UngaJola njani noMntu onemicimbi yokuThembela: 6 Akukho ziNgcebiso zeBullsh *

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Abantu baphuhlisa imiba yokuthemba ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.



Isenokuqala ebuntwaneni, apho bakhulele kwikhaya apho babengenakubathemba abazali babo okanye amanye amagunya.

Inokwenzeka ukuba ebudaleni, apho umntu elixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ekhaya okanye ezinye iimeko ezibuhlungu ezishiye umbono oqinisekileyo kubo.



Ukuthandana nomntu onemicimbi yokuthemba kulucelomngeni kuba banokuba neempembelelo ezingalindelekanga kwiimvakalelo ezinobungozi. Into ebonakala ngathi ayisiyongxaki kuwe inokuba yingxaki enkulu kubo kuba iyabacaphukisa.

Oko, kubangela ukuba bacaphuke okanye bakrokre malunga nezenzo zakho kulwalamano lwangoku.

Kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuhamba kwezi meko ukuba ufuna ukuba olu lwalamano luphumelele. Makhe sijonge ezinye zeengcebiso malunga nokuba ungathandana njani ngempumelelo nomntu onemicimbi yokuthemba.

1. Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde.

Abantu abenzakeleyo kwixesha elidlulileyo baya kuba nexesha elinzima lokuvula kwaye bathembele kwikamva.

Luhlobo nje lwendlela olusebenzayo. Uchukumisa isitovu kwaye utshise uza kulumka malunga nokuchukumisa isitovu kwakhona, akunjalo?

Into efanayo iyinyani kubudlelwane bezothando. Sityala imali eninzi kakhulu kuthi, ixesha lethu, amandla ethu, kunye nobomi bethu kubudlelwane obunokuthi buhlungu kakhulu xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle.

Kwaye ayisiyiyo nje, 'Owu, kulungile, khange sisebenze.' Ingakumbi kwimeko yokusinda ekuphathweni gadalala, ukuthanda umntu obaphathe gadalala, okanye ukujongana nokuwa kokukopela.

Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kulo mntu kuba baya kuthi bathethe kwaye benze izinto ngenxa yokuzikhusela okungenakuba yiyo yonke loo nto.

Bazakudinga ixesha lokuba babone ukuba uzimisele malunga nobudlelwane kwaye bazivumele ukuba bavule kancinci.

2. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba awunakulungisa imeko yabo yangaphambili.

Baninzi kakhulu abantu ehlabathini abangayiqondiyo into yokuba uthando kunye nobudlelwane ngokwenyani abudlalani njengemiboniso bhanyabhanya…

Yonke into oyidingayo luthando! Uthando loyisa konke! Olu thando lucocekile kangangokuba baya kuphefumlelwa ukuba babengcono!

imisebenzi oza kuyenza nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni

Akunjalo ngokwenene ukuba isebenza njani. Ukuba ibiyenzile, ngekhe ibekhona inqwaba yabantu abalila abantu babo abalahlekileyo ngoku.

Inyani yento kukuba umntu onemicimbi yokuthenjwa unemicimbi yesizathu. Kwaye ukuba bayasinda kwezinye izinto ezimbi ebomini babo, uthando aluzukulungisa umonakalo wezo meko zibangelwe. Yiloo nto unyango kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphucula.

Oko akuthethi ukuba bagwetyelwe kubudlelwane obubi okanye ubomi obungonwabisiyo. Hayi akunjalo.

Yinto yokuba wonke umntu obandakanyekayo kubudlelwane kufuneka aqonde ukuba kuthatha ngaphezulu kakhulu kothando lomnye umntu ukulungisa la manxeba. Kuthatha umgudu womntu, mhlawumbi ngoncedo lweengcali zempilo yengqondo.

3. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ufunde ukungazithathi izinto buqu.

Kuza kubakho ukuqhushumba kunye neengxabano ezingazukuvakala kuwe. Usenokutyholwa ngezinto ongazenzanga, ubuze ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kwakho, kwaye ushiywe utyhafile kwezinye zezinto ekunzima ukuziqonda.

Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukungazithathi ezi zinto. Umntu onemicimbi yokuthembela onomsindo malunga nokuqonda okuncinci akenzi ngobubi kuwe. Baphendula into ebangela iimvakalelo ezivela kumava abo angaphambili.

Musa ukutolika njengokuhlaselwa buqu kwengqibelelo yakho. Ngaphandle koko, imeko iya kukhula ngokukhawuleza kwingxabano engayi ndawo.

Eyona nto unokuyenza kukuyihlahlela phantsi imeko ngokubuza imibuzo, ubakhuthaze ukuba bathethe malunga nendlela abaziva ngayo, kwaye bacacise icala lakho ngokucacileyo kangangoko unako.

Ukuba bangabantu abanengqiqo, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni babenokwazi ukubona inyani, nokuba bayatshona ngomsindo wabo ngalo mzuzu.

4. Bonakalisa ukuthembeka ngokulandela oku kulandelayo.

Eyona ndlela yokubonisa ukuthembeka kukulandela amanyathelo kunye nokhetho lwakho.

Ukuba uthi uza kutsalela umnxeba ngentsimbi yesi-5 ngokuhlwa, emva koko ufowune ngo-5pm. Ukuba uyavuma ukudibana neziselo ngoMgqibelo, qiniseka ukuba ulapho ukudibana neziselo ngoMgqibelo.

Phatha igama lakho njengebhondi, kuba kunjalo. Nantoni na oyithethayo uya kuyenza, yenze.

Ingxelo leyo yokwenza into oyithethayo uyokuyenza kwaye unamathele kwiingxelo zakho yinto ebonakalayo umntu onemicimbi yokuthembela anokubambelela kuyo.

Uloyiko okanye ixhala labo linokubaxelela ukuba kukho into engalunganga okanye iza kuhamba kakubi. Sekunjalo, bayazi ukuba banokuthembela kuwe ngenxa yokuba uye wabonisa rhoqo ukuba uthembekile yaye uthembekile.

Ewe kunjalo, izinto ziyenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha asinayo enye indlela ngaphandle kokophula izicwangciso zethu ngenxa yokuba umsebenzi ufikile okanye umntu okhethe umntwana urhoxisiwe ngomzuzu wokugqibela. Ubomi buyenzeka.

Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuthatha ifowuni, ubatsalele umnxeba, kwaye ubazise ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. Musa ukubashiya bejinga okanye bezibuza ukuba wenzani. Oko kuyakujongela phantsi yonke imizamo yakho yokwakha ukuthembana.

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5. Balindele ukuba bafuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo ekuqaleni.

Akuqhelekanga kubantu abaneengxaki zokuthembela ukuba bafune ukuqinisekiswa okukhulu xa beqala ukubandakanyeka kubudlelwane.

Bajonge ukugudla uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo olusabatsala kumava adlulileyo abangele ukungonwabi.

Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba umntu othandana naye ujonge loo ntuthuzelo kuwe.

Ngokubanzi, olo hlobo lwento luya kuncipha njengoko ixesha lihamba kwaye baya bekhululeka kubudlelwane. Isenokuvela amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ngekhe ibenamandla njengoko injalo ekuqaleni.

Olu hlobo lokuqinisekiswa lunokubonakala luhlukile kunokuba ungalindela. Inokuza ngohlobo lokuhlalutya ngaphezulu iincoko, ufunde phakathi kwemigca ukufumana umxholo apho kungekho, okanye ubuze ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zomhla wakho.

Kwakhona, uyakufuna umonde ukuze usebenze ngezi zinto nomntu.

6. Lindela ukuba ubudlelwane buya kukhula kancinci.

Imiba yokuthemba ayiveli nje ngaphandle. Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, zihlala ziziphumo zeemeko ezibuhlungu ebomini, njengokuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana, ukuphathwa gadalala ekhaya, okanye ukungathembeki.

Umntu onemicimbi yokuthembana unezo zithintelo zokuzigcina ukuba angonzakaliswa ngaloo ndlela kwakhona.

Oko kunokuthatha uhlobo lokufuna nje okungaqhelekanga, akukho ntambo iqhotyoshelweyo, nokuba ngabahlobo abanezibonelelo zohlobo lobudlelwane nabanye.

Ngokuhlala ujonge kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo kulwalamano, akufuneki bazenze babe sesichengeni ngokuzivulela kwintlungu enokuza neqabane elikhohlisayo.

Nangona kunjalo, xa loo mntu ethatha isigqibo sokungena kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, banokuthatha ixesha elide kunabantu abangenayo imicimbi yokuthemba ukuwela imida ethile.

Banokuba nobunzima ekuboniseni ezona ndawo zinzulu, nezona zibuthathaka kuzo. Basenokungakwazi ukukuxelela ukuba bayakuthanda de kube kamva kubudlelwane. Banokubambelela kwizibophelelo ezinzulu zobudlelwane kunye neziganeko, njengokuhlangana nabazali, ukuhamba kunye, okanye ukucwangcisa kakhulu kwikamva.

Akuthethi ukuba abayi kwenza ezo zinto. Inokuthatha nje ixesha elongezelelweyo ukuya apho.

7. Yazi imida yakho kunye nemida.

Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abanemicimbi yokuthembela bawela imigca engafanelanga ukuwela kubudlelwane. Kukho nje ezinye izinto ezingalunganga ezingaphantsi malunga nokuthembela ngakumbi kulawulo.

Akulunganga ukufuna ukufikelela okupheleleyo kwifowuni yakho, ukulandelela apho ukuyo nge-app, ukufuna indawo apho uhlala khona kunye nobani.

Kwelinye icala, ngamanye amaxesha ezinye zezo zinto zinokuba sengqiqweni. Kakhulu, ningabahlobo ne-ex yakho, kodwa ayilunganga kangako ukuhlala ubusuku endlwini yabo nangasiphi na isizathu. Yimeko elungileyo ukuba uyikrokrele.

Abanye abantu basebenzisa imiba yabo yokuthemba njengesizathu sokulawula ulawulo kwiqabane labo, elingaphilanga okanye elilungileyo. Isenokungabi yinto enobungozi, baphendula nje kuloyiko lwabo kunye noxinzelelo, kodwa loo nto ayilungisi.

Kungenzeka nje ukuba abanalo ixesha elaneleyo okanye benze umsebenzi owaneleyo wokupholisa amanxeba abo ukuzama ukuba nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nabani na okwangoku. Kulungile nayo.

Kwimeko enjalo, uyakufuna ukucaca malunga nemida kunye nemida yakho, yintoni ozimisele ukuyixolela hayi.

Mhlawumbi bajonge ifowuni yakho ngomzuzu wobuthathaka, baziva bebi ngayo, kwaye bavuma ukophula imfihlo yakho. Oko kuxoleleka kakhulu kunokuchitha iinyanga ulala emva koko ube nomsindo kuwe xa unengxaki nayo.

Ukuba uzifumana ukule meko, ingayinto elungileyo ukufuna uncedo kwiingcali kwezobudlelwane. Ukungathathi hlangothi, ulwazi lomntu wesithathu uya kuba nakho ukukunceda usete imida yakho kwaye uqonde ukuba unemfesane kwiingxaki zeqabane lakho okanye ukuba bayakuxhaphaza. Ingaba ngumgca ococekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha.

Ngoncedo kunye neengcebiso zolu hlobo, sicebisa ubudlelwane beNkonzo ye-Intanethi kwi-Intanethi. Unokuthetha ngasese kunye nolwalamano lobungcali ukuze uphathe ngcono imiba ebuthathaka kunye neengxaki ezinokuvela ngokuthandana nomntu onemicimbi yokuthemba. ukuncokola nomntu okanye ulungiselele iseshoni yomhla othile.

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