Naliphi na ixesha elivela ngokwembono yesayensi, ngokwam, ngokwam, ngokwembono, ixesha yinto enamandla okundenza ndixhalabe.
Andinakuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ndenze njani ukuba ndibenje, kodwa okokoko ndikhumbula ngoku, ndifumene ixesha lokuba yinto entsonkothileyo kwaye edidayo evela kuxinzelelo olukhulu kunye nokukhathazeka.
Oku kubonakala ngeendlela ezininzi:
- Ndiyakucaphukela ukufika emva kwexesha ndiye ndizinike isixa esigqithileyo sendlela xa ndisiya kwiindawo. Ekugqibeleni, oku kundishiya kuphela ndifuna ukubulala ixesha ngelixa ndilinde abanye abantu ukuba bafike okanye imicimbi iqale.
- Ndihlala ndicinezelekile malunga nomsebenzi endikwazi ukuwugqiba ngosuku - le yinto eyenzekileyo okoko ndazimela kwiminyaka esi-7 eyadlulayo. Ukuba andiziva ngathi usuku lwam belunemveliso, ndinamathuba amahle okuphucula imeko engalunganga kwaye, ngesiqhelo, intloko ebuhlungu ngokuhlwa. Ndicinga ukuba inento yokwenza 'nokuchitha' ixesha, into engaqhelekanga kuba andiqinisekanga nokuba ndingayichaza njani 'inkunkuma' yexesha - andithandi nto ngaphandle ukukhaba umva phambi kweTV emveni kwakho konke!
- Ndiyakhathazeka malunga nenkqubela phambili endiyenzayo ekufezekiseni iinjongo zam nokuba ngaba ndisendleleni okanye emva kwexesha. Andinazo neenjongo zekhonkrithi amaxesha amaninzi, kodwa oku akundithinteli ekucingeni ngendlela endenza ngayo xa kuthelekiswa nomqobo othile wokungakhathali.
- Ndinexhala elisekwe kwikamva nokuba ndiza kuba nemali eyoneleyo yokuzixhasa kunye nosapho lwam, nangona ngoku ndingenazo iziphumo ezithile endisokola ukuhlangabezana nazo. Ngapha koko, mna, ngenxa yobudala bam, ndimi kakuhle ngokwezobutyebi, kodwa ndisaziva ndikhathazekile kwaye ndinomnqweno wokonyusa umvuzo wam ngandlela thile.
- Ndifumana ixhala lokulindela elinokuthi ngamanye amaxesha libe nzima kakhulu xa ndisazi ukuba kukho umsitho wabo nabuphi na ubukhulu obuzayo kwimizuzu / iiyure ezimbalwa ezizayo. Kwanokwazi ukuba umntu uza kutsalela umnxeba ngexesha elithile kundishiya ndibetha, ndibila kwaye ndinengqondo engaphaya.
Ndiyazi ukuba andinakuba ndedwa malunga noku, nokuba amaxhala akho asekwe exesheni ahluke kancinane kwezi zingasentla.
Kodwa, yeha, ngekhe ungabinamdla kwiingxaki zam, mhlawumbi ulapha ukuze ufumane indlela yokujongana nengxaki yakho yexeshana kwaye, malunga noku, ndinokushumayela isisombululo esinye kuphela: ngoku.
Yima! Phambi kokuba ucofe kude, ucinga ukuba ufundile yonke ngaphambili, ndiyakubongoza ukuba unamathele kum okomzuzwana. Ubuncinci ndinezindululo ezithile kuwe.
Eyokuqala kwezi zizithembiso ezilula zokujongana noloyiko lwakho:
Iziganeko ebomini bam ziya kuvela kanye kwaye zenzelwe njani. Azizukwenzeka kwangethuba, azizukwenzeka emva kwexesha, ziyakwenzeka xa zisenzeka ngoko ke akukho sizathu sokuba ndizikhathaze ngazo.
Nangona kuninzi okanye kuncinci endikufezekisileyo namhlanje akubalulekanga, ekuphela kwento endinokulawula ngayo yindlela endivumela ngayo ukuba indichaphazele.
Ukukhathazeka ngekamva yinto engenamsebenzi kuba andinakuqikelela ukuba zeziphi izinto ezijijekileyo neziza kujika ngendlela elandelayo.
Phinda oku entlokweni yakho okanye ngokuvakalayo ngexesha elizayo xa ufumana uxinzelelo okanye ixhala elinxulumene nexesha elizayo.
Okulandelayo zezinye iingcebiso ezisebenzayo zokujongana noxinzelelo lwexesha:
- Ukuba uyazi ukuba kufuneka uzishiyele ixesha elithile, yithi imizuzu eli-15, ngaphambi kokuba wenze into okanye uye kwenye indawo, sebenzisa ialam efowunini, iwotshi, ikhompyuter okanye iwotshi yealam esecaleni kwebhedi ukuze ikuxwayise xa ufuna ukuqala ukulungiselela. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ugxile koku kwaye unciphise isidingo sakho sokujonga ixesha rhoqo kwimizuzu emi-2 ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuhambi emva kwexesha.
- Ukuba awukuthandi ukufika emva kwexesha kwimicimbi apho abanye abantu bachaphazelekayo, khetha enye apho kuya kubakho khona abahlobo abaninzi kwaye uzinyanzele ukuba uphakamise imizuzu eli-15 emva kwexesha elimiselweyo. Oku kuyakunceda imeko yokuba wamkele inyani yokuba ukufika emva kwexesha ayisosiphelo sehlabathi kwaye ayikhuphi mntu. Uya kuqala ukuqaphela ukuba ungafika kuphela ngoku kwaye ukuzama ukufika kwikamva ngaphambi kwexesha akunakwenzeka. Sukwenza oku xa udibana nomnye umntu, nangona kunjalo, njengoko bengazukubulela ngayo.
- Ziqhelise ngenjongo yokuphikisa-umthambo owenziwe ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl. Ukuba ufumana uphawu oluthile lomzimba xa unexhala, endaweni yokuzama ukunciphisa, zama okona kunzima ukukwenza kwenzeke ngobukrakra obukhulu. Ke ukuba isisu sakho siyaphakuzela ngengcinga yesiganeko esiza kubakho ngexesha, yitsho ngokwakho 'Ndizakusenza isisu sam siqaqambe ngendlela engazange ibekho ngaphambili, kakhulu kangangokuba ndiya kugula.' Kuya kufuneka ufumane ukuba ukuzama ukuzinyanzela ukuba ubonakalise ezi mpawu kuthintela ukubanakho kwakho ukwenza oko kuba unjalo kugxilwe ngoku , ukuba ingcamango yekamva iyancipha.
- Ukuba, njengam, ukhathazeka ngokuba nemali eyaneleyo okanye ubutyebi kwixa elizayo, tshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo ngokubhala uluhlu lwazo zonke izinto onokuba nombulelo ngazo ngoku. Ukuba uphinda lo mthambo ngalo lonke ixesha kuvela amaxhala, ekugqibeleni uyakuqonda ukuba uhlala unayo ubuninzi bezinto ezininzi ukubulela kwaye nokuba, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na kwixesha elizayo, ubuninzi buya kuhlala bukho ngohlobo oluthile okanye ngolunye uhlobo.
Ndisenayo indlela yokuhamba phambi kokuba ndiyoyise imiba yam exhalabisayo esekwe ixesha, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba kufuneka ndiziqhelanise nezinto endizishumayelayo kwaye ndisebenzise amaqhinga angasentla athe, kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo, andinceda.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngoku uyaqonda ukuba awuwedwa ekulweni olu hlobo loxinzelelo kwaye kukho iindlela zokujongana nalo.
Ukuba ufumene eli nqaku likhanyisa okanye liluncedo, nceda ushiye uluvo olungezantsi. Ndiyayixabisa impendulo nganye endiyifumanayo.
