Abo oh-so-awkward cwaka.
Ela mizuzu xa isingqi somfuziselo wokuvuthuluka kuqhuma egumbini.
Unxibelelwano luyagungqa xa lungaqalanga.
Izitshixo ziyenyuka kwaye kuyacaca ukuba injongo yokutshintshiselana ngamagama amnandi nomntu ongakhange uhlangane naye ngaphambili ayiphumelelanga.
Kwenzeka kuthi sonke.
Isishiya siziva singonelisekanga, singonwabanga, kwaye siphulukene nendlela yokufumana kwakhona imeko.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho isilingo sokuthetha into… nantoni na ukuzalisa isithuba.
Okanye usilele ekugxotheni uthotho lwemibuzo ukuze ugubungele ukungonwabi kwakho, uyenze ukuba uzive ngathi unophando kunoncoko oluchubekileyo.
Nokuba usemsebenzini, kwindawo yentlalontle apho abahlobo bambalwa, okanye kwindawo yentselo apho ujikelezwe ngabantu ongabaziyo, sonke sifuna ukwenza umbono wokuqala.
Kuyakhathaza xa ufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukugcina incoko kwaye ke uphose ithuba lokuqaqamba.
Kwimeko yobungcali, ukudala owona mfanekiso ubalaseleyo kuthi yimfuneko yokunyuka kwileli yomsebenzi.
Umahluko phakathi kokubethelelwa kwendima ekudala ifunwa kunye neephakeji zayo zeenzuzo kunye nokudluliswa kunokuhla kuloo mbono ubaluleke kakhulu wokuqala.
Incoko encinci, ke, yindlela ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba igama layo lisenokucebisa, kwaye ikude nje ngokuba yi-chitchat engabalulekanga.
Ke, masizame ioyile yamavili adibeneyo kwaye siwaguqule kabuhlungu aye kumava amnandi.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ubugcisa bentetho encinci bunokufundwa, nokuba iintloni kukuseta okungagqibekanga. Ayisosakhono nje osenokwenzeka ukuba unesiphiwo okanye hayi.
Funda ukuze ufumane izixhobo kunye nezihloko ozifunayo ukuze ube nobuchule ngokutshintshiselana ngezinto ezimnandi naye nabani na, nangaliphi na ixesha, naphi na.
1. Ayisiyiyo yonke into oyithethayo.
Xa uqala incoko nomntu ongamaziyo ngokupheleleyo, okanye umntu odibene naye kodwa ongakwaziyo ukuphumla kunye naye, kufuneka ubenze bazive bekhululekile.
Kule meko, ulwimi lomzimba phantse lubaluleke njengokuphuma emlonyeni wakho.
Qiniseka ukuba ubanike ingqwalaselo epheleleyo kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba uphazanyiswe.
Ukuba uwela iingalo zakho okanye uthambise amagxa akho kude kubo, uya kubonisa ukuba awunomdla.
Ukungenelela kwindawo yabo yenye into hayi-hayi.
Qiniseka ukuba ugcina isigxina sakho sivulekile kwaye singeneka, usebenzisa unxibelelwano ngamehlo (kodwa hayi okothusayo), ukubonisa ukuba banomdla.
Jonga ulangazelela, kodwa ungayibaxi.
2. Yiba nobuhlobo.
Kwiimeko apho sele umazi omnye umntu, vele ubulise kwaye uqiniseke ngokusebenzisa igama labo: 'Hee, Diana, kulungile ukukubona kwakhona.'
Oku kulula, ngokuthe ngqo, kwaye kuseta ithoni enkulu ukuqala incoko yakho.
Xa udibana nomntu okokuqala ngqa, thatha inyathelo lokuqala kwaye uzazise kuqala ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Thatha ithuba lokubuza amagama abo.Icebo elilungileyo lokwenza ukuba omnye umntu azive ekhululekile kukuphinda igama labo ubuyele kubo.
Kwiindawo ezithile ezivaliweyo zentlalo ezinje ngamaqela, iisemina, okanye kwindawo yeekholeji, zama ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala ngokuvula amajelo onxibelelwano ngo, 'Heyi! Andiqondi ukuba ndidibene nawe okwangoku. ”
Oku akuyiyo indlela yokuziphatha engaqhelekanga kuba ukuxubana kulindeleke kwezi meko.
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Uya kuvela kwangoko njengomntu wentlalo kuba uyiqalile incoko.
Impendulo ye-reflex iya kuba kukuphendula emva koko ungene, ubuze imibuzo efanelekileyo yokulandela imeko.
3. Yigcine intle kwaye ilula.
Iziphumo ezingaphantsi kokutshintshiselana ngolwazi kwincoko kukutshintshiselana ngamandla.
Ukugcina ithoni inyusa kwaye ukhawuleze uncume -kodwa nokuhleka apho kufanelekileyo-kuya kudibana nomnye umntu kwaye kubenze bafune ukugcina incoko iqhubeka.
Iya kwenza ukuba ingalibaleki. Umxholo unokuba yinto engathandekiyo njengemozulu, kodwa isenokuzonwabisa kwaye ibe ntle.
Ukudakumba okungalunganga lolona cimiweyo lukhulu kulo naluphi na unxibelelwano olukhulayo.
4. Yenze ibe mnandi.
Kwiimeko ezithile zentlalo (akukhuthazwa ukuba kusetyenziswe umntu osebenza naye osele udibene naye), unokukhanyisa ukudibana kokuqala ngokwenza umdlalo omncinci wokuqagela.
Zama ukubabuza ukuba bavelaphi, kodwa, phambi kokuba baphendule, yithi, “Yima umzuzwana. Ndiyeke ndiqashele! ”
Uqikelelo lwakho lwasendle alunakulindeleka ukuba lubethe uphawu, kodwa luya kuvuselela ukuncuma / ukuhleka.
Ukuba iziva ifanelekile, le inokuba yindlela emnandi yokutsiba i-leapfrog ngaphezulu kwe-awkwardness kunye nendlela egudileyo yencoko yendalo.
5. Fumanisa ukuba yintoni enifana ngayo.
Amava ethu obomi kunye nezinto esinomdla kuzo zinokwahluka kakhulu, kodwa sonke siba nemo yezulu efanayo, sonke sidinga ukutya, kwaye sonke kufuneka sizigcine sixakekile.
Nokuba ungaziva umncinci kangakanani xa ufana nomnye umntu, ezi zihloko kulapho uzakufumana khona umhlaba owabelwana ngawo.
Usebenzisa ezi zihloko zilandelayo zinconywayo kwintetho encinci kwaye uqaphele ukumamela iimpendulo, kuyamangalisa ukuba kulula ukubuza imibuzo elandelayo ekusa ngaphaya kwesihloko sokuqala.
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6. Gcina imibuzo ivuliwe.
Unokuseka umhlaba oqhelekileyo phakathi kwakho ngokusebenzisa imibuzo evulekileyo. Ufuna ukwazi malunga 'nendlela' kwaye 'kutheni.'
Oku kuya kunceda ukuqhuba incoko kwiimvakalelo endaweni yeenyani.
Nje ukuba ufumanise ukuba kukho into owabelana ngayo, amathuba encoko aya kwanda kakhulu.
Andiziva ndikhululekile kulusu lwam
7. Sukuzilungiselela ngaphezulu.
Ungacingi ukuba unokwazi ngentloko nje iqela lemibuzo, kuba nantoni na ephindaphindwayo iya kuhlala izwakala ingonwabanga kwaye ingathandeki.
Ukucwangciswa akusebenzi.
Umzekelo, ukuba uxhomekeke kumgca ophindwe kakuhle, unokukubuyisela umva okanye ukushiye usisimumu.
Masithi into evulekileyo yakho evulekileyo kukuncoma umntu ngento ayinxibileyo. Oko akuyi kukuthatha kude kakhulu ukuba banxibe isikipa esimnyama kunye nejini. Iya kukhala ngathi iyadada kunedada elinomlenze omnye.
Ukuba unezihloko ezimbalwa uphakamise umkhono wakho njengalezo zidweliswe apha ngezantsi, kuhlala kukho into oza kuphawula ngayo okanye umbuzo ofanelekileyo oza kuwubuza.
8. Mamela ngenyameko.
Impazamo eqhelekileyo kukucwangcisa ngokuxakekileyo umbuzo wakho olandelayo ngelixa omnye umntu ethetha, kunokuba uve impendulo yabo kumbuzo wakho wangaphambili.
Nje ukuba bafake umqhaphu kwinto ongayimameliyo, incoko iya koma ngokukhawuleza.
Enyanisweni, ukuba uhlawula ingqalelo epheleleyo, amathuba okuba iimpendulo zabo ziya kuthi ngokwendalo zibangele eminye imibuzo ukunceda incoko ihambe.
Kwimfuno yakho yokwenza intetho encinci ukuba ibe yinto eyonwabisayo kunokuba ibe yintlungu, kuya kufuneka unqwenele ukwenza ukuba utshintshiselwano luzive lungokwemvelo kwaye lungenzame.
Unoko engqondweni, licebo elihle ukuba nezihloko ezimbalwa kwindalo yonke uphakamise umkhono wakho ukuvula incoko.
Nazi ezinye izimvo:
8 Yezihloko eziGqwesileyo zeNtetho eNcinci
Imozulu
Kuyalingana ukugxotha imozulu njengesihloko esidikayo nesiqikelelekayo, kodwa eneneni ngumthungo onokuba sisityebi wencoko.
Umzekelo, incoko engabalulekanga malunga nemozulu inokuthi ikhokelele kwincoko ende malunga nohambo lokuskiya lwamva nje okanye uqikelelo lobushushu oluchaziweyo kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho.
Imvula okanye ukuqaqamba, inkanyamba okanye ubushushu, kuhlala kukho into yokubeka izimvo kuyo, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ngoku okanye kuqikelelwa kwikamva elikufutshane.
Kwaye imo yezulu ilungele wonke umntu, ke sesona sihloko sigqibeleleyo silingana-sonke esincinci.
Iindaba
Indlela elungileyo yokulungiselela intetho encinci nangaliphi na ixesha kukugcina iindaba. Akukho sizathu sincinci sokuphuma ngaphandle xa ifikeleleka kwifowuni yakho.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ekuhlaleni, kwilizwe lonke, nakwihlabathi jikelele, awusoze ufutshane nakwisiqalo sencoko.
Ukuba ulihlwempu ixesha, kukho iindaba ezimnandi zokugaya iisayithi phaya. Baphosa amabali aphambili kwiziqwengana ezinobungakanani bokuluma, bekwenza ube nesandi ngendlela enolwazi ngakumbi kunokuba unjalo.
Imidlalo
Ukuze ube nobuchule ekusebenziseni esi sihloko, kuya kufuneka ugcine umkhondo wezemidlalo kumaxesha onke kwibhodi: ibhola ekhatywayo, ibaseball, igalufa, njl.
Ukuba nolwazi oluthile lweetumente zesizwe nezamazwe aphesheya kukwayinzuzo.
Oku kuya kuza ngokwendalo ukuba ungumntu othanda ezemidlalo, kodwa, nokuba umdla wakho uhlala kude nebala lezemidlalo, uchaza nje ukuba kutheni oko kungakhokelela kwingxoxo eneziqhamo.
Umsebenzi
La maxabiso asesinye sezihloko ezithandwa kakhulu kwintetho encinci.
Kwakhona isihloko esihambelana kakuhle 'nomdlalo wokuqagela' okhankanywe ngasentla.
Ke, ukuba kufanelekile kwimeko okuyo, ungabuza 'Wenza ntoni?' kodwa landela ngoko nangoko ngokuthi “Yima umzuzwana, ndiqikelele…”
Amathuba okuba uqikelele ngokuchanekileyo mancinci, kodwa konke ofuna ukukufezekisa kukukhanya, kunye nokuzonwabisa okuqinisekileyo kwincoko yakho, ushiye umbono oqinisekileyo.
Usapho
Yinto sonke esabelana ngayo, enkulu okanye encinci, kunye nokuvula incoko eqhelekileyo.
Zilungiselele ukubuza abanye malunga nosapho kunye nokuziphindiselela ngokuphendula imibuzo malunga neyakho.
Ungafunda kancinci malunga nomntu ngokukhawuleza ngokufunda ukuba batshatile kwaye baya kuthatha ixesha elingakanani, ukuba banabantakwenu, njl.
Ukuhamba
Olunye lolonwabo olukhulu kubantu abaninzi yiholide yabo. Bayathanda ukuthetha malunga nokuba bebekade bekwintoni kwaye ikuluhlu lwabo lwamabhakethi.
Ukubuza imibuzo malunga namava abo okuhamba kunye neengcebiso ngeendawo ezinomdla kunye / okanye ezintle zokundwendwela kunokukhokelela kunaniselwano olwanelisayo nolukhumbulekayo lweembono.
Izinto endizithandayo
Uya kumangaliswa zizinto zokuzonwabisa ezingaqhelekanga abanye abantu abanazo kwaye, nokuba zivakala zirhabaxa kuwe, umntu okhutheleyo akadinwa kukuthetha ngokuzonwabisa abakuthandayo.
Nokuba yi-crochet okanye uqokelela i-cacti, baya kukuvuyela ukunikwa ithuba lokuthetha ngayo, besenza oku kube ngumthungo onokuba sisityebi wokungena kuwo.
Idolophu
Wonke umntu uvela ndawo, esenza esi sihloko sifikeleleke.
Nokuba yayiyeyona ndawo ifudumeleyo neyamkelekileyo yoluntu, ivelisa kuphela iinkumbulo ezimnandi, okanye yayiyindawo ababengenakulinda ukuba bahambe kuyo, ukubuza imibuzo malunga nokuba bakhulele phi kunganceda incoko ibaleke.
Imixholo ekufuneka uyiphephe
Isikhumbuzo esifike ngexesha lokuba izihloko ezithile ziyinto engafunekiyo, ngokwenkcubeko engamkelekanga ukuba kuxoxwe ngayo nabantu ongabaziyo.
Izihloko zokuphepha kuzo zonke iindleko zezemali, ezopolitiko kunye nenkolo.
Kwangokunjalo, nakuphi na ukukhankanywa kweminyaka okanye inkangeleko, isini, ukuhleba, kunye nolwalamano lwangaphambili yinto eqinisekileyo yomlilo.
Kwangokunjalo, iziqhulo ezikhubekisayo azikho kwaphela.
Akukho mabhaso okuqikelela ukuba kutheni ezi zihloko zikhutshiwe kwintetho encinci.
Intetho encinci, umbono omkhulu.
Khumbula ukuba intetho encinci imalunga nokwakha ibhulorho phakathi kwakho nomnye umntu.
Asikokuncinwa.
Ayinamsebenzi kangako ukuba uthetha ngantoni, kodwa kunokuba uvule amajelo onxibelelwano.
Olu tshintshiselwano, nangona luhlala lufutshane, lunokuba luxabiseke kakhulu ngokwakha umbono wokuqala oncomekayo.
Ungalahli umbono wokuba incoko encinci inokuvula iingcango kwimisebenzi, kunyuselo, kubuhlobo obutsha kwaye, ewe, nothando olungunaphakade.
Ngapha koko, inokuba yeyona ntetho inkulu onokuyenza.
