Kukho amaxesha ebomini apho ufuna khona ukubakhona kumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho ohlangabezana nobunzima.
Akumangalisi, oku akusoloko kuhamba kakuhle. Unokuzifumana uphazamisa izimvo zakho, ubeke amava akho obomi, okanye ungathembi oko kuthethwa ngumntu omthandayo.
Ufuna ukunceda, kodwa ungaziva ngathi uyanceda, okanye usenokuba uyenze mandundu le meko ngokunika iingcebiso ezimbi.
Isisombululo kukuba 'Ukugcina indawo.'
Ukubambela omnye umntu (okanye ngokwakho) ukubakho nabo ngalo mzuzu ngaphandle kokuzinyanzela kumava abo.
Yima nabo kwiqamza elincinci lenu nobabini, ngeli lixa nisezikhundleni zenu kuloo bubble. Oko kunokuba ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokudibanisa ezinye, okanye zontathu.
Ukubamba indawo kubonelela inkululeko kunye nokhuseleko emntwini ukuba afumane iimvakalelo abanazo ngaphandle koloyiko lomgwebo okanye nabani na ozama ukugxuphuleka kwimicimbi yabo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntu osokolayo akadingi ngcebiso bafuna nje amandla okuchaza ingxaki yabo ukuze bakwazi ukufumana isisombululo kubo.
Banokuba sele besazi isisombululo kodwa kufuneka basicwangcise ngokwasemphefumlweni kuba isisombululo sinzima okanye sibuhlungu, njengokuyeka umsebenzi okanye ukushiya ubudlelwane obungenampilo.
Ngapha koko, ukubamba indawo kuluncedo kuba kuyaxhobisa. Ngokugcina indawo yomntu omthandayo, ubanika amandla okuqhubekeka iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bazenzele izigqibo.
Oku kubandakanya isibonelelo esongeziweyo sokungabuyi kwabo bazokubeka ityala ukuba izinto zihamba gwenxa okanye ziba yindawo yabo yokulahla iimvakalelo.
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Ukubamba indawo kumalunga nokuba kumzuzu wangoku kwaye ungazinyanzelisi kwimeko yomnye umntu.
indlela yokuxelela ukuba intombazana ineemvakalelo ngawe
Ngokwenza oku, unceda ekwenzeni indawo ekhuselekileyo apho banokufumana iimvakalelo zabo, bafumane izisombululo, kwaye basebenze ngengxaki yabo.
Ukwenza oko, kuya kufuneka uthulise umnqweno wokuthuthuzela. Awukho ukuthuthuzela okanye ukuxelela umntu ukuba yonke into izakulunga. Isenokungalungi. Isenokungalungi ixesha elide. Awazi ukuba kuya kulunga nini okanye kuya kuhlala kunjalo. Isenokungabi njalo.
Uya kujonga umntu omthandayo esokola kunye nomthwalo wabo, kodwa yazi ukuba awungekhe uwuthathe kwaye ubenzele wona. Yenzelwe ukuba bayithwale, hayi wena.
Ukumamela ngenyameko koko kutshoyo umntu omthandayo. Ukumamela ngokusebenzayo kugxile ekumiseni iinkqubo zakho zokucinga ukuze uqiniseke ukuba unika omnye umntu ingqalelo yakho.
Abantu abaninzi abenzi ngokwenene mamela. Bazixakekisa nge-smartphone yabo, okanye bacinga ngento abaza kuyithetha ngokulandelayo. Ziphephe zonke ezi zinto. Beka ifowuni yakho kude kwaye ungayihoyi. Ezo zaziso zinokulinda.
Kulungile ukubuza imibuzo ecacisayo, kodwa zama ukulinda de ikhefu lendalo ekuhambeni kwencoko, ukuze ungaphazamisi inkqubo yokucinga yomnye umntu. Banokuzama ukwenza indlela yokubonisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngoku, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuthatha imizuzu embalwa.
Yilungiselele naziphi na zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo eziza kuza kuwe. Banokuba nomsindo okanye babonise iingcinga ezimbi ongazilindelanga. Kuqhelekile ukuba bazama ukusebenza ngentlungu ebangelwe ngomnye umntu. Ukuthetha kwabo ngentlungu nomsindo kunokuba yinto edlulayo kubo njengoko besebenza ukulungisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Musa ukoyika ukuthula kwincoko. Banokudinga ixesha lokuziqokelela kwaye bazame ukufumana amagama abo, baqhubekeke nento oyithethileyo, okanye baqwalasele into abayicingayo kodwa abangakuxelelanga yona.
Musa ukunikezela kwiimvakalelo zokuba kufuneka ugcwalise ukuthula xa kulapho. Kwaye ungavumeli ingqondo yakho ibhadule ukuba kunjalo.
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Buza ukuba ngaba bacinga ukuba banazo naziphi na izisombululo kwingxaki yabo. Ngale ndlela, unokufumana umbono ongcono wento abasele becinga ngayo, kwaye inokubanceda baxhase ezabo izimvo. Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba sele besazi isisombululo kwingxaki yabo bafuna nje ukwenza ngayo.
Ukubamba indawo nokumamela umntu athethe ngeemvakalelo zabo okanye ingxaki ihlala inesidima sendalo apho kukho isiqalo, uvuthondaba, kunye nokuphela kude kube sekupheleni. Musa ukukhawulezisa inkqubo ukuba uziva unyanzelekile ukuba ungxame umntu okanye uzame ukufikelela kwinqanaba ngokukhawuleza. Vumela ukuhamba kwencoko kwenzeke ngokwendalo kwaye kufikelele kwisiphelo.
Emva kokubamba indawo ...
Kuvakala kulula, akunjalo? Ukubamba indawo yenye yezo zinto zilula, kodwa akukho lula.
Akululanga ukubeka bucala iimvakalelo zakho, ugcine izigwebo zakho, kwaye wamkele ngokupheleleyo into ethethwa sithandwa sakho. Kungaba kubi kwaye kubuhlungu. Unokuva izinto ongafuniyo ukuziva okanye ezibuhlungu ukuba ibinguwe obandakanyekayo kuyo.
Kuya kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo zikulungelelwano. Ukuba uthatha iimvakalelo zabo, ezinokuphazamisa uzinzo kunye nentlalontle yakho.
Kuya kufuneka unendlela ethembekileyo yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho kwaye ukhuphe nayiphi na kwezi okhetha ukuzithatha ngokubamba indawo yomnye.
Kulungile ukuba ube nemida. Abanye abantu bayakhanyisa kwiingxaki zabo kwaye bajikeleze izangqa kuba benqabile ukuthatha isigqibo okanye ukuhamba. Kulungile ukukhetha ukungabambi ndawo yomnye umntu.
Mhlawumbi awuziva ngathi uphilile ngokwengqondo okanye ngokweemvakalelo ukwenza oko komnye umntu. Kulungile. Yenza nje ngokucacileyo ukuba awukwazi ukusombulula iingxaki zomnye umntu okwangoku. Bacebise ukuba bangafuna ukuthetha nomnye umntu okanye bafune uncedo lobungcali.
Kwaye xa kuziwa kwimicimbi yengozi, ukuzenzakalisa, ukuzibulala, okanye ukugula ngengqondo, kungcono ukubakhuthaza ukuba bafune uncedo lobuchwephesha. Ukungena kweso sithuba akukhuselekanga ukuba awuqeqeshwanga ngendlela yokwenza.
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