Ukwakha kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni. Nokuba ukhathalele kangakanani iqabane lakho, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ukungaboni ngasonye kusenzeka, zingena phantsi kwesikhumba sakho, okanye usenokungabi namonde.
Kwaye ngaloo maxesha, kulula ukuba ukungavisisani okuncinci kuguquke kube ngumlo opheleleyo ukuba uyakuvumela.
Ngaphambi kokuba sifike kwiingcebiso zokuphepha iimpikiswano kubudlelwane bakho, sifuna ukucacisa olunye ulwimi malunga neengcebiso ezisemgangathweni kule ngxaki.
Ukungavumelani, ukuphikisana nokulwa
Abanye abantu baya kuqhayisa ngokungaze baphikisane kubudlelwane babo. Oko kubonakala kungenakwenzeka de ujonge indlela abanye abantu abakujonga ngayo ukuphikisana. Ukungavumelani akuyiyo impikiswano.
Elinye iqabane linokubonisa ukungonwabi kwabo ngento ethile kubudlelwane. Amaqabane axoxa ngengxaki, eze kwisisombululo, emva koko aqhubeke.
Nangona ayisiyiyo impikiswano leyo, isalungisa inkqubo emelwe ngala magama. Kukho ingxaki, ungquzulwano, kunye nesisombululo.
Impikiswano ayisiyonto imbi. Uxinzelelo lunokwakha, kwaye iimvakalelo zinokunyuka phezulu. Akukho mntu uya kulawula ngokugqibeleleyo umsindo wabo ngalo lonke ixesha. Akunjalo ukulindela okufanelekileyo.
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Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yintlonipho. Unokuphikisana nomdla, uphikisane, kwaye ungqubane nabanye abantu kwaye ugcine imbeko evuma ukuba umxabise kangakanani omnye umntu.
Ukuxabana nokulwa ayingawo amagama angcolileyo ekufuneka ephetshwe ngokupheleleyo, kungenjalo ulwalamano aluphilanga.
Intlonelo ibaluleke ngakumbi. Ngapha koko, lelona candelo libalulekileyo lokungavisisani, ke masiqale apho.
1. Kuphephe ukunyuka kwamaxabiso ngokungavumelani ngentlonelo.
Ukulwa akuqhelekanga kuphume kungekho sizathu. Iimpikiswano ezininzi ziya kuqala kuba umba othile uphembelele ingxoxo ngoku eqhubela phambili ukuba ngumlo.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo onokuthintela ukuphosa ipetroli emlilweni.
Zama ukunqanda ulwimi olutyholayo ngaphandle kokuba oko kuyimfuneko. Uhlala usenza le nto! Yintoni engalunganga ngawe?'
Thintela uhlaselo lomntu kunye ukubiza igama . “Bubudenge obo ukuthetha. Idiot. ”
Musa ukucima ezi ntlobo zamagama, kwaye ungavumeli iqabane lakho ukuba lithethe nawe ngokungenantlonelo. Umsindo ulungile. Ubushushu abukho.
Ukungavisisani okuhloniphekileyo kuvakala ngokungathi, 'Ndibona izinto ngokwahluke kakhulu kuwe,' okanye, 'Ndifumana ukuba ukhetho lwakho luyi-X, kodwa ayisiyonto endinokukhwela kuyo. Kunganjani ukuba sizame uY endaweni yoko? ”
Ukuba kukho into oza kuyigxeka, yenze ngokwakhayo ngokubuza ukuba iqabane lakho lingenza into eyahlukileyo na kwixesha elizayo, endaweni yokuthetha nje ukuba awuyithandi into abayenzayo. Kodwa kulungele ukubaphulaphula xa benika izizathu zokuba kutheni ukugxekwa kwakho kungeyomfuneko.
Xa kuziwa ekuvakaliseni izimvo, khumbula ukuba zinjalo kanye: izimvo. Akusoloko kuhlala kulungile kwaye kungalunganga kwaye izimvo ezahlukeneyo zinokusebenza ngeendlela ezithile. Ke sukuyitolika imbono eyahlukileyo yeqabane lakho njengohlaselo lwakho.
2. Sombulula iingxaki ngokukhawuleza xa zivela.
Sukuvumela iingxaki zikhule emva kokuba wazisiwe. Oku kwakha inzondo kwaye kubonelela ngamafutha anokutsha kwingxoxo enkulu.
Usenokungacingi ukuba ingxaki yinto enkulu, kodwa ukuba iyalicaphukisa iqabane lakho, liza kukhula libe yinto enkulu kwaye kunzima ngakumbi ukuyilawula kamva ukuba ishiywe ingalungiswanga.
Ingxaki eshiye ingasonjululwanga iba sisilonda esandayo esithi, 'Abayicingi indlela endiziva ngayo.'
Umzekelo oqhelekileyo kukwahlulahlula imisebenzi yasekhaya. Izibini ezininzi ziyasokola ekufumaneni ibhalansi elungileyo, ke umntu akaziva ngathi wenza konke okanye uninzi lomsebenzi. Lowo ngumba onokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza ukuba buqhubeka ixesha elide.
3. Wamkele ukungena rhoqo ngenyanga nonyaka.
Unxibelelwano yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokwenza naluphi na ulwalamano lusebenze. Kodwa ubomi buxakekile. Zininzi izinto ekufuneka zenziwe, kwaye usenokungabi nazo iiyure ezaneleyo ngosuku. Yiyo loo nto ukungena okucwangcisiweyo kunokunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho busempilweni kwaye buqhubela phambili.
Khetha usuku olunye inyanga nenyanga ukuxoxa ukuba ihambe njani inyanga edlulileyo kwaye ufuna ukubona ntoni kule nyanga izayo. Thatha ixesha lokukhupha naziphi na izikhalazo okanye iingxaki ezinokuthi ziwele ecaleni kwendlela ngelixa uphila ubomi bakho.
Ekupheleni konyaka ngamnye, thatha usuku olunye lokujonga kunyaka ophelileyo kwaye nixoxe ngotshintsho okanye iinjongo zonyaka ozayo. Unokwenza nokuba ibe yinto emnandi okanye yothando. Chitha impelaveki kunye kunye ehotele kwisixeko esikufutshane ukuze nibe nexesha ekugxilwe kulo, elimgangatho kunye.
Yenza oku kube ngenjongo yokuqonda kunye nonxibelelwano. Kuya kunisondeza kunye.
4. Sukulungisa ukungavisisani ngombhalo okanye ngomyalezo okhawulezileyo.
Kungakulinga ukuza nezinto ezikukhathaza ngokwenene kwaye uzame ukuxoxa ngazo ngelixa uthumela imiyalezo- ungayenzi!
Zama ukuba nazo zonke ezi ngxoxo ubuso ngobuso. Iifowuni kunye nevidiyo zinokulunga, kodwa ukuthumela imiyalezo kuyothusa kuba kuthintela unxibelelwano lwakho.
Sinxibelelana ngeendlela ezininzi xa sithetha. Kukho ulwimi lomzimba wethu, imbonakalo yobuso, kunye neethoni yelizwi ezinceda zonke ukuhambisa ngokuchanekileyo iimvakalelo zethu kumntu esithetha naye. Ulahlekelwa yiyo yonke loo nto xa unxibelelana nomthunywa.
Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa kuthatha ixesha elininzi kakhulu ukufumana ingxoxo! Ifowuni yemizuzu elishumi inokulingana ngokulula iiyure ezimbini zokuthumela imiyalezo.
Kuya kufuneka uhlale kwaye ubambe zonke ezo mvakalelo zingathandekiyo kwezi yure zimbini uthetha ngazo, uthatha eyona meko ilungileyo apho yonke into inxibelelana ngokucacileyo. Ukuba ayisiyiyo, ke uya kujongana nayo nayiphi na into ebingasasazwa kakuhle ngenxa yokulahleka komxholo obalulekileyo.
Oko kungonakalisa usuku lwakho lonke kunokuba nje ube nencoko ekhawulezayo kwaye uyigqibe.
Ungaze uphikisane ngombhalo.
5. Musa ukukhuphisana neqabane lakho kwingxoxo.
Ngumgibe olula ukuwela kuwo. Umlingane wakho ukutyhola ngokwenza into, enokuthi okanye isenokungabi sisikhalazo esivakalayo, uyaba nomsindo kwaye uphinde uphendule ngesimangalo sakho.
indlela yokwazi ubudlelwane iphelile
Kwaye isuka phi ukusuka apho? Akukho ndawo ilungileyo.
Nje ukuba uwele loo mqobo, ngumsindo nje kunye nokwalatha ngomnwe uqhuba incoko, ekungenakwenzeka ukuba ikhokele naphi na.
Yisa kwakhona la mandla ngokwamkela isikhalazo. Ungatsho into enje, 'Kulungile. Uyikhathaza ngantoni le nto? ” Kwaye ngoku unengxoxo eyiyo malunga nengxaki.
Ukubakhuthaza ukuba bathethe ngayo kwaye bayilinganise ngokunxibelelana nawe kubavumela ukuba bavakalise isikhalazo sabo esisemthethweni okanye baqonde ukuba banokuba baphosakele.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ulamkele ityala, ngakumbi ukuba awuvumelani novavanyo lwabo. Endaweni yoko, uyakufumana elo jelo lonxibelelwano livulekile kwaye ngethemba lokuba nencoko enemveliso.
6. Zama ukuhleba.
Iimvakalelo ziba shushu, incoko enomdla iqala ukubila ngaphezulu, into elandelayo uyazi, uzifumanisa ungxola. Kodwa awufuni ukukhwaza. Ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza kubeka abantu ekuzikhuseleni kwaye mhlawumbi banokuba ngumnwe wokuhlaselwa.
Endaweni yokuthetha, zama ukuhleba. Hlala phantsi neqabane lakho, bambani izandla, ukuze nibe nokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, nize nixoxe ngengxaki ngokusebezela.
Ukusebeza kunyanzela umntu ukuba akhumbule kwaye azinze ngalo mzuzu, ejonge ithoni yakhe ukuze agcine ukusebeza.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuvumela i-whisper ibaleke kuwe kunokuba uthethe rhoqo, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu okhulele kusapho apho bekukho iseti emiselweyo.
7. Nguwe, njengamaqabane, ngokuchasene nehlabathi.
Umbono kukutshintsha indawo yengqondo yokhuphiswano kunye nentsebenziswano. Ayinguwe xa uchasene neqabane lakho nguwe kunye neqabane lakho xa kuthelekiswa nehlabathi.
Ngaba nobabini ngokuchasene nengxaki ekufuneka isonjululwe impilo yolwalamano kunye nolonwabo lwakho.
Kulula kakhulu ukunqanda iingxabano kunye nomsindo xa usamkela indlela yokusombulula iingxaki.
Ayisiyo into yokuba nomsindo yingxaki efuna isisombululo. Kutheni ungasifumani isisombululo kunye kuba ukhathalele iqabane lakho kwaye nifuna ubudlelwane bonwabe kwaye busempilweni?
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