Ngaba uyayithanda loo nto bayenzileyo? Baxelele! Oku kuyakufaka kumkhwa wokugxila kancinci kwinto eyenza ukuba ube mkhulu kwaye ngakumbi kwinto eyenza nabanye abantu babelukhulu.
8. Yiba nentlonipho ngabanye abantu, ungakhathali nokuba ungakanani kwisikhululo sabo.
Inzima le. Kulula ukubanjiswa kumjikelo wokucinga ukuba umntu kulapho akhoyo ebomini kuphela ngenxa yokhetho lwabo. Kungakulinga ukucinga ukuba umntu ojongana naye bekufanele ukuba wenze njengani, kodwa awuzazi iimeko zabo okanye ibali labo.
Abanye abantu benza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo kwaye okwangoku abakwazi ukufikelela phambili. Asinguye wonke umntu onokuphumelela. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyehla kwithamsanqa kunye neemeko ezingaphandle kolawulo lomntu. Zama ukunqanda ukugweba abanye abantu abangaphumelelanga okanye abangakhange baphumelele kwinto abazame yona.
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